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|Sonu said: (Jul 29, 2016)|
|Hi. In my point of view arrange marriages are more successful because in Arrange marriage we are happily blessed from our parents and relatives. And I think without blessings there is not anything that will success in our life. So parents blessings are most important as they are our god. So whether its love or arrange doesn't matter. Just the point is parents should not hurt by their children. If we will hurt our parent's god is also there to tell us what is right or wrong.|
|Azad said: (Jul 28, 2016)|
|Hello, all my dear friends.
I am here to share my view on both of marriages. According to me both are best and not good because both marriages have own merits and demerits. So in love marriage we know better that person with whom we spend our time. And some people canspeak easily love marriage is not good it is against with our culture, traditional and whatever. But who's fall in truth love. We called to them they are blind they cannot see their future it's happen only intercast or not equal in wealth with other. If Love marriage fail then there is only one reason and reason is misunderstanding and we cannot think for some time to take decision then we immediately take wrong decision and after some time we remorse. And comes to arrange marriage we can happly do it we increase our parents repect in our home, society, city, state, and whole world.
I think both marriages are good if there is an understanding among the couple.
|Kunal Das said: (Jul 27, 2016)|
|In my point of view, arrange marriage is better than love marriage because our parents know who is the best partner and good one.|
|Juhi said: (Jul 26, 2016)|
|Some people are telling that,
In arranged marriages, the parents see the payslip, height, family background, and their house. They never try to find out that about their likes and dislikes, their hobbies. But these are the things that matter most.
Like/dislike, hobbies are not going to help you in your life, bitter truth is Money is everything. Without money, you can not survive a day. Love (attraction) is not going to make your money. So parents check the payslip, family background. Because this is India and you have to adjust with boys family.
Like/dislike can be changed but if you do not have money you are ZERO. Hence LOVE marriage is the biggest failure in the world, because LOVE is 20% part of your married life, For everything you need money. Love cannot buy even simple food.
So I believe in arrange marriage (Culture of my INDIA).
|Shilpi said: (Jul 26, 2016)|
|Don't make India like western countries. Because of this western culture, divorce cases are increasing in India.
Sex and attraction before marriage are not LOVE.
There is nothing like love marriage.
Marriage is agreement (Arrangement), commitment between two people. So both should be committed toward each other, only then marriage can be successful.
Love happens when you respect each others feeling, ignore small issues.
You know who is behind the failure of marriage in India, western culture (sex, lust).
I request everyone do not support concept of LOVE marriage in India.
Most of the people do not know that in USA, Europe 99% marriages are love marriage, and 80 % end up in divorce in 5-10 year. This is bitter truth of LOVE marriages.
|Pooja said: (Jul 26, 2016)|
|I don't know why people are saying love marriage is better than arranged marriage, because you know the person from 2-3 year, Are you sure that that person is not pretending in front of you?
This happens in love marriage, person will show his original face after marriage, hence divorce cases are very high in LOVE marriage, 80% failure in India.
On Other hands, if marriage is done in relation circle within the good family is more successful, known as ARRANGE marriage (90% success).
Bitter truth is that Money is everything, you can not survive on LOVE, hence girls parents will ask about your earning and they check the family background.
You met some guy/girl in your college and to attract him/her you will not show your original character because 90% of cases people concentrate of physical look, not on his character. Even you can not know his actual face because he will fake himself/herself to impress you.
Hence divorce case is very high in LOVE marriage.
|Sweta said: (Jul 26, 2016)|
|It should be love come arranged marriage as in your parents must be a part of it. Once you decide your life partner, you should ask for your parent's opinion and instead of just trying to convince them, should listen to their arguments also. And, if they have some valid points apart from caste and financial status, then you must agree with them because,
- They have more experience.
- They are your parents. You owe them.
|Megha said: (Jul 26, 2016)|
|I think Love marriage is better than arranged marriage because:
1. It promotes gender equality. As the girl also has the same right to choose her partner unlike arranged marriages, where girls are not generally very much involved.
2. There are more chances of asking Dowry in arrange marriage. If not dowry they called it gift, which is we can say is 0 in case of love marriage.
3. Love marriage is generally intercaste. So the individual qualities of a person like their personality, education, sense of humor get more preference than cast and religion.
4. While doing the shopping for their marriage, people do so much inquiry as in they visit at least six or seven shops. And when it comes to choosing your life partner, then how can you decide by just meeting them once, that you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
5. In arranged marriages, the parents see the payslip, height, family background, and their house. They never try to find out that about their likes and dislikes, their hobbies. But these are the things that matter most.
6. I think the most important thing in marriage is love and trust. They take some time to develop. It's not like that today you meet that person, tomorrow you get married and you just hand over your trust to him or her. It isn't possible because trust is earned.
In love marriage, the marriage is the last step, first, you get to know that person, gain their trust and love. So, chances of failure are less. But in the case of arranged marriage, first, you marry and then will try to gain their trust. So, chances of failure are more. What if after marriage, you find out that your partner has no interest in books and you are an avid reader. Or he likes loud music and you just enjoy the peace. What if your interests are totally different. Then, there is nothing left to talk about you two and all you have are just complaints. And you just try to change them or to yourself. And both of these things are not good. Because that would be a compromise and you won't be yourself. So, you can't be happy. And you'll just blame your parents for choosing the person for you.
7. Better Co-ordination: It is discovered out that the couple having love marriages enjoy better understanding as they are familiar with each other. They value each other and have awareness with each other's habits. They try to compensate with each other's routine and have a clear idea about their partner's nature.
|Bunty Rathod said: (Jul 26, 2016)|
|Friends looking into current issues in India about love or arrange marriages only one thing responsible for divorces is that misunderstanding for the person.
In love cases don't be afraid just look back what promises you have done might be if you love someone more than your life then one small misunderstanding can't lead divorced.
Person hopefully desires to keep promises you have done in past and before love marriage only you and your love together and you happy I think before promises tell the whole truth. Love the person by heart not only physical attraction most cases divorce find they don't having by Heart love only they have physical attraction and before marriage without any permission like marriage, they did sex. For sex promises done to a married person after such cases divorced happy ends because that's not true love.
True love is the heart not physical.
If you love person really then why you require sex before marriage. Take permission from parents to marry and tell them about our love she/he is unique to make me happy.
Love cases moreover people don't take permission from people and they marry after that parents will dissatisfy with expectations.
One thing that naturally grow in love cases is the expectation. You love more automatically your expectation will high from the person in love cases. So don't expect love the person as it is we know the person.
Arrange cases it very difficult to find persons require our expectation our mindset different before arrange marriage might be she/he love someone thinking from both side one thing we miss is that trust. Trust the person you married. Be honest with the person.
Be honest. Be unique. Handle small misunderstanding n forget such misunderstanding will give you tension. After that, you know it's only yours thanks.
|Chinni Sudheer Kumar said: (Jul 25, 2016)|
|We cannot say which one is best.
Some people are facing problems and some people are happy in both type of marriages.
The happiness or sad is based on the mutual understanding between couple.
But, not on the type of marriage.
These both are just ways to get married.
|Pooja said: (Jul 23, 2016)|
|Most of the people are saying that LOVE marriage is good because you know some person from 1-2 years.
Are you 100% confirm person is not taking himself/herself in front of you? This happens in LOVE marriage because people want to impress you.
And 80 % love marriage are a failure in India, I have seen people around me 5-6 marriage out of 10 ending up in divorce in a 3-5 year.
|Alok Tripathi said: (Jul 22, 2016)|
|Everyone thinking is different. Everyone will favor one another but in the end, the question is whether or not you are happy and can you make the person with you happy that is the major concern. I love my country and respect its tradition but I like if people were allowed to choose whom they will marry because parents may be experienced but in the end, it's your life, you have to live it nor your dad or your mom. Any marriage form requires a level of involvement, commitment, and loyalty towards each other. Even our lord shiva and Parvati had a love marriage. So, in the end, I will say it's your life you have to decide what you want or not you have grown up so stop looking towards your parent to take every decision for you. That's ironical people want to spread the love but not by promoting love marriages.
Thank you for your time.
|Steffi said: (Jul 22, 2016)|
|I think both are equally valuable but should satisfy these things Two people should be bounded with Love Respect and care.
Sacrifices, adjustment, sad and happiness, trust n honest. Your own Mind is always better than others.
|Rishabh Chauhan said: (Jul 22, 2016)|
|My point of view, arrange is good because we get the respect in the eyes of our partner. And she respects our family members too. This marriage both trust to each other.|
|Smruti said: (Jul 21, 2016)|
As my point of view, love marriage is better from arrange marriage because in love marriage there is nothing any caste discrimination, dowry problems, any feelings about rich or poor. Fair or unfair etc. There is only trust, care, like handle, belief, mutual understanding etc. Which are generally absent in arranged marriage. It happens really you just think about it how could it possible within a short period of time like 2 months or maximum 6 months. It impossible to know about an unknown person. Then misunderstanding, divorce, disturbances in married life so many problems will arise. That's why love marriage should be 1st choice for both the girls and boys.
|Aalfa said: (Jul 20, 2016)|
|Whether it is love marriage or arranged, the success of life depends on upon our attitude, adjustment, etc. Love and care is the best way for success.|
|Praveenkumar said: (Jul 20, 2016)|
In my point of view love, marriage is best as that of arranged marriage because we do know about that new person or girl and what their character and attitude. Suppose after marriage whether they drink or smoke what we'll do. But in love marriage, we know everything about our partner and their character. We can understand each other. So I think love marriage is best to understand everything in your life.
|Neha said: (Jul 18, 2016)|
|Don't make India like western countries. Because of this western culture, divorce cases are increasing in India.
There is nothing like love or arrange marriage.
Marriage is agreement, commitment between two people. So both should be committed toward each other, only then marriage can be successful.
Sex and attraction before marriage are not LOVE.
Love happens when you respect each others feeling, ignore small issues.
|Meenal Jadhav said: (Jul 16, 2016)|
|In either of the marriages, trust and respect from within for your partner is what matters. Also, life is never the same at all times; so one need to stay together even in hard times. Irrespective of parent's support mutual understanding is what leads to a happy married love.|
|Rupa Soni said: (Jul 16, 2016)|
|Hello, dear friends.
I think arrange marriage is the best because in arranged marriage my mom dad will proud of me and my life will become for marvelous therefore I can't decide to which type of my life partner such as thinking living personality simplicity etc. But my parents automatically can decide it moreover they are already full experience about different types of person and after arranged marriage very happiness become our life.
|Archana said: (Jul 14, 2016)|
|Hello, friends, myself Archana.
In my point of view either arranged marriage or love marriage is not matter. It depends on understandings.
Understanding is very important to our relationships. In love marriages take divorce and arrange marriages also take divorce because they are not understanding to each other. In love marriages, if our parents accept our love it's better otherwise it's not good. If after marriage we will face any problem then our parents support us. In arranged marriages dowry is the major problem if it is scrap by our Govt then arrange marriage is also better. So marriage depends on our trust on each other.
|Mala Kannan said: (Jul 14, 2016)|
|Hi, friends I think love marriage is good. It broke the caste system.|
|Pradeep said: (Jul 13, 2016)|
|Love is something which one cannot live without it. So we should marry whom we love as we know everything about him. There will be better understanding and they can do a good future planning.|
|Sayali said: (Jul 12, 2016)|
|It depends on your partner. Both the marriages are their own status. If your partner is good then you will become happy in your life. If both the families agree with your relationship then it's good for your life.
Understanding and caring are important in the relationship.
|Kumar Shubham said: (Jul 11, 2016)|
|Arranged marriage is more better than love marriage because our parents well know about that girl and her family and our parents take care our life. Parents have experience about marriage and they know situation after marriage. And we also try to love that girl nowadays every boy talk with his future wife and understanding her.|
|Bhavana said: (Jul 10, 2016)|
In my point of view, both arrange marriages and love marriages are good. Mutual understanding is the main important in a couple. If the understanding is good so that they can live happy either in arrange or in love marriages.
|Vignesh Thamilalagan said: (Jul 10, 2016)|
|In marriage there is should be mutual understanding between both the couple. If there is no understanding, It will spoil your life entirely. First I want to tell all of you that you are going to live your life, not your mom, dad, bro, sis. Since you both are going to start a life so the main important thing is your acceptance and understanding. Some people say here that in arranged I have my family and relatives' full support. Ok now I come to my point you have full support but if you are not happy with that marriage, why did you get married. Marriage is to live happily.
Then In arranged marriage you are going to understand a girl/boy within 2 to 3 months before marriage or less than that time, is it possible to understand them completely. Definitely not. Then how would you know, whether she is adjustable with you, whether she pacifies you? when are you angry? whether she really cares you? etc etc. But in love marriage, if you properly select a girl who suits you, understands you, adjust you, then your life will be happier than ever. But in some of love marriage why the couple got separated is only because they did not understand each other and they actually did not what is love and what is life.
If you can correctly understand the love and life, definitely the love marriage is going to make your life happy always. Today many parents accept love marriages, so get a good job and find your exact partner and love her and marry her. Arranged marriage is arranged by your parents without knowing if she suits you or not. But love marriage is arranged by you and accepted by your parents if she perfectly suits you and It will make your life meaningful.
|Priyanka said: (Jul 9, 2016)|
|So many people here advocating arrange marriage saying that our parents are the best to decide our partner. I just want to say that marriage is an important responsibility too and if you are not in a state to decide about your partner by yourself, then please do nor marry. How would then you take care of running a home, caring for a baby?
No doubt love marriage is the best form of marriage. Even talking about giving respect to spouse's parents- in love marriage, people treat each other's parents with respect. I see how partially girl's parents are treated in arrange marriage.
|Rohit said: (Jul 8, 2016)|
|I think arrange is best because our parent better know us rather than others.|
|Prashant Singh said: (Jul 6, 2016)|
|Hi, I would go with the love marriage. Below are the few points which I would highlight in favor of love marriage.
1. There are many advantages in love marriage like the couples know each other well in advance, they are familiar with their likes and dislikes which help them in adjusting to each other in the long run.
2. People do not do love, it happens automatically. Love does not see caste, religion or race which helps them in learning one another's culture or religion.
3. There are more chances of asking Dowry in arrange marriage. If not dowry they called it gift, which is we can say is 0 in case of love marriage. In rural areas (also some part of urban) an unborn daughter is killed because of the fear of dowry in future.
4. It is always better to blame oneself rather than blaming one's parents in case of failure of marriage, which serve the purpose of love marriage.
5. Another advantage is already given above by the people like Trust, compatibility, etc.
|Sanjana said: (Jul 6, 2016)|
|The main fact is, either it may be a love or arranged, real love makes the pair successfully.
A humble request to all friends. Please don't imagine an attraction as love.
Real love is trusting your partner, giving respect to them, being honest.
And don't get cheated by others.
|Shubham said: (Jul 5, 2016)|
|Love marriage is the best way to understand to someone who loves you and who take care of you. Love marriage is the best.|
|Niveditha said: (Jul 5, 2016)|
|Hai friends. Myself Niveditha. In my point of view, it's not a matter of marriage. Whether it is a love marriage or arranged. In both marriages, real love is the key to getting a successful life.
In this modern generation, mostly youth are attracting towards love marriages. But it's an attraction. How can a person confirm that his partner is good with one look (first site of love)?
Real love is trusting his partner, respecting them, honest.
MY REQUEST: please don't change the meaning of love & marriage.
|Chanchal Nagar said: (Jul 5, 2016)|
|In my opinion, arrange marriages are the best because our parents are always support us.|
|Raja Man Singh said: (Jul 5, 2016)|
|I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in case of love marriage boys and girls know very well each other.|
|Snethi said: (Jul 4, 2016)|
|In my point of view, marriage which are done by our parents are the best! because they are the good decision makers in our lives.|
|Prasanna said: (Jul 4, 2016)|
In my point of view, arranged marriage is best. In arranged marriage, we have so many relations and we need relations. In this world 'I' is the worst word if we got love marriage we told only I. In arranged marriage we have parents support if we have any problems they solve that problem. In love marriage before marriage both girl and boy understand each other In arranged marriage after marriage they understand each other this is the difference between love marriage and arranged marriage.
|Abhi Raj Pal said: (Jul 2, 2016)|
First of all the questions become what is marriage? Marriage is the understanding and misunderstanding of a couple! After that, I say that I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in love marriage the couple is well known by each other and this is the real mean of marriage when to they have a good understanding. There is no tension of divorce and the life is getting on simply. And by arranging marriage the life of couple are going in burden because they don't know about each other so that the misunderstanding bears from here and they always saw suspiciously each other. And I think the parents have also no problem with us by love marriage. But When? When our life partner is thinking about them then parents have no problem with love marriage and by this, our whole life depends on our partner. And there is no problem of Dowry. Dowry is also the main cause of Our country's development.
|Haritha said: (Jul 2, 2016)|
|HI, Guys in my opinion arranged marriages are better than loved marriages what is the reason behind my opinion is our parents are our well-wishers. They always think about our future. They want to increase good social relationship with bridegroom parents. If the couple faces any problem in their life the parents and their relatives always with them and gives solution to their problem. Parents gave birth to you. So give the chance to parents about your life partner. Nowadays youth can't control their attractions. They easily fell in love and can't understand properly about their life partner. First, they were anxiety about their marriage next they can't survive with her. But some are well educated and they fell in love. It's better to do like that especially for girls if they face any problem they can stand their own.|
|Hansraj said: (Jul 1, 2016)|
|Arranged marriages better the love marriages because after some time money problem in love marriage.|
|Jaaanu said: (Jun 30, 2016)|
Love and arranged marriages are both of occurring in between the one female and one male person. So according to this status any marriage these having the understanding each another. If you can going as arranged marriage side in this all of the family members support will be with you mostly. If you go like as love marriage in this some support you Will lost. So both of marriages are also best but you will think once again before the marriage before the marriage.
Thank you for read this.
|Kapil said: (Jun 30, 2016)|
|Hi, guys according to me marriage is that in which we love our partner our partner is honest and there will be good understanding and caring of each other. And the main point is that our parents should support us because without parents we never are happy. And doesn't matters its love or arrange its depend on our destiny that our marriage will success or not.|
|Manjunath said: (Jun 30, 2016)|
|I prefer Arranged marriage because in love marriage if both are of two different castes, if they give a birth to a female child, then that child must marry a husband of which caste?|
|Abhi said: (Jun 29, 2016)|
|I can't comment on it because according to me loyalty, trust, and caring nature must be there among two peoples. If these factors are not there then neither arrange marriage nor love marriage can be successful. But if both can trust each other and loyal then it doesn't matter that they had arranged marriage or love marriage.|
|Priya said: (Jun 29, 2016)|
|Arranged Marriage is Best.
Because, two families involved in arranged marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other.
- Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.
- Couple is guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.
|Dr.Harshpreet Kaur said: (Jun 28, 2016)|
|Arrange marriage are better since our parents know what is best for us and we should not hurt their feelings. Parents carefully chose a life partner on the basis of family background and status. In arrange marriage love grows slowly and slowly they understand the companion which leads to better understanding between two.|
|Vinod said: (Jun 27, 2016)|
|I would like to support both arranged marriage and love marriage if they have a good commitment, mutual understanding, empathy, patience they can live together the life always become happy.|
|Amit Sharma said: (Jun 26, 2016)|
|Hey, everyone. I am Amit, from Gujarat. I have love marriage Two and the half year is spent. Now we do not respect each other. I'm just 24 years old. We did it very early at the age of 21. But after the caste issues, my wife is neglecting me though I was backward in the cast and she is high caste. Love marriage is just myth please do not try guys. Follow your parents and their advice. Although my parents have the love marriage but it is different. I totally not in the fever of love marriage.|
|Poonam Tyagi said: (Jun 26, 2016)|
|According to me, love marriage is best because people will get happy after do love marriage, therefore, we know very well to each other and love marriage gives to trust and honesty, dedication because everything knows to each other but in a love marriage people elope but it doest good their life because sometimes parents do not accept their child that do want because parents want only respect in a society. That's true but parents should understand their child happiness. And because parents easily accept child proposal so after child will elope.|
|Priya said: (Jun 25, 2016)|
|LOVE MARRIAGE ->90% of the time it is the just attraction and end up in divorce in 5-10 years.
ARRANGE MARRIAGE -> Arrange marriage is Indian culture. Failure in arrange marriage (10 %-20%) is there due to dowry or if one of them is not fully committed to this relationship, because of relationship with other guy/girl before marriage. If boy/girl belongs to good family chances of arrange.
Marriage failure is very less.
For Successful you require commitment, trust, honesty and good family.
Love marriage this thing is very less compare to arrange marriage.
|Naresh Mishra said: (Jun 24, 2016)|
|Hello, dear readers.
I am Naresh and I think to arrange marriage is better than love marriage according as our parents are involved in arrange marriage and they investigate all the things about boy and girls and analyse their family background nature behavior and habits of boys or girls and decide whether a boy can afford his responsibility after marriage or not. Contrary to this in love marriage these things are not found so I think to arrange marriage is the best.
|Elakiya said: (Jun 24, 2016)|
I am Elakiya, actually, my point of view is arrange marriage is better than the love marriage. Because arrange marriage is two family share life.
|Chaitra Havanur said: (Jun 22, 2016)|
|Of course arranged marriage is better than love marriage because in case of love marriage only you are looking toward your career & your life by looking toward the beauty of girl or the boy its just attraction by looking towards any person its not a love actually real love is carrying & protecting your heart from every problem but this if you are arranged marriage there will be respect from the society.|
|Neha said: (Jun 20, 2016)|
|Most of the people in this discussion are saying love marriage is better because you already know each other. I will tell you one thing most of the time around 70% - 80% cases, people will pretend in front of you (faking themselves). You will see their actual face after love marriage. SO 60% - 70% end up in divorce in 5 - 10 year. If you are extremely lucky your love marriage may be successful.
But in arrange marriage this possibility is very less (approx 20%) , If you know the family of boy/girl very well. In Arrange marriage also divorce is there but it is very less around 10%, that is because of dowry problem and illegal physical relationship with others after marriage.
So request to all doesn't make India like western countries. Do not support Love marriages.
LOVE MARRIAGE : 80% failure in India.
Attraction is not LOVE. It's temporary once it is over it will end up in divorce in max cases.
ARRANGED MARRIAGE: 10 - 20% failure in India (we can overcome this by 10% by removing dowry system).
The rule for the successful marriage: trust, honesty, respect (usually these things are not present in LOVE marriage).
Because in love marriage (90% cases) people concentrate on physical appearance than people Nature or attitude.
|Uday Kumar said: (Jun 20, 2016)|
|Hai, I am Uday from MPK I have to vote for love marriages because love marriage life is very happy because both are understanding very well and clearly talking about any matter once you do love marriage without blesses of our parents they are very angry with you and your life partner but after some days the matter is closed and which is not liking by your parents but after that they also feel happy whether your wife is looking after very well them. The second want is your life is moulded how to you want. My suggestion to all my dear love marriage couples please doesn't neglect our gods (parents) after you get married on your own choice (Love Marriage).|
|Rohan Kale said: (Jun 20, 2016)|
|Firstly I can say love marriage is good if both families agreed upon. But I really hate those people who used to run away from home. In the movie, it always seems too good to watch them. But in the movie, they only used to concentrate on the couple who ran away from home. But they never used to give the whole description of what is their family is suffering from. People who ran away from home are just selfish people and they just care about them only but they really don't consider their families. Families must keep first in mind. They only see themselves over two families. They destroy the life of families. Family always made the good decision for their children. They used to give them a good education but this bastard doesn't care about what their family has done for them. What situation are families are going from? It always bad from them. They always want to connect their relative. But this person ran away from family make them disgust and keep their mind away from the relative. They loose their connection from the relative. They loose people nearby because of the just selfishness of two people. Yes, selfishness of two people. A lot of people can not be selfish over these two people.|
|Priyanka said: (Jun 20, 2016)|
|Most of the people in this discussion are saying love marriage is better than arrange because you know the person from 1-2 year or maybe more. Do you confirm that the person is real and not pretending in front of you (facing himself/herself)? This usually happens in case of Love relationship.
Actual thing will come in front of you after marriage. Hence, divorce is increasing in love marriages.
And due to relation (people called love) before marriage, arrange marriage are also getting affected. Hence, the divorce case is increasing in arrange marriage also.
Conclusion : I prefer Arrange marriage over love marriage but marriage should not be outside.
One's relative circle, otherwise you can not check the background of boy and girl.
The mentality of Modern Generation: I am in the relationship with boy/girl from last 2 years and this is more important for me (It's my life) than your parents with whom you are staying from last 25 years.
Arrange Marriage divorce case are increasing: Because of physical relation with 1-2 people before marriage, modern Indian generation called love. So please don't destroy the life of another person with arrange marriage if you have relation before marriage.
So the failure of arrange marriage (70% (relationship before marriage with other guy/girl) + 30% Due to dowry) , we can do something to remove dowry, But very difficult to change the mind of the bunch of idiots (modern generation).
If this keep happening you can after 10 years there will be 40%-50 % divorce cases in India like US, Europe, UK.
|Tanmay Ojha said: (Jun 18, 2016)|
For this topic, my opinion is that arranged marriage is comparatively better than love marriage. I am just talking about the love marriage is being done in this modern technical era that couples used to meet in any occasion or on social websites (like facebook) and starts talking about each others like and dislikes and after a while they understand that we are committed to each other and finally come to marriage and used do same. In this whole process, they don't have exercised to meet one another's parents or family so that they will be happy if they know that we are happy for marrying to each other because ultimately they have to live with their family after marriage.
And in arranged marriage first of all individuals, families meet each other and then decided that this will be batter for us not and then after individual used to meet and finally both decides that we should make relation with them or not. In arrange marriage person and their family have no any problem regarding marriage because they have met before and came to an agreement that the family going to merge in my family is not only matched to us they are also happy to make relation with us. In this case families of both individuals will be happy for a long time than the case of love marriage. So I prefer arranged marriage instead of love marriage.
|Shweta Sankhla said: (Jun 18, 2016)|
|Understanding is very important in every successful marriage. So no matter marriage is love or arrange because if you have understanding, trust and care for your partner you will set an example of successful marriage. But in today boy and the girl thought attraction is love and they will get marry without their parent's permissions. And this is the reason of increasing no.of divorces and even fact shows 90% of love marriages is not successful because they live in dream life they don't live in real life.|
|Meenakshi said: (Jun 17, 2016)|
|Marriage is some kind of social setup which promotes an individual to fulfill their lively hood.
In my point of view, I don't think that (love marriage is best) -or- (arranged marriage is best). Both the married life will lead to happy, only with the mutual understanding.
BUT, the love imposed from our parents is much more precious than the love imposed from the other persons. So, parents should be given the first priority in both the LOVE and ARRANGED marriages.
|Priyanka Singh said: (Jun 16, 2016)|
I had love marriage and we are a loving couple even after 9yrs of marriage. I have so many friends of mine and my husband who had arranged marriages - some of the girls living pathetic lives n always cribbing about in-laws, husband. Some of them are even separated and there seems none with the same compatibility as we have. As a child too I could not understand how someone can take such a big gamble as arranged marriage.
Everyone here is talking about love marriage as something where people marry against their parents, running away from home. Like filmy love marriages. I do not support teenager falling in love n making marriage decisions. However, one should be independent before making any decision about marriage. Teenage infatuation is not love. It's when two people understand each other and develop trust and compatibility with each other. Marriage is a decision which should only take place when people are independent. I see no reason why parents should oppose such a marriage though our society is so narrow-minded (blinded by caste, religion) that love marriages are less acceptable in India. There is no comparison of love n arrange marriage. Love marriage is the best thing that can happen to a couple.
People talking about arrange marriage being ties of two families also know very well that no two families can develop a compatibility. Two families cannot save a marriage if couples do not have trust and love.
Regarding fewer divorces in arrange marriages, I do not have any statistics though I feel divorce should not be the only criteria. Are the ppl who are living with each other happy? Mostly arrange marriage occurs in families who value society n what ppl would say more than their own happiness and they keep leading miserable life too instead of getting divorces simply because they do not have the courage to get rid of what society expects from them. Ultimately decision is yours, if you are independent and have confidence that you can make a good decision, go ahead with the person you trust and love. If you fear that who would help me if my husband and in-laws are not compatible. Go ahead with arrange marriage pretending that people would actually help you in anything. The only one who can help you is your husband/wife and no in-laws, society and even I have seen parents to not help kids get rid of their miserable marriages just to keep their reputation - so choose wisely. Choose your partner wisely. Love is not blind. Love is strong.
|Abi said: (Jun 15, 2016)|
I think arrange marriage is better than love marriage. Because our family is very very important in our life. Our parents are the best decision makers in our life. So I think arrange marriage is the best.
|Mounika Rayaprolu said: (Jun 15, 2016)|
|Hello, everyone. I feel glad to discuss on this topic. Because I feel this is one of the important aspects that everyone should get awareness. Hope the discussion gives a fruitful result. Love binds two hearts. While marriage binds two families. For every healthy relation, there should be trust and understanding. In a relation like marriage, this is one of the crucial aspects. But nowadays we have to feel pity that this trust and understanding between couples are vanishing. So that is the main reason why conflicts are arising. Both love marriages and arranged marriages are a part of this. Neither of it is exceptional. The person trust, love, understanding is important for healthy and happy relation whether it is in love marriage or arranged marriage. At last, there is a great saying that "marriages are made in heaven". But we are responsible for making our relation either heaven or hell.|
|Akaya said: (Jun 15, 2016)|
|Either love marriage or arranged marriage you should know the person with whom you are going to spent rest of your life. From childhood, we would have told that not to take things from the stranger so why we would have to live with strangers. I am not against the arranged marriage but in arranged marriage couples didn't get much time to know each other so the mutual understanding between them is not as good as those couples who already in a relationship. At some level love, marriage is always better than arranged marriage.|
|Priyanka J Nair said: (Jun 13, 2016)|
While I don't see fault in any kind of marriage, I am more in favor of arranged marriage only because I feel marrying someone is giving them the trust of always being there for them no matter what. In a society with advanced technology, we no longer have the need to adjust, we can get anything we want, anywhere at any cost, thus making it difficult for us to adapt or change our lifestyle. Arranged marriage is a proposal based on two families who are identical in their social and financial standards, religious beliefs and general decision makings. Thus, it is easier for the couple to adapt because they both hail from the same environment, making it easier for them to understand each other better.
However, it is wrong to judge people by the choices they make or based on the statistical report. While everyone talks about the marriages that don't work, nobody bothers to mention about the marriages that do work and are an ideal example.
|Nikil said: (Jun 12, 2016)|
|Love marriage is the best compare to arrange marriage because in love marriage after understanding each other they can get married but in arrange marriage it's two people come into the relationship without knowing anything about each other and many misunderstandings will be there. So I prefer love marriage is the best.|
|Priya said: (Jun 11, 2016)|
|There is No such thing called Love, It is just an attraction between boy and girl (It's a natural addiction and treating it like an addiction can help you).
Marriage can only be successful when you trust your life partner, honest with your partner, respect your partner, care for your life partner. This is Real love (Very difficult to get such life partner).
So I believe in Arrange marriage with the proper background check of boy and girl because western culture has destroyed the actual meaning of marriage. Nowadays 30-40 % boys and girls in India has physical relation before marriage, they think this is love and we should get married. When their parents are not ready, they will marry to some guy according to their parents choice and they will destroy his/her life too.
I am totally against love marriage (Western culture) , because of this divorce cases are increasing day by day in India. In US and Europe, 99% marriages are Love marriage and 60% of people takes divorce after 5-10 year of marriage, because they come to know that physical relation is not the only thing in marriage. India is also following their path.
Nowadays if you ask any boy or girl they will say love marriage is best because we are the modern generation. First, Ask them do you know the meaning of love (Physical attraction is not to love).
But we need to remove dowry system from our society for successful arrange marriage.
|Raghu said: (Jun 11, 2016)|
|According to me love marriage better than arrange marriage but I think no problem understanding each other and love is the purpose of our life but arranged marriage make a bargain of one family to another family that proves that the dealing of life. We see come to maximum cases divorce. Who is behind it ? That is answer arrange marriage because unknown person.|
|Sani Chauhan said: (Jun 8, 2016)|
|I think love marriage is better because in the way we have any tension of dowry.|
|Sri said: (Jun 7, 2016)|
In my opinion, both arranged marriages and love marriages are more preferable, because both have their own respect in their own place.
In arranged marriages there is a main role for two families, such that better understanding and good commitment of the two families make the relationship of the two people very strong. Arranged marriages are made not only for connecting two people, they are for connecting two families in two one family.
In love marriages, there is the main role for two persons. Trust and love of the two persons make their relationship very strong. Love marriages make the life of two people very beautiful. If these love marriages are accepted by the parents they became love com arranged marriages, they are the best marriages forever.
|Saumya Agrawal said: (Jun 1, 2016)|
|According to me, both marriages are equally on own places but arrange marriage is better than love marriage because to love marriage, we can't find socially support and parents support. We need too many and lot of support teenager period so it's dangerous.
My point of view. Mainly focused on dowry system. Critically in arrange marriage but didn't found in love marriage.
|Adarsh Kumar said: (May 27, 2016)|
|Love marriage is better than arrange marriage I believe in love marriage because from the marriage girls when we move the new family, new home then there is must one person who knows. And also in love marriage, the person has enough time to understand each other.
As we in arrange marriage yet dowry system but love marriage only love and trust with go.
I think love marriage is better.
|Aruna Bisht said: (May 25, 2016)|
|Both marriages have some merits and demerits (faults) and it depends on both how they manage their relationship. For every relationship if there is anything that is trust, belief, and understanding.|
|Shubham said: (May 23, 2016)|
In India especially in rural areas people do not mingle with people with another caste. And hence, not many people look out for inter-caste marriages.
But for a united India, we need to break these barriers named caste and religion.
And therefore, I believe inter-caste marriages are a good way through.
And therefore I would prefer love marriages.
|K.V. Prasad said: (May 19, 2016)|
|In my opinion failure and success in the relationship has nothing to do with the Love or Arranged Marriages. But the Love marriages have an asset in changing the age-old headache of dowry system which is a big burden to the girl's parents Love marriage can put an end the discretion of caste creed religion and the business of wedding. The Bridegroom practically gets sold for a price and keeps demanding more ransom it almost looks like a big profitable business. In which the girl pays a big sum and gifts to go and do bondage in the bridegroom's house. And it is done in the presence of all the elderly people. Isn't it funny?|
|Pushparaj said: (May 18, 2016)|
|I agree with this above example's, But in my point of view both marriage's are good because nowadays we are not giving surety that love marriage is going well & arrange are going well, Every person has a right to take decisions but it is also better that first we take to our parent's and tell them about our current status so sure they will give you a better tips because nowadays all parents know what's going on in their children life, So come back to the point. In my view, today children are getting into relationship in the age 14-15 and they don't know anything about life so it's a parent's responsibility that they make a good atmosphere in home, But in many cases parents admonish their children that you have to marry with this girl only no it's wrong, Your children have life too so please don't interrupt in their life but give suggestion that they are going wrong or right.|
|Shifali said: (May 18, 2016)|
I believe love marriages are better than arrange marriage because from the perspective of girls when we move to a new family, new home, new life, new atmosphere then there must be one person who knows you, who could understand you, who could make you comfortable in his family. If we go with arrange marriage, then, nobody will be there who could understand you. Everything will be new for that girl which could create disputes among the family members, expectations of the girls as well as the family members.
|Gaurav Singh said: (May 13, 2016)|
|I think we should not favour any one because both marriages is best to depend on upon their understanding between each other of the couple.|
|Ijazshmed.And Saba. said: (May 10, 2016)|
|Both are good marriages. One thing is that there should be a good understanding in the couples there should be a respect trust believe. And there should be family support of the couples. Lack of these things causes failure.|
|Anshul said: (May 7, 2016)|
|I am most supportable to love marriage but not completely against arrange too. I think in love marriages the person has enough time to understand each other and starts a good Relation with him or she. And on other side in arrange marriage in which there is not enough time to understand each other.
Some people says in love marriages the children goes against to his/her parents, but in my opinion when we love someone and want to marry, then discuss to your parents.
About your partner, they will always support you in your decision.
On other hand in Arrange marriage as still dowry system is present in India some people are pressurized for money. Scenarios says that 95% arrange.
Marriages a follow dowry system, but in love marriages only love and trust is the base of relationship, there is no space for dowry related problems there.
So both are good in their own place. This is little bit hard to choose the best between both.
|Ashu said: (May 6, 2016)|
|As both the marriages have their own advantages but in my opinion arranged marriage is better because the parents know their child much better the child himself or herself. They know everything about our choice and our level of comfort and they search the partner of their child according to that only. Every parent chooses the world's best partner for their child. And from scenarios also it is proved that 90% of the arranged marriages are successful, which is very big scenario than love marriage. Love happens after marriage also with much better understanding and trust which can't be fake in your whole life. So it is really best and safe to marry a person which ones parents choose for their child.|
|Edirisinghe said: (May 6, 2016)|
Both marriages are good! but I think, arranged marriages are better than love marriages! because our parents decide that who's the best partner to us!so we can have a good lifestyle! on the other hand, love marriages also good,if they having continuously it!!! both marriages depend on couples behavior!!!
|Ganesh said: (May 5, 2016)|
|The difference of love marriage & arrangement noting is the difference how much trust depend on upon couple between more & more patient to know about us & make some time to know about your relation on a family & themselves.|
|Unknown said: (Apr 26, 2016)|
|Love marriage and arrange marriage both are better. It's all depends on the partners. In love marriage if the partners have best bonding and understanding then they are together along. In arrange marriage if partners have supportive family and parents then its always helpful for them. Arrange marriage, it's all about trust each other and it grows day by day.|
|Aditya Shrivastava said: (Apr 22, 2016)|
|Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages:
My point of love marriage and arranged marriage both are good depend on your own respect and values. But my side love marriage is better than arranged marriage. Actually, I feel every time love is memorable things because arranged marriage is the business of two family is not good things of our society. So I respect and support love marriage.
|Aditi said: (Apr 22, 2016)|
|Most of the peoples viewing that love marriage are better. Why? because we get to choose our partner ourselves so the relationship will bloom.
My question is, Did we choose our parents? Or our brothers or sisters? Or did we opt to be born in India? NO.
But we still love them all. By arranged marriage we don't mean those Hindi movies sort of marriages where the person is forced to marry the person of his/her parents choice. The person has a say in arranged marriages as well. Agreed it takes the time to understand a person but sometimes even a lifetime is not enough to understand a person. It depends on a bit on your luck. But at the end what matters the most is your adaptability and how you make the correct decision in that short span of time by judging the person.
|Jsonu said: (Apr 22, 2016)|
|Marriage is an agreement and commitment on between each other. Everyone must be given the respect to the marriage. Marriage is a beautiful thing in our life. But marriages are dividing two types that are love and arrange. Love marriage is very bright in someone's life and also arrange marriage. If you are loving someone if in case he get married to you after he changed. Then if you have confidence you have changed his behaviour with your love. Then you are good partner to your partner and that is the power of love.
Arrange marriage means love creates between each other after marriage that is also called love but difference between two marriages.
Marriage is a good thing forever because it gives the new relation to us.
Don't misuse this any problem and everything is solved with your patient and livingness. Because you are the creator of your marriage life.
|Shital Srivastava said: (Apr 19, 2016)|
Today's topic is love marriage vs arranged marriage.
According to me, they both have their own value in their own respect. Now a day love marriage is common in our society. In love marriage trust is the biggest thing. Couples make sure that they have trust in each other. They know each other they have to understand. In every couple'life, they have ups nd down. So I think love marriage is much better than arrange marriage.
|Unknown said: (Apr 16, 2016)|
Love marriages are beneficial because people are able to bond together. However nowadays marriage is all about money, some people even pretend to love another just so they can get their hands on gold. This is result causes countless grief and hurt to their partner. Arranged marriages are also beneficial because the partner is supported by family and your parents. If you personally dislike them you can say no but in my opinion arranged marriages are better as you can gain true trust and love from each other.
|Hariom said: (Apr 15, 2016)|
|In arrange marriage love is grown as you go along.
In love marriage it goes away as you go along.
|Hariom said: (Apr 15, 2016)|
|I think Arrange marriage is much better the love marriage. Because in love marriage people keep a lot of expectation from an own partner. Mostly they don't get what they want. Because in today scenario definition of love is changed. Now definition of love = money.
So in arrange marriage at least you will not keep much of expectation from your partner. So it will not hurt you,
And my personal opinion is that ARRANGE MARRIAGE IS MUCH BETTER THAN LOVE MARRIAGE IN EVERY WAY.
|Randeep Deb Sharma said: (Apr 7, 2016)|
|Marriage is a god gift it is believed that relationship is made by god only he is only the creator he only decides who will be your life partner not we, we just obey his decision what he decide that is why many peoples fall in love because god does not make him/her for him/her. So according to me leave it to the god. Love marriage is also better but arranges marriage is far better than love marriage because families are concerned. But if your find one is excepted by your parents then it is better than both because it is said as love arrange marriage.
|Akash said: (Apr 3, 2016)|
|I feel love marriage is the best thing because arranged marriage in the business of two family is not a good thing. So I support love marriage.|
|Himanshu Sharma said: (Apr 2, 2016)|
|In my opinion, love marriage is much far better than arranged.
Citation: In love marriage couples knew each and everything about their partner after that they are ready to marry each other but the understanding in live marriage should be very strong without it the marriage will not turn in the way of happy ending.
|Ankit Kumar said: (Mar 29, 2016)|
|Do whatever you want & like whether its a arranged or love marriage. They both have merits & demerits of itself. But things you gonna nagged in last is its personal suitability with yourself. Do think about yourself first then about society, family's etc. Do Take time to think about the most important decision of your life which will play multiplayer mode in future. Thank you!|
|Satheesh said: (Mar 27, 2016)|
|In my experience, love marriage is a beautiful feeling between boy and girl and they mingle life long forever. Love is not a word its crazy moments in life. My view is who loves you more definitely you will give the whole life to her. My way is Love + arrange is great.|
|Manoj said: (Mar 27, 2016)|
|As per my opinion both arranged and love marriages are good.
Come to love marriages the boy and girl knew each other and also know about those +'s and -'s. After that, they will be ready to marry.
In Arranged marriages the boy and girl know about each other after the marriage still they have a good understanding, support, trust on one on other.
Finally, there is no matter in love or arranged marriage main is a commitment among boy and girl. They will lead the happy life.
|Himabindu said: (Mar 25, 2016)|
My point of view I think to arrange marriage and love marriage both of same. In arrange marriage after marriage couples are sacrifices, adjustment, sad and happiness and even love marriage also.
When standing relationship both of them mutual understanding is required.
|Mohd Sajid said: (Mar 23, 2016)|
|Love marriage and arranged marriage both are right as like people we don't know what will happen after marriage thus we should do that as our family want to.|
|Chudhary Zohaib Aksar said: (Mar 20, 2016)|
|I have decided that Arrange Marriage is better than Love marriage. Because I heard love is blind. So I think two blind peoples can't take a right decision.|
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