Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages

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Raveena said: (Wed, Feb 25, 2015 11:47:57 PM)    
Hi friends,

In my point of view love marriage is spreading around the youngsters which makes them to segregate from their parents, friends and especially studies. There is an age limit for voting and marriage. But, for love there is no age limit. There can be sayings like "love is blind", " love is life". But the reality is that it does not suit for real life.

In 2 states book Chetan Bhagat will be explaining about the love like these :

"A Boy loves a Girl and a girl loves a boy, they get married, but in India the boy's family should like the girl, the girl's family should like a boy, the boy's family should like the girl's family, the girl's family should like the boy's family". This is cent percent true. The real love will go through all these process and come out with flying colors. But, now the word PATIENCE is not in the youngster's dictionary.

The mother who carries you for 10 months, the father who travels along with you know what to be done to you in future. They care for you always than the guy or a girl you get impressed.

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Shashikumar Mn said: (Wed, Feb 25, 2015 07:09:10 PM)    
Arranged marriage gives happiness to people like relations, parents, etc. But love marriage gives happiness to only true lovers like Laila Majnu.

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Dhinesh said: (Wed, Feb 25, 2015 03:13:49 PM)    
Hi am Dhinesh,

Some peoples things that dowry is drawback for arrange marriage. But in my point of view dowry is important because its our culture.

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Gaurav said: (Wed, Feb 25, 2015 12:34:00 AM)    
I think arrange marriage is good because your parents who always cares for your desire, your will. Never deceive you. They will definitely take your opinion about the girl who is selected for you. So I don't love marriage is good.

In arrange marriage, a person also get time to decide. And even no more about each other and their family as well.

In arrange marriage both the couple get the support of their families. Even entire family celebrates the occasion. Their parents can also solve the misunderstanding between them. As well as they can advise and suggest notion.

Finally as per my concern. I will say arrange marriage is better than love marriage.

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Smitha said: (Tue, Feb 24, 2015 08:03:35 PM)    
I am confused. All love marriages are not successful same goes for arranged marriages too. As long as each partners are honest and understanding everything is good. Sometimes people start thinking differently.

One will wonder does he love me the same? And the other side wonders does he love me or is it all responsibility and obligations? Then there are ego issues in both cases. Basically everything depends on people.

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Jesun said: (Mon, Feb 23, 2015 03:14:52 AM)    
Some great discussions going on in this forum. In my opinion, you should do a thorough background check on your potential mate whether your family parents brought the proposal or whether you know the person for a long time. Don't be naive and simple minded. I think that arranged marriages are safer for girls in India because most of the time during love there can be sexual contact.

Now especially in a traditional country like India, where once you are used you are looked as used good, It is better that you seek the help of your parents or cousins before proceeding to find your life partner. Boys can do whatever they want (including former affairs) , but at time of marriage most want to marry a virgin bride. Now with more women empowerment in our country, there are also girls who can walk similar to boys before marriage. Even some people can lie that they did not have any affairs. As a girl, I value my parents opinion more than any boy who can come up to me and say "I love you. " Don't just break your future on the basis of somebody saying he or she loves you.

Please choose wisely, just concerned so many kids are being orphans now a days with increasing divorce rates just because mom/dad did not think wisely before marriage. Love is a 2 sided weapon. It can be a disease or used for the good of the society. Now a word regarding inter caste marriages. If somebody had thought about their kids, they would not choose their partner outside of their community. Studies show that marriages work in the long run if partners are similar in education, wealth, beauty, compatibility and spiritual beliefs. If you think your in love with a person, please let your parents/friends know about it.

I have seen many people end up in trouble because they end in trouble. Now when somebody ends in trouble, they tend to go to their parents. Just remember, no body can love you sacrificially like your parents, siblings or family.

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Priya said: (Sat, Feb 21, 2015 08:54:51 PM)    
Hi friends am Priya.

I can't say that love marriage is good or arrange as per my knowledge both marriages are similar because now a days both marriages are getting divorced yeah but not all.

In love marriage before their marriage they will be happy because they show only their best side. But they can be happy after marriage too as they know somewhat at-least about each other.

Coming to arrange marriage yeah now a days they are giving time to about each other after they have been engaged. Every relation based on love and trust on each other.

Last point a relation will be going good even if they don't understood each other but a relation will be collapsed if there are misunderstandings between them.

Thanks for spending your valuable time on reading my views.

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Vivek said: (Thu, Feb 19, 2015 10:16:25 PM)    
Hi Friends,

I am Vivek and according to me love and arrange marriages both are best at their own but now a days a new trend is going on love cum arrange which is very best option for getting marriage because marriage is not all about two people but its about the families and their respect so in my view both are good if the couple and their family members agrees.

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Kunwar Prashant said: (Thu, Feb 19, 2015 08:27:16 PM)    
I would like to explain some facts about both love marriage and arranged marriage. Love marriage is the term used primarily in south India, Pakistan and Srilanka to describe a marriage deviates from arranged marriage but there is no any clear definition of love marriage.

Arranged marriage is a traditional type of marriage which is filled with ritual and celebration that continues for several days. Now there is big misconception that in arranged marriage couple don't know each other but its not true in arranged marriage there is also willingness of both partners is important.

According to the definition of vivah in Hinduism. I think the way to get married is not important but the understanding of value relationship and love is more important. Love and marriage is inseparable, without love, marriage has no meaning, love is the basis of each relationship.

The unrealistic expectations to your partner can spoil your relation, relations made on the basis of true love has no unrealistic expectations but they want to fulfill all the dreams of there partner without expecting anything from him. Anyone of the marriage can accepted if we truly realize the Love.

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Deepika said: (Wed, Feb 18, 2015 08:47:55 PM)    
Hi friends,

According to me both love and arranged marriages are best. Whatever whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage understanding between wife and husband should be strong. So to me it may comes from love cum arranged or arranged cum love marriages.

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Lokesh said: (Wed, Feb 18, 2015 11:49:06 AM)    
Hello Friends,

My self Lokesh bansal. I would like to share my point of views about love marriage and arrange marriage.

My point of views about love marriage and arrange marriage are, I think both marriage are best in India. But, I will give first preference to love marriage. And I go first with the love marriage. And it is possible that, love marriage can be converted into arrange marriage but, most of parents do not think that, love marriage can be converted into arrange marriage.

They just think only about the Samaj and people, they do not think about there child's and there future. That, they only think about what is cast of girls & boys. Why is it so. Why do not think about there children. If girls & boys do love to each other. So why parents do agree with them. I know very well, marriage is not a joke. So why parents do not think about there children.

Do you know friends, why do not success the love marriage because, the parents do not agree. And they always think about the cast. I don't know. Why parents are against in inter cast marriage. In out of 100% to 90% parents are against the love marriage by inter cast marriage.

Thanks Friends that all are point of views, I have to share.

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Avni said: (Tue, Feb 17, 2015 05:55:06 PM)    
In my opinion both types can be successful if there is love and respect towards each other. And if a person loves someone its not just because of attraction.

There are people who fall in love with people whom they have known since years. So attraction might be a reason for some people but not for all. In fact in arranged marriages people look for good looks more than in a loved marriage. And not all parents are perfect and will think only for their child's benefits.

There are so many parents who simply say no to loved marriage because they feel there name will get spoiled in the community and for keeping their so called izzat intact they wouldn't mind marrying off their children to any person whose family is respectable but they don't know anything about that person's past. If one doesn't have a gf/bf and is of the age of marrying then only their parents should interfere and look for someone suitable for them.

But if they love someone they have every right to marry them. Of course the parents also have the right to enquire about that person and make their opinion but ultimately the decision should be in the person's hand who is supposed to get married.

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Zain Usmani said: (Tue, Feb 17, 2015 01:01:08 PM)    
He said speak your mind. OK then listen what is in my mind.

Yeah I'm fall-in love with one girl and I respect her even I don't know he is mine or not.

Yeah I have read all view here some are good about love marriage and some are totally against.

But just one thing I want to know about arrange marriage I mean how can we get married with that person we didn't know about her past and even she doesn't know about my past. Yeah I know people do arrange marriage but maybe before arrange marriage they fall in love and breakup. Its happens.

In my mind. In ARRANGE MARRIAGE you can he Happy if you doesn't share your past with your wife. And your wife doesn't share her past with you. Simply its call OK MOVE ON. Now we are married. Its call ARRANGE MARRIAGE.

But in love marriage as Vipul said in love marriage the understanding is already built between a couple you know your partner and you trust him or her.

Love marriage is better then arrange marriage in my way.

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Rnu said: (Sun, Feb 15, 2015 10:25:48 PM)    
Hello friends.

According to my view both marriages have their own value. In India there is a tradition of arrange marriage but love marriage is helpful in modern India. Because when we do love marriage with any girl we does not saw her cast. Therefore IT help to remove casteism system from India. Also love marriage help to terminate dowry system from India. But we can not forget our tradition. We must terminate these evil from India by aware people of our society. Overall both are good only people should be aware.

Thank you.

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Madhu said: (Sat, Feb 14, 2015 07:48:42 AM)    
Love marriage is only of attraction but arranged marriage is of attraction with love. After marriage they will be happy each other and they will have responsibilities, for the responsibilities and love towards their kids some couples are not divorce.

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Raman Dhaliwal said: (Fri, Feb 13, 2015 07:18:39 PM)    
According to me arrange marriage better than love marriage. Because our parents are our god. They do not consider about their children. And children do not know about good and bad. As we know that love is blind than how we believe in blind relation.

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Niranjan Meena said: (Wed, Feb 11, 2015 07:03:15 PM)    
I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage because at this time in India dowry system in arrange marriage and this is not a marriage who love each other this is compromise between family. Bride take some money, car and other item for marriage with a girl. So if we want to remove dowry system than love marriage is good.

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Anuj Garg said: (Wed, Feb 11, 2015 04:52:22 AM)    
I can say both are same but main thing is that how we treat each other because we know each other only and after we live together under one roof. By living under one roof we can know best and the worst part of HE/SHE because we always present our good part when we are in love.

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Pooja Gupta said: (Tue, Feb 10, 2015 07:40:03 PM)    
Hi friend.

I think love marriage is better then arrange marriage. The main reason is that the couple is more comfortable with love marriage as compared to the arrange marriage. They know a lot about each other & get enough time to decide if they want to be together or not.

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Shailesh said: (Mon, Feb 9, 2015 12:35:54 AM)    
Hello dear friends,

As per my opinion arrange marriage is much better than love marriage.

People generally fall in love at the age of 15 to 25. They have an average experience of interpreting their world is 15 year or more. These 15 years is 1/5th of their life. They are unknown for the experiences what is happening the near future. Most of people said that "LOVE IS BLIND". How one can trust the blind relationship.

Generally people argue that the in love marriage they know each other very well as compare to arrange marriage. There is whole life after marriage to know each others like or dislike. Love is nothing like a attraction towards each other when the attraction is over then the love is also over.

Marriage is a turning point in the life of individual. From this point one is turning towards the responsibility. It is very necessary to starts a new life from this point. Also I want to included that people argue that love marriage is break the barrier of dowry, caste and freedom to women.

People can also remove the dowry system in arrange marriage and also freedom to women after giving them priority in her course of action in a acceptable means. Our parents know us till our birth. They know what we like or not. They have much experience about the persons behavior because they meet more people then us.

Our parents is our GOD. What they do they do for our better. So people must go with their parents never against them.

And there is whole life to fall in love. Why you take tension of these things so earlier it is your parents responsibility to find a partner for you. After marriage you can start loving each other and this will acceptable by every one and make a perfect example of perfect family.

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Anonymous said: (Sun, Feb 8, 2015 04:39:47 PM)    
In my Opinion.

Love marriage or Arranged marriage, Both are meant to marry someone, the process of marrying is different.

Love marriage : India doesn't have love marriage system, It is something which was modified version of "dating" with Indian tradition and customs. So this is Indian style of dating. In love marriages, people choose, discuss about each other, know each other's likes and dislikes. Strength and weakness and future plans. Simply " test drive " with a tag line "love". If it works move forward or else go for another test drive. Simply objectification of humans. In 21st century, we are mostly materialistic, So better to go with love marriages. We take care because we love. It's CHOICE.

Arranged marriage: Arranged marriages are ancient traditions in India. Every one stereotype's Arranged marriages as objectification of "Men". Basically in arranged marriage families make decision based on bride and grooms family background, fortune and etc. If everything matches they get married. They get Husband/wife just like we get birth or death naturally without our notice like destiny. However she/he is, we have to take care and love because He/She is our partner. Here they don't "test drive" partner's, we have to believe blindly based on "brand" (parents) It's DESTINY.

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Sandeep said: (Sun, Feb 8, 2015 02:29:07 PM)    
After listening to all the views in my opinion true love is more important rather its a love marriage or a arranged marriage. They should have POSITIVE ATTITUDE and respect for each other. Love can happen at any stage of life.

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Rahul K said: (Sun, Feb 8, 2015 09:05:26 AM)    
Love marriage is better only if they are matured and they know each other from a long time.

Here comes a arranged marriage it is better when they are immature. And if they wanted to go on a train even they don't know where to get down.

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Deepika said: (Fri, Feb 6, 2015 12:30:29 PM)    
Hi I am Deepika.

In my point of view love marriage is best.

In arranged marriage we don't know anything about our life partner and we don't know what is gonna happen in future. We need parents support if we are in love we must wait for our parents support so that our life will be so beautiful.

So I prefer everyone go with love marriages.

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Lakshmi Narayana said: (Fri, Feb 6, 2015 11:27:38 AM)    

I support both love and arranged marriages. There are many people happy in their life by love and arranged marriages. But in my views I support arranged marriages because either boys or girls are in love because he/she has wealth. After completion of marriage he/she makes them to transfer their whole wealth and killing them and going to other states and settle with others. I am not saying that all are not like that but mostly of the people are doing like that.

In arranged marriages there are understanding nature in their lives.



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Prasanth Telanakula said: (Tue, Feb 3, 2015 10:53:25 AM)    
Hi friends,

I want to share my views about love vs arrange.

I do support love marriage, in present situations of culture and activities I go with love marriage, in busy and competitive life we have to get a understanding wife, who thinks about us. There is no difference in love or arrange marriage. We do spent time after marriage to understanding in arrange marriage, in love marriage it is visa-verse. If everyone understand it India will be free from all religious beliefs.


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Prakash Thakur said: (Fri, Jan 30, 2015 08:02:17 PM)    
Hi everyone.

I would like to share my story with all of you.

I love a girl and she love me indeed but their family thinks that arrange marriage is more successful than love marriage. All I want to do is to change their mentality and I want them to know me. All we want to do is break the tradition of arrange marriage and should be free to follow our heart to write our own destiny. I don't want to ruin my life with someone who is almost stranger to me. Although I trust my family but I will not let them decide which girl is good for me and which one is not.

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Jabbi said: (Thu, Jan 29, 2015 06:40:33 PM)    
Hi friends.

In my view loving a person is nothing but we are very with that person. And feel that we can freely share our secrets with them.

But before loving we have to look over parents then it will definitely provides us the solution over love. We have to convince our parents and express our feelings with them.

Parents are gods gift by birth. But love is created by god at only certain age.

Now choice is yours. Thank you.

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Steevan Pinto said: (Wed, Jan 28, 2015 11:41:29 PM)    
Steevan pinto.

I think love marriage is the best medicine to love, care and share our feelings to each other. By understanding each other and solve all the problems can be solve in no second time. We together can believe in happiness and live happily in this world. Parents are also happy seeking that we are doing our best in life. Beautiful word love means know each other and be caring each other till world end.

Thanks you with love and care.

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Eva said: (Wed, Jan 28, 2015 10:28:39 PM)    
Hello, this is Eva. I am not Indian but I have many friends there and I would like to share my opinion.

Maybe it is not that important to state which one is better but rather to remember that this is a life-changing choice and each boy or girl should be free to make his or her own decision. The family has to give a strong advice but never force or blackmail them into an arranged marriage.

I think one should be free to decide whether accept a partner chosen by one's parents or marry the person one falls for.

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Deepak Singh said: (Wed, Jan 28, 2015 11:16:18 AM)    
Hi this is Deepak Singh,

I am in favor of love marriage, because love marriage is symbol of love and love is the gift of God. In love marriage we can understand each other very well, in love marriage there is no restriction such as caste, dowry system and social status.

Its said that love is life, and God seems in true love, God made all of us and He wants that we live with love so in my opinion love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

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Nirupama said: (Tue, Jan 27, 2015 09:13:21 PM)    
Very good evening friends.

This is Nirupama. Now a days biggest problem is love and arrange marriage. But marriage is depend only on that two persons. This point of view love marriage is better but parents and family is also important.

So their view and they think arrange marriage is better. But in love marriage they already in love and they are understanding each other. Both have knows their behaviour, weakness etc. After marriage they are adjust easily. In arrange marriage two families arrange them.

In my view love com arrange marriage is better and don't hurt parents. Because they are gods to us. If we can love, once ask the permission to marry her/him. Explain your feelings to them but just ask them. In future if we got any problem then we have their support.

Thanks for this opportunity.

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Gobinath said: (Tue, Jan 27, 2015 05:19:23 PM)    
Hi friends.

This is my first experience to share my favor. Thank you. I am favor about the love marriage. Nowadays, the every women and men had love. There is no one hate the love. But, there situation and there understanding is the first reason to breaking.

Nowadays many love can be acceptable by family. That is why means, the parents are also had a love marriage. Love is not a word, that is a life. You should said in your life, there is no love upto today? Go and ask your parents, Dad/mom gets love in his/her past.

I want to specified to you in the above paragraph's I seen this " LOVE IS A AFFECTION" if love is affection means there is no one living. So, "LOVE MARRIAGE" is better than "ARRANGED MARRIAGE".

Thank you friends to read this. Bye.

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Dibyendu said: (Sat, Jan 24, 2015 05:21:16 PM)    
Well, there is definitely no absolute correct answer to this. It totally depends on the parties involved.

Those who have better compromising ability but are yet to find the right partner, for them the arranged marriage would suit very well. It is in this type of marriage that the parties come into play ready with the goal of "marriage" at hand, and that they are required to tie the knot in a relatively smaller period of time. But if are notable to compromise in a balanced way, they end up either distancing themselves from their close ones or each other, both of which are an undesirable scenario.

In a love marriage, especially in those relationships that have stretched a long period of time, it can be very well assumed that both the parties and their close ones know each other fairly well, and that the couple themselves have gone through many hurdles and thus have nurtured a "mature" love and respect towards each other and the immediate family.

In this kind of marriage the parties know each other fairly well. A point to note here, that the parties went 1st started dating probably didn't think of "marriage" in an upfront way. This is the difference. Now depending on the parties, after marriage due to social norms and pressure, things may start talking a turn towards the worse, which they may not handle well enough and in process thoughts like "this wasn't how I imagined it/ this wasn't suppose to be" may start rolling in cause lets face the fact.

Before marriage and after marriage lives are quite different from each other. Romance is one thing and commitment at marriage level is different, especially for those who aren't prepared for whats at stake, the goal of "marriage".

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Ruchi said: (Fri, Jan 23, 2015 06:59:15 PM)    
Hello Friends,

Its very difficult to define which marriage is better but you have to know only one thing that in any relation either I am talking about love or arrange in both cases we have to understand feeling of each other. We have to make a balance between two families and we have to keep respect in our heart for each other. If you share each and everything with your life partner then in future you will get positive result with this. So its your choice you can do anything but try to put honesty in your relation.

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Ankit Gupta said: (Fri, Jan 23, 2015 06:54:41 PM)    
I should fever of arrange marriage. You can easily understand to life partner. You do some quarrel of husband or wife. Parent does solve the problem. Because arranged marriage is connected with two families not only two persons.

Now a days lovers feel they are loving each other but in fact they attract with each other. They feel we are understanding each other but why they are breaking their love. I agree with one thing 100% arranged marriages are not successful but almost all happy couples are arranged marriages.

In our India arranged marriage has very strong foundation. So it will not break easily. Marriage means bond between two souls not with persons. That possible in our arranged marriages. Love marriage is attraction. It is not a real love. Some boys do misuse the girl. It is increase the case of rape. It is the main reason of love marriage. He is not real love.


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Abhijit said: (Thu, Jan 22, 2015 07:40:09 PM)    
Hello everyone,

I am in favour of Love Marriage because in case of love marriage the bonding and understanding level between the couple is very high and they are very know each other very well.

God made love and it is the most beautiful word in the earth. And at the present time in the Earth love needs the most. If you love someone, then you will get more love from that person.

But in modern society most of the love marriage breaks because lack of understanding, lack of faith between the couples. But if someone have undying love and unending faith for his/her partner then God is surely with you. Sometimes love breaks you but still keeps you together and if you have a power to love like that then this love is called true love. And your love is surely be the full of success.

So enjoy the life with the person whom you love the most, who can feel your feelings and stand besides you in your bad or happy moments. Support love marriage and bring happiness and peace to everyone.

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Viswanath said: (Thu, Jan 22, 2015 11:57:53 AM)    
Hello friends,

In my point of view if you connect with your partner both both love and arrange marriages are beautiful.

In love marriages both the partners known about the each other and lives accordingly, so their life is beautiful.

In arrange marriages partners connect with each other no relation is better than arrange marriages.

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Bharu said: (Wed, Jan 21, 2015 03:21:57 PM)    
Hello friends,

My self Bharu.

In my opinion arranged marriage is the best. Because arranged marriage is connected with two families not only two persons. Now a days lovers feel they are loving each other but in fact they attract with each other. They feel we are understanding each other but why they are breaking their love. I agree with one thing 100% arranged marriages are not successful but almost all happy couples are arranged marriages. In our India arranged marriage has very strong foundation. So it will not break easily. Marriage means bond between two souls not with persons. That possible in our arranged marriages.

Thank You.

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Fakru said: (Tue, Jan 20, 2015 05:19:55 PM)    
Hello Friends!

I am Fakru,

My point to think a best marriage is a love marriage. The love marriage is understanding marriage. The one man and woman is understanding must. And will starting a love. The love is a union of man and woman. The any one person is continue a true love is reach to best lover (woman). Thy any one girl is continue a true love is to reach great lover (man).

So, point to love marriage is best.

Thank you.

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Sunaina said: (Sun, Jan 18, 2015 02:21:37 AM)    
Hello friend,

I am Sunaina!

In my point of view love marriage is Best than arrange. In love marriage you very well to know your partner.
You share your feeling and sadness with your partner. I mean to say that mutual understanding is more.

But in arrange marriage, understanding is less. Love is everything and marriage is a bonding of two Souls or two person. And for any relationship, trust is more important.

But now a days there is do much issues in both of love Or arrange. Someone whose love is successful then they says Love marriage is better. But that is also a real fact that Arrange marriage maintained last long time as compare to Love. It means that both marriage having some complication But I will support in love marriage.

Thank you!

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Deepak Kushwah said: (Fri, Jan 16, 2015 10:43:09 PM)    
Hello friends,

We are here to talk about and to found out the actual meaning of love marriage and arrange marriage, my point of view is that.

There is nothing and it is does not any matter if, the boy and girl understand each other very well and they know all about the feelings which they have about each other, when they get marry but now the problem is, if is it arrange or love, its depend on the situation.

But some time family create issues and they are against a love marriage but it is happened when the family do not know about what happening and not understand the situation of actual love so I feel if both the person who get married, it is arranged or love but they love each other so there is no issue of love or arrange both marriages are right on their views. So now the final conclusion is if the boy and girl support each other and wants to having a life partner, then they get married by any of the situation, thank you friends.

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Debasish Rout said: (Wed, Jan 14, 2015 11:36:04 PM)    
Love is everything. There is do much issues in love marriage & arrange marriage now a days. So one can't say that love is better than arrange or viceversa. The blessings of god on those couples whose love is success, only they can say the understanding of love but I have to say one thing i.e. arrangement is one type of adjustment.

But sometimes arrange marriage maintains last longer as compared to love marriage. I suggest to all my friends go for arranged love means selection by parents & love her/him after complete understanding.

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Namrata Pawar said: (Tue, Jan 13, 2015 01:13:31 PM)    
Love is God. God made love. Love is pure. Then why to oppose God. We make religion. A Girl or a Boy never blindly love each other they always think about there parents first. Matured lovers, They never choose a wrong person for there self or for there own family. They always think, the person whom they love is that capable to keep.

There parents happy and also think that will there parent be happy with the one they love. I only think is that parents who support arrange marriage won't trust there child, They always think there child is small he or she can not make there own correct decision.

If that is so, then why do they want there child to marry according to there own choice, If there child is not that mature to take there own decision then how can he or she be that good enough to carry the decision that seriously which you want to put on them without there wish.

Its a request trust your son and daughter they love you and they want your support to make there love story the most beautiful love story ever. Love is pure if you allow the love to come in your life, your life will be beautiful and it has that power like magnet that attract the beauty and to glow rest of others with it to. Support love marriage and make them arrange it will glow like a gold and bring happiness and peace to every one.

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Kamparth said: (Sat, Jan 10, 2015 02:22:24 PM)    
Hi dear.

I support love marriage and I did too. After marriage you will face a lot of issue with your loved one. But still you will be in love with her in your life end. Because you love her and same too from girl side, if she has the same feeling.

In arrange Marriage every thing will be decided by parents. After Marriage you can get all the support from parents but nothing will be good for you to lead a life when you both are not in love.

Without love, the marriage life is really painful.

Take care.

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Raj Kumar said: (Sat, Jan 10, 2015 10:15:32 AM)    
Hello Friends!

Myself: Raj kumar.
My views are:

I think arranged marriage is better than love marriage. In arranged marriage parents decide to whom they have to marriage their son or daughter. It is also good because parents know each other family background and education. This marriage is done in present of many people. In India I think all marriage are arranged marriage due to it demerit.

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Shravan S Ramesh said: (Fri, Jan 9, 2015 12:16:05 PM)    
In point of view arranged marriage is good, marriage is not a bond between two person, its a bond between two families and culture. In love marriage first outlook is the important thing, but days pass it will also gone.

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Jangraravi Jangra said: (Tue, Jan 6, 2015 08:26:17 PM)    
Hello, I am Ravi.

I am in the favour of love marry because there is everything openly. I think that this is the matter of understanding of a person about his life partner and his all family. What type of life he is living there. If he is frank with all that will be easy for him to solve every type of problem if he is facing. Give love to all. Then you will get more. That's why love marriage is good.

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Sam said: (Tue, Jan 6, 2015 12:03:12 PM)    
Hello friends,

In my point of view love marriage is far better than arrange marriage because the best thing in love marriage is mutual understanding. Marriage is the bounding of two souls whether it's love marriage or arrange marriage!

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Ide Ntify said: (Mon, Jan 5, 2015 02:01:17 AM)    
Hi friends.

I am in the side of Love marriage. In all life once age is that when most of peoples like some or another. But they will never talk because they'll parents are strongly against the love marriage. Its nothing that arrange marriage can only be successful. If we have decided the correct partner for all our life than it we never create any of the obstacles in all life. We can understand the feelings of our life partner while it cannot happen in arrange marriage every time. And life is so short for enjoyment so its in your hands what to do?

Enjoy the life with the person whom you love the most who can feel your feelings very deeply or get married with the person whom you have never mate.

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Yien Tharngoany Wiel said: (Thu, Jan 1, 2015 05:40:02 PM)    
Arranged marriage is better than love marriage. Since all the doubt that may occur between the partner are being discussed by not only the partner but also by the parent of the lover for along period of time and thank.

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Hari Prasad said: (Tue, Dec 30, 2014 07:42:54 AM)    
Think about your parents, whether they married by love marriage or arranged. Most of them would be married by arrange marriage. See till today they are good with each other and they lead their whole life till death successfully.

In today's society 90% of love marriage fails (only stays strong till they involve in physical contact) after that nobody cares. There will be no support from family. You can't show feeling to your parents.

Marriage is the bonding between 2 families not 2 person. So arrange marriage is good, you can love after arrange marriage. The beauty may fade away but the character will remain for long.

A small hint to those who wish to love marriage. Don't love anyone by seeing face, go for the character!

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Ravi said: (Mon, Dec 29, 2014 07:36:04 PM)    
Hello everyone, I am Ravi.

I am in the favour of love marriage because in this we already know all about our partner but I'm arrange marry total against. We are bounded here. To live happy. In arrange we can't share everything.

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Mehrab said: (Sun, Dec 28, 2014 11:47:16 AM)    
Hello. Friends I'm Mehrab.

From my points of view arranged marriage is better than love marriage b/c in arrange marriage parents supports is they're. And after marriage we will love that's enough.

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Saurabh said: (Thu, Dec 25, 2014 11:19:37 PM)    
There is no disparity between the success or failure of both. I think it entirely depends on your fortune as you could end up finding the perfect perfect partner in either of them.

The post is more in context with probability of higher success rate. The notion here sits here clearly with arranged marriage because of the following reasons:

1. Most of couple pretending to be in love nowadays are driven into marriages by infatuation. Hence, the real character of their prospective spouse remains concealed until it starts to peel off layer by layer after marriage.

2. No involvement of family means they play by their own rules. Imagine a game without the intervention of referee, one can guess the outcome apparently.

3. Love marriage couple seldom apprehend the smaller thongs or brawls that may be on decisive at the end of the day.

I don't advocate arrived arrange marriages over love marriages but I am slightly inclined towards arranged ones. Enough said !

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Keshav Krishan said: (Thu, Dec 25, 2014 11:06:17 AM)    
Hi friends as per my opinion. I say that marriage is the bonding of two souls. Whether love marriage and arrange marriage but I support love marriage there is no religion, no caste, no dowry and fully happiest life that is LOVE IS LIFE.

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Srinath Krishnan said: (Sat, Dec 20, 2014 06:38:49 PM)    
Hi Guys,

I would like to go with arranged marriage because most of the time love doesn't happen at the correct age. At that age (during school and college days) one doesn't have enough experience to choose their life partner. And in love marriages the couples would have shared literally everything to their respective partners.

So they won't have much to share after their marriage. This is trigger the void in their early post marriage life. This void is the main reason for fights for no reasons. So it is better to marry a girl as per your parents wish and start loving her after the marriage and I hope this would to appropriate.

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Deepak said: (Fri, Dec 19, 2014 02:50:05 AM)    
Hi Friends.

As per my opinion I am favoring Arrange Marriage. Since in records which attain high success rate in society.

This is all theoretical give up on that. Be practical, Who said people do not compromise and sacrifice with their partner if they are in love and marry later, they do. I think same is required in Arrange too. There are facts where people adjust, fight even after marrying when been in love and signed off divorce ultimately.

Actually they live in world of pretense and take decisions without thinking there actual life starts after marrying only which require unconditional love for each other. One more common thing in love everyone get to know about the others weakness, strength i.e. more than enough which is required and try to be a dominating part. Less dignity between partners, low family involvement and low success rates.

India is so mod these days still maintain with values, Just Dowry and Caste System should be eradicated anyways. Look at the fact, People go overseas be exceptionally modern still look for their life partner from India. Just because they can not compare Indian Values with anything else.

I am not recommending the ways to marry of course I have not rights to interrupt, exceptions are always there. Still be wise when deciding about future partner, you are whole sole taking up the decisions. Love is always right, but choosing right partner is another story.

Thanks and Seeking your valuable revert.

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Frederick said: (Mon, Dec 15, 2014 05:49:17 PM)    

To me love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Because it has a important rule in our life and it depends on how we actually get a partner in life, we may better to think twice before we act and first of all we need to follow our heart. Because our heart will bring us to the greatest. But we actually use our brain, because heart+ brain is equal to success. Success that will bring us happiness and joy in our entire life. And GOD will bless us and he will guide us to him.

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Avni said: (Mon, Dec 15, 2014 02:30:23 PM)    
Hi friends.

According to me love marriage is better then arrange. Because we born ones and we all will die one day. So why we should live our life according to other wish or wants.

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Debajyoti said: (Thu, Dec 11, 2014 12:03:39 PM)    
Hello everyone.

The topic love vs arranged marriages is a very relevant topic in today's scenario. I would cast my vote for love marriage because of the following reasons:

You could know a lot about your life partner with whom you are going to spend the rest of your life.

The compatibility with your partner becomes the best when you opt for love marriage whereas complications arise in case of arranged marriages due to ego problems and many other things.

You could also know about the family background of the person with whom you are going to be engaged if you are in a relationship with that person for a long time.

So I think that it's best if you go for love marriage as you don't want to spend the rest of your life in a complicated and haphazard way.

Thank you.

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Bidyut said: (Thu, Dec 11, 2014 01:46:57 AM)    
I would like to arranged marriage:

1. Love is Spontaneous act, so it can't be said people can't take Right Decision.

2. It is said LOVE IS BLIND. So two blind people can't take right decision for their life.

3. Love is Not everything. Other things like family background, income, caste etc also have to take care when two people decided to live forever.

4. Statistics - DIVORCE RATE of arranged marriage in India is 1% and whole world is 6% so it is more successful.

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Honey said: (Wed, Dec 10, 2014 10:52:59 AM)    
Hai Friends.

In my opinion there is no need of marriage. Many people think that marriage is to give birth and increase their family members. It is better to adopt an orphan child and to look after them without marrying anyone. I am against marriage. Like if you are against marriage. Let us see how many hate marriages?

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Shaikh Bashirali said: (Tue, Dec 9, 2014 02:50:29 PM)    
Hi friends.

Let take look that being a human we are born in our mother we either don't know that who is she? But all love is enlarge for her same to it our life is same. A arrange marriage give same type of felling which is a strong love forever.

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Zafaryab Qasmi said: (Thu, Dec 4, 2014 01:00:55 PM)    
My name Zafaryab Qasmi.

I will stay on arrange. Because it the spiritual possess. Why I am saying because in here 21th century very lover promised to her beloved that he he will love spiritually but it happens rarely which leads to break strong relation due to not keeping promises. And another point is that its up to them. And understanding will come gradually. Thanks friends.

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Azarudeen.B said: (Thu, Dec 4, 2014 10:07:07 AM)    
Hi friends, I am Azar.

In my point of view love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Because without knowing the attitude and character of our life partner we doesn't run our life smoothly. The only way to know about the life partner is love only.

Shajakhan said that"I don't say to fall in love, I just say to feel the love. Don't miss life in love and Don't miss love in life".

From the quotes it is clear that love is "one of the source to succeed in life and not the only source".

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Vivek Kumar said: (Wed, Dec 3, 2014 07:31:37 PM)    
Hi friends,

I am Vivek Kumar Ready.

First of all, I would like to say that marriage is the bonding of two souls whether That is love marriage or arrange marriage. According to time both are right, but I support arrange marriage, because it is arranged by our parents and it is more successful than love marriage. Arrange marriage long lasting. If you do arrange marriage then family, relatives & good society respect you.

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Sandeep Shrestha said: (Wed, Dec 3, 2014 07:24:34 PM)    
Love is divine and the purest virtue, if a person love someone truly (without expecting anything in return not even the given love back) then love marriages are the best option since both of them compromise each other well.

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K.Charan Kumar said: (Tue, Dec 2, 2014 09:03:50 PM)    
Hi I'm Charan kumar koribilli.

I just stay with arranged marriage because. Our parents keeping a lot of hopes on our marriage. So I don't want to disappoint my parents. Marriage is a place where we can gather all our friends and relatives and colleagues with full of love and affection so I don't want to disappoint my parents in that event.

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Sanu Saikh said: (Tue, Dec 2, 2014 12:29:09 PM)    
My name is Sanu Saikh.

In my opinion. Love marriage also right and Arrange marriage also right according to me. During to arrange marriage we don't know about life partner clearly. We think that what's nature of my life partner and what's behavior and something.

But according to our parents, arrange marriage is right and love marriage is not right. But I am thinking that love marriage is better than arrange marriage because during to love marriage we know about life partner nature behave and something. That's why we should do the love marriage. Because we will be pass my life my life partner neither parents. Thanks.

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Silversmall said: (Sun, Nov 30, 2014 10:01:41 AM)    
Well, whether its Love marriage or Arranged marriage the most important thing is to a background check on that other person. If you have a bad feeling about that other person, don't proceed.

I have seen a lot of people who had a bad gut feeling about their potential spouse when they were dating, but proceeded to marry since they were in love with them. However, marriage did not turn out to be great but sour. Some of them got divorced but others suffer silently. I would greatly suggest go in disguise or have someone go in disguise to meet your potential love interest (might not be practical). This is to make sure that the person they say are to you is actually real.

Don't fall in love blindly, but do it wisely. If you have the approval of a person from your friends or loved one regarding a person's character then proceed. Don't make wild guesses in light of an infatuation or feelings of love. Take care. Make sure your select your partner wisely whether its love or arranged.

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Kishore Nandi said: (Sat, Nov 29, 2014 04:00:06 PM)    

Love marriages better to our self because why?

When love marriage couple have any problem they solve easily but arrange marriage they can't then why they have some ego feelings. Any relationship have ego feelings they can't running successfully. So love marriages are better and best. Please don't use love just love the love it loves you.

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Haroon said: (Thu, Nov 27, 2014 10:49:05 PM)    
Hello dear, I am Haroon.

In my opinion, the love marriage is better than arrange marriage because the two couple clearly understand each other about their like dislike, feeling, behavior, character. And also they live a whole life not a hour day month.

In the above opinion some says that if in the love marriage if misunderstanding create that will go to the divorce, you are completely wrong because they know each other how to convince each other they will compromise each other and solve the problem by compromising. TRUE LOVE NEVER END.

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Jitendra Kumar said: (Tue, Nov 25, 2014 02:36:56 PM)    
Hello Friends,

As per My point of view, No marriage is good or bad as well. Our mind set or way of thing makes it good or bad. Each one's of life, every relation do have their priority & purity as well but only difference is each relation does have different meaning for every individual one. Which is depend on our deepness of the heart to understand the importance of the each and every relation.

For Example ; marriage which is a relation of purity & long lasting bonding between two similarly nature person or some time different nature person. It is just required only understanding & satisfactions which could be achieved in terms of some respect, Individual one understanding, Some loyalty & dignity & so on.

It is also true that, Actual meaning of the marriage will be attained with the happiness of individual one. Everyone also do have different thoughts or view for marriage, it;s does not means that which could change the real value & importance of this divine relation.

It also will be true that, misunderstanding or difference occurred each one of life, but in these case purity and bonding of the relation will be checked though how soon & effectively you settled down your differences.

Everyone of parents in this world do have some responsibility toward their children, they always think or wish for better life of each of children. If they choose a compatible party for their children, they are doing so, only for their happiness, not seeking for any benefit or profit. Same as, the modern generation are also mature enough to take individual right decision in their life, and parents also support their right decision too.

Jai Bharat.

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Gurunathan said: (Mon, Nov 24, 2014 07:14:41 PM)    
I supports Love marriages. It has the power to eradicate the dowry system, caste system, etc. These are the things that spoils our society for many years. To form a better society, we can support Love marriages.

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Shehnaz said: (Sun, Nov 23, 2014 07:32:25 AM)    

Love marriage is better or arrange unless and until your partner and how much compatible you two are you cannot love each other. Now-a-days, its important even in arrange marriage that both the candidates of this marital institution know each other - good, bad. There are so many cases of unregistered marital rapes and the toll keeps on increasing, that shouldn't happen. Each partner shall voice there opinion.

I think love or arranged it is always important that how much the other person is loyal towards you. How much love shall you get. We cannot completely discard either of the two ways.

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Lochan Dhami said: (Fri, Nov 21, 2014 05:19:23 PM)    
Hi friend.

It's me Lochan Dhami.

In my opinion, Love marriage is better than Arrange marriage because love is everything, love is life in 21th century all person do love marriage those person who don't love, he is 18th centuries man in love marriage both person know about each other about his habits & character therefor all person love each other don't return 18th century, Thank you.

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Sulaman Mubarak said: (Tue, Nov 18, 2014 06:17:42 PM)    

Hello there my friends. My name is Sulaman Mubarak and today I'm going to share my point of views about being married with a person who you love or not.

First, we must clear that a marriage is not just a tradition but it beyonds the limits of any relationship that could even banish all the traditional or cultural values, sometimes, in exceptional cases. If you know what I mean. Basically, a marriage is a contract between two people that they will spend their whole lives for the sake of each other no matter how much difficult times they will have to face.

Ok now get to the point, some people believe in Love marriages and mostly believe in Arranged. But the matter is WHY why they want to? Do people want a love marriage for the sake of satisfaction only or do people wanna arrange marriage in order to put a pressure or strong supervision on their partner to have a complete control.

I think neither arranged nor love marriage could help at all if anybody think like that. I believe a marriage is a process of communication to relation. More you have a stronger communication is, more stronger a relationship will be. In arrange marriages the communication factor lacks but in love marriages it never. On the other hand a sensual thread has bound two people who are involved in love relation but not in case of arranged marriage as the relation has newly started and excitement duly increases as the relation discover itself. For me whether a person do an arrange or love marriage a true spirit and determination must be needed to make the relation long life. In love marriage its a little bit easy job but for arrange marriage a little more is needed.

I am engaged and I am 21 years old and it has been 2 years ago to happen this. Its an arrange as well as love relation because everybody is happy and me and my fiance enjoying this period very much and I hope that it will help me to make my relation even more stronger than ever and now I am waiting for the day when we will finally become one. I personally believes in love marriage lol.

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Nitish Kumar said: (Mon, Nov 17, 2014 08:48:29 PM)    

I am Nitish kumar, s/o Mr.Gurar jee yadav from Chanawe, Gopalganj (Bihar).

As for as according to my arrange marriage is better than love because in arrange marriage our parents choose partner for us and they are obviously more experienced than us, so they choose better than us. And some bad condition is occur after marriage than its depends on our luck parents are not responsible for this. This may be happen in love marriage that our love would be changed after marriage.

In point of me Arranged marriages are better than Love marriages, because these marriages are arranged by our parents. As our parents will love us so much they will choose a right person only for us and if any difficulty comes also our parents can be supporting for us.

I do not say that love marriage is not good but in the love marriage we cannot find parents support as it is the sole decision of the boy and the girl they both only have to face any situations. In love marriages divorces are also happening due to misunderstanding between themselves.

But in love marriages we can understand each other perfectly than the arranged marriages. Because in arranged marriages it takes some time to understand each others thoughts and feelings. But it is better to give respect to our parents thoughts and feelings and do the things as they have grown us up by working very hard in order to make us intelligent people or to develop us.

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Shwetha.S.Nair said: (Mon, Nov 17, 2014 05:22:21 PM)    
According to me, both love and arranged are good enough. If you are in a relationship with any person then you wouldn't be able to cop-up with another person chosen by your family members.

Authors usually tells us through their books that one can never break lovers. I think its true. After understanding each others behavior very well. one takes a decision to marry (love marriage). But one can't just understand a person by taking a tray full of tea cups and giving it to our future husband or mother-in-law and talking with the future husband just for 5 mins and accepting for marriage. I hate all this things.

Listening to our parents is quite good but marrying an unknown person just by talking with him for 5 mins no never. One should always understand each others' heart, souls, tastes etc. No matter with religion, caste, states, family, neighbors, society etc. Just move on what you feel is correct.

All the best for decision takers. Actually I can't tell whether love is better or arranged because I am too small to decide it studying in 9th, anyways this war b/w love v/s arranged will go on forever &ever&ever.

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Maduri said: (Sun, Nov 16, 2014 07:05:24 AM)    

In my opinion Arranged marriages are better than Love marriages, because these marriages are arranged by our parents. As our parents will love us so much they will choose a right person only for us and if any difficulty comes also our parents can be supporting for us.

I do not say that love marriage is not good but in the love marriage we cannot find parents support as it is the sole decision of the boy and the girl they both only have to face any situations. In love marriages divorces are also happening due to misunderstanding between themselves.

But in love marriages we can understand each other perfectly than the arranged marriages. Because in arranged marriages it takes some time to understand each others thoughts and feelings. But it is better to give respect to our parents thoughts and feelings and do the things as they have grown us up by working very hard in order to make us intelligent people or to develop us.

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Rajiv Siddarth said: (Fri, Nov 14, 2014 12:33:56 AM)    
Hai I am Rajiv Siddarth.

Our topic is about Love/Arrange marriages according to mine Love marriage is better than the arranged marriages because in love they know what he/her partners does like and doesn't like things etc so they can easily understand to each other so they are happy in their future and coming to arranged marriages I saw most of the couples lives terrible life they're life because they don't know about he/her partners so they always silence in their relationship so finally my conclusion is true love never ends.

Thank you.

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Himani said: (Thu, Nov 13, 2014 05:52:03 PM)    
Hi good evening. Personally my view of thinking I totally agree with love marriage, In the love two persons are completely know each other. They are totally adjustable. They take care of one another.

Yes, our society and our family are not accept fully at this time but life is our. We live with each other not parents. If we are totally understand each other. Why should we listen to third person? Yes but we will not go against with our parents. We should understand them patiently.

In my personal opinion I think that how can we live our life with stranger?

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934758 said: (Wed, Nov 12, 2014 12:46:41 AM)    

According to my opinion, if someone ask me to choose one of them I always prefer to arranged marriage because of my family who always think better for their crop, they are experienced in actual life but it would be better if they take suggestion and intention of their son or daughter before taking any conclusion.

As we know marriage is the need of our life and you are free for your choice but remember how many couples are succeed in love marriage I think a few after getting married by this system the train of our life run very fast but for limited period and the time comes when they hate each other by taking any type of matter whatever, because there is the absence of parent who always suggest the real path of life and the bridge between the two.

So I request to all of you take decision carefully which plant you for long term profit and satiation instead of short term enjoyment and always consult with your elder who are experienced.


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Sree said: (Tue, Nov 11, 2014 07:40:57 PM)    
Hi I am Sree, I will support for Love as well as Arrange marriages, because it is not the matter that all should Love and then marry it's all up to them. It is not the matter for both Love marriage as well as Arrange marriage, its only thing is after marriage they both should understand and love each other, compromise is more important for both of them. But true love never ends.

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Lonely said: (Tue, Nov 11, 2014 07:37:01 PM)    

Love or Arrange.

I prefer Arrange, because I saw that when I am in love with my girlfriend and she also loves me but she refused me to get marry with me and she was accept that person whom her parents chosen for her and she got married with him and she lives happy today.

So it means that love is nothing it just an attraction between two person if in this world love happens then nobody will get Arrange marriage.

So please guys don't waste time on Love please concentrate on your future.

Love is nothing.

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Nirala said: (Tue, Nov 11, 2014 07:27:47 PM)    
Hi I am Nirala. I would prefer Arrange marriage, because marriage is the holy meeting of two souls or two persons, in Arrange marriage parents provides more time to boys & girls, to understand each other.

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Aaliya Khan said: (Fri, Nov 7, 2014 04:51:09 AM)    
Hey Guys.

According to me, Love marriage is better then Arrange marriage because marriage is the matter of a girl or a boy. If they have a love affair then what is wrong in it? They know each other well, they are careful for each other, they share their problems & everything with each other, they feel comfortable with each other, they know what does his partener like or what does he doesn't like, they know well about the choice of each other, they know the negative and positive points of each other, they support each other etc etc. Then what's the problem?

Mostly in arrange marriage, girls have to tolerate highhandedness but still she has to live silently. Dowry system is famous case of INDIA and funny or serious thing is that a husband plays a super-duper role in that case, he helps or support his family who always torcher to his wife expect to take a actual part to support his wife and against his family but we see very few cases in arrange marriage where a husband takes a part to secure his wife. In love marriage dowry doesn't means a matter. Boy always ready to marry his partner without any greed because he love her not money, car or dowry items.

In arrange marriage there is a deal that a girl who is mary has to live her life according to her husband as well as his family. She has to die her thoughts, her dreams, her aim. She can't feel freedom, she is going to place like a jail as and she has to live as she is any criminal. But love marriage is totally opposite of arrange marriage.

And I think parents should understand that their children has a life of their own and if he/she chooses their partner then what's wrong in it?

And childrens should remember that their parents love and care of their child and they don't want that something happens wrong with their child so they also don't do the step which hurts to their parent as well as family.

That's all.

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Oorja said: (Sat, Nov 1, 2014 12:01:07 AM)    
What matters is love and understanding, whether it is love or arrange marriage. Its ones personal choice. But time also matters. If we fall in love with somebody then it is obvious that we will choose marry him or her but if we don't then we will have an arrange marriage:P.

But world has seen that arrange marriages are more compatible than love marriages. This is because love sometimes may mean just attraction which is short termly.

Moreover in arrange marriages we don't know much about each other so we have our full life to know about each other but in love marriages we already know everything about each other so in some cases people get bored with their partners until it is a "TRUE, UNBREAKABLE LOVE" or they are made for each other.

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Gagandeep said: (Fri, Oct 31, 2014 06:33:01 PM)    
Good Morning.

I would like to share my views on the topic love marriage or Arrange marriage. In my opinion Love marriage is better then arrange marriage. When you go for arrange marriage there are many question inside your mind how would be your partner her liking and disliking, what would be her nature, her reaction towards your problems, all these create problem after marriage.

But in love marriage before marriage you very well know your partner, what is her nature, you spend more time with her before marriage. This actually helps both of you to understand each other culture and traditions.

The ultimate goal of marriage is to live with the partner whom you can share your happiness and sadness situation and are able to solve all yours problems. So its good marry someone whom you love.

So love marriage is better.


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Azhagar said: (Thu, Oct 30, 2014 04:52:38 PM)    
Hello friends,

Myself I am Azhagar, so our topic is "LOVE or Arranged Marriage". I am going to support for Love marriage. Because without love there is nothing in the world. How can you give your whole life with out knowing the person's behavior, mentality, character etc.

One should not choose life partner for parent's desire or some other reasons because we are going to live our life.

In Love marriage there is enough time for understanding each other and to decide how our life will be in future.

Even if you go for arranged marriage here also love only matters for happiest life but there is less chance for that love in most of the arranged marriages.

But everything has two sides love also has some problems but if that love is really a love then none can resist you happiest and affectionate life.

So I can openly say with out love Life is totally waste.

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Vinay said: (Sat, Oct 25, 2014 07:07:11 PM)    
Hi friends.

I am to here support love marriage but not completely arguing against arranged marriages, I think it's not a matter one agrees arranged marriages, but the problem raises when we loved someone.

I would like share some of the reasons why our parents don't agree love marriages are.

Caste feeling.
Social status.
They can't satisfy their ego by accepting.

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Aditi said: (Sat, Oct 25, 2014 12:33:28 AM)    
Hi friends,

Our topic is "love marriage VS arrange marriage:

As we all know every coin has two sides same applies in this case also. Arrange as well as love marriages have good as well as bad sides.

In case of love marriage two persons know each other very well before marriage n they decide to marry but the problem arises when they misconception love as it may be their ATTRACTION towards each other which will end in some years and can lead to a unsuccessful marriage and if it is true love no matter of any ups n downs in their lives they will make their live successful and hence marriage.

In case of arranged marriage our parents decide our partner that appears best match to them for us. This also has two sides. If we marry any unknown person without knowing him for keeping parent's heart or due to any force then it can lead to many problems after marriage but if we take sufficient amount of time to know the person, his nature, hobbies n all though chosen by parents can make a huge difference.

So I would like to conclude that it all depends on us about what to do and also our nature. LOVE between two persons can change even arranged marriage into love after marriage. It should be the wise decision taken by both bride n groom.

Thank you.

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Bhargavi said: (Thu, Oct 23, 2014 10:53:45 PM)    
According to my point of view, a successful marriage solely based on understanding between wife and husband but not on the other aspects. Coming to practicality these days both arranged marriage and love marriages stood in same place in succeeding.

Even loved ones before marriage is leaving their beloved partner alone. So understand the person whom you love and whom you marry and be a successful partner so that you can have a successful married life.

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Mohammad Arif said: (Thu, Oct 23, 2014 10:44:10 AM)    
I will give you some reasons for both arranged and love marriage.

In love marriage:

1. If the two partners have a good mutual understanding between themselves, they can handle situations very well.

2. Trust each other very well.

3. Their lives are fully dependent on each other.

4. And the most important thing they have chosen themselves for each other.

Then go for the love marriage.

In arranged marriage:

1. If you haven't loved any girl yet.

Then go for arranged marriage.

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Bhargavi said: (Mon, Oct 20, 2014 08:33:51 PM)    
Good evening friends am bhargavi,

In my point of view, I encourage both arranged and love marriages. We have many situations in society where we can see some failure love marriages and in even arranged also this depends on the person's behaviour, character, lifestyle and all.

Coming to love marriages persons on their own decides to marry each other disrespect to their parents of their parents weather it may be an attraction or love. Some people will get married of their own without acceptance from their parents in this case there will be no guidance of anyone when there is misunderstanding or any quarrel between them.

Same case if at all in arranged marriage parents will be handling situation and they will take care of them.

Am not specifying that love marriages are not good, am supporting the love cum arranged marriages.

Thank you all.

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Joseph Raj said: (Sat, Oct 18, 2014 11:04:58 AM)    
In my point of you arrange marriage is better. Because,

1. An arranged marriage is a marriage that is arranged by persons other than the two who are getting married. On the other hand, a love marriage is a marriage which is arranged by the partners themselves.

2. Unlike love marriages, arranged marriages are more stable.

3. In an arranged marriage, the couples must get the consent of their parents. On the other hand, in most of love marriages, the partners will not need the consent of the parents, or elders.

4. In arranged marriages, men are always more dominant than women.

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Sonycharan said: (Fri, Oct 17, 2014 03:12:47 PM)    
Hi Guys,

Love marriage and arranged marriage, in both words "marriage" is common, but every man/girl has right to choose their partner. If not, the parents will help in choosing the correct partner. So any way the final goal is to choose a right partner either by self or by the parents.

If you choose love marriage:

You are sure about the partners behavior (likes and dislikes).

You can set your future goal before marriage. No dowry matters in this.

If you choose arranged marriage:

You can get assured status (parents can get better status).

You will have to would yourself to get the love from your partner.

You need to adjust initially until you get clear idea about your partners like/dislikes Dowry matters here.

So finally, what I can suggest is that, "You will get both the benefits of love and arranged marriage which mentioned above, when your love can be accepted by both side parents and added a flavor of arranged :) ". So trust in partners love (either arranged marriage or love marriage) and respect each other.



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Kritika said: (Thu, Oct 16, 2014 01:00:23 AM)    
Hi everyone.

I am in support of love marriage. Yes it is true that our parents have full rights to choose a life partner for us but in today's world when a person is considered adult enough to take his/her own decisions regarding education, career, etc. Then why not this.

I agree Love is hard to find so is a difficult to judge a person you are meeting for the first time for arrange marriage. When our parents didn't allowed us to talk to strangers as a child then they can't even force us to marry one.

In love marriages people take time to understand each other to develop mutual trust and faith which do leads to successful life. Every thing have two sides.

We can trust a person we love we know from a long time but how can you anyone be sure of spending a whole life with someone they have just met and later own regret it.

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Mazid Bhati said: (Wed, Oct 15, 2014 09:55:47 PM)    
It's Mazid bhati.

In my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage because. Both partners don't know about behavior, so off-late time, craze is only love marriage and day by day increasing moreover law helps them, but this is not right because our parents loves us very much.

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