Marriage is a social trap

Hi all,

Marriage is a holy custom in India. We should marry at some point in time in our life to make our life circle a complete one. But sometimes we see that people think that after their marriage they will be puppets in the hands of their wife and vice-versa. But it depends on the mentality of your partner whether you will be able to spent your life freely or not. Very often we can see that after marriage the life gets changed and we become more responsible.

If we have a good understanding then nothing can trap us not even the society. And if you talk about privacy then a good husband must not disturb the privacy of his wife and that creates a good mental bonding. On the other hand also an ideal wife will also not try to destroy his husband's privacy. So we must not say that marriage is a social trap. If somehow you are trapped after your marriage then it is your individual problem not the problem of this holy institution called "Marriage".

Marriage is not a social trap, it made by us as a trap we prefer that woman should operate on man's command. She also have feelings, pride and self respect. People oppose dowry but they take it, frankly dowry is like gum which stick on our hair and never gonna removed so forget about this. But both the partner should care each other, believe in each other but also take care about giving some space to breath to get touch with himself or herself.

Woman also take care of her husband my practical experience said that now days girl work under her own mothers command and try to separate man from things which he love (its my practical experience what I am seeing right now) so girl need to understand the feeling of men and same thing apply for man. Marriage is pious bond not be based on compromise, if you live your life with love its become best thing. Woman is not slave she can do anything what she wanted and husband should support this if its right.

Hello friends,

According to me marriage is not a social trap because marriage makes our life complete, it brings in a sense of responsibility towards our family, at this point of time we realize that we need to bring a sort of stability in our life.

Marriage is not only an engagement of a man and a women, but both the partners take vows to support each other though out their life, be with each other at all the circumstances be it good or bad. One is always very close to us with whom we can share our deepest feelings.

Marriage is also a meeting of two families their culture, traditions, festivals.

A successful marriage makes a happy family, which in turn makes a peaceful society and finally a developed Country.

But marriage becomes a social trap when it is done only for a compromise, for money, for some sort of sacrifice or when there is not respect for one's feelings and emotions and their family.

I completely believe that marriage is a social trap ! I would like to raise some questions, which I think most of you would agree! Why the person marry anybody in pressure for the sake of society in which we recite? What if the person does not want to have a soul mate and would love to spend his/her whole life for his/her parents? Why is there such a rule/custom made by our own society for d so called marriage concern? Why is a person considered dependent to lean upon somebody, he can also live independently on his own terms ?

'COMPROMISE', 'UNDERSTANDING', 'ADJUSTMENT' etc etc. Why to bring such complicated terms in our lives. We get life only once, I think people are born free and should have right to live and let live others free,

Marriage is a total waste of time, money and still in the worst case I can never see myself compromising each day of my life for anybody!

Hello everyone, before we address the topic.

Let's talk about why the marriage concept is still relevant today it is because humans an social animals and in order to not feel lonely they want to have a companion for a long duration to share moments of happiness, sadness etc.

So, if 2 people are happy staying together and doing things together along with having their own identity then marriage is a beautiful thing which can happen to anyone if the same things are not matching and people in it are on different wavelengths then it's a social trap. So it all depends on one's behaviour, mentality, grown-up environment and how each treats each other from different perspectives so the marriage definition changes as per each perspective. According to me, it's not a social trap it's a beautiful thing to happen in each and one's life it can mentally help you grow as a person.

Marriage is surely not a social trap because through marriage we get life partner who stays with us for lifelong, many things may happen many may come and go but life partner stays with us how hard the situation is. For example if we take two persons where one is married and other unmarried we find that married person feels confident than other because he has support from life partner who stays how hard the situation is and this confidence cannot be given my money, status even children may leave some times but life partner does not live. "marriage is bonding two different persons to be as one soul to spend the total life happily".

By marriage we will have one with whom we can share our joy, sad, everything. Some married couples may be unhappy due to their misunderstanding or any other reason but by seeing some cases we cannot say the total system is bad.

Greetings everyone,

Marriage is an unbreakable bond of trust and love that should never be equated to a trap, as a trap is a boundary within which one is confined and forced to accomplish tasks with multiple terms and conditions.

But, in the case of marriage, it totally depends on the partners and how they make the best out of it. And yes without any doubt it's true that society would keep an eye on and put undue pressure on the weds to narrate a story of an orthodox companionship and role-plays from both spouses.

Considering this they must provide an answer to that with a reflection of a relationship that gives a lot of optimism in each other's life and becomes a shoulder of rest and advice to one another rather than just being a tag to fit into societal norms.

That's all from my side, it's my view on the topic.

Thank you for listening.

Hello everyone.

I could not understand why people living in India which is rich in its culture and traditions blame marriage as a trap. Marriage plays a very important role in every individuals life. Due to the impact of movies and other social abuses like dowry youth might have corrupted and giving least importance to marriages. Both the youth and their parents should realize that girls and boys are equal in all aspects and should keep full stop to this dowry system so that we can save our traditions and make one's life beautiful.

Marriage acts not only as a social bond between two people but also between their families. It makes the individual responsible towards their family and also towards their society. It shows the importance of relationships which is vanishing in the present society. Better half gives full life of success.

Hello there..
I hv read all the comments mentioned before and some of them were very perceptive. What I think that the marriage is not a social trap. If you are calling it a trap that because after the marriage the girl is not allowed to work in offices, she is forced to remain housewife. So i think that is not correct. One individual is not allowing this wife to work outside then it is his personal opinion. If u r saying it is trap because the career of a woman gets destroy coz of marriage then it is also incorrect. there are many examples of women who hav still contributed to the society, even being married. The late Savitribai Phule, Kalpana Chawla and even the actress who still continue with their work after getting married. So, summing all these points i only come to the conclusion that the marriage is not a social trap.

Hello friends,

Marriage is a bonding between male and female, in my opinion, I would like to say that marriage is not a trap, it's a good relationship, everybody needs somebody and hence we all get married. If we talk about a girl who has done arranged marriage without her choice and her husband is also not good like he smokes, drinks and does bad activities as well then we can think that the girl is trapped as she cannot do anything since it was a arrange marriage and her husband daily drinks and after drinking he beats her and the girl can't leave him and cannot go anywhere else. In this context, this marriage is called a social trap.

But on the other hand, if you are marrying with your own choice and love, cares for each other a lot, then both are happy and can spend entire life together then it is not said to be a trap.