Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages


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Debabrata Dandapat said: (Feb 23, 2017)  
Hi friends, I am Debabrata, and I prefer arranged marriage. Because I think that two person when they love each other they live in an imaginary world this is not real. They think an imaginary life this it not true. But after marriage all imaginary think are brakes and they came back to her own life this is real life. So then so many problems create their life.

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Rajkumar Jaiswal said: (Feb 18, 2017)  
Hello, Friend's My Self Rajkumar.

I Strongly support love marriage.

I agree with all of you because they understand each other a long time, there is no dowry system, no category and no religion, which is better for our country, because these created a lot's of problem in arrange marriage. There is no problem in Love marriage.

So I think Love marriage is better than arranging marriage.

I Ful Support Love Marriage.

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Sai Ram said: (Feb 18, 2017)  
I strictily support Arranged marriages.

In most of the cases, it has proven that love marriages create lots of issues in their life. Love is just a kind of attraction between a girl and a boy, it looks beautiful when they are in the love but once if they won't listen to their parents words and start their life by getting married, problems will start, even misunderstandings also starts and the relations ship between them weakens and this will lead to breaking up of their marriage and their even parents don't have that much chance to talk with that people.

Arranged marriage is very good when compared to love marriage why because without knowing the details of person, family background our parents don't let us into that relationship. We can have a secured life, good relationship, family, and friends. They have very good understanding between each other, love in arranged marriages increases day by day whereas in love marriages it decreases gradually and even if any problems occur our parents are there to look after that in the arranged marriages.

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Mritunjay said: (Feb 16, 2017)  
I think love marriage is better but after some time it becomes lose but in arranged marriage, it reverses. The couple is so old their love is increasing day to day.

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Swathi said: (Feb 15, 2017)  
I think arrange marriage is better because our parents can't wrong in their son/daughter they think for we they live we so don't hurt parents they give life for me we use that in right way don't do anything for lover you think you are parents.

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Samrudhi said: (Feb 14, 2017)  
In my point of view, arranged marriage is best. In arrange marriage, we have a strong support of our parents which is most important thing in our life. To make our parents sad and marry with a person who came just in our life it is not good. If our parents fully supported our decisions then it is good thing. We should respect our parent's feelings and their opinions. They give us all happiness and when time comes to give happiness to them we think about others. So do the marriage with happiness of our parents. And love marriage is good.

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Achu said: (Feb 13, 2017)  
Comparing with love marriage and arrange marriage, love marriage is the best because we can share anything to them they will support and guide us be in arrange marriage we have no option we can't share openly. This is my view.

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Patatu said: (Feb 11, 2017)  
Good morning everyone:

Today we have good topic for discussion i.e. love marriage vs arrange marriage.

In love marriage, both he and she become first friend after they are cared for each other and entered into commitment, while they are building a career.

But in arrange marriage, parents choosing a partner for her child after completion of their career and when they are settled down. After marriage, they become friends and then they entered into their life so that they are wasted there half-life for understanding each other and commitment.

So in my point of view love marriage is best!.

Good luck.

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Bigboss Dheeraj said: (Feb 11, 2017)  
In my opinion, love marrage is better than the arrange marrage marrage because in love marrage they understand both before the marrage.

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Swapnil said: (Feb 7, 2017)  
I am Swapnil.

Most of the peoples don't know what is love.

Love is trust, love is caring, bonding of each other, can't live each other.

But some peoples make love as a joke or game, they play with feelings, use and throw.

They make difference between boyfriend and arrange marriage boy, obviously, boyfriend is not well settled but arrange marriage person is fully settle and some more qualified.

Some bloody idiot girls thinking are: -- In love marriage, there are so many problems.

-- They don't know whether they are doing right or wrong.

-- In that age, they felt that is love but actually that is an infatuation.

-- At that time whatever they are doing is right but not.

-- They are married but after some days going on, they face some problems.

-- At that, they are alone no coordinating between them.

I want to ask one question to this kind of girls. Why you should fall in love and break heart. If you want to marry as per family decision then don't waste time and play with boys feelings. Nowadays some girls fad are arrange marriage because they have more expectations and they don't want adjustment. They time pass with boy and finally do arrange marriage.

I fully support to love marriage.

Life is a journey we can't predict our life so trust a person who really love you.

Girls if you support A boy in the whole journey then that lovely boy do anything for you trust me. Please try to understand.

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Sai Velpuri said: (Feb 6, 2017)  
Sai: Hi friends. In my point of view, love marriage is the best one because they understand very well before the marriage. Particularly summing of two different religions it leads to unity in society. Love marriage can be a key parameter in social development. But in arrange marriage parents choose the bride/groom by seeing the appearance, wealth, job etc. Whether it is love marriage or arrange marriage we will be happy when we vanish our ego with soft nature. Yes particularly patience is very important in marriage life. Few members said arrange marriage can bond two families but love marriage can bond two religions or different castes.

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Sravan Kumar B said: (Feb 5, 2017)  
Both Types has their Pros & Cons.

I support Arranged marriage, Marriage is not Just an individual matter, it's of a Family.

You can find partner from the Family of same Financial status.

You can find partner from same culture & type of Family.

Its is not that you are forcefully married, You have choice to choose within the scope.

Attraction or infatuation or even LOVE cannot withhold relations, it does need money, commitment.

I feel Commitment & money can be guaranteed in Arranged marriage, unlike Love marriage.

I left my parents for my Love which haunts me. Till death.

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Govind Kushwaha said: (Feb 4, 2017)  
Hello, friends, l am Govind Kushawaha.

According to me, the love marriage is better than arrange marriage. In this marriage, bridge and groom will by couple together. They like each other after then they will be married. So better than arrange marriage. Thank you.

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Kirthi said: (Feb 3, 2017)  
I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage because boy and girl know each other. They also know their likes and dislikes. So I think that love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

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Sachin said: (Feb 1, 2017)  
Hello, friend. I am Sachin and I am telling about the love marriage and arrange marriage in love marriage boy and girl are know very well each but on the other hand in arrange marriage boy and girl not know very well each other. Arrange marriage is the bonding of two family but arrange marriage is the bonding of two family. I think love marriage is best but also acceptable by parents in love marriage may be religion and family are sad but in arrange marriage both of family and religion are very happy.

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Tinku Verma said: (Feb 1, 2017)  
I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

Because we know each other and negative and positive things.

But We can do love marriage like arrange.

Than love marriage be successful in life.

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Shankar Patil said: (Feb 1, 2017)  
Arrange/love does not matter, thing is should have better understanding, care towards even small things & patience. If we vanish our ego by understanding each other with soft nature then it will lead to a happy life in both marriages.

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Alex said: (Feb 1, 2017)  
All have different taste and preferences. One can be in favour of something while the other can't be. And we can't force anyone to feel in the Same way that we feel. My intention is not to hurt anyone.

But if I have to choose between love and arrange I would go with the arrange one. Our parents had sacrificed their dreams in order to fulfil our small demands, so when it comes to choosing bride/groom they will choose the right one for their child. Both the families will be in touch so it'll be easier for the couple to solve their problems which come on their way. We can take the example of our own parents how they are spending their life with their beloved ones, ones who used to be stranger. We have more time to understand each other. Don't it sound interesting at first people don't know each other but as the time passes they become close and their friendship gets stronger and their trust, they care each other as a best friend rather than a lover. Isn't it beautiful? in arrange, marriage couples are guided by parents experience so there is less probability of misunderstanding and divorce.

So I prefer the arranged marriage.

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Ram said: (Jan 31, 2017)  
I am Ram.

According to my point of view, love marriage is best because they can understand each other very much and both of us know their positive and negative things very well. If arrange marriage means first we want to make friendship with that girl after that want to understand each other and then only they can enter into their life. So I preferred love marriage.

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Vigneswari A said: (Jan 31, 2017)  
Hi guys.

According to me, love marriage is THE BEST. How can you marry an unknown person & live together? Parents prefer a boy or girl by their appearance, education, job, wealth etc. My question is what about the understanding between a boy & the girl who are going to be coupled? The word BETTER HALF best suits for love marriage couples. In most arranged marriage cases couples can be happy but can be better half to each other. There is an important point everyone says as a positive thing in arrange marriage is that after marriage parents can solve the couple's problems but when you seek your parents to solve your misunderstandings rather solving among yourselves then it seems that you are not matured enough to get married. Transformation of true love into marriage is what called HEAVEN.

Hence, I strongly support love marriage.

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Sagar Gharde said: (Jan 29, 2017)  
Hi I am Sagar.

I will support for arrange marriage because I know my parents always choose best for me and for my childishness for love I never gonna heart them they are experienced and in arrange marriage perhaps some problem will come they can help me to solve for my single love I can't be selfish. In love marriage, I only think about myself but in arrange marriage I will be blessed by all my society.

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Sahil Hamza said: (Jan 28, 2017)  
Love Marriage is only a bonding of two hearts, while Arrange Marriage is the bonding of two families. For me my parents are everything, they bring me into this world, nurtured me, fulfil all my needs. How could I ditch them when they are in need? So, I would prefer to arrange marriage, which can be turned into a love marriage afterwards.

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Chandan Kumar said: (Jan 27, 2017)  
Hi friends.

I am Chandan Kumar.

In my opinion, love marriage is better than arrange marriage because, in love marriage couples become friends first then gradually their friendship changes into love. In that journey they know each other better and also know about their likes and dislikes. That's way they form a hard bond which can't be broken easily.

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Venkata Sau said: (Jan 27, 2017)  
Love marriage is best but with acceptance of parents.

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Komal Sainath said: (Jan 27, 2017)  
I don't think this comparison between types of marriages really applies. It all depends on how the couple conducts themselves. How mature enough they are to handle their life together and balance it equally. It doesn't matter what the world says about you then. It doesn't matter if parents agree or not because eventually if they see that you are happy with your partner, they will be bound to step down and care only for your happiness. Love or arranged, any of the two can fail miserably but not if they respect each other and talk it out calmly in a mature way.

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Atul Kumar said: (Jan 26, 2017)  
There's a difference between true love and romantic love/attraction. Romantic love/attraction/infatuation needs sexual intimacy to stay alive. After some time this sexual intimacy starts to fade and both realise that the love is lost. They don't feel the same etc. But they have to realise that it was not loved from the very beginning. They just got attracted to each other. They always thought of being physical with each other but not realising it at the same time. Now, what's true love then? As Marilyn Monroe once said sex is opposite of love. In true love sex is secondary. You care for each other. You're not jealous. You're fighting but are never separate. You're at a comfort with each other. You know she/he will never cheat. You're always worried for your partner. So whether love marriage or arranged marriage. There has to be true love in it. Only then you can spend the rest of your life happily see after. Just like so many other love stories. But how to find true love. There's no answer to that. You meet new people and spend some time to know each other. And see if that definition of true love is there or not. Your inner voice tells you that he/she is the one. And it's not lust. So go after true love. Even if it takes time.

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Teju Mahima said: (Jan 26, 2017)  
Hi friends, myself Teju Mahima.


According to me, the love marriage is better than arrange marriage because we can understand the person feeling and also some many love marriage are successful in life with parents permission finally love is beautiful.

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Puja said: (Jan 24, 2017)  
Puja.

I think both marriages are successful, because of their trust, understanding and compromise.

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Aman Patel said: (Jan 24, 2017)  
I agree with all my dear friends, according to me, I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in case of love marriage. We know that the quality the behaviour and mentality of our life future life partner very well. We have to spend our life ourself with our life partner.

That's why I always suggest love marriage. Thank you.

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Sudhir Mangnale said: (Jan 22, 2017)  
According to me, love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in this two individual boy and girl can know very well before their marriage. It removes hindrances of religion, cast, color and creed, also dowry system. Love marriage can be a key parameter in social development. Parents support you after you tell them about real conditions. There will be best future married life.

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Gopika said: (Jan 22, 2017)  
If parents supports his/her likes and dislikes arranged marriage is good.

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Bipul Kumar said: (Jan 22, 2017)  
Hi friend, I'm Bipul Kumar it's my topic is love marriage. Everyone marriage has own their merit and demerit. In my opinion, Love Marriage is better than Arrange Marriage. Because girl and boy love can any condition spend their life and I doesn't say wrong arrange marriage. Arrange marriage is very important of human life and arrange marriage depends on Indian society. Both of you couple between mis understanding behavior.

Conclusion - Love marriage very beautiful, happiness, and its my suggestion is love marriage is very beautiful than arrange marriage.

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Kiranmai said: (Jan 21, 2017)  
I feel arranged marriages are better than love marriages. The way of loving is different but love exists in both marriages. For any relation to be successful first they need to understand each other. But parents and society mostly supports arranged marriages.

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Nive said: (Jan 20, 2017)  
Both at times fails. Even arranged marriages sometimes lead to failure. So marriage is where both boy and girl adjust themselves and lead a happy life.

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Sruthi Sree said: (Jan 18, 2017)  
Hi friends,

ARRANGED MARRIAGE.

-- Arranged marriages are better than love marriages.
-- In arranged married life they have some understanding between them.
-- In olden Days the parents are sitting together and they talk each other family background.
-- For suppose the couple have any problem they met their parents and solve their problems and lead their life happily.
-- Before their marriage, they know the partners likes, dislikes.
-- And they have mutual understanding between them.

LOVE MARRIAGE.

-- In love marriage, there are so many problems.
-- They don't know whether they are doing right or wrong.
-- In that age, they felt that is love but actually that is a infatuation.
-- At that time what ever they are doing is right but not.
-- They are married but after some days going on, they face some problems.
-- At that, they are alone no coordinating between them.

CONCLUSION.

-- Many problems are in both married life. At last, I believe that arranged marriages lead more role from olden days onwards.

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M.Sruthi Sree said: (Jan 18, 2017)  
In My View, the arranged marriages are better love marriages why because for suppose in love marriages if they have any problems in their married life. They won't come to their parents. Why because their leaved their parents and they thought that they have mutual understanding between them. But in my there is no mutual understanding between them. They thought like that but actually not like that. In particular age they that love but it is absolutely wrong. In that age that is not at all love it is infatuation. But they don't know that at that time. They felt that after some years that is wrong but at that time but there is no use. Coming to arranged marriages there is a mutual understanding between the couple and their parents also. In olden days all marriages are arranged but now most of the marriages are love. At that time the parents are sitting together they talk each other their children and their traditions all are they talked each other. And then they married each other. For suppose any problem come between them they talked with their parents. So that they solved their problems like that. And the most important thing is in either arranged or love marriages the cooperation between them is very important. At last, I conclude that arranged marriages is better than love marriages.

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Tripti Rathore said: (Jan 17, 2017)  
I felt really bad after I see this vs between the two. What people meant with love marriage-marrying someone with love and knowing the person very well irrespective of parents choice. Arrange marriage-marriage with more involvement from parents.

Love never see love marriage or arrange it just happens after or before marriage. It can happen to anybody any part of your life with your partner. Never got in confusion like this that love marriage is only having love more than arrange, it is ambiguous in nature. Just depends on person to person. If a person knows how to love definitely he/she would love his/her, partner, anyway.

Life is beautiful love is beautiful. Marriage itself is a beautiful thing.

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Arya Kumar Pawan said: (Jan 17, 2017)  
I agree with all of my friends, but according to my point of view, I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage. In case of love marriage, we know the quality, the behavior and mentality of our future life partner very well. You have to spend your life yourself with your life partner. So we choose our life partner ourselves.

I always suggest love marriage.

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Arthapurba said: (Jan 16, 2017)  
Hi everyone. After I read all the statement before me, I realise something that actually unique.

Most of us thought that arrange married are part of tradition and women as a commodity. But have you realize something? For me arrange married is a man and a woman married by their parents because a lot of reason for example that the daughter and the son have an age that actually perfects to become a bride or groom, but there a condition that makes there can't getting married soon like they only focus on study, workaholic, still alone a. K. A doesn't have any mate before, don't wanna fall in love or never fall in love, or can't find the true match, weird, etc. That makes their parents worried, 'what if my son or daughter still life alone after I died? Who will take care him or her?' That's why arranged married is needed to be held. That's why parent seek the perfect match for their kid, start from health (there is no parent want their kid marriage with someone full of disease), wealth (its kind of materialistic, but who parents want their kid life in poverty, no one want it), and background (that's the matter after all to know the truth identity).

And love marriage. It's just love. Have no reason to be in love and to be love with or by someone.

But marriage about love is not the simple like what people always read on book or novel or by watching drama on TV.

Marriage by love is needed preparation first, start to prepare from metal until wealth.

Why mental? Bcs we know it's not a taboo again that our mate can change into another people just for less than 24 hours we living together with them. Somehow a relationship before marriage & their appearance such wonderful may be a little bit annoying but still can acceptable by us. But after marriage, we will stay with them 24 hours on 7 days without holiday that can make a new behaviour that never shows before marriage, become a huge drama section on marriage life.

And for me which one of the best?

Both of that are perfect for their own reason.

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Sayli Patil said: (Jan 15, 2017)  
I think so love marraige is best in arrange marraige lots of time is required for understanding our patner but in love marraige we know who is important to our patner what should we do make him.

I always suggest love marraige.

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Shivansh said: (Jan 13, 2017)  
Hi friends.

According to me, love marriage is better than the arrange marriage because in love marriage we already knows about likes and dislikes of our partner, in this way we can run our life smoothly, but in arrange marriage we don't know about our partners likes and dislikes which creates problems in the life, we are not a product, as a human being we also have the feelings for someone to whom we love, it should be our decision to whom we want to marry, if parents will think about their status in the society, and their name in the society, is they don't know that others will help them in the happiness only but when they are in trouble nobody will stand behind them for their protection. Parents should also respect the feelings of their child.

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Jothimurugan said: (Jan 12, 2017)  
Hi.

In this topic love marriage and arrange marriage both have pros and cons. It depends on the person. We can't blame any one of the above.

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Moupriya Dev said: (Jan 11, 2017)  
First of all, marriage is not the conclusion of life. Love or Arrange a marriage is a lifetime commitment. Loving someone is not easy but staying in love with someone is more difficult. When you accept someone for who they are and go through every pain and still want to be with them then you should marry them.

When we talk about love marriage it is like loving a stranger. It's like trying to know someone every day and trying to explore their lives everyday. And the fear of losing one another is gone because there is family pressure too. To have a happy married life you have to stop judging others.

Falling in love and getting married or arranged marriage both has love but in different ways. So it's about loving someone imperfect perfectly.

Marriage is very special in itself, it is to keep. You have to make sacrifices without sacrificing urself.

Be strong enough to be able to make a good choice and to be able to live the commitment of marriage and to be able to build a relationship. And be the best spouse who chooses the same person every day.

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Hitendar Rohilla said: (Jan 11, 2017)  
Hello friends, I agree with all of you, because every friend is right in itself, but my point of view. Love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Because they understand each other a long Time, there is no dowry system, no casteism, no religion, who is better for our country, because these problems created a lot of problems. There is no problem in love marriage, if the marriage take place with the help of parents, and we talk about arrange marriage, we don't know each other, how can we sleep each other, there is no love, there is only mean to live life Nd born child, in arrange marriage we don't know past relationship and type of relationship, because some relationship never ended, your partner cheated you in arrange marriage, but in love marriage cheating chances is very low, so I like love marriage, you live your life, not your parents, so you can choose your life partner, I give an example, when you buy a mobile, you don't ask to your parents, because you know the feature of mobile, that's why in love marriage we know very well our partner, So friends love marriage is best.

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Akhil Umrao said: (Jan 10, 2017)  
I agree with all of my friends. But according to my point of view, I think Love marriage is better than arrange marriage. In case of love, we know the quality, the behaviour and the mentality of our future wife very well. You have to spend your life yourself. With your life partner. So we should choose our life partner ourselves.

That's it.

Thank you all of you.

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Venkat said: (Jan 9, 2017)  
Hi, in my point of view, Arrange marriages are better than love marriages why because Parents support them.

If love marriages some Risky problems facing long life.

Anyways couples understanding is good. Any problems coming face it.

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Anu said: (Jan 9, 2017)  
As I have seen the comments people are believing in both. Love and arrange.

Arrange marriage is best. I agree on this because parents are choosing for their child, yes obviously the best bride or best groom. But if you are loving someone then how come you will do a arrange marriage.

Don't you think that it is a foolishness? I know parents are making a good decision. But they have to understand this thing also. That their child is not a kid now. He or she may fall in love n he or she wants to marry as per choice. It's the 21st century. Boy and girl should be measured in same parameters. Then why only for a boy they looking a better girl. Why girl can't give their decision to their parents.

Seriously for you, your parents are choosing someone n then they will ask you to marry that guy. Why I'm not understanding. They only think of their respect in society n all about culture.

For me, I full support to love marriage but for that parents also accept this one. Because girls are not a commodity or a thing, that whom you want you can give it to them.

Love marriage is good, but only with parents blessings.

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Arshia said: (Jan 6, 2017)  
Hi friends,

Arrange marriage is always better than love marriage. As we all of us know Mistakes will happen by humans only some of which will teach us life lessons.

Confusing! Let me tell you my point of view, because, In both cases, there is a chance of choosing wrong person as a life partner. We may realize it after marriage ar some point of time whether it is love or arrange.

In case of love 'U' are purely responsible for everything and will not get any support, but in case of arrange, parents are responsible for everything and they always stand beside U as a strong supporter which you actually need when you are heartbroken either in love or arrange.

In case of love marriage, You should only stand and collect all the broken pieces of heart. In case of arrange Marriage, before you fall or even after falling, your family will make you stand again and will help you in collecting the broken heart pieces.

Support from parents and family is always the greatest strength ever!!!

Hope you guys like it.

Thank you.

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Kasim said: (Jan 5, 2017)  
Hi friends.

According to my point of view, in arrange marriages parents select husband for their daughter with their own measuring rods which may not suit a girl.

They considered the girls only a commodity to be handed over to the boy of their choice.

It an insult to the principle of the equality of sexes.

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Rinku Yadav said: (Jan 4, 2017)  
Hi, I'm Rinku Yadav. I likes love marriage. They knew about each other past time so they will no facing any problem who is relative each other. I knows that them parents against marriage because perents don't understands about them love. However parents declare marriage but they (parents) want to marriage acording society. According to me, shoud be replace love marriage.

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Smruti said: (Jan 3, 2017)  
In my point of view, love marriage is good. Because in love marriage they both know each other from a long time and they already knew about each others background like dislike character nature everything after knowing this much they choose each other so if they will marry each other then they will not face any major problem. I know parents might oppose them for marriage but if they are really want to spend their hole life together then they should convince their parents.

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Sohail said: (Jan 2, 2017)  
Hi, I am Sahil, l say about love marriage is better because of both understand one another better.

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Anom said: (Jan 2, 2017)  
Look, Arrange marriage are good for the person who did not fall in love. But the person who really falls in love and wanna spend a great time with their partner should choose love marriage. Whatever parents will say but you should do love marriage and prove your real love in that love marriage and relationship. You should not care about what will others say. You should only care about your love and your partner after or before a love marriage. All you need to prove yourself to others about your true love!

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Shreya Patra said: (Dec 30, 2016)  
I completely support arranged marriage because, at present date, the youth reaches the conclusion of a wedlock at a very early stage what basically they have is lust or infatuation with degrading values they have no idea of love. A love marriage last just as long as the spark is alive and 1ce it is dead, the relationship collapses but and arrange marriage there is considerable amt of family pressure!

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Girish said: (Dec 29, 2016)  
I think love marriage is better because they both are understand themselves and then can live with love for lifelong.

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Bipul Prakash said: (Dec 29, 2016)  
Hi friends.

According to me, arranged marriages is much more better than love marriages.

Love marriages give temporary pleasure but permanent pain.

Arrange marriage gives temporary pain but permanent pleasure.

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Sravya said: (Dec 28, 2016)  
Hi friends, in my point of view both marriages are best. Whatever it is love or arranged marriage every husband and wife must understand each other. Otherwise, it will become divorce.

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Pavan Nandigama said: (Dec 27, 2016)  
In my point of view, so many love marriages are not successful in life without parents permission because arranged marriage is best.

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Harsha said: (Dec 27, 2016)  
I think Love Marriages are better than Arranged Marriages. I can put many points in favor of love marriages. The main thing is which I want to say that love and affection is very crucial thing to bind any relation and today each and every relation depends on expectations. In these expectations mostly people expect financial security, comfortable living status, and the most important thing is independence in relationship. If I clarify the term "Independence in Relationship" that is a comfortable space in between any relation. In traditional marriage systems it seems that sometimes a person has to confine in the relationship at anyway but If we choose love marriage option then we can understand the person's feelings and his or her expectations towards for upcoming relations before the marriage so it gives more help for choosing the better option.

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Marella Triveni said: (Dec 26, 2016)  
In my point of view, Arrange marriage is 100% perfect, because our parents are love very much, in studies you study 4 years at a college.

They search the many colleges and chose the best one our's.

So, it is same that in our 4 years of life they select many colleges and gives the best option. Same to same of our 80 years of life they give the best one of the life partner.

In the world, No love is greater than our parents love.

Thank you much.

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Triveni said: (Dec 26, 2016)  
According to my point of view, Love and Arranged Marriages are both of successful in the world. But Some Love marriages are failed after a few years, they both are not understood to each other, before the love marriage they think that we are made for each other, some people are correct, because they understand, and compromise one of them, but in arranged marriage both of you compromise and understand.

Thank you.

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Aneesh said: (Dec 25, 2016)  
The most beautiful thing in this world is love of it is love or arranged marriage the most important things in marriage life is trust with each other if it's lost everything is lost but in arranged marriage if any problems come soon after marriage family members will be more support for the couples but in love marriage it Will no support from family members.

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Naveen said: (Dec 23, 2016)  
Hi Everyone,

In my point of view arrange marriages is better how to I say means marriage after easily understand, commitment one to other. So increase trust to the couple.

Thank you.

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Misha said: (Dec 22, 2016)  
Marriage is a bond between two persons who want to live their rest of life with each other. I am in favour of love marriage because two people who decided to live life with each other must have good understanding, compassionate about each other.

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Amit said: (Dec 22, 2016)  
Both are having some merits and demerits but, As my opinion, arrange marriage is better than love marriage because in love marriage girl and guy both are familiarized to each other so after marriage we happy till few time but when you are not inculcating to full fill requirements problems are created and relationship is weak or finished no one involved this matter but in arrange marriage having some foundations and supported by parents.

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Vishal said: (Dec 22, 2016)  
There are so many love marriages are in the world they are happy and too successful and also there are so many arrange marriages those are very much successful. Everyone has its own choice. So, live happy whatever it is.

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Varsha said: (Dec 19, 2016)  
According to me, arrange marriage is better than the love marriage because of many reasons it is supported by the family and also society, I live in rural area so I know very well about the mindset of the rural people.

So these people not accept the love marriage.

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Shreya Silwal said: (Dec 18, 2016)  
I prefer love marriage because in this type of marriage couples know before easily.

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Pearl Violette said: (Dec 18, 2016)  
In my opinion, both have their own pros and cons. Although, I am leaning on arranged marriage. And I can explain this. Many do not understand the concept of arranged marriage. You are not marrying a complete stranger. You can maintain a good bond with your parents and tell them what you look for in a partner. They will do the searching for you. Not to forget, marriage is not only the union of two people but also their families. Families do play an important role.

Sometimes you can fall in love with someone and be totally unaware of their family and culture. If so, what if you don't fit into their family?

Now, the chances of this happening in an arranged marriage is very very less. Because your parents know what is best for you and they do their research about the family that you are marrying into.

However, sometimes your loved one and their family might be a catch as well.

But in my opinion, Love marriages are a "hit or miss" like situation. It may or may not work out. Whereas, arranged marriages are a safe bet.

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Farook said: (Dec 16, 2016)  
Hi.

It's not a matter whether the marriage is arranged or loved, the commitment and understanding between the couple is takes more responsability in their marriage relationship.

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Ram said: (Dec 16, 2016)  
As per my knowledge both are equal.

Let the parents arrange marriage with a girl and between the gap of marriage love that girl as much as you want and marry her.

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Rafique said: (Dec 15, 2016)  
I support love marriage we love any girl in a lifetime. Love is increasing strong bond each other. We can convert love marriage to arrange marriage. We will happy and family members are happy also. Therefor, I support of love marriage.

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Bharathidevi said: (Dec 13, 2016)  
Hi.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. I prefer arranged marriage. Because parents are supported and in future you have any problems parents are guided. In love marriages parents are not supported.

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Momatha said: (Dec 13, 2016)  
Hi.

So many different views about marriage. I agree that parents are our life. They brought us to this world. They fulfill all our needs. Their unconditional love is very great. When it comes to love between a guy and a girl, they fall in love, understands each other, (both must make sure its not attraction. . But you both are building d foundation for life). Also both must be ready to convince your parents if you really want your pure and true love to continue for lifetime. At times, it so happens that you. Both are so emotionaly. Attached that you jus can't even think of another guy/girl in your life. So at least now you realise its not ATTRACTION but its a deep AFFECTION and BOND.

So be bold too. Convince your parents. Love happens only once. Make that love for your lifetime and your life will be meaningful. Love your parents and also love your LOVE.

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Sonu Gupta said: (Dec 11, 2016)  
Hi friends,

Arrange marriage is better than love marriage because love marriage is not going a long time. Both are not respected each other and arrange marriage is supported from family so as both have commitment, honestly and respect each other. So I supported arrange marriage.

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Jagadeesh Jse said: (Dec 9, 2016)  
Marriage is a very important social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in the case of arrange marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose the partner for marriage. Let\'s analyse which one of the two is better.

Love marriage:

- Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.
- The couple is responsible for its choice and the onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else.
- The couple is aware of each other\'s likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well.
- The couple can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to take such decisions at their own level.
- The culture of the extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.

Arrange marriage:

- Arrange Marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families.
- Two families involved in the arrange marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other.
- Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.
- The Couple is guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.

Conclusion:

Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of a lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, it\'s the couple which has to live together for a lifetime. So, the decision to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can certify the best way for a perfect marriage life because like life marriages too are full of uncertainties.

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Shanmugapriya said: (Dec 8, 2016)  
It is not a matter depending on whether it is love or arranged one, but the main thing is to be noted that one cannot maintain their relationship in an equal manner. Because I really felt the pain of love and also I agree with the terms of arranged marriage, but it is not at all a good one to marry an unknown person. It is only based on the thoughts that how we really understand the lovable one of our life. Marriage is a future of our happiness so be patient and choose your partner as your wish and also got married with the permission of your parents otherwise you would be waiting for your favourite life until you got the permission because waiting and patience did not disappointing anyone.

Be confident, you can feel the pleasure of love marriage.

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Surendra said: (Dec 8, 2016)  
Hi, Friends.

I Think arranged marriage would be always better because love for marriage is think is not doing to happen with everyone.

Indian culture has accept arrange marriage and it's had showed good results.

Like nowadays a new point in coming in society calling live in relationship.

It's good as it gives same right to your girlfriend like your wife.

So, I think by arranged marriage it will take time it is always good.

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Shalu said: (Dec 7, 2016)  
I would say, if you have chosen your partner wisely, not blindly fallen in love with someone so that you can't see what are his or her intentions, then love marriage is good. Because you know your partner's expectations, you build that understanding which keeps your efforts high towards the partner. Loving someone and getting love in return means a lot. Then you just need to convince your parents. Love marriage is not a crime. I just don't get why parents react like it's a crime. If they love us, they should support us and fight with people who are against it instead of fighting with us for those people who only pulls your leg down, never appreciate you when you are going up.

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Pooja Thakur said: (Dec 7, 2016)  
In India, marriage means lifetime commitment. So choose your partner wisely.

Things changes after marriage, even if you are in relationship with someone from 2-3 years, you cannot say marriage will be successful.

My preference will be marriage in some known family.

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Chandravir Singh Rawat said: (Dec 6, 2016)  
You can not say that which marriage is better, love marriage or arrange marriage.

Its depends on your understanding skills. How accept your mistakes. And how you improve yourself. When you both will be careful about each other. Your marriage will successful sure.

If you love a right person your parents will be with your decision always. Because they love you a lot.

You can change a love marriage into love with arrange marriage.

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Deepak Tripathi said: (Dec 5, 2016)  
It just depends upon the person with which you going to marriage. Because if you choose or your family selects a bad person & you don't know about him then what will you do? And it happens with love also just think that a person you love most and after marriage he/she ignoring you.

Then, most important thing is that life has two faces good or bad and also marriage has both ways means either good or bad. Choose your life partner attentively. Because it is India.

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Nisha said: (Dec 4, 2016)  
Slowly marriage is losing its ground, because of affairs before marriage, fake dowry cases and post marital affairs. Soon time will come when no one will believe in marriage.

We are blindly following the western culture. If you see the culture of western countries like USA/UK/Germany, You will see at least 80% people take divorce once in life and goes for second marriage.

My choice will be ARRANGE marriage in some known and respected family.

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Pooja said: (Dec 4, 2016)  
We require three main things for successful marriage.

Commitment, honesty, respect.

If you can not give these things, do not destroy the life of other person.

Love is just temporary attraction between boy and girl, but if you are honest, respectful and committed towards your life partner no one break your marriage.

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Ankita said: (Dec 4, 2016)  
Both marriages are good. Not everyone met with true LOVE in their life. But based on things I have seen, I can say ARRANGE marriages are more successful than LOVE marriages.

Because most of LOVE affairs are just infatuation (attraction), LOVE marriage based on this does not survive for long period.

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Anjali Patel (From Lawana) said: (Nov 30, 2016)  
Love marriages are not based on rules of society so people getting married don't care for dowry or other social customs which may not be very good as per modern time.

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Rian Ahmed said: (Nov 29, 2016)  
As I think the Arranged marriage is better than the love marriage.

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Sanju Bishnoi said: (Nov 29, 2016)  
I think arrange marriage is best for you and your parents because in love marriage everything happens before marriage so every people not like this.

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Amit &Quot;Paraajit&Quot; said: (Nov 29, 2016)  
I agree with you @ Neha Gupta.

But tell me one thing. As you are saying what to do if someone fall in love before marriage the true love. But tell me what if the person you are in love with is a fraud may be he/she is playing with you. Answer me just one thing. What is the guaranty of love?

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Khushi Chopra said: (Nov 28, 2016)  
According to me, arranged marriages are far better than love marriages. Because our parents are our only wellwishers even more than we are of ourselves and if others give us a reason to cry then just they give us a reason to smile so we must respect their decision first. We must marry and person they choose and later fall in love with that person. In arranged marriages, there is more understanding, love n less trust issues. :).

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Preeti Maurya said: (Nov 28, 2016)  
I support to arrange marriage because in love there is no hesitation to talk to each other but in arranging there is a feeling of hesitation to talk to each other which makes the CUTE RELATIONSHIP.

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Shilpa said: (Nov 27, 2016)  
According to my own opinion love marriage and arrange marriage both are equal but the only thing is that our partner should be a good person. We should keep trust, mutual understanding, bonding.

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Shankar said: (Nov 26, 2016)  
It's your choice whether to marry a person with similar interests or opposite interests. I think love marriage is a better choice.

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Ejaj said: (Nov 26, 2016)  
Love and marriage To different things.

So I support Arrange Marriage.

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Nikita Kumawat said: (Nov 26, 2016)  
All we want from marriage is it doesn't have any expiry date. As we know in India, our custom is lifelong bonding between two person then it is a successful marriage. I can't choose one of them, both marriages are good. All we need in a marriage is better understanding between two persons then it's outcome will be definitely positive. So, it has nothing to do with love marriage or arrange marriage. There are many cases in. Which love marriage and arrange are successful and they are successful only because of better understanding between two people but if there won't be understanding then both marriages will be failure. Now coming to investigation of both the parties so it can be done in both cases as we you are doing love marriage then you must be knowing him/her from a long time and his/her parents too, if not then you should know about them fully, about their family values, education, occupation, religion, caste each and everything then only you should decide about marrying that person. Now investigating in arrange marriage can be done by asking from relatives, neighbors, common friends or dating before marriage, chats and knowing about likes, dislikes, morals, values, nature, occupation, education, everything about family then only you should think about marrying that person then its result will be positive. But as we know coin has two sides, so even after investigation of many years there can be something which we miss out or may be other side party hide something or lie about something then it may lead to failure. So a well known saying in Hindi is "The Fruit of marriage, the one who eats it shall suffer, the one who doesn\'t eat it shall also suffer". So we can conclude that chances of failure and good outcome have equality it depends on understanding and some adjustments.

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Indian said: (Nov 24, 2016)  
We are blindly following the western culture physical attractions, love affair before marriage is the main reason behind the increasing divorce cases in India.

Some stupid are telling we are modern generation we will do LOVE marriage. If this keeps happening no one believes in marriage. This thing already happening, people are afraid to get married, because of false dowry harassment cases/ Love affair after marriage.

Follow your own culture. Do not destroy Indian culture due to western culture (physical attractions/love affairs).

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Ponam said: (Nov 24, 2016)  
People who say LOVE marriages are successful, please check the result of LOVE marriages in western countries USA/UK. Where divorce rate is as high as 80 %.

But for Indian marriage is lifetime commitment. So instead of following western culture follow your own culture.

When you are in LOVE affair, Person will always use his positive side to impress you, you can ask this question to yourself.

So I will prefer ARRANGE marriage over LOVE marriage in some known family because we can know the full background of that person.

In your love affair of 2 years, you can not know person' s background, because 70-80% cases person will pretend, will not show his actual face.

But if you person and his family from 5-10 year, you can think of LOVE marriage.

So I will prefer ARRANGE marriage over LOVE marriage in some known family.

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Pooja said: (Nov 24, 2016)  
New generation supporting LOVE marriages, and claiming LOVE marriage is successful. But the reality is totally opposite. In my friend circle itself, many Love marriages are failed.

I am not saying ARRANGE marriage are very good. But much better than LOVE marriages. Because your parents will always choose the better partner for you, after checking person's and his family background. Because many frauds happing in both LOVE and ARRANGE marriages.

So I will prefer Arrange marriage.

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Shrutika Solat said: (Nov 23, 2016)  
Whether you go for love or arrange marriage doesn't matter you should keep one thing in mind that relationship should be based on mutual understanding, respect, trust, and commitment.

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M.Karthikeyan said: (Nov 23, 2016)  
Love marriage is the best because the understanding between the two members should been good in this relation during loving period both know their characters fully it helps to after marriage both are involve I small fights because the fight makes the relationship between two members stronger and stronger fully one of the person either boy or girl apologies each other as a result relation should be been stronger I love marriage.

In arrange marriage in between the six months both boy and a girl are acting each other but I love marriage no.

Parents also support love marriage then arrange marriage.

But some parents only.

Because of in caste marriage.

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