Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages

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Frederick said: (Mon, Dec 15, 2014 05:49:17 PM)    

To me love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Because it has a important rule in our life and it depends on how we actually get a partner in life, we may better to think twice before we act and first of all we need to follow our heart. Because our heart will bring us to the greatest. But we actually use our brain, because heart+ brain is equal to success. Success that will bring us happiness and joy in our entire life. And GOD will bless us and he will guide us to him.

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Avni said: (Mon, Dec 15, 2014 02:30:23 PM)    
Hi friends.

According to me love marriage is better then arrange. Because we born ones and we all will die one day. So why we should live our life according to other wish or wants.

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Debajyoti said: (Thu, Dec 11, 2014 12:03:39 PM)    
Hello everyone.

The topic love vs arranged marriages is a very relevant topic in today's scenario. I would cast my vote for love marriage because of the following reasons:

You could know a lot about your life partner with whom you are going to spend the rest of your life.

The compatibility with your partner becomes the best when you opt for love marriage whereas complications arise in case of arranged marriages due to ego problems and many other things.

You could also know about the family background of the person with whom you are going to be engaged if you are in a relationship with that person for a long time.

So I think that it's best if you go for love marriage as you don't want to spend the rest of your life in a complicated and haphazard way.

Thank you.

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Bidyut said: (Thu, Dec 11, 2014 01:46:57 AM)    
I would like to arranged marriage:

1. Love is Spontaneous act, so it can't be said people can't take Right Decision.

2. It is said LOVE IS BLIND. So two blind people can't take right decision for their life.

3. Love is Not everything. Other things like family background, income, caste etc also have to take care when two people decided to live forever.

4. Statistics - DIVORCE RATE of arranged marriage in India is 1% and whole world is 6% so it is more successful.

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Honey said: (Wed, Dec 10, 2014 10:52:59 AM)    
Hai Friends.

In my opinion there is no need of marriage. Many people think that marriage is to give birth and increase their family members. It is better to adopt an orphan child and to look after them without marrying anyone. I am against marriage. Like if you are against marriage. Let us see how many hate marriages?

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Shaikh Bashirali said: (Tue, Dec 9, 2014 02:50:29 PM)    
Hi friends.

Let take look that being a human we are born in our mother we either don't know that who is she? But all love is enlarge for her same to it our life is same. A arrange marriage give same type of felling which is a strong love forever.

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Zafaryab Qasmi said: (Thu, Dec 4, 2014 01:00:55 PM)    
My name Zafaryab Qasmi.

I will stay on arrange. Because it the spiritual possess. Why I am saying because in here 21th century very lover promised to her beloved that he he will love spiritually but it happens rarely which leads to break strong relation due to not keeping promises. And another point is that its up to them. And understanding will come gradually. Thanks friends.

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Azarudeen.B said: (Thu, Dec 4, 2014 10:07:07 AM)    
Hi friends, I am Azar.

In my point of view love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Because without knowing the attitude and character of our life partner we doesn't run our life smoothly. The only way to know about the life partner is love only.

Shajakhan said that"I don't say to fall in love, I just say to feel the love. Don't miss life in love and Don't miss love in life".

From the quotes it is clear that love is "one of the source to succeed in life and not the only source".

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Vivek Kumar said: (Wed, Dec 3, 2014 07:31:37 PM)    
Hi friends,

I am Vivek Kumar Ready.

First of all, I would like to say that marriage is the bonding of two souls whether That is love marriage or arrange marriage. According to time both are right, but I support arrange marriage, because it is arranged by our parents and it is more successful than love marriage. Arrange marriage long lasting. If you do arrange marriage then family, relatives & good society respect you.

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Sandeep Shrestha said: (Wed, Dec 3, 2014 07:24:34 PM)    
Love is divine and the purest virtue, if a person love someone truly (without expecting anything in return not even the given love back) then love marriages are the best option since both of them compromise each other well.

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K.Charan Kumar said: (Tue, Dec 2, 2014 09:03:50 PM)    
Hi I'm Charan kumar koribilli.

I just stay with arranged marriage because. Our parents keeping a lot of hopes on our marriage. So I don't want to disappoint my parents. Marriage is a place where we can gather all our friends and relatives and colleagues with full of love and affection so I don't want to disappoint my parents in that event.

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Sanu Saikh said: (Tue, Dec 2, 2014 12:29:09 PM)    
My name is Sanu Saikh.

In my opinion. Love marriage also right and Arrange marriage also right according to me. During to arrange marriage we don't know about life partner clearly. We think that what's nature of my life partner and what's behavior and something.

But according to our parents, arrange marriage is right and love marriage is not right. But I am thinking that love marriage is better than arrange marriage because during to love marriage we know about life partner nature behave and something. That's why we should do the love marriage. Because we will be pass my life my life partner neither parents. Thanks.

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Silversmall said: (Sun, Nov 30, 2014 10:01:41 AM)    
Well, whether its Love marriage or Arranged marriage the most important thing is to a background check on that other person. If you have a bad feeling about that other person, don't proceed.

I have seen a lot of people who had a bad gut feeling about their potential spouse when they were dating, but proceeded to marry since they were in love with them. However, marriage did not turn out to be great but sour. Some of them got divorced but others suffer silently. I would greatly suggest go in disguise or have someone go in disguise to meet your potential love interest (might not be practical). This is to make sure that the person they say are to you is actually real.

Don't fall in love blindly, but do it wisely. If you have the approval of a person from your friends or loved one regarding a person's character then proceed. Don't make wild guesses in light of an infatuation or feelings of love. Take care. Make sure your select your partner wisely whether its love or arranged.

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Kishore Nandi said: (Sat, Nov 29, 2014 04:00:06 PM)    

Love marriages better to our self because why?

When love marriage couple have any problem they solve easily but arrange marriage they can't then why they have some ego feelings. Any relationship have ego feelings they can't running successfully. So love marriages are better and best. Please don't use love just love the love it loves you.

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Haroon said: (Thu, Nov 27, 2014 10:49:05 PM)    
Hello dear, I am Haroon.

In my opinion, the love marriage is better than arrange marriage because the two couple clearly understand each other about their like dislike, feeling, behavior, character. And also they live a whole life not a hour day month.

In the above opinion some says that if in the love marriage if misunderstanding create that will go to the divorce, you are completely wrong because they know each other how to convince each other they will compromise each other and solve the problem by compromising. TRUE LOVE NEVER END.

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Jitendra Kumar said: (Tue, Nov 25, 2014 02:36:56 PM)    
Hello Friends,

As per My point of view, No marriage is good or bad as well. Our mind set or way of thing makes it good or bad. Each one's of life, every relation do have their priority & purity as well but only difference is each relation does have different meaning for every individual one. Which is depend on our deepness of the heart to understand the importance of the each and every relation.

For Example ; marriage which is a relation of purity & long lasting bonding between two similarly nature person or some time different nature person. It is just required only understanding & satisfactions which could be achieved in terms of some respect, Individual one understanding, Some loyalty & dignity & so on.

It is also true that, Actual meaning of the marriage will be attained with the happiness of individual one. Everyone also do have different thoughts or view for marriage, it;s does not means that which could change the real value & importance of this divine relation.

It also will be true that, misunderstanding or difference occurred each one of life, but in these case purity and bonding of the relation will be checked though how soon & effectively you settled down your differences.

Everyone of parents in this world do have some responsibility toward their children, they always think or wish for better life of each of children. If they choose a compatible party for their children, they are doing so, only for their happiness, not seeking for any benefit or profit. Same as, the modern generation are also mature enough to take individual right decision in their life, and parents also support their right decision too.

Jai Bharat.

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Gurunathan said: (Mon, Nov 24, 2014 07:14:41 PM)    
I supports Love marriages. It has the power to eradicate the dowry system, caste system, etc. These are the things that spoils our society for many years. To form a better society, we can support Love marriages.

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Shehnaz said: (Sun, Nov 23, 2014 07:32:25 AM)    

Love marriage is better or arrange unless and until your partner and how much compatible you two are you cannot love each other. Now-a-days, its important even in arrange marriage that both the candidates of this marital institution know each other - good, bad. There are so many cases of unregistered marital rapes and the toll keeps on increasing, that shouldn't happen. Each partner shall voice there opinion.

I think love or arranged it is always important that how much the other person is loyal towards you. How much love shall you get. We cannot completely discard either of the two ways.

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Lochan Dhami said: (Fri, Nov 21, 2014 05:19:23 PM)    
Hi friend.

It's me Lochan Dhami.

In my opinion, Love marriage is better than Arrange marriage because love is everything, love is life in 21th century all person do love marriage those person who don't love, he is 18th centuries man in love marriage both person know about each other about his habits & character therefor all person love each other don't return 18th century, Thank you.

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Sulaman Mubarak said: (Tue, Nov 18, 2014 06:17:42 PM)    

Hello there my friends. My name is Sulaman Mubarak and today I'm going to share my point of views about being married with a person who you love or not.

First, we must clear that a marriage is not just a tradition but it beyonds the limits of any relationship that could even banish all the traditional or cultural values, sometimes, in exceptional cases. If you know what I mean. Basically, a marriage is a contract between two people that they will spend their whole lives for the sake of each other no matter how much difficult times they will have to face.

Ok now get to the point, some people believe in Love marriages and mostly believe in Arranged. But the matter is WHY why they want to? Do people want a love marriage for the sake of satisfaction only or do people wanna arrange marriage in order to put a pressure or strong supervision on their partner to have a complete control.

I think neither arranged nor love marriage could help at all if anybody think like that. I believe a marriage is a process of communication to relation. More you have a stronger communication is, more stronger a relationship will be. In arrange marriages the communication factor lacks but in love marriages it never. On the other hand a sensual thread has bound two people who are involved in love relation but not in case of arranged marriage as the relation has newly started and excitement duly increases as the relation discover itself. For me whether a person do an arrange or love marriage a true spirit and determination must be needed to make the relation long life. In love marriage its a little bit easy job but for arrange marriage a little more is needed.

I am engaged and I am 21 years old and it has been 2 years ago to happen this. Its an arrange as well as love relation because everybody is happy and me and my fiance enjoying this period very much and I hope that it will help me to make my relation even more stronger than ever and now I am waiting for the day when we will finally become one. I personally believes in love marriage lol.

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Nitish Kumar said: (Mon, Nov 17, 2014 08:48:29 PM)    

I am Nitish kumar, s/o Mr.Gurar jee yadav from Chanawe, Gopalganj (Bihar).

As for as according to my arrange marriage is better than love because in arrange marriage our parents choose partner for us and they are obviously more experienced than us, so they choose better than us. And some bad condition is occur after marriage than its depends on our luck parents are not responsible for this. This may be happen in love marriage that our love would be changed after marriage.

In point of me Arranged marriages are better than Love marriages, because these marriages are arranged by our parents. As our parents will love us so much they will choose a right person only for us and if any difficulty comes also our parents can be supporting for us.

I do not say that love marriage is not good but in the love marriage we cannot find parents support as it is the sole decision of the boy and the girl they both only have to face any situations. In love marriages divorces are also happening due to misunderstanding between themselves.

But in love marriages we can understand each other perfectly than the arranged marriages. Because in arranged marriages it takes some time to understand each others thoughts and feelings. But it is better to give respect to our parents thoughts and feelings and do the things as they have grown us up by working very hard in order to make us intelligent people or to develop us.

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Shwetha.S.Nair said: (Mon, Nov 17, 2014 05:22:21 PM)    
According to me, both love and arranged are good enough. If you are in a relationship with any person then you wouldn't be able to cop-up with another person chosen by your family members.

Authors usually tells us through their books that one can never break lovers. I think its true. After understanding each others behavior very well. one takes a decision to marry (love marriage). But one can't just understand a person by taking a tray full of tea cups and giving it to our future husband or mother-in-law and talking with the future husband just for 5 mins and accepting for marriage. I hate all this things.

Listening to our parents is quite good but marrying an unknown person just by talking with him for 5 mins no never. One should always understand each others' heart, souls, tastes etc. No matter with religion, caste, states, family, neighbors, society etc. Just move on what you feel is correct.

All the best for decision takers. Actually I can't tell whether love is better or arranged because I am too small to decide it studying in 9th, anyways this war b/w love v/s arranged will go on forever &ever&ever.

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Maduri said: (Sun, Nov 16, 2014 07:05:24 AM)    

In my opinion Arranged marriages are better than Love marriages, because these marriages are arranged by our parents. As our parents will love us so much they will choose a right person only for us and if any difficulty comes also our parents can be supporting for us.

I do not say that love marriage is not good but in the love marriage we cannot find parents support as it is the sole decision of the boy and the girl they both only have to face any situations. In love marriages divorces are also happening due to misunderstanding between themselves.

But in love marriages we can understand each other perfectly than the arranged marriages. Because in arranged marriages it takes some time to understand each others thoughts and feelings. But it is better to give respect to our parents thoughts and feelings and do the things as they have grown us up by working very hard in order to make us intelligent people or to develop us.

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Rajiv Siddarth said: (Fri, Nov 14, 2014 12:33:56 AM)    
Hai I am Rajiv Siddarth.

Our topic is about Love/Arrange marriages according to mine Love marriage is better than the arranged marriages because in love they know what he/her partners does like and doesn't like things etc so they can easily understand to each other so they are happy in their future and coming to arranged marriages I saw most of the couples lives terrible life they're life because they don't know about he/her partners so they always silence in their relationship so finally my conclusion is true love never ends.

Thank you.

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Himani said: (Thu, Nov 13, 2014 05:52:03 PM)    
Hi good evening. Personally my view of thinking I totally agree with love marriage, In the love two persons are completely know each other. They are totally adjustable. They take care of one another.

Yes, our society and our family are not accept fully at this time but life is our. We live with each other not parents. If we are totally understand each other. Why should we listen to third person? Yes but we will not go against with our parents. We should understand them patiently.

In my personal opinion I think that how can we live our life with stranger?

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934758 said: (Wed, Nov 12, 2014 12:46:41 AM)    

According to my opinion, if someone ask me to choose one of them I always prefer to arranged marriage because of my family who always think better for their crop, they are experienced in actual life but it would be better if they take suggestion and intention of their son or daughter before taking any conclusion.

As we know marriage is the need of our life and you are free for your choice but remember how many couples are succeed in love marriage I think a few after getting married by this system the train of our life run very fast but for limited period and the time comes when they hate each other by taking any type of matter whatever, because there is the absence of parent who always suggest the real path of life and the bridge between the two.

So I request to all of you take decision carefully which plant you for long term profit and satiation instead of short term enjoyment and always consult with your elder who are experienced.


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Sree said: (Tue, Nov 11, 2014 07:40:57 PM)    
Hi I am Sree, I will support for Love as well as Arrange marriages, because it is not the matter that all should Love and then marry it's all up to them. It is not the matter for both Love marriage as well as Arrange marriage, its only thing is after marriage they both should understand and love each other, compromise is more important for both of them. But true love never ends.

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Lonely said: (Tue, Nov 11, 2014 07:37:01 PM)    

Love or Arrange.

I prefer Arrange, because I saw that when I am in love with my girlfriend and she also loves me but she refused me to get marry with me and she was accept that person whom her parents chosen for her and she got married with him and she lives happy today.

So it means that love is nothing it just an attraction between two person if in this world love happens then nobody will get Arrange marriage.

So please guys don't waste time on Love please concentrate on your future.

Love is nothing.

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Nirala said: (Tue, Nov 11, 2014 07:27:47 PM)    
Hi I am Nirala. I would prefer Arrange marriage, because marriage is the holy meeting of two souls or two persons, in Arrange marriage parents provides more time to boys & girls, to understand each other.

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Aaliya Khan said: (Fri, Nov 7, 2014 04:51:09 AM)    
Hey Guys.

According to me, Love marriage is better then Arrange marriage because marriage is the matter of a girl or a boy. If they have a love affair then what is wrong in it? They know each other well, they are careful for each other, they share their problems & everything with each other, they feel comfortable with each other, they know what does his partener like or what does he doesn't like, they know well about the choice of each other, they know the negative and positive points of each other, they support each other etc etc. Then what's the problem?

Mostly in arrange marriage, girls have to tolerate highhandedness but still she has to live silently. Dowry system is famous case of INDIA and funny or serious thing is that a husband plays a super-duper role in that case, he helps or support his family who always torcher to his wife expect to take a actual part to support his wife and against his family but we see very few cases in arrange marriage where a husband takes a part to secure his wife. In love marriage dowry doesn't means a matter. Boy always ready to marry his partner without any greed because he love her not money, car or dowry items.

In arrange marriage there is a deal that a girl who is mary has to live her life according to her husband as well as his family. She has to die her thoughts, her dreams, her aim. She can't feel freedom, she is going to place like a jail as and she has to live as she is any criminal. But love marriage is totally opposite of arrange marriage.

And I think parents should understand that their children has a life of their own and if he/she chooses their partner then what's wrong in it?

And childrens should remember that their parents love and care of their child and they don't want that something happens wrong with their child so they also don't do the step which hurts to their parent as well as family.

That's all.

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Oorja said: (Sat, Nov 1, 2014 12:01:07 AM)    
What matters is love and understanding, whether it is love or arrange marriage. Its ones personal choice. But time also matters. If we fall in love with somebody then it is obvious that we will choose marry him or her but if we don't then we will have an arrange marriage:P.

But world has seen that arrange marriages are more compatible than love marriages. This is because love sometimes may mean just attraction which is short termly.

Moreover in arrange marriages we don't know much about each other so we have our full life to know about each other but in love marriages we already know everything about each other so in some cases people get bored with their partners until it is a "TRUE, UNBREAKABLE LOVE" or they are made for each other.

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Gagandeep said: (Fri, Oct 31, 2014 06:33:01 PM)    
Good Morning.

I would like to share my views on the topic love marriage or Arrange marriage. In my opinion Love marriage is better then arrange marriage. When you go for arrange marriage there are many question inside your mind how would be your partner her liking and disliking, what would be her nature, her reaction towards your problems, all these create problem after marriage.

But in love marriage before marriage you very well know your partner, what is her nature, you spend more time with her before marriage. This actually helps both of you to understand each other culture and traditions.

The ultimate goal of marriage is to live with the partner whom you can share your happiness and sadness situation and are able to solve all yours problems. So its good marry someone whom you love.

So love marriage is better.


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Azhagar said: (Thu, Oct 30, 2014 04:52:38 PM)    
Hello friends,

Myself I am Azhagar, so our topic is "LOVE or Arranged Marriage". I am going to support for Love marriage. Because without love there is nothing in the world. How can you give your whole life with out knowing the person's behavior, mentality, character etc.

One should not choose life partner for parent's desire or some other reasons because we are going to live our life.

In Love marriage there is enough time for understanding each other and to decide how our life will be in future.

Even if you go for arranged marriage here also love only matters for happiest life but there is less chance for that love in most of the arranged marriages.

But everything has two sides love also has some problems but if that love is really a love then none can resist you happiest and affectionate life.

So I can openly say with out love Life is totally waste.

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Vinay said: (Sat, Oct 25, 2014 07:07:11 PM)    
Hi friends.

I am to here support love marriage but not completely arguing against arranged marriages, I think it's not a matter one agrees arranged marriages, but the problem raises when we loved someone.

I would like share some of the reasons why our parents don't agree love marriages are.

Caste feeling.
Social status.
They can't satisfy their ego by accepting.

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Aditi said: (Sat, Oct 25, 2014 12:33:28 AM)    
Hi friends,

Our topic is "love marriage VS arrange marriage:

As we all know every coin has two sides same applies in this case also. Arrange as well as love marriages have good as well as bad sides.

In case of love marriage two persons know each other very well before marriage n they decide to marry but the problem arises when they misconception love as it may be their ATTRACTION towards each other which will end in some years and can lead to a unsuccessful marriage and if it is true love no matter of any ups n downs in their lives they will make their live successful and hence marriage.

In case of arranged marriage our parents decide our partner that appears best match to them for us. This also has two sides. If we marry any unknown person without knowing him for keeping parent's heart or due to any force then it can lead to many problems after marriage but if we take sufficient amount of time to know the person, his nature, hobbies n all though chosen by parents can make a huge difference.

So I would like to conclude that it all depends on us about what to do and also our nature. LOVE between two persons can change even arranged marriage into love after marriage. It should be the wise decision taken by both bride n groom.

Thank you.

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Bhargavi said: (Thu, Oct 23, 2014 10:53:45 PM)    
According to my point of view, a successful marriage solely based on understanding between wife and husband but not on the other aspects. Coming to practicality these days both arranged marriage and love marriages stood in same place in succeeding.

Even loved ones before marriage is leaving their beloved partner alone. So understand the person whom you love and whom you marry and be a successful partner so that you can have a successful married life.

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Mohammad Arif said: (Thu, Oct 23, 2014 10:44:10 AM)    
I will give you some reasons for both arranged and love marriage.

In love marriage:

1. If the two partners have a good mutual understanding between themselves, they can handle situations very well.

2. Trust each other very well.

3. Their lives are fully dependent on each other.

4. And the most important thing they have chosen themselves for each other.

Then go for the love marriage.

In arranged marriage:

1. If you haven't loved any girl yet.

Then go for arranged marriage.

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Bhargavi said: (Mon, Oct 20, 2014 08:33:51 PM)    
Good evening friends am bhargavi,

In my point of view, I encourage both arranged and love marriages. We have many situations in society where we can see some failure love marriages and in even arranged also this depends on the person's behaviour, character, lifestyle and all.

Coming to love marriages persons on their own decides to marry each other disrespect to their parents of their parents weather it may be an attraction or love. Some people will get married of their own without acceptance from their parents in this case there will be no guidance of anyone when there is misunderstanding or any quarrel between them.

Same case if at all in arranged marriage parents will be handling situation and they will take care of them.

Am not specifying that love marriages are not good, am supporting the love cum arranged marriages.

Thank you all.

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Joseph Raj said: (Sat, Oct 18, 2014 11:04:58 AM)    
In my point of you arrange marriage is better. Because,

1. An arranged marriage is a marriage that is arranged by persons other than the two who are getting married. On the other hand, a love marriage is a marriage which is arranged by the partners themselves.

2. Unlike love marriages, arranged marriages are more stable.

3. In an arranged marriage, the couples must get the consent of their parents. On the other hand, in most of love marriages, the partners will not need the consent of the parents, or elders.

4. In arranged marriages, men are always more dominant than women.

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Sonycharan said: (Fri, Oct 17, 2014 03:12:47 PM)    
Hi Guys,

Love marriage and arranged marriage, in both words "marriage" is common, but every man/girl has right to choose their partner. If not, the parents will help in choosing the correct partner. So any way the final goal is to choose a right partner either by self or by the parents.

If you choose love marriage:

You are sure about the partners behavior (likes and dislikes).

You can set your future goal before marriage. No dowry matters in this.

If you choose arranged marriage:

You can get assured status (parents can get better status).

You will have to would yourself to get the love from your partner.

You need to adjust initially until you get clear idea about your partners like/dislikes Dowry matters here.

So finally, what I can suggest is that, "You will get both the benefits of love and arranged marriage which mentioned above, when your love can be accepted by both side parents and added a flavor of arranged :) ". So trust in partners love (either arranged marriage or love marriage) and respect each other.



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Kritika said: (Thu, Oct 16, 2014 01:00:23 AM)    
Hi everyone.

I am in support of love marriage. Yes it is true that our parents have full rights to choose a life partner for us but in today's world when a person is considered adult enough to take his/her own decisions regarding education, career, etc. Then why not this.

I agree Love is hard to find so is a difficult to judge a person you are meeting for the first time for arrange marriage. When our parents didn't allowed us to talk to strangers as a child then they can't even force us to marry one.

In love marriages people take time to understand each other to develop mutual trust and faith which do leads to successful life. Every thing have two sides.

We can trust a person we love we know from a long time but how can you anyone be sure of spending a whole life with someone they have just met and later own regret it.

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Mazid Bhati said: (Wed, Oct 15, 2014 09:55:47 PM)    
It's Mazid bhati.

In my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage because. Both partners don't know about behavior, so off-late time, craze is only love marriage and day by day increasing moreover law helps them, but this is not right because our parents loves us very much.

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Deepak Chauhan said: (Wed, Oct 15, 2014 08:34:01 PM)    
I think we can't say what is wrong or right. I think it just depend on your luck and person nature.

First we take love marriage. In this marriage we fall in love with each other. It can be a attraction. Because that time you think only about that person who loves you or you love him/her. 2 or 3 year it continuous but after marriage it's changed. Person doesn't seem like before he was because that attraction is no more.

And now lets take arranged marriage. In this marriage our parents select a perfect partner from there side. Whether it is family reputation, financial reputation. You get a perfect partner but after marriage we see some activity which we don't like.

So I just want to say whether it is love marriage or arranged it is depend on you how you treat your partner because if you give respect than you should have wish to take respect. And sometime it's also depend on your luck what kind of partner you got whether by love or arranged.

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Arjun Philips said: (Tue, Oct 14, 2014 03:34:44 PM)    
I'll be keeping it short and crisp. True love can be heaven. There's nothing like it. No matter how you find it. If Incidentally, well enough. Through arrange marriage, equally good.

But once you're in love, nothing else matters. If you're compatible with one another, all that matters is your partners happiness over your own, your partner's priorities over your own. Even when you pray you ask for your partners good and healthy life. Each time you see a shooting star you wish for your partner's success more than yours. Its beautiful. Someone caring for you more than your own self. Find it through accident or through an arrange marriage, doesn't matter. The only thing I want to convey is that. If you're lucky enough to find such a person in your life and your short stay on earth, never let go of them. Don't cheat. Let them know how important they are in your life.

And if you haven't yet found that person, keep searching.

Because as soothing as love may be, once it breaks and you're left alone, there's nothing worse. So guys please chose wisely. Be it arranged or love. The prime thing is love, pyaar, ishq, mohabbat, prem. Its the only thing worth living on earth.

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Bharat said: (Sat, Oct 11, 2014 01:06:55 PM)    
Loving to a girl can be termed as attraction and convert it into marriage can be said trouble if you don't cast upon the consequences. Love is the gift of God, love should be spread ed among people. Love marriage is canal and arrange marriage is ocean.

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Sashi said: (Fri, Oct 10, 2014 08:27:06 PM)    
Arranged marriage a review:

1). Parents of a boy know all the things about their son but how can they know anything about the girl in just a month or so, also parents think they know everything about their children but there are many things that are important in marriage like sexual compatibility etc which can also play a major role in ruining a marriage.

2). Secondly Indian girls have changed they are more independent and more confident now, they have more legal support too and they know when to stand against domestic violence. Earlier divorce rates were low because women used to just tolerate everything for her children and "pati parmeshwar" idiology. How can you know in an arranged marriage whether the guy you are getting your daughter married doesn't get high with domestic abuse.

3). More women are choosing for a permanent career hence they stand equally in the household status this is sometimes unacceptable by the in-laws and even by the husband.

Why not choose a partner of your own choice, if your parents trust you they should trust your choices too after all they raised you. Why should they assume that it is a bad decision rather they should be proud that they raised as an independent person who can take the most important decision of his life on his own.

Come on people stop going for a groom/bride hunting, sometimes it feels like boys go with their parents to a candy shop and they point towards the candy they like and their parents will buy it for him grow a pair.

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Narasimhan said: (Mon, Oct 6, 2014 08:23:40 AM)    
In law of contract the word 'CONSENSUS AD IDEM' is an important term for conclusion of contract which means parties to a contract are thinking on the same sense and same object.

Likewise, I would suggest youngsters to think about their customs/habits, income level, future planning before going to love.

Changing of habits/religion will not survive in the long run. Likewise, polygamy nature of gents/ladies will spoil their children life not only in income level but social status. In a nutshell, parents are the affected persons in case of love marriage becomes failure.

In arranged marriages, parties to the marriage should have a clean and open thinking with no EGO on their minds in order to secure a good life for their children.

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Krishnaa said: (Fri, Oct 3, 2014 07:11:14 PM)    
Hello Friends,

In my opinion, LOVE for lifetime is important whether it is love marriage or arrange marriage, Life partner means to live a life with a person in every happiness and sad situation, If couple loves each other they will have great understanding in between them. All the hurdles can be overcome whether it is money, status, social hurdles etc, The only thing which must exists between couple is Love.

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Rija Anwar said: (Fri, Oct 3, 2014 06:29:33 PM)    
Well I think arranged marriage is more reliable than love because our parents known us better they know all our habits likes and dislikes so when they search a partner for us they see all these things in him to so when they find someone for us so it has same habits likes and dislikes so we can manage all our life with him easily but in a love marriage minds are different thoughts are different so its not easy to manage one is going to compromise always then the relation will go on otherwise its always fighting and bad moods but in arrange both will be willing on the same thing so no one has to compromise and both lives happily.

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M.V.Krishna/Palvoncha said: (Wed, Oct 1, 2014 05:41:02 PM)    
Dear All,

We can't justify that 'Arranged Marriage' is correct or 'Love Marriage' is correct. Because there are some failures in both Arranged and Love Marriages. The failures are due to lack of understanding each other but not on type of marriage. Whatever may be the marriage, there should be an understanding and love between a boy and a girl before marriage and also after marriage.

In arranged marriages, parents know likes and dislikes of their child. So, they choose a person with qualities whom they think their child will be satisfied. Parents observes many parameters very keenly, so that their children must not face any challenges after marriage even in their absence. Even in arranged marriage the boy/girl should not marry blindly the person whom their parents suggest. Each and every individual should be wise enough in deciding their partner. After marriage the individual have to LOVE their partner and make life happy.

In Love marriage, the individuals themselves choose a person with the qualities they like. The same thing is done by the parents for their children in the concept of Arranged Marriage.

The boy/girl should share their feelings/opinions with their parents and should be able to convince them if required. Quarrelling with parents, running away from home, marrying unwillingly a person chosen by parents etc are not good to either persons and their families.

It will be very good if the individual make their Love as Arranged marriage, because - marriage not only belongs to the individuals, but also to the families of either side.

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Sanjeev Jha said: (Wed, Oct 1, 2014 02:33:45 PM)    
Hello everyone, This is me Sanjeev jha.

I am glad to say that I am going to give my opinion on this topic.

That is arrange marriages are always better than love marriages.

Parents are the first friends of everyone who can understand better than others that we all have.

They brought up their children despite of having so many social and economic difficulties.

They fulfill our every demand either they are suffering from problem and never complain for anything.

Now matter is that how can our parents understand my soul and about my life partner then answer is that they know us from last 25 years, if a girl fully understand a boy in 2 to 5 years relationship then definitely our parents know us better than girl who Know us from 25 years.

If any obstacles arises in married life they will help us to overcome it.

They have an idea that, what is right and what is wrong for their child.

No one cares us more than our parents.

Marriage is not only the bonding between two souls but also the bonding between two families.

They know the better taste of life more than us.

Even, so many cases have been seen that after sometimes of love marriage the boy's family first demand that give me a luxury car, gold etc and if their demand has not.

Taken seriously then they threat to girl's family that they kill their daughter and such type of mentally torture again and again resulting at last both have to sign on divorce paper.

That's the reason that arranged marriages are always better than love marriage.

Thanks to everyone listen me.

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Vishal Pahwa said: (Sun, Sep 28, 2014 02:35:04 AM)    
Hello friends.

My name is Vishal.

For my opinion love marriage is better then arrange marriage. First of all I am telling you arrange marriage. If you are going with arrange marriage there is lot of question coming in your mind. Like what is the nature of your partner, you don't know anything about your partner, and more important is that you don't know her past, all that things creates a big problems in your life. But if you are going with love marriage, you know very well about your partner, what her nature, what she like, you are spending more time before marriage you know well how to solve your problem, all the situation you are easily handle that's why I am in the favour of love marriage. So I think love marriage is better then the arrange marriage.

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L@Vi Singh said: (Thu, Sep 25, 2014 08:46:42 PM)    
Good evening Friends.

My name is Lavi and.

I'm student of British School of Language tomorrow I'm about to speech at this topic so I saw your comments and I don't know about anything at this topic because I hate marriage.

According to me both marriage can be secure and good and if I have to select one then I will select love marriage first and second arrange marriage in second because in love marriage we knows all about our partner but in arrange marriage we have to marriage in compulsion because of happiness of our parents without know about the partner's bad habit.

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Siddharth Tirole said: (Wed, Sep 24, 2014 04:18:45 PM)    
I think arrange marriage is better than love marriage. Most of boys and girls have shared their opinion that in arrange marriage boy/girl has to compromise with partner about their habits both can not know each other etc. Etc.

Arrange Marriage is not "On the spot marriage" i.e. parents take the final decision after the yes/no of their son/daughter. And there is a lot of time to know each other if boy/girl says yes for arrange marriage.

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Rohini Chaudhari said: (Wed, Sep 24, 2014 12:13:11 PM)    
I completely agree with Vipul, that the marriage is understanding between two partners. In case of love marriage this thing is more as compare to arrange because in love marriage the understanding is already built between a couple and also had a great bonding and in case of arrange to built a understanding and bonding, caring take lots of time. According to me in case of love marriages the chances of divorce are less.

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Parag Bagga said: (Mon, Sep 22, 2014 10:20:47 PM)    
I believe that marriage is aggregation of two souls so we know better what our soul admires than our parents. Marriage is a life time commitment it's a perpetual habit of our society to eradicate such customs. There be never a chance of regression on our decision if its love marriage there will be no expectations and no compromises. In arrange marriage we have to compromise with every habit and the nature of our partner which ultimately will lead to frustration and fights and finally a divorce. And love marriage eradicates dowry and caste system. The goal of a human being should be towards humanity and love. Rather than involving love with their outdated thinking. I agree our parents have a far more bitter experience of life but they can't never know what kind of partner their child admires.

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Abhay Rajpoot said: (Sun, Sep 21, 2014 05:41:32 PM)    
Hello. I am Abhay rajput student of American institute of english language.

Love and death both are two uninvited guest nobody knows when they are comes but both are do the same work on it take its heart and anthortake its beat.

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Uswa said: (Sun, Sep 21, 2014 09:17:17 AM)    
It's my opinion arrange marriage as compared to love marriage is better because in arrange marriage formally boy and girl liking and two families decision are involve.

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Laxmi said: (Sat, Sep 20, 2014 06:59:23 PM)    
Hi friends,

I am Laxmis. I agree the topic & also we are already told but love marriages and arrange marriages are very good, now-a-days love marriages are common in the entire world but love marriage is better than the arrange marriage. Whenever love marriage is creating the problems and immediately take the divorce also. My point of view love marriage is very good but he/she already know about him/her that's way I told. I really say love marriages is creating the new relationships. Marriage is not a game & very important in the entire life.

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Rohit said: (Sat, Sep 20, 2014 03:06:34 PM)    
As per my view that marriage types are not important but Relations are Important to each other, if we ignore parent suggestion about arrange marriage, may be possible that to break relation between them and if we agree with parents and if we love to anyone then there is also break the relation between lover.

In both divorce also possible, no issue that why? but it is possible to any reason.

So we understand all situations and after that we decide but I also agree with arrange marriage better than love marriage due to relation with parent is more important than love.

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Jony Saini said: (Fri, Sep 19, 2014 06:44:13 AM)    
Hi. I'm Jony.

According to me, love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

When a person get marry with someone, he/she decided to spend whole life with her/him.

We should know about him/her before marry.

In case of arrange marry, we try to know about his/her nature, quality, likes and dislike etc. I think we have to compromise, we have to love to each other.

But in case of love marriage, we already know about each other. In case of any problem after marry we can handle easily because we know more and we can make understand to each other.

And if we get love marry after asking to our parents so there will not be matter of divorce. And it should be, we should not hurt to our parents.

Thank you.

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Bhabani Sankar Mishra said: (Thu, Sep 18, 2014 07:16:10 AM)    
Hi friends. In my opinion whatever be the marriage is there is no link with divorce. In both the marriages love is unavoidable requirement. People always judge the marriage according to divorce, means if there is no divorce the marriage is good whether the couple live happily. Our aim is not to focus on divorce rather on our happy married lives. Divorce is an option not a solution. Can anybody give guarantee that there will be happy married life & no divorce in arranged marriage. If No. Then we should forget about the type of marrige. We should always think about the parents & families & we have to convince if required.

* Whether it is love or arrange does not matter, marriage is a name of responsibility. Thank you.

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Divya said: (Sun, Sep 14, 2014 08:38:22 PM)    
In my opinion love marriage and arrange marriage both have their own merits and demerits. As per my opinion love marriage is better because here both the people get a chance to know each other well before they take a decision to be together for life long. And as far fights and differences are concerned I think before going for love marriage the couple should involve and convince their family too so that their is no room for divorce like conditions. And I find it a win win situation for both the partners and families.

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Dinesh said: (Sun, Sep 14, 2014 01:46:53 PM)    
I am Dinesh.

In my opinion arrange marriage is best because in love marriage more expectations will be have if that is not happen its turn to divorce but in arrange marriage its will be very less so arrange marriage will be best option.

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Shan said: (Sat, Sep 13, 2014 10:53:16 PM)    
Hai this is Shan.

In my opinion loving each other in before marriage is not the matter for both love marriage as well as in arrange marriage, its only thing is after marriage they both should have love each other, compromise with each other is more important in their life.

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Merlin Jose said: (Sat, Sep 13, 2014 12:05:39 AM)    
Hai Friends.

In my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage. Parents are the most lovable source that god has gifted us. They brought up their children despite of having so many socio-economic difficulties. They fulfill our every demand and never complain for anything. If any obstacles arises in married life they will help us to overcome it. They have an idea that what is right and what is wrong for their child.

No one cares us more than our parents. Marriage is not only the bonding between two souls but also the bonding between two families. They know the bitter taste of life more than us. So Arrange marriage is better than love marriage.

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Monallisha Mallick said: (Fri, Sep 12, 2014 02:24:05 PM)    
Hi I'm Monallisha mallick.

From my side I prefer love marriages because here two persons makes a very sensible decision after spending great times with each other before marrying each other and it gives them a very unimaginary happiness unlike arranged marriages.

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Amit Kumar said: (Fri, Sep 12, 2014 01:14:02 PM)    
Hii friends my self amit kumar, I would like to say that, love marriage is a amazing marriage, you will say how, because in love marriage we can feel each other which will not happen in arranged marriage,

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Pavi said: (Wed, Sep 10, 2014 07:32:22 AM)    
I think arrange marriage is better than love marriage because arrange marriage only parents will be very happy and also society will respect our parents. In marriage needs support by relatives etc. So that only most of the parents not accepting the love marriage.

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Navin Singhal said: (Tue, Sep 9, 2014 03:55:45 PM)    
Hello my dear friends:-

Both are the custom to bonding two soul in different ways as per their religion faith but in my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage, parents have more hope for their children. Its last longing with good relationship within all relatives. However love marriage break it in some ways, we all are well known. Someone says love marriage eradicate dowry. But as per my view there is a lot of way to eradicate dowry as well as to educate people. Its is also well known that which things we have. We usually loves them. Hence it is very simple to love he/she who newly married with arrange. Hence I m completely agree with arrange marriage.

Thank you to all.

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Shiv Kuma said: (Sat, Sep 6, 2014 05:47:14 PM)    
Hii. Friends. . I'm shiv.

First of all I would like to say that marriage is the bonding of two souls. So what is best for him. Its only our soul who know. . So how can parents know what will be best for their child. Therefore I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Somebody says that love marriage is not long lasting. There is lack of respect. Here I would like to tell them that. Love should be love its should not physical interaction only. If there is true love than there should not be question of lack of respect. .

Its our society who is responsible for the failure of the love marraige. For our society its not the marriage of a boy and a girl. Marriage is marriage of cast, creed, religion, social standard. Money. Which is totally against humanity. They forget that humanity and love should be the ultimate goal of life.

If our parents allow us to choose our life partner. Say make your career first n then marry to your love one. . Then there is no question of marriage failure. Love marriage also remove the dowry system, cast system and false honor. It can also bring the equality in our society.

One thing also. Our great epics also tell us about in ancient time girls are free to choose their life boy. What we call it SWAYAMWAR. So if our lord Rama lord Krishna. . Did love marriage. . Whats the problems with our society.

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Abishai said: (Tue, Sep 2, 2014 06:05:38 PM)    
Hi I'm Abishai Love marriage is better than arranged marriage in many ways.

First I will tell you about arranged marriage in arranged marriage the boy and the girl are met due to their parents. The girl leaves everything to just make her parents happy but she does not know about the boys character even an inch so they both tries to understand each other taking many years hoping to find love for them in each other mostly the boy finds love in these years but not in her partner but in her other new girlfriend. Which leads their relationship into a divorce case.

But in love marriage the couple already understands each other and love each other they both know each other very well before marriage when they were boyfriend and girlfriend so without wasting many years to understand each other they just live happily and confidently love marriage also helps a couple to solve their problems together they think about each other not about just themselves.

From my mind love marriage is better. I know some one would have something else they would've liked arranged marriages better than love one I'm not saying that just do love marriages avoid arranged marriages its your idea I'm just giving my opinion, its not a fact or it can be.

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Sachin said: (Tue, Sep 2, 2014 10:48:57 AM)    
Hi friends.

According to me marriage is a concept where everyone should get a person who will truly dedicate their feelings to you. They should be caring and loyal to you so in order to get all this love marriage is better concept than arrange as we know each others feeling, behavior, belongingness, nature, each and everything about our partner but in arranged marriage we don't know as much about them thats why when we get to know that the person is not that ideal which we need as a partner we can broke up with them before marriage in case of love but in arrange you have to follow the same after marriage so its bit difficult to understand a partner in such a less amount of time in arrange marriage so I will prefered love marriage instead of arrange.

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Praveen said: (Mon, Sep 1, 2014 02:10:44 PM)    
I think love marriage is better option because we know or partner very well and we also know the what he/she like or not like. And we can understand our partner very well.

When the time changes all things are changes and we should change our mentality towards the love marriage. All the man and women are right to elect husband/wife. If a couple is love each other then our social responsibility is to help them not trouble for them.

And for arrange marriage my point of view is that if a person not love a girl. Then it is our social responsibility that we arrange a girl and make a arrange marriage for them.

Because loneliness is problem and our responsibility is to solve the problem.

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Ganesh said: (Sat, Aug 30, 2014 10:31:31 PM)    
Hi friends.

My name is Ganesh and according to me arrange marriage is a better option as compared to love marriage because what a marriage needs? understanding compromise and of course love. But we miss the most basic and crucial element of relationship and that is trust. In love marriages because of excessive closeness couple forget to respect each other. Whereas in arrange marriages what ever be the reason culture or anything both respect each other's individuality. This is the why arrange marriages are more successful.

However exceptions are always there in both the cases if the couple tries to understand comprise love and respect each other any relationship can be successful.

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Prahitya Vishwakarma said: (Tue, Aug 26, 2014 04:42:36 PM)    
Hello Guys I'm Prahitya.

The presently burning topic is love marriages Vs arranged marriage. But we are missing a link that in any marriage the couple has to live happily. It is the main motto. Whatever the marriage may be the couple should have a good understanding. Then only they can live happily.

In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.

In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.

We can't say that one of them is good because in both the types of marriages, we are seeing many cases where they were taking divorce. Anyhow it should not influence on their children. So think once before doing anything.

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Narendrakumar Prajapat said: (Tue, Aug 19, 2014 07:16:30 PM)    
Hello friends, I'm Narendra kumar prajapat.

In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.

In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.

It is easy to adjust with the partner in an arranged marriage as compared to love marriage. This is because in a love marriage things may often be taken for granted.

Since the partners have never met before, in an arranged marriage, they care more about each others needs.

Arranged marriages help resolves domestic issues faster. There is a sense of fear of losing the partner.

For some unforeseen reason, the marriage does not work; there are many people who will support more.

In most cases, love marriages force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to tackle their own problems.

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Jeevitha said: (Tue, Aug 19, 2014 06:57:31 PM)    
According to me love marriage is very dangerous one. The love marriage isn't without it's own problems. Shakespeare famously wrote 'Love is blind and lovers cannot see' and according to modern research, these words are more than just figurative. Arranged marriage is that young adults do not need to dedicate their time searching for a life partner. Many believe that arranged marriages are more stable and successful due to much lower divorce rates. So compare to love marriage better than arrange marriage.

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Rahul said: (Tue, Aug 19, 2014 12:32:22 PM)    
According to my opinion love marriage is 90 percent good. Because which is impossible we can make possible troubles which occurs in love life. But it possible when couples are understand to each other before marriage. In most of couples families are not agree with their cast problem so this is biggest problem of love marriage. But love is different to everything like caste, age etc. So love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

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Rishi Chhetri said: (Sun, Aug 17, 2014 08:12:46 AM)    
Hi I m Rishi Chhetri. I just want to share my view about love marriage that I saw that love marriage there always tention because wife know the habit of her husband and afcose husband also know the habit there will be nothing to know new thing about each other and also there will be missing of first time met love but arrange marriage you will be interested to know about feeling of her and if we did marriage with the parents choice we can make them happy if we done with parents choice our next generation can also follow our rules.

Thank you friends.

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Apparao said: (Fri, Aug 15, 2014 09:19:46 PM)    
In my opinion arranged marriage is the better one. As our parents brought us to this stage and they expect nothing from us. It is our duty to respect them. If we cheat our parents it is not a forgivable fault of us. So, We should marry someone who is shown by our parents and begin life with them and share love to her/his along with our parents. Thank you.

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Shraddha said: (Tue, Aug 12, 2014 02:15:33 AM)    
Hello Friends,

Actually I wanna tell you guys what is mean by love : Love is not part time or not full time its a feeling that only understand by who really loves. Love means someones happiness that become our need that's it. That's why love marriage is more better than arranged marriage, but in case of family attachment that is possible our partner is more loving to us. Because any relation has no guaranty to life time that person makes you happy forever.

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Golu Thakur said: (Wed, Aug 6, 2014 08:18:21 PM)    
Hello everyone, As you all know marriage is part and parcel of life. Everyone needs a person who loves them, understands them, makes them feel special, at any stage of life. What is life without love - Null. So presence of love in life is as essential as air, food and water. Without love anyone may look alive but he is not.

So, in my opinion love is important. It really does not matter whether it is love or arrange marriage. No offence but some people are saying that in love marriage the partners know each others likes and dislikes. For your kind information gentleman, now a days in arrange marriage also the partners are being given an adequate time to know each other through phone or by meetings of the partners. Yeah, I accept that it may not have widespread yet, but the initiatives have been taken and soon it will become common in India. Only love that is essential and nothing else. If love is there then in arrange marriage also there will be no harm to the bride for any dowry or such awkward things. So, we should love everyone and that's all.

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Dia said: (Wed, Aug 6, 2014 01:53:03 AM)    
Hello Everybody.

I'm Dia.

In my point of view marriage is still a gamble be it arrange or love marriage. The only advantage in love marriage is that we get to know our partner and his background but you can't expect that behaviour to stay forever. In our country there are more of arrange marriages successful so I think its just a commitment that matter be it arrange or love. Just that both the partners need to be matured enough throughout the journey.

Thank you.

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Dev said: (Tue, Aug 5, 2014 06:23:11 PM)    
Hello Friends.

In my view love marriage is better than arranged marriage. First of all in love marriage there is no religion, no caste, no dowry and happiest life. Marriage is not depend on our parents only, its the main thing for our own life or future. If you know very well to your partner then you can discuss about your family member with her/him & may be they understand your family before marriage, but in arrange marriage it can't possible. ! LOVE IS LIFE, you have to choose your life. !

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Pooja Gupta said: (Mon, Aug 4, 2014 04:00:11 PM)    
In my opinion arrange marriage is better than love because in arrange marriage our parents choose partner for us and they are obviously more experienced than us, so they choose better than us. And some bad condition is occur after marriage than its depends on our luck parents are not responsible for this. This may be happen in love marriage that our love would be changed after marriage.

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Sachin Jani said: (Thu, Jul 31, 2014 10:22:08 AM)    
Hi Friends.

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to talk on this subject.

My personal opinion is that love marriages are better than arranged marriages. In love marriage you are in relationship with the opposite person. Hence you very well know the kind of person your spouse would br. You are well aware of his/ her taste, mood and what makes them happy. You are at an advantage from the arranged marriage guys because you know them from beginning. Also todays world we are matured to think what is right and what is wrong.

Hence I would like to conclude by saying love marriages work better than arrange marriage.

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Naveeen said: (Tue, Jul 29, 2014 07:01:52 PM)    
Hi friend I am Naveen,
First of all I wanted to say thanks to the admin to raise this discussion.

My views are:

I supports love only because if there is love then either it is love marriage or arrange marriage everything going in right direction.

Otherwise if someone forces to marriage then its not good for both.

I think in any condition girl suffers more than boy, because girl left her house, her parents brothers, sisters. With whom she lived from childhood. So its a task for boy to remembers the feeling of girl and make her happy in any situation.

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Arun Kumar said: (Mon, Jul 28, 2014 10:54:50 PM)    
In my point of view, happiness is depends upon doesn't either love marriage nor arranged marriage, happiness is depends upon only on how much loving with each other in their lives. Love and arranged marriages both depends upon their situations. On the other hand some families are support to the love marriages in rare cases but most of the people encourage the arranged marriages in now a days. For instance in India most of the people support to the arranged marriages. Only the best thing is happy life is depends upon only their mutual understandings and respect their opinions with each other. Thank you Friends.

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Seralathan said: (Sun, Jul 27, 2014 02:32:42 AM)    
Dear girls/boys, don't get attached to anyone without using your head. It is very difficult to judge anyone by their appearance, speech and reaction to you. He/may be a paranoid, incompetent, useless person. You can know the other side of that person only after marriage.

We see millions of them blindly in love, unaware of the real world in roads, workplace, net etc.

Love is a very strong feeling created by nature for procreation, essential for all living things.

If anyone take decision under the strong influence of any emotions, we are bound to wrong.

Unlike animals we have the responsibility for bringing up our offspring to a good position for which we need many more things.

Better get opinion of others, deeply interested in us and who can think unbiased.

Love is good if it is wise. It is disastrous if it is blind and without forethought.


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Gaurav Joshi said: (Thu, Jul 24, 2014 08:39:09 PM)    
Hello friends,

It doesn't really matter whether its a love marriage or a arranged one. The focal point is that 2 persons should be married if they understand each other either by love or by some arrangement. So love marriage does have a definite advantage over its counterpart.

Love marriage has less probability of breaking up of relationships and hence these are long term prospect.

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Swathi Latchireddi said: (Wed, Jul 23, 2014 08:59:30 AM)    
Hello everyone.

I'm Swathi.

I agree with all your opinions what you have said earlier. In my point of view "both love and arranged marriages are completely based on their family situations. What I mean to say is, if you are having good and enough relation with your family members then you don't get time to fall in love. Those people can easily choose their life partner through arranged marriages, because they can discuss freely if there is going to be wrong.

So my sincere advice is just try to move freely with your parents as it can be as possible, because "if we get attachment from the adjustments, then we can get more relations". I'm not telling you should adjust yourself, just think in matured way. And if your relation with your parents are not good as earlier, then you go with love marriage and try to convince your parents. I'm not blaming love. I respect it very much. Love is true, but not lovers. So be careful.


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Rahul Dutt said: (Tue, Jul 22, 2014 02:41:43 PM)    
I think both are good but all depend on the condition and situation. We are getting modern in physical manner not mental. We have to change our thinking according to time. I think it is must.

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Aman Kumar said: (Tue, Jul 22, 2014 11:19:15 AM)    
Hello friends acc to my point of view arrange marriage and love marriage are both good acc to the situation because goodness of both depend upon the thought of persons or family as well as society. Mostly in small cities, peoples feel respect in doing arrange marriage to their childrens, but the same is not always true in large cities where the peoples do not hesitate whether their children do love marriage or arrange marriage. The reason behind this difference in small and large cities is the thinking of the peoples.

The peoples of the large cities are more open minded than the peoples of small cities where the peoples feel respectable to do arrange marriage to their children. As we all see that in small cities mostly in villages whenever anyone do the love marriage, they may kill him/her mostly in case of girl. The real cause behind this is our society where the peoples are narrow minded. Also in small cities/villages, peoples believe to do the marriage to their in children in same religion but same is not always in large cities where the peoples find the person who can happy their child and their family.

Now I am going to discuss my about both arrange marriage and love marriage.

In arrange marriage, there's good understanding between the family of both sides. Also the family know very well about the business of boy. If their is a large time or 3-4 months time in marriage after ring ceremony, then boy and girl also know very well about each other. Also the family member feel happy and respectable after arrange marriage.

In love marriage, there is a good understanding between the boy-girl and they know very about each other. Also boy-girl find the life partner of their choices. But in love marriage sometimes family of boy and girl feel not good or not respectable mostly in villages. Also many times in love marriages, boy-girl are belong to different religion or caste.

So at last I want to say that now their is a need to change the mind of families as well as both boy-girl because if we think that the mind set of family member or society changes then they're also need to change the mindset of boy-girl who can do marriage before telling to their parents.

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Rahul Tiwary said: (Thu, Jul 17, 2014 11:03:57 PM)    
Hello everyone.

According to me "love marriage should be arranged!". What I mean is love marriage is better than arranged marriage in many ways, as it eradicates many problems like dowry system, caste system, religion based differences. It promotes LOVE, humanity and brings unity in the society BUT it would be " BEST " if our parents accept this fact and support love marriage until then it is just "BETTER" not the "BEST".

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Puja Vatsyayan said: (Wed, Jul 16, 2014 09:11:36 PM)    
I would say that love marriage is better than arrange marriage. I am not against arrange marriage but think a moment and say what love really mean to your. If two people love each other, then they can solve any problems. I know that some parents are not in support of it but believe me all parents want happiness of their child. So, l would like to say that the marriage in which the partners love and respect each other is the best, which is mostly seen in love marriage.

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Nehal said: (Tue, Jul 15, 2014 12:47:13 PM)    
According to me. Both marriages are good. The main goal should be, relation should have full of love and yes. Courage to take stand, to support your partner. If two people likes and dislikes are same that does not mean they will be good partners in future. Love marriage becomes successful then only if you know the person truly. In love marriage, if people faces some problems, many times families get never involved, but in arrange marriage family always be with you and make them involve to solve the problems.

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Anjali said: (Tue, Jul 15, 2014 01:57:49 AM)    
It is wrong to label any of these two marriages as bad or good as a successful marriage depends upon understanding and compromise. There is no shortage of sick people in this world and you can encounter such people in both kind of marriages whether love or arranged. We should not attach any taboo or stereotype with love or arranged marriages because, the world and people have changed a lot in the last few decades. I support both kind of marriages as both have their respective pros and cons.

In my opinion love marriages should not be looked down upon only because here the partners decide to marry before actually asking their parents. What I have noticed these days is that there is not much difference between the two as now a days the couple in an, arranged marriage is engaged and they are given ample time of months and even a year or two to get to know each other which makes an arranged marriage a kind of marriage where the parents choose the boyfriend for their daughter and tag him as her fiance.

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Rajesh said: (Fri, Jul 11, 2014 07:44:34 AM)    
Good morning friends.

This discussion has reached very far in its discussion and I want to express my point.

Marriage - it is something like everyone need it in their life. Whether it is man or woman everyone want someone who can love him or her, with whom he or she can share each and every aspect of his/her life. Every one need a partner to whom he can show his love. They need someone who can support them in bad phase without any condition.

Friends I was trying to explain the importance of marriage. Now coming to the point I want to say that I believe in love marriages. I want to put some valid points in favour of my opinion.

1. No dowry so no crimes related to as seen in many parts of india and some other countries where wives are killed, burnt alive just for dowry.

2. Eradicating casteism as it is very prevalent in India and so we can minimize the crimes based on casteism.

3. In love marriage both partner understand each other properly they know about various aspects of each others life, each others weakness and strength. If its really a true love based marriage then both partner can grow much more in their social life.

4. It can minimize the communal violence if our society allows love marriages in other religions.

I am saying that arrange marriage is not good. It can also flourish, it can also prove to be as good as love marriage.

But I want to say love marriage has other good aspects also. Our parents support arrange marriage which is good but why our parents can't support love marriage when it has good things related to it.

Yes there are bad aspects of love marriages also, I am not denying those facts. But arrange marriages also have many violence related to it.

So want to conclude that there is nothing bad in either case love marriage or arrange marriage but love marriages have more good facts in its favour. So I want say that if parents also support love marriage as arrange marriage there won't be any point of discussion like love marriage arranged marriage.

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Jayashree said: (Thu, Jul 10, 2014 08:53:30 PM)    
Hai friends,

I think the love come arranged marriage is so good for these days or after arranging the marriage the love started means they become a best couple in the world. Because "love makes everything in the world perfect". Love is a main goal for a marriage. In my point of view in both love marriage or arranged marriage if he or she must sacrifice their life for their partner. Then only they must lead a happy life. Thank you.

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