Marriage is a social trap

Hi friends.

What actually social trap we are considering here? We all might be judging it according to our opinions and in the same way in my opinion, this trap making depends on individual might some called it as trap might for some it is a beautiful phase of life.

In the human society, every relationship will bound you so it depends on you whether you want to get in that trap or feel soulful with that ones.

Good day, Marriage is bonding between two hearts. It is not a social trap but for a few it might be a social trap. Marrying the right person is not at all a social trap. Support from partners is must. But for few, it is not recognized. So everyone must be married only at the right age (25). We need some maturity to attain that stage. Marrying at that stage is good, because at that stage we have enough patience, knowledge, experience too. So, we understand our partnered need, We also earn money by our own. So marriage is not a social trap.

In my point of view, marriage depends on individual opinion. Everyone has an identical thought some of them think that marriage is a social trap just because they want their life to live as single with no responsibility and enjoy their life as her/his own way. Marriage is not a trap when the two of ppl has a mutual understanding to live with love and care thus creates person to more responsibility in a society. When the person is not get married the society will sea the person as either they think person doses do not have the attire to get married or the person is ignorant. Marriage only gives respect to the individual in a society.

We live only once, it is said that human birth is not easy to get. So if you are someone in your 20's you only have more 50 to 60 years of life to live or less than that.

Now compromise, adjustment these terms will take your whole life. If a person wants to be single earn for himself/herself take care of their parents it is a wonderful thought, isn't it?

Old era was different cause today child expenses are a way to much right from birth to education and in some cases their marriages also, it will take lakhs of your hard earn money, which in other cases would be your huge saved bank balance to fulfil all your needs till you die.

If you are getting married thinking that in your old age.

Your children will take care of you then think twice today's generation is busy in there own world (many examples where children have settled abroad and parents are living alone) then what will be the scenario when your kids will grow. Will they have time to look after you. Think about it.

IT SHOULD AFTERALL BE A CHOICE NOT A COMPLETION.

Let's ACCEPT THE FACT THAT LIFE IS NOT A FAIRY TAIL!

Marriage is one of the biggest social trap. The other biggest social trap is education.

In a country, the most important thing is revenue. With people, government can obtain taxes from its citizens. Humans, especially man, want to carry on their bloodline. Once the man has offsprings, their children will continue to contribute a means of income for the country after they have grown up. In a marriage, the man will bring home money from their jobs. In the midst of bringing up his children, he is helping the government to bring up the future source of citizens and the future source of income in a way. After working so hard in his job and with his money drained by his family, the man will be too tired and penniless to create nuisance in the society.

Most women choose to get married because of love, security of a family, want to have children. After they have borne the man children, they think that their marriage will last forever because the man will stay in a marriage because of the children. Before marriage, the girl could be the apple of her family's eye. After marriage, her life is relegated to hell. In a modern society, like her husband, she may have to work. She has to take care of her children. If her husband's parents are unwell, taking care of them falls on her shoulders too. Cooking and household cores must be taken care of by her too. Not withstanding bearing nasty criticisms from her in-laws' family. If her husband is a mama's boy, her life is worse off. In short, a woman's life is more like that of a slave after marriage. Having a job takes care of her better than being in a marriage. With her life revolving about her family, she will also not create nuisance for the society.

This is the reason why most country disapproves of gay marriages. The government does not want to lose control of the population chart.

Education conformes the people's brain to what the government wants them to do and prepares them to work in the future so that the citizens will bring in revenue for their country. If the government can brainwash them to vote for them, that is the best. They will stay in power and do whatever they want.

According to my point of view, marriage is not a social trap. It fully depends on us to whom we want to marry or not. In today generation everyone is independent about their choices so one can pressurise them to marry that particular girl. It's our decision if marriage is not going in a right path then it's better to leave without thinking about the society because we suffer in that marriage, not the society. Marriage is not a social trap for the modern society but in some places, there are different custom and traditions regarding to the marriage.

There are some points according to Indian scenario.

1. The marriage is not a trap because we choose to go in a relation.
Definitely not in a country like India where approx 80% marriages are arranged. People have very short time know each other but only for formality. Marriage is already decided by Others.

2. What about if you are in love with anyone and your family is against that.
Yes, It's the story of many people here. Then they try to marry you aka trap you with another.

3. How many people get chance to choose their partners according to their taste or how many get enough time to wait until they find their right one. VERY FEW.

4. Marriage is a bond of 'two families' regardless the happiness of 'two souls'. Its a social contract in the names like Holy. Sacred.

5. What about the future of the girls who are not educated well or not get chance and then married by families in the hope of rest life spending with her husband 'safely'. Then if they are divorced or widowed how a girl will survive. What guarantees that she will remain respectful in that home where she was sent as a bride to be safe.

Neither she is educated neither she is independent neither she has any right as a bride too after becoming a widow or abandoned. I know this is not every one story or God bless not anyone. But its reality that most girls are married without proper education and then they don't get any chance of education after marriage.

Then. In my opinion. Forced or marriage in a hurry is a TRAP. Definitely.

6. It's not necessary that only person chosen by your parents is your soulmate. You have already chosen. Society gets this wrong. because you are not meeting society status. Society forces family. Family forces you. And then You Are Married In A Holy Foundation. Mostly happens this. I will not recite here the Religious stuff here like its holy.

Saying reality according to the present time.

7. Many people have the misunderstanding that marries their daughters will get them a safer life. You Are Wrong. I have an incident here.

A girl was married in the middle of the school. In the hope of good. Safer. Life. Family thinks. But her husband died. In our rich and great culture. Dying husband is a wife mistake. So she was also considered bad. She had a son. Nobody is supporting and neither she has enough education to live with respect. What a helpless condition. So before marrying your daughters. Sisters. Please make them educated because marriage can wait but education can not. Thus marriage becomes a trap. Because marriage prevented them from being educated and brings lots of inappropriate customs and superstitions which she can't fight alone.

The Real treasure a family at the best can give to their daughters is the Education and independence. Because everyone's life is not a fairy tale. And Marry Is not the end of Anyone's life.

Thanks.

Hi !

I am Rinshu.

I think in this age we can't say that marriage is a social trap. Some year ago it was right because no one had right to choose his/her partner by his/her own choice but now every one can choose partner by own choice.

I think marriage is meeting of two heart, two family not a social trap.

Hi! my name is Srushti Nawade and according to me, marriage is a social trap.

Because, In the country like India, we don't have right to take our own decisions. The decisions are taken by our parents or relatives.

In an arranged marriage, we can not know the other person, how he/she will be in just a few days.

Every person must have right to take his/her decision because marriage is not a temporary thing. The people have to stay together for their next whole life.

So, my conclusion is every person must be given right to choose their partner.

In my opinion, marriage is a social trap. In other word marriage is a beautiful thing that two person become as one with their holy soul. However it has many responsibilities to do which might not suitable for both at one time to do it, so they have to do it in order to make themselves happy and to be with each other.