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Dineshkumar said: (Tue, Jun 30, 2015 10:24:48 AM)    
 
Love marriage is always better than the arrange marriage. Because as love marriage is considered they have a very good relationship between them. They can understand each other.

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Anamika said: (Sun, Jun 28, 2015 11:11:57 AM)    
 
Any marriage is successful if you find a good partner who understands you, respects your feelings and shares your joys and sorrows equally. Happy married life depends on persons, persons happiness doesn't depend on the way of marriage.

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Altaf Ali said: (Fri, Jun 26, 2015 11:12:50 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

In my point of view both love marriage and arrange marriage are equally good. Love marriage is good on the other side and bad on other side and arrange marriage too. Important things in marriage is that first check the maturity of couples second trust each other. And have a source of income so as to have a happy married life and they like each other.

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Amit Goswami said: (Fri, Jun 26, 2015 06:16:06 PM)    
 
Hello friends,

I would like to say arrange marriage is better than love marriage. In love marriage partner have high level of exceptions of each other which they can not achieve. At this point problems are start to create & they don't know how to handle these problem.

And other side in arrange marriage our parent & elder find out the partner for his & her who are accordingly fit. We are start our new life with much responsibility.

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Mukesh Rathore said: (Fri, Jun 26, 2015 12:05:50 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

I think love marriage are better than arrange marriage because in love marriage the couples are understand be each other. Love is the best thing to know each other you know. They know each other and after understanding they choose for whole life spend with one another couple have knowledge about his or her and they understanding each other.

That's it.

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Mukesh said: (Thu, Jun 25, 2015 10:23:16 PM)    
 
I think love marriage is a better than arrange marriage because that not need of dowry in love marriage. And that's not arrange of any drama and any movement, so I believed in love marriage.

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Chamoli said: (Tue, Jun 23, 2015 03:26:19 PM)    
 
Hello Friends,

Love and arrange marriage both have pros and cons in their own way. The important thing in marriage is the understanding and the maturity level between a couple. If anyone finds a partner for themselves, they need to understand each other. They need to be confident enough to back up each other at times of need and also to respect each others thoughts.

It is not that love marriage have more no.of divorces as compared to arranged marriage, it is just that in love marriage people today get attracted to physical traits rather than inner traits. One needs to have mature outlook towards life. Change is part of our life and it needs to be implemented as demanded by situation and this is the reason that people change after marriage because they are adorned with responsibilities.

On the other hand, in arrange marriage people have acquired their maturity level and also the other person is new, so we imagine that person's behaviour to be as he will be after marriage.

In my opinion, a marriage that combines both of them is the best. A partner can be found by anyone, be it be the person or parents, they need to have understanding, they need to have matured and optimistic outlook towards life and both will live happily.

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Tiara said: (Mon, Jun 22, 2015 01:17:51 AM)    
 
In my opinion there is no rule of thumb over love or arranged marriages which ones are successful and which are not. The first three important things in a marriage (even more important than love) are 1 understanding, 2 trust, 3 compatibility. Love comes fourth then comes family support. What is important is to find the right person and it doesn't matter how you find them.

Love marriages can be total fiasco for immature rebellious individuals who would maybe turn the worst kind of infatuation into love and eventually expect to marry them. On the other hand people who have never come out of their cocoon their whole life may end up in a suffocating arranged marriage always agreeing to whatever parents and society thrust upon them.

We can never really predict precisely the future of a marriage because it is just not about finding the right person and family but subject to their partners choices and embrace how they change and grow. Here family support can be proved as a pro but individual compatibility and understanding is the most important.

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Farhan Khan said: (Sat, Jun 20, 2015 07:39:23 PM)    
 
My dear friends.

I think love marriage is better than arrange. Because in love marriage couple know about each other. They know each other and after understanding they choose for whole life spend with one another couples have knowledge about his or her and they understand each other.

They know how to handle each other in any conditions. They do truly love each other. And also they choose one another for whole life easily. After marriage they do any work with a new think.

A best matter in love marriage is a social evil dowry doesn't have any place. So I think it is better than arrange.

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Firoj said: (Sat, Jun 20, 2015 06:10:27 PM)    
 
Hello guys.

According to me love marriage is better then arrange marriage because love is the best thing to know each other you know. You have chance to know his or her nature, likes, dislikes everything whatever you want to know.

You can say everything from your any place of mind before marriage. I have saw many peoples who get there love marriage everybody means 90% out of 100% people is happy, they can face any problem easily and they can spent there life happy happy.

That's it.

Thanking you with my respect.

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Pranav said: (Thu, Jun 18, 2015 11:07:01 PM)    
 
Hi,

This is Pranav.

Coming to this topic arranged marriage vs love marriage.

To be frank there are pros and cons on both sides. Arranged marriage is a well known fact in other countries and we are taunted as well. The main reason the person you never know how can you marry him. It is full of drama most of them going with there chest thumping arranged marriage as the best because you get the family support no matter what. The other excuse one has given is by saying the girl who goes against her parents wish and get married to someone else how can you be sure about that girl. Well said as if the person who is saying is a holy cow. Everyone has there own opinion and has to be respected. And when it comes to love marriage many of them argue about the statistics and the divorce rate being higher than arranged one. Love marriage is also a type of show off. Now let me brief you about both.

Arranged marriages as I said its a full of drama like finding a horoscopes its nothing new. Our country is a god fearing and a superstitions country. The other factor is the most common phenomena i.e. Caste and even worse dowry. In India most of the women immolate themselves because of dowry harassment and one of the reasons for divorce. You will agree our nation is said to be predominantly a male dominated society. The problems still persists. Tourist who came here for study has said male considers themselves as much superior to women. Similarly those who say about arranged marriage being far better than love marriage give such sort of silly excuses their can be this kind of mindsets raising their views. Definitely welcome it but times are changing.

When it comes to backward areas things are much more terrible. Child marriages do often happen in remote places. Most of the marital rape happens in arranged marriages. The highest rate of pregnancies in this country happens at the age group of 15 to 16 years. Most of the marital rape happens here at this age group minors are being forced who is responsible. Is it a girl or the parents who decided get her married at this young age. The one who is suffering need the backing where is the backing. Many of them say families resolving it together. But the one who is ultimately suffering is the girl she can't do anything about it even if she wants to because the parents decision is the final decision. Parents may know about the issues very well but they just tend to eyewash it as they believe everything will be okay.

After few years when they realize that situation has become far worse it becomes too late. Two things happen fist is suicide out of psychological and physical torment because the family didn't object it first the situation became far terrible. Coming to the second point family do act it becomes too late because they could have done it first but they did nothing. Finally divorce happens this is why divorce happens late in arranged marriages because most of the families despite knowing do nothing about it out of fear and social stigma. Whatever the opinion may be in the end mostly the women suffers.

The basic problem is many of the family reasons being one you have married you have to live rest of your life with that same individual despite being in worst case scenario. And the other thing being imposed on them not to have second marriage or else it will be a shame. Society is naive they will never help you but will say many things about you. Especially this will be a gossiping issue. So when I discuss about this issue I say make your own decision be on your own. There is no where written in any holy book to continue your life with an individual once married and you cannot thing twice on it. When it comes to our nation we talk about moral values and blessings it sounds very good.

But is this not a reality that our country tops in ancestral rape and also where female is an issue. First thing we need to respect a women. The inferiority complex shown by male is very wrong. When it comes to love marriage I described it as a type of showoff the reason being you are not being yourself despite many years of relationship here too inferiority complex against each other one of the main reasons for divorce. The reason being after marriage you start to be real you. Behavioral pattern changes and many things come out which you have never seen before. But still if you do ask me about my opinion I will go with love marriage. In life you make choices you take decisions but its not always right. That doesn't mean you stop taking decisions. No one is perfect. When it comes to backing I say it again be on your own. True quote a family is the one who never abandons you no matter what you do you may abandon them but they will never abandon you. At time of need they will always have your back.

The most important thing about marriage is knowing each other. One of them truly pointed out well known fact when its an arranged marriage especially the boy the girl who doesn't know him just had two to three meetings will it be that easy. Just because the boy belongs to financial background ten years elder doesn't look good and from inside even the girl doesn't like him. Does the family really care. When it comes to marriage. It has to be on a trust which comes through proper understanding. You have to respect each other and should be well affectionate towards each other. When you are five to six years in relationship you probably tend to know each other very well. You go for an interview and one thing most of the HR definitely ask where do you see yourself after five years. Most of them reply as a manager.

But one basic question arises why after five years, the answer is simple they know with that kind of experience you will definitely excel yourself to leadership skills. There is no guarantee about life there is no guarantee about any products. So when it comes to marriage make your decisions wise.

Thank You.

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Durga Karanam said: (Thu, Jun 18, 2015 09:30:21 PM)    
 
Hi,

My dear friends,

Love marriages are better than arrange marriages. Because in love marriages the couples are understand be with each other. Loving is not living alone without parents. Who has the capacity to accepted by the parents then only they love. Who will agree with the above lines should love. At that time your parents are happy and you also be happy with your partner.

Thank you.

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Pramesh said: (Wed, Jun 17, 2015 09:39:27 AM)    
 
I think arranged more much better because if any problems creating between husband and wife in arranged marriage then boy family will be understand his son and girl family also understand his girl and all problems solve both family member but in love marriage any family member not interfere in his problems.

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Amit said: (Tue, Jun 16, 2015 03:04:34 PM)    
 
Everything is right, It doesn't matter whether it is your love or arranged marriage, what is important is understanding the things in a precise manner and if you think that things are not going well be open and resolve the things at mutual consent of both. However, harsh or wise is the decision accept it.

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Prashant Singh said: (Tue, Jun 16, 2015 12:40:56 PM)    
 
Love or arrange, no body can predict the success of marriage before hand. A marriage which lasts whole life due to over submissiveness of one of the spouse but has always remained full of negligence, unaffection, physical or mental torture, cheats, can't be said better than those who got divorced after marital conflict. In fact many arrange marriages in which one of the spouse is dependent over the other for financial stand and has no back up from home if marriage is broken (especially in case of women) has to compromise and suffer whole life if spouse is uncooperative, which many times ends up into any physiological or psychological diseases catching the victim.

Otherwise if we imagine a time comes in future that all the couples of arrange marriages are financially independent of each other then there would be drastic increase in divorce rate if compared to present time. Now a days, majority of divorces of arranged marriage occur of those couple in which both are financially independent. Where as in case of love marriages, most of the couples are earning or eligible to get any job so divorce rate is comparatively high. If anybody can find himself or herself companion of his or her liking, then love marriage is not the sin otherwise they can go for arrange marriage.

In arrange marriages parents only see financial background, family reputation in society, job and looks of the candidate. They can't know the psychology of candidate or their parents by meeting them couple of time or through friend and relatives. If this was the perfect criteria then every couple through arrange marriage would have been happy without any trauma or suffering. Marriage by love or arrange is only fruitful when two companions are affectionate to each other.

It is also said in Hindu Shastras and have been found in scientific researches that those couples who are in love, give birth to good, and joyful children who become constructive towards society where as children born are evil minded, unhappy, or become harmful towards society when parents are not affectionate to each other. Classical example is Mahabharata Yug where Kauravas were born when their father disliked their mother Kunti. And what was nature character of Kauravas was, most of us are aware of it.

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Nisha said: (Tue, Jun 16, 2015 11:57:06 AM)    
 
Hello guys.

Well according to me love marriage is the best option by which we can get a understanding and lovable life partner. If you are in love with someone. And he understands your desires and accept you as whatever you are. It means he will take care yourself during whole life.

On the other hand, In arrange marriage, I have seen many ups and downs in it. Most of the time it happens like you get married arranged and after some time you realize that you made blunder and starts domestic disputes.

I think we should get married that person who loves you and believe on you and most important understanding you. That's it.

Thanks.

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Shankey said: (Mon, Jun 15, 2015 03:50:58 PM)    
 
Well most of our life we live as per the society that society which never thinks about the person whose feelings and affection attached to someone whenever we do something being stopped for the sake of blush it society.

So life should be independent if any thinks love is perfect then go with it else arrange is not a problem after all families being a part of society selected someone for you so just enjoy.

But one thing I must life is precious and it should be lived up as per ones own will not by the others.

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Pradeep Chandel said: (Fri, Jun 12, 2015 11:05:37 PM)    
 
Hello guys,

I would like to add my point of view in this discussion.

According to me marriage is not only a relation between two persons but also between two families. There is many time a couple has to face many difficulties in their relation and that time they feel the support of family. Many youngsters consider their attraction as love, and despite of family protest they take the step of love marriage, by the taking of this type of step they loose the belief of their families.

After some days of marriage when their attraction is perished they start facing problem in their relation then in absence of family support discord will increase day by day and finally this become the result of failure of love marriages.

On the other hand if we do the marriage according to our family then we can skip these type of problem with the support of our family. Many of us think that I love someone and I can't imagine my life without him/her then we have an option to convert our love into arrange marriage by conveying our family.

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Arun Singh Tomar said: (Thu, Jun 11, 2015 11:03:04 PM)    
 
I think arrange marriage are much better than love marriage because if a girl who could not understand her parents who has been the integral part of her life for 20-25 years, then how she is going to survive with a man who she has been knowing for merely 3-4 years, for rest 50-60 years of life.

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Sukhdeep Singh said: (Thu, Jun 11, 2015 02:09:55 PM)    
 
Hello friends,

I 'm in support of love marriage as there is proper understanding between couple and they can sought out the problems together with complete understanding the sentiments and feelings of each other after the marriage. However, there are some expectations of family (girl's in laws) which should be fulfilled like respect and all that. If couple is able to cope up with such expectations then it's a successful marriage.

Moreover the love marriages can help to root out the evil which is pervasive in Indian community i.e. the dowry system. If both marrying beings make a decision not to follow dowry then that would be an example for others to follow and this evil will root out.

Thank you.

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Ankur said: (Tue, Jun 9, 2015 11:42:30 AM)    
 
Love or arranged both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. There is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.

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Ankur Maharaj said: (Tue, Jun 9, 2015 11:26:09 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

Arranged marriages, offer more protection and security to the women as the parents decide the family. Parents make use of their maturity and decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for.

In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. Most people think that those who go for arranged marriage are not in an advantageous position, but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern.

It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them know each other so the social and family pressures are less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.

If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both have certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concepts is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy like each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other for compatibility and understanding. People may argue that even after knowing each other for so long why people get divorced after a love marriage.

It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.

Love or arranged both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. There is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.

Good luck!

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Ayesha said: (Sat, Jun 6, 2015 05:26:03 AM)    
 
Hello friends Ayesha here,

According to me is people say that marriages are made in heaven I agree but the relation should be understanding respect towards each other and main thing is both are equal in few cases husbands behave as there should be upper hand.

But I think that's wrong where is love than both are equal in arrange marriage we will get parents support and in this world their are parents who support even in love marriage if the boy is well settled and if a girl is from a good family so it depends upon people.

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Vijay said: (Fri, Jun 5, 2015 02:57:20 AM)    
 
Hi my self Vijay,

I would like to tell you according to me arranged marriage is good. Because a girls who can go against her parents. After some time if you will not fill her wishes then she can go against you.

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Gourav Madaan said: (Thu, Jun 4, 2015 12:18:16 AM)    
 
For my opinion love is same in both marriage if a couple have a good compatibility and trust their relationship goes on forever without any hurdle my support for love marriage.

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Vinay said: (Wed, Jun 3, 2015 07:52:09 PM)    
 
I think arrange marriage always better because if a person is in love someone he/she cheat them another he or she break up totally in love because in love person depend on only their partner. But in arrange marriage if person cheat his or her they can get out from the situation from family support.

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Honey said: (Wed, Jun 3, 2015 04:54:02 PM)    
 
Hello all,

By my point of view arrange marriage is better than love marriage because now days there are 70-80% divorce are of love marriage. It is good to be with strangers than our one who break the relationship.

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Laxmi said: (Wed, Jun 3, 2015 03:13:55 PM)    
 
Hello friends I'm Laxmi.

Arranged marriage is the better for love marriage. Arranged marriages is not between bride and groom its between two parents and now a days we seen lot of love marriages.

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Javid Senj said: (Tue, Jun 2, 2015 07:37:19 PM)    
 
Hey there! this is Javid and want to deliver a few sentences about teenagers and elders.

According to my experience says that arrange marriage is the best way to lead our life without much issues because a person who wants to marry make sure that he/she has been arranged financially for marriage. Both may understand better under elder's wish.

Do you know why most people consider love marriage comes to an end divorce? Because teenagers' love are just an affection and it must be common for everyone. If they get married as arranged, they may not adjust all issues that is why most love marriage come to an end in divorce.

If someone got well-settled and seek a girl then it may agreed. Therefore, love a girl until you well-settled either physically and mentally.

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Katie said: (Sat, May 30, 2015 10:09:40 PM)    
 
Hi,

In my point of view,

Love marriage or arranged marriage doesn't matter, but the matter is how the married life is, Some supports love marriage and the rest supports arranged marriage, anyways that's marriage.

So making the life pleasant or unpleasant, depends on their minds and to lead a beautiful life the couples needs to be humans the reason is that if both of them are psychologically humans then they're supposed to enjoy the married life as they are capable of understanding each other.

Thank you.

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Gaurav said: (Sat, May 30, 2015 08:28:16 AM)    
 
I think that marriage is a most important decision of the life and every aspect of the life is different for different persons so they should choose that way which is perfect and appropriate for that person who is taking this decision of their life I think it depends upon the situations.

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Rajat said: (Thu, May 28, 2015 08:14:56 PM)    
 
Hi,

In my opinion both marriages are successful if their is better understanding between partners. In my opinion if you are felt in love and you want to marry with your girl friend /boy friend so you can share your choices or feelings with your parents that you are in love with a girl/boy and you can marry his/her. If there is better understanding between you and your lover so love marriage is more successful then arrange marriage.

But in arrange marriage the partners felt in love after marriage their is a lots of times to understand with each other and felt in love. So I think love marriage is more successful than arrange marriage.

Thanks.

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Haryy said: (Thu, May 28, 2015 12:26:06 PM)    
 
Hello,

I have one question, in arrange marriage (especially for girl) boy is like a strange person whom she doesn't know and they have to engage in physical relation, is it that easy for a girl to have such relation with that person to whom she doesn't know within just couple of days.

And one arrange marriage that I have seen in my area that a very beautiful girl is married to not so good looking boy who is even 6-7 years older than that girl just because the boy is rich. Now what kind of those parents are, are they really sacrificial for their daughter?

Thank you.

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Varsha said: (Sun, May 24, 2015 05:14:07 AM)    
 
I honestly believe that love marriages are better. Yes, there are higher divorce rates, but you give your child the opportunity to make his/ her own decisions on who they want to be with for the rest of their life. You give them the chance to make choices, as you cannot be making all their choices every single second in life. If your child wants an arranged marriage that's great, but I have seen people in love when their marriage wasn't arranged.

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Subhadeep Sarkar said: (Sun, May 24, 2015 12:31:42 AM)    
 
I read some points most of the people support love marriage because today's life love marriage is just like fantasy those who are in live they shows others how proud they are proud about themselves just like Laila and Majnu.

In arrange marriage we get to know about new people their are lots of things to share and many advantages we will get just like respect, loyalty, if there is any problem both the families come and support so that marriage works arrange marriage is far better than love marriage.

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Maria said: (Fri, May 22, 2015 05:58:54 AM)    
 
I believe in love marriage but after reading some of these comments I'm really not sure, love is all good and well in the beginning but once you have issues in the relationship, you might not have the family support you need but at the same time you are with someone you know and want to be with but with arranged marriages you are stuck with someone you may not even know though you would have family support.

But now days people are also openly gay so marriage could also be complicated in it is arranged. Love marriage you marry for the right reasons, love. Arranged you often marry for money or status. Both have advantages and disadvantages.

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Aaaa said: (Thu, May 21, 2015 06:54:31 PM)    
 
I support both love and arrange marriage because at last its about the two individuals who have to spend rest of their lives together. In my opinion arrange marriages are much more challenging and risky.

Because in arrange marriages the individuals get very less time to understand each other and if after marriage they are not compatible then they have no choice to step out of it except for divorce which is not considered to be good the society.

On the other hand in love marriage you have an open choice to marry your lover or not.

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Manish Jain said: (Thu, May 21, 2015 06:02:19 PM)    
 
In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other. Since the partners have never met before, in an arranged marriage, they care more about each others needs in most cases, love marriages force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to tackle their own problems.

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Vishal said: (Thu, May 21, 2015 09:26:20 AM)    
 
Its all about understanding and also before marrying anyone we should ask question to our self day. Can I stay with her/him for next 40-50 years? One last thing. Sometimes in love its difficult to arrange everything. But in arrange its not difficult to love.

Thanks.

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Oks said: (Tue, May 19, 2015 06:14:04 PM)    
 
Hello everybody,

Personally, I feel the love marriage is better than arrange marriage because the couples already love each other. They have mutual understandings about each other so there will be less arguments between them. Every time they see each other, they will feel happiness. Most of you probably had a boyfriend or girlfriend at least once and you would understand how being able to love the person you want to would feel.

Since it's based on love, there will be understanding build out of love. Even if one person made some mistakes, their partner will overlook them. The results of this are happiness and peacefulness at home.

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Tanuhya said: (Sun, May 17, 2015 11:29:54 PM)    
 
Hi friends,

In my point of view love and arranged marriages have equal importance. The only thing that everybody should think is that the belief that a couple should have on each of them. And a good understanding should be there between couple. I agree that in arranged marriages there is no enough time to understand each other but parent's are always supportive. In love marriages there is good understanding between couple.

But I don't totally agree that love marriages are better. There are failures in arranged and in love marriages. The only that everybody should think is that after marriage one should understand each other and one should have trust on their partners. That's enough to have good relationship between couple.

Finally I conclude saying that love and arranged marriages both are best the bond between couple depends on belief and understanding. So, friends think of this once.

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Siri said: (Sun, May 17, 2015 03:35:10 PM)    
 
Hi friends,

We are can't say in one word for which marriage is best. But I know both are best for me because love is same in two marriages but only difference is thinking perception and individual mind set. Any relationship is breakout means there lack of understanding. And ego is main problem for problem of love.

But one thing love marriage buildup with family support its very great love. Arranged marriage is fill up with family support when there is less problems because here fear and responsibility are more. This is my opinion.

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Shubham said: (Sat, May 16, 2015 02:46:45 PM)    
 
Hello guys,

I completely support both kind of marriage, weather love or arrange basically there are two people who are going to leave there rest of the life together helping each other, there with each other in there good times and bad times, only the basic difference is in love marriage the both love each other before marriage and in arrange marriage the start loving after marriage so what difference does it make.

In the end of the day they both have to love each other and stay together. I agree love marriage has many difficulties but in my opinion love with out difficulties is that true love. So guys keep loving nothing matter till the time you guys are happy with each other.

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Balram Gupta said: (Fri, May 15, 2015 09:44:17 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

I support both types of marriage both types their own fun in love marriage. We know each other very well and from this we can build good understanding. But arrange marriage there is one amazing thing that is the person whom we doesn't know and suddenly. She or he becomes life partner. So we have much things to share.

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Amaran said: (Thu, May 14, 2015 06:28:51 PM)    
 
Hi.

For love is not the most important because it come and go. Arrange or love marriage is same you can't run away from problem that may occur some day. But something that make the happy marriage is that how the couple face the problem together all the problem that they face will make their love grow. So what I want to say is people will make a mistake one in their life.

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Simran said: (Wed, May 13, 2015 10:08:18 PM)    
 
Hi Simran here,

I support arrange marriage as we know the bride or the groom has been selected by parents for their children after due search and check. Even if their some problem arises (in case of girls) or their is some misunderstanding between the couple the parents re always there to support the girl.

But in case of love marriage, the unhappy parents want the girl to resolve her own issues for the parents sake I think the arrange marriage is the best option.

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Prashant said: (Tue, May 12, 2015 01:36:23 PM)    
 
Hi guys,

According to me, love marriage is best cause, in love marriage couple know each other very well. And they understand each other. But all of above every marriage depend on believe, if you believe on your partner then love marriage is best. Instead all of this, in arrange marriage has short time to understand each other, and many of terms like I don't like her/him or how is she/he looking.

But love marriage doesn't mean that you marry with your partner in a wrong way like marry with your partner in temple. You have to convince your parents and change love marriage in arrange. We know that parents doesn't allow for this but one time you have to say.

So lastly I want to say that love marriage is best it's my point of view.

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Akhi said: (Fri, May 8, 2015 09:25:53 PM)    
 
Hello everyone,

Love and affection is important thing in life. It doesn't matter whether it is a love marriage or arranged marriage. Good understanding and perfect love is main theme.

Let me explain my view clearly.

In case of love marriage, its just became a fake and fault now a days. We really can't expect a true love now a days, very few are honest in love remaining all cases are just fake (love through social communications like Facebook and whats app, there are just shit) Love arranged marriages are happy marriages in my view because the couple have good understanding between themselves and they have capability to convey there parents.

In case of arranged marriage, parents wish is, that we should have great life. So they enquiry each and everyone before they confirm the marriage. In the same sense due to poor knowledge some couples ruin there life's, this is only because of there misunderstandings and mismatching of there opinions.

Finally what I WANT TO SAY IS LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING IS IMPORTANT whether it is a love or arranged.

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Tompok said: (Thu, May 7, 2015 07:07:18 AM)    
 
Hi everybody,

Love marriage and the arrange marriage are all the life's events. But there is some important points of different between them, in love marriage we can get the perfect love and one can spend his entire life happily as he/she is living with their lover for they made love each other for some period they have the chance to know each other. The aforementioned points are not found in arrange marriage for the arranging is done in a short period.

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Mohan said: (Wed, May 6, 2015 11:55:59 PM)    
 
Love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in arrange marriage couple having different thinking and there is no mutual understanding and the few months may be years are spent to knowing each other and today's busy lives no one has much time to know each other and love is blind so love is important feeling in every person life so friend we are fall in love.

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Jaspal said: (Wed, May 6, 2015 01:10:28 PM)    
 
Hi friends,

I believe in true love but we have to think practically as well, you know and understand your partner very well but after marriage how your partner will adjust in your family it is little bit difficult to say.

In today's world people believes in formality rather than actual love. If any person loves some one who is earning roughly 30k and owed a swift where as that person's parents agreed to their relation and want him/her to marry but they said we have seen a person who is earning 80k and owned accord so do you want to think once before getting married to your love. I am sure it will affect the relation somehow so where's that true love goes now.

Love is barely an attraction now where we like each others looks, financial status even people believes in doing parties more rather than knowing each other. Is this love, do not think so, love means to know a person A to Z. If you have 100% trust on your partner and you know he/she will not cheat you in future else it will ruin your life and you must know that your partner must respect your parents, you have to be neutral between your parents and partner. Then go for love marriage.

Where as for arrange marriages both family knows each other and parents also helps more your partner to adjust in family. If there will be any problem you have parents to support. Who wants you to marry immediately no one is putting pressure on you, you can take time to know each other in advance and then you can marry. We have seen many times that in love marriages couple mostly stay separately from parents as they don't want any restrictions on them which is basically not correct as your parents needs your love and support as well. But in arrange marriages may be this would not happen.

My preference is for arrange rather than love.

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Manpal Singh said: (Sun, May 3, 2015 11:25:25 PM)    
 
In my point of view love marriage because in marriage primary and basic thing is love rest things is secondary things, if your love is true marriage just a social fashion, in love marriage love possibility is more. Otherwise restructuring without marriage so basic things is love, and then marriage. Arrange is arrange just likes purchase things from market you you have not love you arranged which is artificial love. Arrange marriage do fool peoples. Society make peoples fool.

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Satveer Singh said: (Sat, May 2, 2015 03:55:57 PM)    
 
Its not as east question as seems but its too difficult. In the present era where love starts from 5th standard. How much understanding will be about each other? How much they can care? And how long they can continue there love unfortunately its only attraction? Attraction of figure, status, and position.

So in such case there marriage will not be effective, after passage a little time they bore from each other and in fact if I say it that these people are not eligible for marriage it could not b wrong but these days a new term has emerged that is love cum arranged marriage I totally in such marriage.

Because to do such marriage all demerits of love marriage hide and it only show merits of love and arrange marriage. Firstly where you recognize it and your parents also recognize it your love also fulfill. It just a guarantee that makes your life prosperous.

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Shilpi said: (Sat, May 2, 2015 01:37:09 AM)    
 
If family or community really supports arrange marriages then why they ask for dowry from same community girl why they didn't ask anything from inter-caste girl, this behaviour shows that they do arrange marriages just for the sake of showoff.

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Ajay said: (Wed, Apr 29, 2015 04:38:15 PM)    
 
Hi everyone.

From my point of view love marriage is much better than arrange marriage. As my friends said there is better understanding between couples and it goes long relationship.

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Sheffy said: (Tue, Apr 28, 2015 06:17:14 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

According to me love marriage is more preferable than arrange marriage as in love marriage you know your partner well there is mutual understanding between them in your relation period you have gone through almost all situation of life. So you know how to tackle with situation in future any thing goes wrong you will only be responsible you will not blame.

Anyone else for your condition and in arrange marriage is it a guarantee that the guy is real he what he pretends to you in your engagement time?what if he changes after marriage can you challenge about that? So love marriage with agreement of parents is what I prefer. And goes well in my point of view.

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Nandu said: (Fri, Apr 24, 2015 03:29:25 PM)    
 
Hi this is Nandu,

In my point of view no body's don't know about the love before movies are not came. By seeing the movies only every body addict the love. Now a days from 5th class onwards everybody fall in love. So is this the true love? But am not against the love.

My point is "Correct age+Correct time+Matured mind+With responsibility" to felt in love means its successful I think.

So I suppose the 80% arrange marriages 20% love marriages.

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Yogesh said: (Wed, Apr 22, 2015 11:20:17 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

According to me love marriage is better than arrange marriage but condition is that your family member should agree with you otherwise it's a same for us otherwise we have no right to tend against with our parents.

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Himansu Rath said: (Tue, Apr 21, 2015 07:22:33 AM)    
 
Hello friends. According to me arrange marriage is far better than love marriage. In case of love marriage family may not be support this. If some problem arise no one behind them. But in case of arrange marriage family members, relatives and friends all are engaged to find a bride or groom. It creates a lot of joy, funny & enjoyable moments.

Some friends said that their is less understanding between couples in arrange marriage. It is not true, parents members are more experienced and matured mind. They also take the opinion of their child before taking any decision. The marriage is not suddenly done, their must be one or two month gap between ring ceremony and marriage.

This is the enough time between bride and groom to know each other. If their is some problem occur then break the relationship and said to the family. In arrange marriage all the family members are very much happy, that's the main reason for me.

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Anisha said: (Fri, Apr 17, 2015 05:49:01 PM)    
 
I have already read many comments, many people supporting love marriage & some people are against of love marriage. I agree, that now a days many love marriages are not success. But in other side many arrange marriages are also unsuccessful.

It's totally depend upon our mutual understanding, Faith, patience etc. At last I am with marriage, It can be love or arrange. That doesn't matter for me.

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Akshara said: (Fri, Apr 17, 2015 01:46:48 PM)    
 
Hi everyone,

Well according to me marriage isn't just the bond between two people but between two families too. Also one can never claim the fact that in love marriages, partners are well understood and all that. Because looking practically, in love marriage just by knowing your partner for 2 years or maybe even 10 years might not really disclose all his/her traits. And since a long epic, we all have portrayed love marriage as a fantasy full of love and sweetness. Most of the lovers make dreams on how they would live their life happily, their children etc where practical stuffs are given least attention.

Specially for a girl who is married off to another house. This is the case when one decides to spend his/her entire life with another person irrespective of their families. Come on it was the family that made you stand on your on feet. I feel love cum arranged marriages are superb. Where you don't actually sow a seed of doubt or dissatisfaction in anybody's mind. As far as arranged marriages are concerned, no educated families would forced their son/daughter to marry somebody without their consent.

Broadly speaking, for failures in arranged marriages you get to blame your family unlike love marriages where in a narrow minded society like India, all blame is put on the one who opted for love Well, I do agree to the fact that arranged marriage offer less understanding but what's the hurry? its such a wonderful feelings where everyday offers you a better understanding of your partner unlike love marriage where there's nothing new.

Most of the love marriages fail because nobody actually dares to disclose his/her's darker side. More like before marriage full of attempts to please one's partner and post-marriage not necessarily so. If that's the case, then where exactly is the so called "LOVE"? However there are instances where love marriages have turned a 100% success provided all the above mentioned traits are disclosed and one is assured of all the negatives and weak points of his/her partner.

Finally, according to me nobody can actually conclude that love marriage is better than arranged marriage or vice versa. Because its all the matter of fate and never in one's hand. Keep hope, pray for that one prince or princess with whom you could spend a "happily ever after" life. :) :) :).

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Ahmed said: (Mon, Apr 13, 2015 03:15:05 AM)    
 
In my point of view love marriage is Best than arrange. In love marriage you very well to know your partner. You share your feeling and sadness with your partner. I mean to say that mutual understanding is more.

But in arrange marriage, understanding is less. Love is everything and marriage is a bonding of two Souls or two person. And for any relationship, trust is more important.

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Asif Ali said: (Mon, Apr 13, 2015 12:47:07 AM)    
 
Hi I'm Asif according to me, love marriage far good as arrange marriage because in love marriage the both of couple known each others very well. And also known likes, dislikes, strength and weakness.

I think love marriage also have many benefits like,

1. Dowry: dowry is a very big curse of Indian culture. In love marriage. We protect of that curse.

2. Cost: In Indian culture the people are spend money in big amount (arrange marriage). But in love marriage the couples save their money for securing their future.

3. Time: In Indian wedding functions there are lot of Rasm Rivaz are done. Like mehndi, sangeet etc. In all of that we spend of their time. So I think that love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

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Rocky said: (Wed, Apr 8, 2015 07:56:18 PM)    
 
Marriage is a very big decision of every one's life and you should first know everything about each other after that go for marriage and these things are only possible in love marriage. Because in love marriage you have enough time and in arrange marriage you don't have the time and don't have the option to back step.

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Raja Pandu said: (Tue, Apr 7, 2015 02:34:57 PM)    
 
HI friends,

I am with the side of love marriage because the love is their life and a great bonding between two of them. The happiest movement in life is to love some one. Love is blind you can't see anything in it. 'LOVE IS THE LIFE '.

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Raj said: (Mon, Apr 6, 2015 04:17:38 PM)    
 
Hi friends I am Raj according to my point of view arrange marriage is far better than love marriage because before marriage we do the things what our partners like to impress but after marriage we forget these things.

It creates a family quarrel because our partner expect same things after marriage as the things before marriage.

Thank you.

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Saikat Kumar Dey said: (Sun, Apr 5, 2015 06:48:39 PM)    
 
In an arranged marriage, you would get little time to get to know your partner before marriage. It's only after marriage that you would get to know their true characters. They would serve as a mirror and you would get to feel emotions which you didn't even know that they existed. The only thing that would get you going is unconditional acceptance. If both the partners could keep an open mind and accept each other for what they are, they will enjoy a happy married life. If not, then it would get frustrating for both the partners.

In a love marriage, you are at an advantage. You and your partner have been together for sometime and you have mutual respect and understanding for each other. Moreover, you have accepted each other. That's why you have decided to marry each other right?

Now, the difference between either kind of marriage is the involvement of the family. As I have mentioned earlier, it's all about acceptance. If both families can accept each other for the happiness of their child, then the problem is solved. It's a win-win for everyone.

In either case, marriage is a contract between two persons to provide companionship for the short span of life that human beings enjoy. If two people want to be happy, they can be. The secret is knowing that you shouldn't bother about whether he/she is making you happy or how much he/she is giving to you; rather try to share the beautiful things that you have to offer. If both the partners could think like that, it wouldn't matter which kind of marriage they have been a part of. :-).

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Lekshmysankar said: (Sun, Apr 5, 2015 05:57:40 PM)    
 
Hi friends! I am in side of love marriage. Because, in love marriage we can understand our partners mind, what he/she likes, or dislikes, what's in his/her mind and many things. There is something good understanding between them. Love becomes arranged marriage. True Love Never Die. True Love Never ends. True Love still Live.

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Priyanka said: (Sun, Apr 5, 2015 10:57:48 AM)    
 
The nuptial knot is not a tether. If life is a book, then marriage is the most beautiful chapter of this book. First of all, marriage is a big responsibility. It is a big commitment. Now you are going to spend the remaining years of your life with your partner.

Start with arranging a marriage, your parents choose your life partner. In India the marriage is not the union of two people, but a coming together of two families. So they consider, wealth, education level, family background, social, economical status, similar values and so on.

Now you expect the guy/ girl to have the same understanding, trust, loyalty, compatibility as you have. If your expectation turns out to be a reality. You have a great deal. You got your dream-partner and now life is going to be more beautiful. But if your expectation doesn't meet up. Everything will start to ruin.

Now for marriage survival, you choose to compromise, but sooner or later your frustration would lead to a bad marital life. You live a life suffocation to keep your parents happy.

In a love marriage. It is important your love must be true not a mere attraction. Now you choose your partner. Both of you already have a good understanding, compatibility, trust, loyalty. You know about your partners likes dislikes, strength, weakness. You understand his/ her nature very well.

But love marriage also has some negative aspects. Actually, after the marriage thing gets changed and it's natural because now you are in a social bond. Your families are also involved in your relation.

Before marriage people behave positively in all conditions so when your negativity comes out, or we can say different behavior. It creates problems. Because your partner fell in love with old you, not the new one. So you should behave as whatever you are in reality, show your real nature.

Another thing is, when your family is involved in your life. So when you choose your soul mate, make sure he/she accepts not only but also your family. They respect your parents. These are the main reasons why the divorce rate is much bigger in love marriage.

For me, Arranged marriage comes with "uncertainty" but love, marriage comes with "surety".

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Kiru said: (Sun, Apr 5, 2015 08:40:22 AM)    
 
Alright, so I am going to support the arranged marriage side. First things first, let's get this information clear and sorted out. Not all arranged marriages are forced and actually today, most arranged marriages do not carry through without the permission from both sides.

Although there are still forced marriages in many parts of the world still happening today, the arranged marriage that I know of and support is the one which gets permission from both the bride and groom before carrying on with. A love marriage has a higher divorce rate than an arranged marriage, this can be confusing for some but the truth is this, love is very blinding to the eye.

Love is an indecisive feeling which can come and go, it's just too unreliable to take a hasty decision like marriage. There can be many reasons why a person may fall in love with one, but there are also many reasons why one would divorce another because of a love marriage. In a love marriage you already know so much about the person and because you know so much about them, you like them and decide it's only right to get married to them.

In an arranged marriage you might not have enough time to know about the person or you might not know the person at all, but you have the rest of your lives together and therefore enough time to get to know each other and better understand each others hearts. Although in an arranged marriage you didn't love the person completely, you can start loving them for the rest of your life.

In a love marriage you know way too much about the person that life starts to get boring, you knew each other so well when you loved each other that's why you decided to get married in the first place, but after marriage what else can you really know about them or in other cases do? That same person will start to get boring because there is nothing surprising about that person any more.

While in an arranged marriage, your learning something new about your partner everyday. In an arranged marriage you have the full satisfaction from both sides of the family, making your parents proud. I feel as if an arranged marriage has more commitment and a valuable purpose to marriage because it was obviously a thought out decision before proceeding on with marriage. In an arranged marriage all sides had a careful and well though out decision before actually marrying, therefore divorce rates are obviously way lower because both sides agreed upon taking the decision.

In an love marriage, possibly only the two people could get affected by a divorce, but with an arranged marriage both sides of the family and everyone who decided for the arranged marriage could get affected, so the bride and groom would hesitate to upset both sides of the family with a divorce.

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Vipul said: (Sun, Apr 5, 2015 01:42:43 AM)    
 
I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage. In love marriage, couple fell a something which is implement by heart.

In arrange marriage, couple should happy, but they don't feel something. They are trying to happy their parents or family.

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Bharu said: (Sat, Apr 4, 2015 05:51:54 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

In my point of view arranged marriage is better than love marriage because now a days we see so many people fall in love. They are in the attraction stage they are don't think about their life. They are only loving for time pass. At that time they are don't think about their family also. So after marriage they faced so many problem. No body will help them.

But if we are choosing arranged marriage if any problem will comes our parents will help us to you in love marriages we are already love before marriage because they are not. But in arranged they are love after marriage and they start our new life.

So in my point of view arranged marriage is better than love marriage.

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Zandu Singh said: (Thu, Apr 2, 2015 12:32:13 AM)    
 
In my opinion love marriages are the best as we know the person very nicely while in arrange marriages we don't know the person to whom we are going to marry. We cannot spend our whole life with a person we just met.

In arrange marriages our parents select a person with whom we have to spend our whole life, so its our decision, we have spend our whole life with him/her, parents don't have to. So conclusion is love marriages are much better than arranged marriages.

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Pawan Yadav said: (Wed, Apr 1, 2015 10:06:01 PM)    
 
Hi,
In my point of view arrange marriage is better than love marriage. But we talk about our life-partner behavior (character and attitude) in modern era. First of all we know that we like to anyone by its name, look, body figure, position.

But after sometime we don't control our self and falling in love. Here need to understand both and control to make physical relationship. And time to keep patience's and seek someone who is in your cast. It is possible only if we have patience then you heavily attract with each other.

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Rajash Kumar said: (Mon, Mar 30, 2015 07:54:25 PM)    
 
Love marriage is far better than arranged marriage because in love marriage boy and girl they know each other very well understanding between than is much better than a arranged marriage couple and they know each other likes and dislikes.

So they would take their decision sharply than a arranged marriage couple they could do their family planing according than but in arranged marriage where to unknown person meet together so how can they adjust themselves in their life.

So I think love marriage is batter than arranged marriage.

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Sumit Jains said: (Mon, Mar 30, 2015 07:44:58 PM)    
 
Hello friend, I am in favour of love marriage. In my point of views love marriages is more successful than arrange marriage. In love marriage, we know our partners very well, we both know about the nature, behaviour, likes, dislikes, which helps after the marriage.

The compatibility with your partner becomes the best when you opt for love marriage whereas complications arise in case of arranged marriages due to ego problems and many other things.

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Birgora said: (Mon, Mar 30, 2015 07:44:06 PM)    
 
Love marriage is better than arranged marriage because the person whose love he knows her very well and between than before marriage all discussion about marriage are going but sometime arranged marriage is not good for family members because the family members thinks about his lover not good and sometime not accept his lover so I think so arrange marriage is better than love marriage.

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Rajesh Kumar said: (Mon, Mar 30, 2015 01:31:24 PM)    
 
Love marriage is far better than arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is sound like arrange the function with whole family and tie the band between boy and girl how can the live their life without knowing each other before marriage and they would expand 2-3 year in knowing to each other means they would misery their 2-3 year.

And then they get to start their life but in love marriage boy and girl know each other very well and their understanding is much better so they would live their life the way they want so love marriage is much better than arranged marriage. Guys what you think.

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Aaradhya said: (Sun, Mar 29, 2015 10:19:39 PM)    
 
I'm Aaradhya. I think both the types of marriages are good. Its the matter of thinking. In arrange marriage we do not spend time with our partners thinking that he or she will not understand me. But in love marriage since we know our partner very well and hence spend more time with that person.

So if we would like to give equal preferences to arranged partner also as love partner, marriage will be smoothly going.

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Onion said: (Thu, Mar 26, 2015 05:33:42 PM)    
 
I see lots of comments that say arranged love is better than love marriage. Arranged marriage is between 2 families. Yes, but its not the family who supposed to get married or love each other. Its between the girl and the boy! Not the whole family. And love marriage is way much better than arranged. Just sharing my opinion.

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Sunil Nair said: (Wed, Mar 25, 2015 11:45:21 PM)    
 
Of course arranged marriage. Because they started loving after marriage. If love marriage they already loved before marriage and they can't love after marriage (they will love, but for a time being because the mentality of boy and girl are same).

They may be thinking that I know very well about him/her he/she was dating with him before me. Might be he/she is still having affair with him/her. May be they are perfect but in some occasion that doubt will always be in their bottom of their heart. That will become as cancer.

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Mizan said: (Wed, Mar 25, 2015 09:38:59 PM)    
 
Hi friend. I am Mizan.

In my point of view arranged marriages is better then love marriage because I seen many couple do love marriage but there not happy. So love is just attraction today truly love in world. So I like arrange marriage is better then better love marriage your parents support. So good love marriage.

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Ateeb said: (Wed, Mar 25, 2015 09:20:30 PM)    
 
First of all, marriage is a big deal. You spend 30+ years with your partner. Marriage requires understanding, trust, loyalty and love to run long. Starting with arranged marriage:- Now, your parents decide your life partner. If you are lucky you get a chance to meet up and assess the person, if not it can't be helped. Now parents consider wealth, education, family background, character of the guy/girl.

Now you expect the guy/girl to have same level of understanding, trust, loyalty as you have. If your expectations turn out to be reality. Viola, you had a great deal. But if your expectations does not meet up, you choose to compromise and sooner or later your frustration would lead to a bad marital life. And if the person is of just opposite thoughts your life turns out to be hell.

Talking about love marriage:- Your love must be true not an attraction. You have a better understanding, naturally since you are taking your relationship to marriage. What actually happens after marriage, you get changed and its natural since earlier you were trying to get him/her married to you and now you are done, so your attention to your partners feeling changes a bit. But your partner fell in love with old you not the new one. So you should try to remain the way you earlier were. If not clashes are bound to happen.

Since you have same mental levels, so you can tackle this problem easily. But if not, you both with mutual agreement seek for divorce, that's why divorce rate is much higher in love marriages than arranged marriages. You can get away here as it was your choice to marry the person but you will have to live a life of suffocation in arrange marriages to keep your parents happy. Basically the root cause of this only problem in love marriage is that you change your ways. Please try to remain same.

Conclusion:- Love marriage is better. Arranged marriage comes with an "uncertainty" but love marriage comes with a "surety".

I have not made any assumptions like your parents are against love marriage and you are making your parents sad. I have talked in a generalised way.

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Arka said: (Tue, Mar 24, 2015 11:05:10 PM)    
 
Hi all.

According to me, if we see globally Indian marriage system is very powerful in which most of marriages are arranged and in western countries most are love marriages which are not that much relayed. I have seen most of love marriages not ended that much happily not because of only lack of family support but also the misunderstandings between them.

Even some reports are saying that most of the divorcees are love marriages. In love marriages most of cases it is not love it is attraction because of that they are becoming failure. Arranged love marriages will be better.

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Poonam said: (Tue, Mar 24, 2015 10:45:21 PM)    
 
Hey its poonam.

In my point of view arrange marriage is best. Because it plays a vital role of two families. Its not a marriage between two people. Its about between two families with most of trust, loyalty baseline.

So that's my point of view.

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Saddam Hussain said: (Tue, Mar 24, 2015 02:04:40 PM)    
 
To the best of my knowledge that love marriage is better then arrange marriage because I have seen many person who has got arrange marriage but not success.

At the first time arrange marriage go to easy but after same time argue start to each other because couple having different think and think dose not mach to each other these due in the love marriage. Partner knows very well about each other.

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Mansi Parihar said: (Sat, Mar 21, 2015 10:29:43 PM)    
 
Hi,

As per my point of view love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in arrange marriage couple having different thinking and there is no mutual understanding and the few months may be years are spent to knowing each other and today's busy lives no one has much time to know each other.

But in love marriage there is a great understanding b/w the couple and a happy married life understanding is the great thing and it will workout you know very well each other and have already a plan for your bright future how you will compromise with each other but in arrange marriage you have much expectation and hope what you want.

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Prakash Sagar said: (Sat, Mar 21, 2015 10:22:26 AM)    
 
Love marriage is better than arranged ones, if the love is true and not a mere infatuation. There is mutual understanding between the partners so life is easy going. However in arrange marriages you relay on a hope that your partner is what you want. I saw many people have posted that we should go with our parents choice as they are more experienced.

I think its a piece of shit, how can parents tell who is better they neither know your lover nor the one they want you to marry. Moreover everybody has got one life and they should go for what they want. I think we Indian must broaden our views, parents disown their child in many cases if they go for love marriage, is this the love of parents, if some parents do that, they are just selfish.

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Ankit Srivastav said: (Thu, Mar 19, 2015 10:12:39 PM)    
 
Hi everyone. I am Ankit Srivastav. Went through all your views. I appreciate both the sides for their views.

What is think is love marriage is certainly a better option as here you know the person from well before. So there is a great understanding between the two. And endless love. But what about the parents. If your lover has equal respect for you and your parents. Then probably its the best thing. But if not then its very hard to go alone without family support in the long run.

The next thing which is quite commonly seen in today's time. Frequent break ups, patch ups, loosing of interest, unable to give time. Its fine within relationship but not after marriage. Because after marriage great responsibility comes on your shoulder. So you need from everyone friends, wife, parents, family. In love marriage its hard to keep everyone happy. But if you can keep its better than arrange marriage.

Next comes arrange marriage. Everyone will be happy. You'll get both sides of family support. Partner will respect you. There nothing about loosing interest. Life will be smooth going loving and knowing your partner. But what if the guy or the gal turns out to be other way round. Then the life will be worst than hell. So at last friends I would suggest.

If you want to do love marriage then. Judge your partner. In terms of love. Respect for you and your family. Understanding. And also convince your parents about the guy or the gal you have chosen is right. And have a happy successful love marriage.

But if you want arrange marriage. Then try to know about the person by talking, meeting and exchanging views which you think is necessary. And have a very wonderful and exciting arrange marriage.

Thanks.

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Surya Bannu said: (Thu, Mar 19, 2015 03:33:49 PM)    
 
Hai I'm Surya.

Love marriage vs arranged marriages fine this topic can run good debate.

But, in my point of view love marriage is a little better than arranged marriages. As in love marriages we have choice to select your life partner who is having the character we like, the care want. But whereas in arranged marriages we didn't know our partners character likes, dislikes etc. Which reasons in future make certain problems and fighting in future.

The only one main thing that separates these two is understanding. In love marriages it is plenty. Whereas in arranged it can be seen very sparsely and that life's are seen as happily. But inner voice of theirs comes with some bitterness. But one main thing is all love stories are not happy as due to lack of parents support.

Finally this is not a question it is a thing of both sides of a coin. Which one is great means we can't say!:-)

Thank you. Yours lovingly>>Surya.

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Hema said: (Wed, Mar 18, 2015 07:51:58 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

Love is a precious feeling that is caused without any conditions. For marriage the most needed is understanding. In love marriages we first understand each other and then commit to marriage. But in arranged we first get married then there may be or may not be understanding between the two. Most people commit to arranged marriages because of their parents happiness.

If before marriage love didn't happen then there is a 99% probability that both will be happy. But if love happens before marriage and parents will not accept it then their life would be hell after marriage, neither can't be happy with the married person nor can't forget the loved one. In my opinion it is not correct to fight against parents for a lover.

Parents always do only what is good for us. Everyone will know before whether their parents will accept love marriage or not. If they will accept then they will be the most luckiest persons. But if you know that your parents in no case accepts love marriage then it is better to control our feelings over the person at the beginning itself rather than when it reaches a peak stage. Even if we are not satisfied with our life it is important to keep our parents happy.

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Balaji said: (Wed, Mar 18, 2015 12:39:58 AM)    
 
Marriage is a sacred bond which not only involves the couple but also the two families of the bride and the bridegroom respectively. Be it arrange marriage or love marriage, marriage is nothing different for both.

Love marriage vs arrange marriage is just a question prevalent in minds of married couples who are not satisfied or are scared to live with an unknown partner for whole life.

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Mir Sarang said: (Wed, Mar 18, 2015 12:39:28 AM)    
 
Hi,

I support Love Marriage because Love bring a lot of happiness in life and every person will fall in love once in life, In Love you already knows the character of your partner as well as His/Her Habits, Nature, Likes, Dislikes, Goodness, Bad thinks and better knows each and every thing about your prophesy, Love is the key of Happy Life.

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Nikhil Srivastav said: (Tue, Mar 17, 2015 10:10:55 PM)    
 
Hi I am Nikhil srivastav from kolkata, I would like to go with my parents obviously they are everything for me and trust them. They will do their best to find perfect soul mate for me. According to some survey I came to know that mostly separation happen in love marriage.

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Rekha said: (Tue, Mar 17, 2015 08:48:35 PM)    
 
Hi I am Rekha.

I think that arrange marriage is better because two family accept each other and if you go with love marriage family do not accept you and you two are alone there no one help you in your argument but if it is arrange all family make your mind that give him/her time.

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Mukti said: (Thu, Mar 12, 2015 11:27:31 PM)    
 
Well I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in love marriage you know the likes, dislikes, nature of your partner and I think the best part of love marriage is that you are going to spend your entire life with that person whose love is never going to end for you and your love is never going to end for him.

Well this is my opinion about love marriage however I haven't find my partner but hope so I will find him soon because love definitely happens once in a life time so don't forget to fall in love.

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Ashish said: (Thu, Mar 12, 2015 07:12:38 PM)    
 
Hello friends,

Love marriage is very popular these days. Our ancestor still don't like love marriages but youth believe love marriage is much better than arranged marriage because before getting married couple knows each other very well. They have a good understanding that's why they decide to get married.

Understanding is very important in any relation to keep the train on track. As we know these days everybody is short tempered and no body tolerates its better to marry with whom we knows very well and we understand very well.

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Teju said: (Sun, Mar 8, 2015 03:40:28 PM)    
 
What our Indian culture says to do a arrange marriage. Which is decided by elder peoples in our family. Who have more experience than us. So I think arrange marriage is best. A marriage having family support from the both side of boy as well as girl.

And what is the love even small children saws in TV and says I love you to him/her which is not love. They think we fall in love so decided to do marriage and within few moths they realize that this is not love. So I think arrange marriage is best.

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Shraddha said: (Sat, Mar 7, 2015 06:40:56 PM)    
 
Hi guys this is Shraddha. According to me both the marriages are best if our life partners are trust-able, lovable and caring. Still if I would get chance to choose between my love and my parents choice I will definitely choose my love.

Its not that I am opposing my parents its just that when I truly and someone truly loves me then its fairly better to choose him. If you both really have good understanding love care between both of you then their is no problem in choosing your love. So I support love marriage.

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Priyaah said: (Sat, Mar 7, 2015 01:05:50 PM)    
 
Hi am Priyaah,

I Would Like to say my feel about Love & Arrange marriage.

Love marriage is really better when they loves starts & ends with true hearts.

Arrange Marriage starts with respect & chance to get neither love nor affection.

So love comes arrange marriage is really good because love & respect starts from "True Hearts".

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