Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages

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KAMMY said:   6 years ago
So, You basically have 3 Options - Stay as a bachelor, Find the love of your life and go for love marriage, and, finally, trust your parents in hope that they will find a best match for you i.e. going for an arranged marriage.

According to me, whether you want to become a bachelor for life, or get yourself engaged (love or arranged) - its totally upto you, upto your upbringing i.e.whether you have brought up in rural areas or urban areas (while this impacts your marriage decision a lot in terms of "Log kya Kahenge?") , what are your skills and education level, are you introvert or extrovert?, and your complete lifestyle. They really impact the MARRIAGE STUFF AT FIRST.

What else? Like everyone has said - go for love as there is better understanding or go for arranged as there are no divorce cases because your family with support you. Go for love as, since, you know your partner better, so, he will take care of you for lifetime and go for arranged, as no matter what the situation your family will always be there for you. Bla bla bla.

Hey Folks! "There are all standarized and so-old-sayings. Please come out of that". You will get love, support, care and dowry-free life from both marriages - - if your partner is good and if his family has a good modern thinking. I love doing "Love Marriages" because I love doing it and I have no particular reason of doing it. But, but, I am of the other opinion here as well. In case, I don't find a partner of my choice (who is good by heart, appearance doesn't matter too much | who will respect me and my parents | who will support me through every walks of life, IN RETURN, I ALSO HAVE TO MAKE SURE OF THIS). "Always try to have a Give and Take Attitude in your life", I will go for "Arranged Marriage" - who knows whom you were unable to find can be found by your Parents itself! May be, your parents can help you find the person of your type, taste and choice as they know you well so, they may know, who can fit you well.

So, In one aspect, Marriages are just matter of "CHOICES" and on other aspect, they are all about "THINKING" which you pals have provided in the discussion box.

Rest, there is no halt to this discussion of MARRIAGE. It will be complex as you will make it. So, KEEP IT SIMPLE, STUPID.
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Arthapurba said:   7 years ago
Hi everyone. After I read all the statement before me, I realise something that actually unique.

Most of us thought that arrange married are part of tradition and women as a commodity. But have you realize something? For me arrange married is a man and a woman married by their parents because a lot of reason for example that the daughter and the son have an age that actually perfects to become a bride or groom, but there a condition that makes there can't getting married soon like they only focus on study, workaholic, still alone a. K. A doesn't have any mate before, don't wanna fall in love or never fall in love, or can't find the true match, weird, etc. That makes their parents worried, 'what if my son or daughter still life alone after I died? Who will take care him or her?' That's why arranged married is needed to be held. That's why parent seek the perfect match for their kid, start from health (there is no parent want their kid marriage with someone full of disease), wealth (its kind of materialistic, but who parents want their kid life in poverty, no one want it), and background (that's the matter after all to know the truth identity).

And love marriage. It's just love. Have no reason to be in love and to be love with or by someone.

But marriage about love is not the simple like what people always read on book or novel or by watching drama on TV.

Marriage by love is needed preparation first, start to prepare from metal until wealth.

Why mental? Bcs we know it's not a taboo again that our mate can change into another people just for less than 24 hours we living together with them. Somehow a relationship before marriage & their appearance such wonderful may be a little bit annoying but still can acceptable by us. But after marriage, we will stay with them 24 hours on 7 days without holiday that can make a new behaviour that never shows before marriage, become a huge drama section on marriage life.

And for me which one of the best?

Both of that are perfect for their own reason.
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Jagadeesh jse said:   7 years ago
Marriage is a very important social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in the case of arrange marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose the partner for marriage. Let\'s analyse which one of the two is better.

Love marriage:

- Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.
- The couple is responsible for its choice and the onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else.
- The couple is aware of each other\'s likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well.
- The couple can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to take such decisions at their own level.
- The culture of the extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.

Arrange marriage:

- Arrange Marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families.
- Two families involved in the arrange marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other.
- Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.
- The Couple is guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.

Conclusion:

Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of a lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, it\'s the couple which has to live together for a lifetime. So, the decision to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can certify the best way for a perfect marriage life because like life marriages too are full of uncertainties.
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Priyanka Gupta said:   7 years ago
According to my point of view, both love marriage and arranged marriage have good and bad aspect.

For a marriage to be successful, the main thing that is necessary are mutual understanding, love, affection, cooperation and trust. This is possible only when both partners understand each other in every way. This can be possible both in love as well as arranged marriage but it mainly depends on partners that how much they cooperate with each other. The thing is in love marriage, couples know each other well and build a good relationship and they go for marriage but in the case of arranged marriage, it takes time for couples.

In love marriage, partners can be sure that they can lead their life fruitfully or not but that's a question mark in case of arranged marriage.

We can't say that doing arranged marriage may create a happy family as our parents decide because we can see a number of family issues and dowry issues due to which both male and female both are being a victim and create a bad memory for several years. The Demand of dowry in arranged marriage is just like a curse to girls family. And for sure. Due to all these issues, neither couples nor family may create a good example of successful arrange marriage.

Love marriage is better than arranged one because the partners have a good understanding about themselves. They can do every work in a co-operative way. There's no issue of dowry at all and female and male both are never dominated, there's respect for each other. If couples respect themselves, then for sure they will respect each others family, culture and tradition. And if family love their child, they will respect their child choice and would be happy with their decision. Yes, but one thing should be kept in mind that if any couple go for marriage with their lover, parents decision should be given main priority because they sacrifice a lot for us throughout their life.
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Nikita Kumawat said:   7 years ago
All we want from marriage is it doesn't have any expiry date. As we know in India, our custom is lifelong bonding between two person then it is a successful marriage. I can't choose one of them, both marriages are good. All we need in a marriage is better understanding between two persons then it's outcome will be definitely positive. So, it has nothing to do with love marriage or arrange marriage. There are many cases in. Which love marriage and arrange are successful and they are successful only because of better understanding between two people but if there won't be understanding then both marriages will be failure. Now coming to investigation of both the parties so it can be done in both cases as we you are doing love marriage then you must be knowing him/her from a long time and his/her parents too, if not then you should know about them fully, about their family values, education, occupation, religion, caste each and everything then only you should decide about marrying that person. Now investigating in arrange marriage can be done by asking from relatives, neighbors, common friends or dating before marriage, chats and knowing about likes, dislikes, morals, values, nature, occupation, education, everything about family then only you should think about marrying that person then its result will be positive. But as we know coin has two sides, so even after investigation of many years there can be something which we miss out or may be other side party hide something or lie about something then it may lead to failure. So a well known saying in Hindi is "The Fruit of marriage, the one who eats it shall suffer, the one who doesn\'t eat it shall also suffer". So we can conclude that chances of failure and good outcome have equality it depends on understanding and some adjustments.
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San said:   7 years ago
I would prefer love marriage over arranged marriage. Its becasue in love marriages both the partners have known each other for years. And only after spending a lot of time with each other, they start getting comfortable with each other. Once they get comfortable with each other thay start to trust each other. For a marriage to be succesfull both the partners should have a good understanding of each other and should trust each other completely and that can only happen if they spend a lot of time with each other before getting married so that they can decide whether they really want to spend rest of their lives with each other or not. And not only in case of love marriages the partners also get time to know about each others family. Whereas in arranged marriage both the partners hardly get any time to meet and talk to each other. The only people who know each other are the family members of the partners and the partners who are going to spend rest of their life with each other haven't even talked to each other once. Many people may say that college love is infatuation, but not all of them are. And moreover in love marriages both partners try to know each other completely even their deep dark secrets whereas in arranged marriage one may not know how good or bad is the person whom he or she is getting married to, there are high chances of getting decieved by the partner's family members in order to hide something that may cause trouble ahead in their married life. In the end I would just like to say that love marriages have more advantages as compared to arranged marriage. So marry the person whom you love.
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KC Pandey said:   3 years ago
Hello everyone.

According to my point of view, Marriage is a very important social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing a partner are different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in the case of arranging marriages individuals prefer partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose a partner for marriage. Let's analyze which one of the two is better.

Love marriage:

- Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.

-Couple is responsible for its choice and the onus of the blame in the future lies on the couple only and nobody else.

-Couple is aware of each other likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well.

-Couples can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to take such decisions at their own level.

-The culture of extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.

Arrange marriage:

-Arrange Marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families.

-Two families involved in arrange marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other.

-Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.

-Couple is guided by parents experience whereas in a love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.
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Subhajit Podder said:   6 years ago
Good morning my dear all friend.

Here topic is love marriage and arrange marriage, which is good. It's thought to me that love marriage is very much better than arrange. Because maximum people tell that 70% or above love marriage has been destroying for any reason. I am telling that it's true. But we should think why it is happening. There are some problem who takes love marriage in their life. Actually problem is that unfortunately maximum people can't know what is meaning of love. How to care both each other. How to respect think of both person or etc. This is the problem. That's why love marriage cannot continue. If we think for a time to the earlier era I mean earlier person then can understand who accepted love marriage in their life and they could continue. Because they knew how to love. Here I am indicating the point that in our time we have been forgetting what is the love. That's way the problem is creating to the young person. Except that here are second problem. That is before maturity a boy or girl have been so much involving with love. For a result they are facing may problem. So for these type problem love has been destroying and divorcing. If we think it logically that love helps us to know each other before marriage which is not possible if anybody go to arrange marriage. So, end of discussion in a nutshell I must say that love is not wrong before marriage. We have to understand the problem and compare. Then we can solve the problem. So according to my views, love should be kept to the last point. That's all. Thank you.
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Manu said:   6 years ago
Hello everyone.

Our topic for discussion is love vs arranged marriage.

Firstly I want to start the discussion by saying that one cannot judge the best out of these two marriages as it depends upon the understanding, trust between the couple itself and nothing to do with the type of marriage.

In both the marriages pros and cons are there. Coming to love marriage;

1. There will be good understanding b/w the couple as they know each other pretty well.

2. As they know each others likes n dislikes they will behave accordingly.

3. Planned love lives will result in great future.

4. Equality prevails in their relationship.

Disadvantages:

1. As they are mostly independent they take their own decisions quickly without considering parents and relatives like taking divorse.

2. Youngsters these days are confusing attraction to love and facing prblms after marriage.

Arrange marriage advantages.

1. Parents once for twice before coming up with a match.

2. They verify completely about the family background so that there shouldn't be any prblm in future.

3. The couple will think of their families and try to understand instead of going for divorce for silly reasons.

Disadvantages.

1. If there is no much tym to interact before marriage one cannot understand each other properly and will face prblms to share anything after marriage with their partners.

2. Whether love will blossom b/w each other or not will be a big question.

At last, I would like to conclude saying marriage is a life long commitment so decision should be in ones hand.
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Vijay pal jakhar said:   3 years ago
Hello friends.

Now, I want to tall you about the topic which has been given to me love marriage v/s arrange marriage.

Marriage is a long-life commitment. Marriage is a very important part of life in which people choose their own life partner.

In love marriage.

Love marriage is the best to arrange marriage. In love marriage, couples know each other and they spent times each other before marriage. Who man do love marriage which many choices but who man do arrange marriage no more options because arrange marriage doing in same caste/religion/society etc?

Some disadvantages in love marriage, in my views who people doing love marriage, are mostly independent so they are left from their society. In love marriage, both couples are don't wait for their parents.

In Arrange marriage.

In arrange marriage both couples don't know each other because mostly don't spend time before marriage. In arrange marriage, parents force them for marriage.

In arrange marriage both parents are coming to each other home for seeing couples. Then we decided on marriage. In arrange marriage, couples thought about both families.

According to research, Albert epistle says that love in arranging marriages tends to fade away with time, whereas love in arranged marriages grows with time.

In arrange marriage divorce rate less than from love marriage so love marriage is best for life.

In my views love marriage best from arrange marriage because in love marriage both couples agree from this.

Thanks for all.
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