Love Marriages Vs Arranged Marriages
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Anil Kushwaha said:
(Sat, May 18, 2013 02:40:30 AM)
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Hi friends.
In my opinion love marriage is much better option because the couple are knows a very well to each other. I don't think, only love marriage or arrange marriage always succeed.
Sometimes, love marriage is successful or sometimes, arrange marriage. In arranged marriages, it takes lot of time only to understand each other. In love marriages the couple already gets accustomed to each other.
In love marriages the couple already gets accustomed to each other.
"Love marriage is great", if "love is from heart". |
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Christopher said:
(Fri, May 17, 2013 05:11:15 PM)
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Hi All,
In my point of view, love marriage is better than arranged marriage. Parents accepts their children to select their cloths. Why they shouldn't allow to select their companion?
As after marriage knowing the person who is not match for their lifestyle, nowadays we can read more news that loving someone after getting marriage for sex.
Lovers also inform their opinion to parents before they start to search for their children life partners. So we can refrain the unwanted problems.
And girls should refrain to elope from their house, it ll make parents angry and it causes the honor killing.
When parents consent for their children's righteousness wishes, there marriage is an incident unless it is an accident.
And before couples attempting the suicide, they should think this quotation.
When you believe on yourself that you can complete one thing, your mind begins to find the way to have completed the thing.
Keep the faith of a task, that shows the way to reach the task. |
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Pooja Yadav said:
(Fri, May 17, 2013 03:07:18 PM)
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According to my point views, Arrange marriage is the best one, Because we have a full from our parents. Our parents know what is good and what is wrong towards the child future so can they do the marriage with matching one for their children. In arrange marriage accepted by all the family members. Indian culture accepted arrange marriage and it had shown good result. Like nowadays a new point is coming in society called live in relationship. In this case love start after marriage giving continuous love, care, affection, understanding etc.
If we look at the stats 60 to 65 percents of arrange marriage are successful on the other side the percents of the success of love marriage are very low. After love marriage in sometime end result is divorce because there is nobody elder or family member is involved to solve their problems.
So arrange marriage better than love marriage. |
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Rayan said:
(Wed, May 15, 2013 08:32:26 PM)
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| It is really hard to say in couple lines. It usually starts with chemistry the sexual attraction. It may not last longer. Affections has to take place to keep the couple together. To develop affections the couple need to be together for a given amount of time. Here the society and the family members come into play. In arranged marriages society and the family members plays major role. The insult from the society is more than separation. Gradually kids and affections make the bond stronger. In love the boy gives everything to girl. But after marriage rights come into play. The boy expects more than giving. Good thing in love is your heart flutter for your lover. |
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Elham said:
(Tue, May 14, 2013 08:33:06 PM)
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First Hi everyone.
And then if We Say that Love marriage is better Or Arrange Marriage?
I'd go With Love Marriage See If We marry someone So it means that We are Going to stay whole life together, So if we don't know the person well We Can't be Happy To gether And Life is About To be happy So My Opinion Love marriage is good Cause in that term You can know Her/Him and Even From love marriage or arrange marriage Knowing a person is More Important ;-). |
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Pawan said:
(Thu, May 9, 2013 07:19:18 PM)
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Hello friend. In my opinion love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in love has everything which is not in arrange marriage you can know everything about your partner before marriage, in love marriage the couple thinking are match and they love together, we all know well if you love someone you will care her/him from heart, it will be not your compulsion.
Today's generation are going to first love marriage and it has been a trend, everyone want to go love marriage, the most of the movies are made of love. |
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Nischal said:
(Tue, May 7, 2013 04:01:40 PM)
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| Love marriage is much better than arrange marriage because in love marriage there is little bit chances of bad habit but there is advantages than disadvantages. But as we know if a girl loves truly someone and she get married to someone else she can't be happy forever so my opinion is that love marriage is the best if both the girl and the guy loves each other truly and honestly. |
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Sandeep.N said:
(Tue, May 7, 2013 12:39:16 PM)
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This is an interesting discussion. As a lover I know the importance of love. In love marriage, the couple (good hearted) will think that once the hearts are exchanged, marriage is done. Advantages of love marriage is :.
Knowing the person heartily and fully.
A girl can happily do what she like as she did from the beginning of life when with her parents. So she got another parent who likes more than mom and dad.
I think every parent thinks to have such a husband to her daughter.
An advantage that is important is, a true lover treats every other girl as a sister once he commits with a soul. Such couple will never do wrong and never apart from life, whereas arranged marriage may have chances of couple stepping wrong step with others even after marriage.
Many think that we have to leave parents for love, but why parents give importance to all others wish by leaving their child's wish as just water.
All these analysis easily makes us know that there is only one disadvantage because of love marriage, that is losing some relatives but not a great relation. (*Real people who love us will be with us even we do a wrong thing*). |
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Georgia said:
(Sun, May 5, 2013 11:28:33 PM)
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Hi everyone,
Personally I think the most important thing in marriage is trust. So if one should decide to get married one should be able to trust the partner completely and I'm not sure an arranged marriage gives two people enough time to really get to know each other before they commit themselves for life.
I don't see why a person cannot marry without the parents deciding to whom without being disrespectful to them. I know my parents would be open minded enough to accept the new family member of my choice. I am after all the person committing myself.
I am sure in many arranged marriages love and/or companionship has developed with time but I cannot imagine that in every arranged marriage. Of course many love marriages end eventually but I believe real love and companionship can be found and that two people who have committed themselves to each other for life by their own choice will and should do their best to make the relationship work.
Thanks :). |
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Imke said:
(Sun, May 5, 2013 09:51:58 PM)
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According to me love marriages are better than arranged marriages, as I could not stand the idea of marrying someone I do not know and perhaps do not even like. When spend the rest of your life with your partner, it is important that you know what he or she is like and that your can trust in him or her.
I know that arranged marriages belong to the Indian tradition and that they can offer a safe future and a great social status, but I think love is necessary for a well working relationship because it helps you acting as a team and you need to do act like this for a good relationship.
Therefore I prefer love marriages. |
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Rajesh Jain said:
(Sun, May 5, 2013 01:33:01 PM)
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First of all, you people should know the deeply attachment of this topic with Indian values Because we are talking about the traditional country India.
Know come to the topic :
I'm not going to tell you, which one is better love or arrange marriage in India.
I just putting some points which you should remind before taking any serious decision about marriage. Let me tell.
1. In india, not only two people marry each other but also two families comes together with true heart.
2. Caste system also matters a lot (almost in every religion).
3. Generally Boys/girls between 15 to 25 years thinks of today & totally remains in a dream world, instead of the mature attitude.
4. Parents opinions are highly accepted in India.
5. Traditional follow-ups are immensely desired according to community.
Dear Friends, India is the best country in the world with its cultural values & most people of India doesn't take any decision by frank/open attitude. So I requesting you to put these all points before making any decision on this topic.
You can go to do either arrange marriage or love+arrange marriage with permission of both families. |
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Andrea said:
(Sat, May 4, 2013 07:28:07 PM)
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I am from Germany where love marriages are normal. I don't know anyone who had an arranged marriage.
I also prefer love marriage because I can't imagine marrying someone I don't know. In my opinion it's most important to love and trust your partner and to be happy with him/her. So I want to be sure that I really love my partner to decide to marry him/ her and that's why I want to know him/her for years. But as some of you said love doesn't last forever and many couples get divorced, here in Germany about 50%, in India only 1%! Perhaps it shows that parents, who know their children from birth, will find a matching partner, because of this I can understand Indians who keep up their traditions. But in my opinion nobody should be forced to marry someone, the parents should ask their children if they want to and everybody should think about the decision, because normally you will spend the rest of your life with your partner.
But as a European girl I can't imagine to marry a man chosen by my parents. |
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Antonia said:
(Wed, May 1, 2013 08:22:43 PM)
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I prefer LOVE marriages, because not knowing the man with whom I want to stay my whole life seems wrong to me. I could get to know and learn to love my matched partner, but why do I have to marry him before?
The tradition of trusting in the parents, choosing a partner for their children isn't completely inhuman, because they want the best for their succession, knowing them very well. But the proposal shouldn't be a duty!
In my opinion the children should get to know each other before the marriage, to try out, if this relationship makes both partners happy till the end of their lives.
I think, searching for the perfect partner and finally finding him is one of the most exciting things in life, so I wouldn't want to miss it. |
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Bikram Sil said:
(Wed, May 1, 2013 07:03:33 AM)
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Some people like love marriage and some others arrange marriage.
But my point of view love is better than arranged marriage. Because nowadays you can't trust anybody without knowing him/her very closely.
And its not possible to arrange marriage it can takes long time to understand each other.
But in love marriage the two who loved each other they know each other very closely and they understand each other very well.
So its better to get love marriage. |
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Anonymous said:
(Fri, Apr 26, 2013 03:46:09 PM)
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Arranged marriage is the best according to me.
Generally young guys/girls are not mature enough to think after 10 to 20 years. Of love marriage. I observed from different people & even deeply thought about this topic, and at the last overall main thing is that, "what the hell is these love marriages all about"? We ignore our parents advise only for this bluddy 2 or 4 years love relation. We are the idiots, who can't understanding our parents true love to us for our born but we feel love about our gf/bf.
What nonsense is this feeling ? |
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Priya said:
(Wed, Apr 24, 2013 04:43:34 PM)
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Marriage is Love, Every Relationship is sweet and Happy because of Love.
Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage is same as in both Two souls stay together.
Respecting other and accepting them in thoughts make every relation strong. Everyone will have some Problems, but important is to understand the Problem is shared and half is shared with other.
Love is actually the Mental Support and help us in taking a proper decision.
Keeping loving and store all the memories as this memories are future Smiles. |
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Uday Syangden said:
(Mon, Apr 22, 2013 07:00:15 AM)
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Dear all,
Read all the opinions posted here. It's observed that most of the youths are in favor of love marriage. Those who are favoring love marriage probably are in relationship I guess. I would like to express my feeling and experience here.
Basically when you're in love, your partner seems to be the world to you. You are willing to do anything for him/her. You always think 'how it would be if you get to spend the life with him/her?'. And this should be affected by the age of the partners. If it is a premature love, it's just a crazyness. Love marriage in this case won't go well. If it's a mature one, it certainly will go well off because both are capable to judge and analyze each others and have found out that they are perfect for eachother. While being in relationship, sharing the truths about each other's family background is must. If each one of the partners accept each other after knowing all those stuffs, then love marriage is the best thing in the world.
In arrange marriage, certainly you need time to decide whether you are ready to spend your life with him/her. May be a year or half year. If you find the person is compatible with you, then such an arranged marriage is not gonna be bad. It will be a plus point if the person is of your kind. Then arrange marriage becomes so interesting in that case. Parents never think bad about you. They are always looking for your betterness. But saying that they do for your betterness doesn't mean that you have to live according to them. Happiness is the main thing. If you're in love and your parents have decided to arrange a guy for your marriage, deny them straightly.
Because, if the the guy or girl, turns out to be a good person also, then you're gonna hurt and thats the worst thing you gonna face throughout your life. Dear readers, you might have thought by now that I'm in favor of love marriage. And that's true. I always favored true love. But I did arranged marriage. If you're thinking why, thats another story. |
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Diksha said:
(Thu, Apr 18, 2013 11:19:14 PM)
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Someone old enough to be married should be mature enough to deal with their problems by themselves. Marriage is difficult regardless of whether it is love or arranged, and while it is true that in India it isn't just a union of two people but of families, I am of the belief that adults in a lifelong relationship should not need or want their families to intervene and solve their problems. Marriage takes work, understanding, and compromise. This is true whether you choose your partner or if your parents choose for you. Healthy relationships always demand communication. If you're going to marry someone, you had better well learn to talk about your problems with your partner without calling your parents for help.
People say that love marriages violate our tradition, which may be true. But maybe there are some people who don't feel that all traditions need to be followed. They aren't hurting anyone. Ultimately, parents will be happy if their children are happy. It may be difficult but if your child is truly in love with someone, forcing them to marry someone else seems cruel. Yes, sometimes things turn out well, but that isn't always the case. Respecting your elders does not mean blindly obeying everything they say. Democratic families where there is debate and discussion before making decisions are documented to be the happiest.
Yes, love marriages sometimes end in divorce/separation. And some arranged marriages end in loveless unions. Not all - some. If you want to marry someone of your choice, perhaps it is a good idea to get to know them inside out first. Learn their likes and dislikes. Their morals and value systems. Opinions. Plans for the future. You can do all of this in a safe and risk-free way without rushing into anything permanent!
Some people say that they do not know how to interact with people of the opposite sex and therefore cannot find a match on their own, and hence go in for arranged matches. Unfortunately, our Indian culture restricts boys and girls from freely interacting from childhood itself. So many people don't know how to mingle with the opposite gender. I believe that young adults should not be so restricted, yes some boundaries may be kept to prevent them from making big mistakes but they should not be segregated.
So I firmly believe that marriage should not be fixed. We love and respect our parents immensely but they should not control their children's lives and make every decision for them! Ultimately, it is the child who must live with their partner. Parents should also respect the freedom of choice that will allow people to find their true soulmates. |
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Zarrin said:
(Thu, Apr 18, 2013 12:21:13 PM)
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I prefer arranged marriages over love marriages.
I like the love to flourish slow and steady. There is no love before marriage.
Its been 7 years into my arraanged marriage and I am still learning new things about my hubby.
Its lovely. It is hard work making marriage successful from both ends. |
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Raj said:
(Wed, Apr 17, 2013 05:53:29 PM)
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| Hi everyone, I prefer to love marriage because in love marriage we know to each other, before the marriage. In love marriage love between the two hurts and any secret matter knows before the love marriage, life becomes happiness but arrange marriage is not happen these things. |
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Annonymous said:
(Wed, Apr 17, 2013 03:57:42 AM)
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Arrange marriage is a primitive concept, when there the human mind nothing better to think about, so they invented Arranged marriage. It is absolutely disgusting to know that you are STUCK with a stranger for the rest of your life, you got no options but to do as your parents tell you to. It is the kill of the heart, the body, the soul. Also, shows a society's dependence on foolishness, extreme idiocy and the over hyped FATE. But, life can be in our hands and not left to fate, we can actually live instead of BEING STUCK!
Guarantees are in nowhere people, nor the love or the arranged marriage, nowhere at all! Whatever you may do and how far you may go.
But the thing to remember is life is all about taking things in our hands, decide for themselves, life is about living up and not being STUCK. |
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Anish Kumar said:
(Wed, Apr 17, 2013 03:57:00 AM)
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| The Matter is which is the better one love marriage or arranged marriage. According to my point of view love marriage & arranged marriage are the two side of human being situation. It is that stage in which any person take a decision about own life. If we choose arrange marriage then some problem also faces & happen in love marriage, mainly this type of problem solve by to show confident, relation, understanding, feeling etc. Finally I follow that choice which is in favour of successful relationship. |
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Rajesh said:
(Tue, Apr 16, 2013 09:21:54 PM)
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From my point of view and experience, either it may be love or arranged marriage, married life completely depends on the two souls and how they understand each other especially after marriage. In case of love marriage the couple have chance to know each other before marriage, but the true behavior comes out after marriage only. So I feel it's all fate how the two souls unite and live or not or how they live.
Hope married couples understand this.
God bless you. Have a pleasant life. We are going to live only one life, so enjoy it as much as you can. |
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Anu said:
(Mon, Apr 8, 2013 05:02:30 PM)
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Hello everyone!
My opinion is that:
* Whether it is a love or arranged marriage happiness depends on the way the couple understands each other.
* Love marriage is better than arranged marriage as per now because, in love marriages the couple already gets accustomed to each other.
* It would also be good if love marriages take place with parents' permission and support.
* The main advantage of love marriages is that one will be able to speak out freely if any problem arises, but in case of arranged marriages the girl/boy would face difficulty to express the feelings as they are new to one another.
* In arranged marriages, it takes lot of time only to understand each other.
* In case of love marriages, there will be an understanding and the career could also be planned before. |
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Abc said:
(Mon, Apr 8, 2013 01:11:00 PM)
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| Love marriage is always better because you will have no surprise behaviour from your partner and in the present days who wants certificate from family if there is no understanding between the couple, and in turn marriage is something where you don't need some one to guide you about how you should behave with your partner, the couple should know each other no the parents, the parents are not going to tell you how to behave with your partner which is like baby sitting when you are at a stage where you are going to have your kids. |
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Susii said:
(Mon, Apr 8, 2013 03:52:57 AM)
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Hi!
I would love to have a love marriage but then when we think of love marriage, some of us might be thinking of those like in books/movies. But nobody's perfect and you wouldn't want to get married to someone who you've hardly known, obviously. Unless you accept the flaws and habits of your partner, then will you benefit from a love marriage. Whereas arranged marriages might be a better alternative, in my opinion, since it is not just one person you meet, your parents do choose a selection. Also your parents do want the best for you and they will look at the qualities in a person, not just looks. They want you to have a good future with this person and so you need to give it time. We can't rush on things like marriage. Timing is everything. We need to remember though that we are the ones who are going to spend supposedly the rest of our lives with the guy/girl. |
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Aighar said:
(Sat, Apr 6, 2013 04:51:45 PM)
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| This is a very interesting topic hence, we cannot say that love or arranged marriage will be successful but if the true love is there then there will be no question about the future of the married couple. The thing is how can you love the person you barely know :) But it would be difficult to pursue your parents since it is a tradition from how many generation and for them to reject an arranged marriage would be disrespecting the tradition. |
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Anita Sharma Solan ,H.P said:
(Fri, Apr 5, 2013 01:53:59 PM)
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Hi.
According to me, only those love marriages are successful where there is maturity in their relationship. They need to spend time to understand each others feelings. But now the very young generation is just fascinated towards each other resulting in marriages instantly without knowing each others much. Resulting in bitter relationship. Here comes the role of parents to guide and counsel them proper, letting them spend some time with each other, understand, accept each.
Others limitations and then go for Arranged marriages.
Even in arrange marriages, one should be allotted sufficient time say about one year, to understand each other before marriage will definitely leaf to a successful relationship. |
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Lintu Kuriaksoe said:
(Thu, Apr 4, 2013 04:48:42 PM)
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Hi Friends,
In my opinion both type marriages can be successful if they love and understand each other. Its only the "love and understanding" between two peoples works in happy married life.
I have seen aunts and uncles who had done arranged marriages, complaining about their parent's choice for them. They are not satisfied with their partner's behaviour, character, styles and all. I have heard them telling that "This is my fate". Majority people are saying that arranged marriages have more successful rates. This doesn't mean that all of them are happy with their partners.
When we look from outside, we can roughly say those who have done arrange marriages and are living together are all successful and happy. But its not the "truth". They don't come forward to say they are not happy because, they think of their children's future, family status, society's comments etc.
The view of solving problems between couples by the family members is a pure worst case. Whether its a love or arranged marriage one has to take responsibility of their own life. If family members solve the problems, then after some time if the same problem comes again. ? then you will call your parents again? and if it continues? if after your parents die? then whom will you call? Why you can't be independent?
I have more than 5 families as neighbours who have done love marriages, and are living happily. They are happy with their partners. They are not complaining. But people around are looking eagerly to their lives to point out their faults and to blame them because they have done love marriages.
I have more than 15 families as neighbours who have done arrange marriages, and are constantly complaining about the partners. But then also people say they are successful because they live together suppressing their wishes, their likes, their joys sometimes everything. Where is "life" in such type of relationships?Are they happy?Are they successful? No. They are not.
This is where "Love marriage is great", if "love is from heart". But its also a luck. If the lovers had not lied each other while loving, then love marriage is going to be the "biggest successful relation". Because both shared the truth and know each other. If they had lied while loving each other, after marriage its going to be the worst relation. Because when one lie in a relation.
The other part believes that and expect something out of that. After marriage when they come to know that it was lie its going to be worst. So don't lie in love.
In love marriage both know each other's likes, dislikes, character, styles etc. If they accept other one's character they can live happily and successfully. Only such relations are successful.
In arrange marriages one accepts other as a their fate. In love marriage one accepts other as their life.
So I say "LOVE MARRIAGE IS GOOD".
God is Love and Love is Great. |
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Ankit Soni said:
(Thu, Apr 4, 2013 02:00:38 PM)
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Arrange Marriage it is for me.
1. First of all the nervous excitement that you feel when you go to meet a person who is totally stranger to you.
2. In arrange marriage first few years would just be fun to get to know each other's likes and dislikes, Unlike love marriage where you already know the person from years and there is nothing new left to talk about.
3. In Arrange Marriage both the groom and bride will make best of their efforts to maintain the relation no matter how rough the situation are, In Love Marriage when there is something is not going the way you want none of the partners will try to resolve instead both will go in quarrelsome mode resulting the issue to be stretched further.
4. Love Marriage especially in India ends up in divorce within 3-4 years, Trust me when I say this because I have seen 6-10 couples filing divorce after love marriage.
5. A lot of the times a couples in love marriage will fall in love with each other and then at a point they lose objectivity. |
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Pashant said:
(Thu, Apr 4, 2013 08:20:31 AM)
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| I have read your views on this topic and my opinion is that love marriage should be preferred over arranged marriage because if two people know each other before their marriage, they know about each others behavior, likes and dislikes that this will help them to lead a good life ahead of them. |
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Komal said:
(Wed, Apr 3, 2013 01:48:50 AM)
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Hi,
In arranged marriages, you have to meet a person three or four times/talk on phone/may be chat and decide in a short time span whether he is a perfect life partner for you and if you are ready to spend your future 50 years with him. You don't know what he likes, what are his hobbies and all other small personal stuff which require for any marriage to work. Just here your husband is the biggest surprise in your first few years of marriage.
When it comes to love marriage, you know your partner. I cannot say you know him 100% but at least you understand whether you are compatible with him. And falling in love helps both people to open up their feelings and thoughts to their partner more easily. Means respect, love, friendship everything comes in the package.
You must have guessed by now, in my opinion, I think love marriages are better. |
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Bornmonster said:
(Sun, Mar 31, 2013 11:32:47 PM)
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| I would like to add a point here that though love marriage seems better among the two it should not be used as an escape from arranged marriage. Just because you don't know the person before marrying him or her doesn't mean that the arranged marriage will fall apart. Today people choose someone they don't truly love as their partner and get married but only to separate after few years. If a person is truly in love with someone he or she tend to compromise, if this is the case then why such compromises are not acceptable in arranged marriage. |
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Vinod said:
(Sat, Mar 30, 2013 11:14:46 PM)
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Hello friends,
In my opinion love marriage is best option because the couple are knows a very well, reliable, understanding, lots a love of springs. The guy decision take a bottom of heart that is good thing. Arrange marriage are bad because may be the partner thinking exactly opposite fever of guy then both of quarreling all the time of life, may be thinking are same then understand takes lot a time therefore life is gone more. |
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Deep said:
(Fri, Mar 29, 2013 10:03:55 PM)
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Love marriage is better as it helps to eradicate social menaces like:
1.Dowry system,
2.Caste system,
3.Family Quarrels(more understanding). |
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Ashu said:
(Fri, Mar 29, 2013 11:30:37 AM)
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Hi every One,
The topic of Arrange marriage and Love marriage is very good to talk about. In my point of view arrange marriage is better than love marriage because when you do arrange marriage it means the girl to whom you are going to be married will be in the touch of your family and also she will take some time to understand you that will not be happen in Love marriage. Hence I support to arrange marriage. |
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Amar Sonar said:
(Fri, Mar 29, 2013 12:20:11 AM)
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| Marriage is one of the memorable event in every one's life. I am in favour of love marriage because the couple knows each other very closely. But generally in our society most of the people have mind set that love is a bad thing, so without any reason also, most of the people refuse love marriage. Love is natures great gift. If we get the life partner which we want both become very happy, they will achieve great success in their future life. While doing marriage of children's parents should give importance to their children's opinion. If you thing sincerely both both love as well as arrange marriage are good one. Take decision so that no is getting hurt. |
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Aruna said:
(Wed, Mar 27, 2013 07:25:52 AM)
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| Love marriage and arrange marriage both are memorable things. Love marriage is if you marry anyone you understand before marriage and after marriage you adjust that person and enjoy life. But arranged marriage is if you marry anyone after marriage life you understand that person and life start. But love marriage can easily life growing formulas. Not at all arranged marriage also easily life grow but it would be hard work. So, be safe you decide and desire. |
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Ritesh said:
(Tue, Mar 26, 2013 12:39:33 PM)
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Hi everyone,
I prefer Arrange marriage. There are so many conflicts occur in love marriage like ego problem, no any intermediaries to resolve marriage life problem. But in arrange marriage there is a high respect towards each other (girl and boy). And surely there will be love, understanding and caring after spending time with each other. In arrange marriage as couple is having respect to each other and also get respect from society, their relation will long last.
So arrange marriage is better than love marriage. |
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Manisha said:
(Sat, Mar 23, 2013 12:11:40 AM)
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Hello friends,
In my point of view when two people are in TRUE LOVE with each other that happen by chance, by god grace, by role of destiny and not by planning. If love between the two is true then automatically there will be understanding, care, respect and all the necessary essentials to support their own married life and not depending on others. Thus lead a happy married life.
Since I believe that true love happen by chance and not by planning. So in case of arrange marriage there is only planning and no true love.
Whereas in case of true love where two people fall in love by chance and then they plan to get married. Called as love marriage is more better.
Its your life, Believe in yourself and your decision, try to be capable, follow your heart and be responsible for your decision and choices you made because you have to live your next approx 50 years. |
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Mishthi said:
(Fri, Mar 22, 2013 11:45:39 PM)
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Hey everyone. I think when two person falls in TRUE LOVE with each other that happen by chance, by god gift, by role of destiny and not by planning. If its true love then there will be understanding, care, respect and everything to lead a successful married life and you don't need anyone support to support your married life.
Since I said true love can not happen by planning so I think arrange marriages happen by planning so here there is no true love whereas in case of love marriage two person by chance fall in love and then they plan to get married. So in my point of view love marriage is better then arrange marriage.
Try to be capable in your life, follow your heart and be independent and responsible for your own life. |
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Krishna said:
(Fri, Mar 22, 2013 12:44:28 PM)
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Hi friends,
Its not possible to say in single line that love marriage good or arranged marriage is good, its depend on facts of case. But always go by your heart. If you love a person truly then raise your opinion to marry a particular person towards your family when you got settled in your life. Parents will see the following things when you tell your opinion.
Caste is the main thing, his job, character of the person, properties. If the boy is settled guy then we have more scope to convince them. Caste is the reason to swill our proposal but be strong and strong and strong about your opinion and convince them speaking pleasantly or stop talking in adverse cases but don't spoke aggressively, in any circumstance respect the parents. Don't go for foolish ideas like marriage without parents consent. Convince them n tell them why you choose particular person, be cool and patient till they show green flag to the marriage. So be prepare for this hurdles to enjoy the remaining 3/4th of our life. But the lovers get true victory when after marriage parents said you choose a correct person, we are feeling happy and our children says from heart, '' mom we want be like you in our married life. And with dad, the son says papa I want to be like you in my life''.
If the concept of love is not there then go for arranged marriage.
Any marriage do not carry forward the emotions just leave them as fast as possible. You both get convinced with yourself, who the hell the other person convince in your matters, do not quarrel before parents. Always respect them, give happiness to them. |
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Anirban Barman said:
(Thu, Mar 21, 2013 09:48:17 PM)
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According to my opinion,
Arranged marriage is better than Love marriage, because in Arranged marriage they have a lot of time to spend with each other, they have a motivation/intention to know about themselves which increases their love to binds tightly.
But, in Love marriage they had already spent their golden times & for that after marriage they slowly lose their attraction to each other. |
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Swapna Pawar said:
(Thu, Mar 21, 2013 04:20:30 PM)
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Hi friends,
I thing love marriage is better than arrange marriage. In love marriage both people understand to each other. They respect to each other feeling. Love is sharing of the thoughts, something to others. That love we make as a marriage is a beautiful life of examples in this world. I say to love marriage is become in arrange that was help of parents and others.
In arrange marriage two family are arrange but two people are not. |
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Md Hannan&Amp;Mithu said:
(Thu, Mar 21, 2013 02:27:10 PM)
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Thanks all of my friends,
Our point of argument is arrange Marriage is better than love marriage. I have a lot of reasons to place my opinion that is I like to say that love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Because When a family get their son or daughter marriage, they face to many problem.
1. They (family) don't know about both of them.
2. After marriage they wish don't happy because their character (H&W) has different.
3. They don't like them probably.
4. Probably ones family don't like to another family & quarrels with them.
5. Something is probably happened the son guilty their family.
So, lot of my reason I want to say that, love marriage is better than arrange marriage. |
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Anonymus said:
(Thu, Mar 21, 2013 01:15:50 PM)
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| Love marriage is far better than arrange marriage because in love marriage the couple understands each other better, whereas in arrange marriage is like bonding two entirely strange persons together and killing all their wishes and feelings just for the sake of society. Its the two persons who have to live their entire life together to decide whom they want to spend it with not their parents. |
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Prashant said:
(Thu, Mar 21, 2013 12:27:22 PM)
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Hello guys,
I think we need to eliminate some myths out of the way first.
Eg: "marriage" follows our values, tradition and custom. And not arranged or love marriage.
- Fights are a good sign of a healthy relationship and an opportunity to bond better. And these can't be avoided. No one can have a life without fight.
- Talking of family support it can become more of a family intervention if frequented in married life. We don't need any third party to resolve our conflicts if we understand each other.
With love marriages there is:
- More bonding already existing.
- More forgiveness.
- More potential to solve problems.
- Stronger bonding between partners even if there is less bonding between in-laws.
- Less hurried conclusion.
Now we need to eliminate the only risks associated with love marriages, like.
Risk of deceiving the partner before marriage about your biz, your income or your family.
And don't be DUMB. See if it truly is love and if there is any respect.
If the person loves you he won't ask to change.
So I think love marriage is better than arranged marriage. |
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Prateek Bisht said:
(Wed, Mar 20, 2013 02:10:42 PM)
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| According to me love marriage is slightly above arrange marriage. Because in arrange marriage the couple should not know each other and mostly they had to compromise each other. They take more time to know each other and after that they will think about their future. But in love marriage they know each other and after marriage they will think better about their future. |
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Poonam said:
(Tue, Mar 19, 2013 04:00:13 PM)
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East or West LOVE MARRIAGE is the BEST of all options. Love marriage is full of love and not compromise. But arranged marriage is all about compromise (e.g Husband is not party type. So wife has to compromise, wife is not modern. Husband has to compromise, wife is veg. Husband is a non veg. ) so many more examples. Please lets not strangle what we love doing. And so love marriage is the option because both persons know the good, the bad, the weakness of the partners.
God is LOVE. So I choose LOVE. :). |
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Minakshi said:
(Tue, Mar 19, 2013 02:47:43 PM)
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Hello friends,
According to my point of views arrange marriage is better than love marriage because marriage is not a relationship between two people but it bind two families in a relationship and arrange marriage also follow our tradition, custom and values. And if we do arrange marriage, we are obeying & respecting our parents and elders. And they can take better decision because they are more experienced, more aged and better know their children 's liking - disliking, behavior. Thant why I am favoring arrange marriage. |
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Pooja said:
(Sat, Mar 16, 2013 02:25:40 AM)
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| What is the difference, well with a love marriage you get to know each other, likes dislikes and work together to build your life. Arranged well you marry then get to know each other likes and dislikes. Only difference is that you choose the first type and your parent choose the arranged type, don't you have faith and trust in your own mind that you will choose the right partner for yourself is that why arranged is better? |
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Ajay Sikhwal said:
(Fri, Mar 15, 2013 05:08:03 PM)
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Hi friends it's me.
In my opinion love marriage is better than arrange marriage if you are supported from your family because if you face any problem in your marriage life, your family members and relatives are solve your problem.
If you have not family support then if there is something wrong between you then you can not solve the problem properly and it leads to divorce.
In my view successful percentage of successful. |
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Shivram Saini said:
(Fri, Mar 15, 2013 04:50:48 PM)
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In my opinion Love marriage is better than arrange marriage if you have family support.
Because after marriage if something goes wrong then our relatives and family members solve problem.
But if you have no family support then arrange marriage is best. Because family support is there. |
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Aditya S said:
(Thu, Mar 14, 2013 06:12:40 PM)
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Hello Friends,
As per my opinion you should marry that person being with whom you can achieve your desired goal of life irrespective of love or arrange marriage it is. And I think this will only happen when love is not limited to physical appearance. You should be able to match your frequency completely with your partner which is according to me is true love.
In case of arrange marriage the decision should not be left completely to the family but respecting feelings of your parents you should spend some time with the person who has been chosen for you to judge whether his/her thinking matches yours or not. |
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Amarjeet Kumar said:
(Tue, Mar 12, 2013 04:13:42 PM)
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It is my thinking.
Arrange marriage is much better then love marriage because Love marriage is just the emotional decision of young boys and girl. But both marriages are true, because love is the most important thing of our life so therefore two people needs to understand each other than both marriages are good.
Thanks. |
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Shammas. said:
(Mon, Mar 11, 2013 11:28:46 PM)
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Marriage is a social contract among men and women. Love marriage vs arranged marriage;this is the issue nowadays. So in my point of view arranged marriage is better way than love marriage. Because we can't give up the impenetrable relations with our family members and society.
But in the case of love marriage, it is too chuffed for us if it is with the consents of parents. So they should convince their love affair it will embolden their further steps. |
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Veer Soni said:
(Mon, Mar 11, 2013 04:05:34 PM)
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| I prefer LOVE MARRIAGE because. I have personally done that and I m too much happy with my wife. We understand each other so well that there is never fight between us. And here above I read that if there is any misunderstanding or fight between couples elders will help to solve in arrange marriage. But I say why there should be misunderstanding and fight if you have good understanding with your partner. You have to trust whom you love. And that is built from the beginning. For that you need to be friends first and of course after marriage in arrange type husband and wife can't be friends. Because the girl has come with the direct relation in the house that is wife. So I prefer love marriage. |
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Prakash said:
(Sun, Mar 10, 2013 02:05:13 PM)
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Hi friends,
As per my point of view love marriage and arrange marriage have their own advantage and disadvantage.
First coming to arrange marriage we get our parent support if any problem face in marriage life. But we to compromise with many type our life style.
This is mainly due to because new member properly unknown to us.
In love marriage we can understand each other properly because we spend lots of time together before marriage.
But in some case parents will not support this type of marriage.
Some time love marriage held only due to young attractions. |
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Madhuri said:
(Thu, Mar 7, 2013 09:07:29 PM)
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Hi friends this is shivani,
I feel love marriage is better according to my point of view. As we can understand the person before marriage. But one more thing which is very much important is that we should obey our parents then our better half. As parents gave that much life to stand on foot. So that our soul is alive to love or to give that much affection to others.
Preferably I will go with love marriage. |
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Majid Malik said:
(Tue, Mar 5, 2013 02:12:19 AM)
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I personally think that arrange marriage is much better then love marriage because if we look at the stats 60 to 65 percents of arrange marriages are successful on the other hand the percentage of the success of love marriages are very low.
Love marriage is just the emotional decision of young boys and girl and after some time end result is divorce because there is nobody elder or family member is involved to solve their problems.
Thanks. |
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Tamilarasu said:
(Mon, Mar 4, 2013 12:30:29 PM)
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Hi friends love marriage is better because. The couples may know each other and they will discus everything frankly. But in both marriage we should share our thoughts with each other. But in love marriage there will be more forgiveness will be takes place.
Because while they are loving itself they will be understanding each other.
It will give them to live a happy life.
SO parents should know the love marriage feelings between couples then they will make Marriage for them.
So love marriage or arrange marriage. Please through the "egeo" between together. |
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Akhil C Ouseph said:
(Fri, Mar 1, 2013 08:23:41 PM)
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I am standing with the friends whom preferred "Love marriage".
We all know about our world and to where its going. Now a days our mind is getting bad by seeing bad things. We all know about, In this time how a boy and girl enjoying their loving days. Most of the love will ending on clashes. These boy and girl getting attach on other relations. They are cheating each other and the society.
So, if you get love with anyone please know or share your problems faithfully. And also get him her as your partner. It will help you to get a chance 4 happy life. |
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Rohit Rathore said:
(Thu, Feb 28, 2013 07:44:40 PM)
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Dear friends,
In my pinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage because in arrange marriage there is a consensus of family members. If in future there is any confliction between couple then it can be solved out easily with the help of relatives. |
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Ankit said:
(Thu, Feb 28, 2013 04:14:06 PM)
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| I think arrange marriage is more successful than love marriage because in love marriage the expectations of couple towards each other are very high and when these expectations are not fulfilled this may cause of their separation. |
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Md Abser Jnr said:
(Sat, Feb 23, 2013 03:22:48 PM)
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| Hey Guys, It is a common topic in this competitive world. In my opinion side, Arrange marriage is better than Love marriage. In arrange marriage, The couple represents good side of all thing to each other. In Love marriage, it is totally not found. So arrange marriage is better. |
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Swarnendu Samanta said:
(Fri, Feb 22, 2013 11:05:29 PM)
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HI friends,
This is a very good topic at this time because MARRIAGE is becoming a very sensitive part of this beautiful society. About this topic my own view is that there is no difference between arrange marriage or love marriage. I think both are similar. These are two sides of a coin. Either arrange or Love marriage, the main seed of happiness marriage life is being hidden with their own mind, own behavior, compromise between them of a new couple.
But some problem may take place at the time of LOVE marriage from their family or society. This problem can be cured by straight forward discussion between two families. Besides LOVE marriage gives a happy & enjoyable life to the couple because they can get opportunity to know each other properly before marriage. This helps best life in future.
In case of arrange marriage, as couple can not get opportunity to know each other before marriage, it may bring some problem in future life. But, I think this is a very small problem for a couple. This can be easily solved by their LOVE, compromise & sacrifice.
Yet, I suggest either LOVE-ARRANGE marriage or ARRANGE-LOVE marriage can give better marriage life.
Thank you all of you & wishing a Happy marriage life to all marriage-couples. |
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Diwakar Verma said:
(Thu, Feb 21, 2013 03:41:23 PM)
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HELLO FRIENDS,
It does not the matter which type of marriage is to be done but the main thing is that what are the thinking of the couple. If they two understand each other then no difficulty will be faced by them.
If we talk about the love marriage this is good because they have much more time to understand each other and hence the life will be make easy for future. But sometimes it has seen that in love marriage the parents are not satisfy. At that circumstance mostly the girl suffers. So in my opinion if couple are doing love marriage then both try to satisfy their parents. In this condition both should cooperate each so no one will suffer in future.
On the other hand in case of arrange marriage parents are happy which is too good because in future if couple will face any problem then that time parents will try to help them to face that. But if boy and girl are not satisfy with each other then no one can do anything.
Hence as conclusion we can survive in our life if our mentality is positive. And we see every thing in a right way then there will be no difficulty in our life either it will be love marriage or arrange marriage.
THANKS. |
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Ramya.R said:
(Thu, Feb 21, 2013 03:02:22 PM)
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I am Ramya,
I have some opinion both of the parents arranged the love and support the love means love marriage is better otherwise not good for love marriage. Love marriage is waste for time but two person understanding is very good so I like love marriage. |
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Uma said:
(Tue, Feb 12, 2013 08:09:38 PM)
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Hi friends,
In my opinion both arrange and love marriage has some pros and cons. If we take love marriage it is joining of two hearts. They can share their feelings to each other.
In arrange marriage is joining of two families.
In love marriage if any problem arise between them they cannot be solve themselves. Then it lead to divorce.
In arrange marriage if there is any problem between them their parents solve the problem and join them to live together.
THANK YOU! |
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Vinay said:
(Mon, Feb 11, 2013 10:29:30 PM)
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In my opinion, arrange marriage and love marriage are at there places, no one can replace them. Both of them have pros and cons, for arrange marriage pros are: the family will be happy, if anything goes wrong b/w the couples, family will try to settle the problems.
Cons: before engagement, boy come to girls house to see her with his family, at that time if boy reject that girl, how much the girl hurt no body now but because see her family happy she sits for another match fixing, it will take some time to adjust, but nobody Knows what is the husband character, because its a traditional way of marrying more likely to be caste preferred.
Love marriage pros: take no time to adjust, now well about each other, elimination of dowry, marry other caste could be happen (by this eliminating the distance b/w caste).
Cons: A family will take time to adjust with other family, the couple will may not get good support of their families. |
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Neha said:
(Sun, Feb 10, 2013 05:21:24 PM)
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Hello Friends,
This is very common topic of discussion now a days. Love marriage vs arrange marriage in my views arrange marriages is a custom which is going on since ages but in current scenario our life's, views, way of living is changing. Everybody wants a well known and perfect life partner in case of arrange marriages this is not possible. Love marriages are much more successful as comparison to the arrange marriages if person take sufficient time to better understand the partner as well as his /her family as well. They will find them self much comfortable and better understand themselves as in arrange marriages two unknown person are not able to go further so easily. Love makes person much mature and responsible and in arrange marriages are just a result of discussion of mutual conversation done by their respective family members.
So in my views Love marriages are much reliable than arrange marriages. |
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Priya said:
(Sun, Feb 10, 2013 03:58:44 PM)
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Hi friends,
In my point of view love come arrange marriage is best. Like a coin both love and arrange marriage have some pros and corns. If we take love marriage we have the chance to share our feelings to our partner. Both can understand each other. Their life will be a planed one. But now a days some people are loving each other for time pass. If any fight arise between them they choose another person to love. It is not good. Also some school going pupils are in love. Most of this cases are only infatuation.
Also some of the lovers are doing marriage with out the knowledge of their parents. So their parents are affected mentally a lot. Some parents give up their life because of this kind of children.
Love marriage will be successful only when they do their marriage by convincing their parents.
In case of arrange marriage bride and groom are meeting in a day and they do marriage in another day. Is this fine? Society restrict the girl to speaking to the strangers but allowing the girl to live with a stranger. What a society!
Arrange marriage is successful because the couples are compromising themselves that they got a good partner.
In my point of view LOVE MARRIAGE will be successful since there will be a friendly relationship with each other and they can share their daily information and they can lead a prosperous life. |
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Razzy said:
(Sun, Feb 10, 2013 03:37:25 AM)
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| As long as there is love in an arranged marriage and as long as there is a true understanding between the two people in a marriage, then a marriage is going to be successful regardless of whether it is arranged or love. |
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Pooja Kaur said:
(Fri, Feb 8, 2013 04:31:09 PM)
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| Hey guys. I think that arrange marriage is much more better and successful than love marriages. Arranged marriages are much more beautiful than anything. It is the custom coming from the ages. It is nor that, arrange marriages don't have any cons, but they should be preferred more than the live marriages, not only they bring respect between the two lives, but, between two families also. It sometimes becomes the case in love marriages that, the duo, starts disrespecting their family members but the strong influence of the other. Marriages are tend to connect not only 2 persons, but also 2 totally different families. So arrange marriages get a vote from me. |
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Winner said:
(Wed, Feb 6, 2013 11:41:00 AM)
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To marry someone you love or to love someone you marry is a matter of debate. According to me both Love marriages or arranged marriages have their pros and cons and could not be stated better than other.
While in a arranged marriage both the girl and boy have future apprehensions about adjustment with a person whom they do not know but since this kind of marriage has the consent of both the families they have support from their family and the society. In many cases when the couple finds it difficult to carry on with their arranged marriage, the family helps them to adjust and save their marriage.
In love marriage while the couple not only knows each other well but has harmony between them, they have less insecurity regarding each other but in most of the cases the families of the boy and girl do not support them. After the marriage the couple has to make a lot effort to bring back the love and faith of their family. They also have to face the hardships in making both the families bear each other. If it ends well this is fine otherwise these kind of marriages sometime lead to a lot of tension between the families who end in becoming enemies of each other, or in extreme cases violence towards each other and married couple. We all know about honor killings.
I think that whether the marriage is love or arranged, at the end the couple and both the family should be harmony. For arranged marriages girl and boy should take time to know about each other before marriage. In love marriage boy and girl should try to get the support and acceptance from their families for their marriage. |
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Muzafar Noori said:
(Tue, Feb 5, 2013 10:20:33 PM)
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Hi friends,
In my idea I go to love marriage because love live. All the world and humanity is made by the love. So if there won't be love and likeness between two person or a couple there would be no happiness. And in the other side of the issue is parents which is very important in our life without theme the life is demolish and the life is worse we also have to pay attention for their choice and wants of theme because there are no parents that be the opposite of their children, I accept that there are allots parents that they are not agree with their children in love marriage of theme but if a person is in this condition he/she has to prove the fact of love to theme and prove the power of to theme by chaining him/her self from permanently condition in to high and higher condition by the power of the love.
And at the end I want to say that before doing once think twice and always go for true love to have the best life.
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John said:
(Mon, Feb 4, 2013 11:45:14 AM)
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Dear all,
From my perspective love marriage better than arrange marriage. If couples cannot understand each other or do not know about their likes and dislikes how they can live together. Their life can just become to hell. I think life without love is not live and love can makes our like colorful. Happiness, luck and wealth exist where love is! |
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Thara said:
(Fri, Feb 1, 2013 10:57:08 PM)
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Hi friends,
In my point of view Love marriage is better than arranged marriage. Because, in love marriage both can know about them self easily. Both will have mutual understanding. In love marriage one will show his/her full love on them. That will be very awesome thing for both. Of course parents won't agree with our decisions very easily because we are still child for them. So they won't agree. But if they think of our happiness and peaceful future they will really really accept and agree our decision. The foremost duty of the couple is that they have to convince their parents by explaining how they both will lead their life together. They have to bring hope one their marriage life. If you are able to make a girl/boy to love you within 5 or some 10 years, you would be able to convince your parents who brought you up to this level. So that you can lead a long marriage life with their blessings. Thank you. |
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Kamran Ali Buriro said:
(Thu, Jan 31, 2013 09:46:58 PM)
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Hi friends.
I am Kamran Ali Buriro.
In my points of view is arrange marriage is better then love marriage because arrange marriage makes every one happy but love marriage makes the lover happy.
One thing is always remember "Arrange marriage wife respect your parents but love marriage wife does not respect your parents". |
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Deepak said:
(Mon, Jan 28, 2013 10:07:45 PM)
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See, if you are in love with anyone and want to marry with his/her, then tell your parents about that and if your parents are agree and ready for this marriage, Then, I must want to say Congratulations ! :-).
But if your parents are not agree with you, then you have no choice other then arranged marriage. Marry with his/her, who is selected by your parents, because parents are always the well wishers of their children's.
One thing always remember, ALWAYS RESPECT YOUR PARENTS ! |
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Rakesh said:
(Mon, Jan 28, 2013 09:09:11 PM)
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In my opening, love marriage is batter than Arrange marriage. If the love is true because in case of love we know to each other. And also know, about his/her likes and dislikes. And after marriage, we can make our life so romantic and happy.
And someone says that little family happy family. |
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Manish said:
(Sun, Jan 27, 2013 12:35:04 PM)
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Hi friends,
As per me I thing love and arrange marriage, the success of both type of marriage is depend of the understanding of the partners, here one point can put up that we how can we will be in a relationship with the person which we does not know for that in arrange marriage we have a solution that is engagement between the time of engagement and marriage we can understand our partner. But the most thing is to understand your partner. We can not break the hart of our parents by select the option of love marriage I thing they have a batter experience about the world and they also care for us so if we want to in the relationship of love then first we try to convenes our parents then it will be happy ending and will call love come arrange marriage. |
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Yash Thakur said:
(Sun, Jan 27, 2013 12:01:52 AM)
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| Marriage is a true blessing given by God. So friends whether it is a arrange or Love the main concern is about the mutual understanding between the both. If you are in love with someone and you feel this is the perfect partner for your future life then inform your parents and make it as an Love cum Arrange marriage. :). |
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Sushant Kumar said:
(Sun, Jan 20, 2013 03:31:01 PM)
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| In my point of view every one have their own way of leading their life, and if the understanding between two peoples are same then and only than they are able to spend their life with each other. Let me clear this to you by giving an example. If we are living with with our family in that condition we have the proper understanding about each member of the house and if it is not in that condition we face a lot of problems in living together. |
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Fais said:
(Wed, Jan 16, 2013 10:41:10 PM)
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| Hi friends. Both of the two have their advantages and disadvantages. But arranged marriage has more disadvantage because the spouses don't get to know each others likes and dislikes and they suddenly become a couple so they are gonna have a very bad time before they get to know each others likes and dislikes. |
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Bhargava said:
(Wed, Jan 16, 2013 04:23:46 PM)
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Dear All,
According to my decision arrange marriage is very beautiful and happy life. Because our parents know what is necessary to our life. Some of the life spoil because of misunderstanding and non-coordination. Arrange marriages every one can help and understand the problems. Our parents should understand the children really what they need regarding marriage. Firstly parents should understand the children's what they need any love problems or any thing else after that we have to go for arrange marriages without understanding they will jump with some one else who loves them without telling they spoil their life because if we will say means scold, beat, not sent out any where else like that cannot say because of fear. So that parents should understand the children intentions and moods.
In love marriages we should not finger on any body. But love marriages break couples at any time because misunderstanding they want equal rights both of them but no comprise in one self. But we should understand the problem equally and share equally without secret maintain. Then the life is beautiful without fight. If we really love any one we should not do mistake without marriage etc. We should be very careful and do not jump. Our parents get bad name in the neighbour and society. So we should be very careful and understand the family problems moods intentions according to that we should follow the life. |
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Preeti said:
(Mon, Jan 14, 2013 05:41:59 PM)
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Hello, friends.
I AM PREETI, I concern that arrange marriage is better than love marriage because Arrange marriage is held with the help of my family and I think that when my family is Happy than I am always happy my parents know what I like, what is good for me.
Bye, good luck. |
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Anil Kumar said:
(Sun, Jan 13, 2013 10:47:44 PM)
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The best way is to convert the love marriage to arrange marriage. Every one will be with us specially parents also.
And if its not possible then go for arrange marriage which is better in all respects then. |
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Gajanan said:
(Sat, Jan 5, 2013 01:57:22 PM)
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Hi friends.
In love marriage the faith on our partner is important. If he/she have first love then that love marriage is going to succeed 100% but oppositely if there is past belongs to somebody then we have to think twice.
Might be that condition leads to serious condition hence marriage can be failed and in most of the cases it happens.
If marriage is arranged then also such problem arises if there is past of someone belongs.
There should be proper thinking while selecting our life partner. Doesn't matter whether it is love or arrange. All life oriented concepts should be so clear regrading our partner and that should not spoil or life and our built thinking.
Do any marriage but make some concepts regarding he/she then there will not be any problem. |
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Crms said:
(Thu, Jan 3, 2013 06:34:25 PM)
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Hi friends according to me love marriage and arranged marriage both have advantages and disadvantages. In arranged marriages also we so much time to understand each other and we have to about their habits and their family atmosphere and all. In love it is more but as what we know is some times right or sometimes wrong. Parents are very important than better half, they give their life for us. So please better to make them happy as their wish either it love marriage or arranged marriage.
In which one we are happy is depends on our fate. As coming from the olden day we have to believe that marriages are made in heaven. It is not in our hands. After arrange marriage only we have understand each other that depends on us. My vote is for arranged marriage. |
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Ashita said:
(Wed, Jan 2, 2013 12:03:49 AM)
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| I don't think, only love marriage or arrange marriage always succeed. Sometimes, love marriage is successful or sometimes, arrange marriage. In love marriage, we know our partner very well, his/her like dislike. And we also know about their family and home environment. From this, you are decided from first day, what should be done or what should not. We don't compromise or adjustment with our family. On the other side, in arrange marriage, we are suddenly going to new atmosphere and observe it and then slowly slowly, adapt their atmosphere or adjustment with family. |
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Vicki said:
(Tue, Jan 1, 2013 11:02:40 PM)
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| Both has its own merits and demerits, I prefer love marriage. And I thank god for showing me my girlfriend with good character and beauty. I feel lucky. And both of us from same caste so that the major concern for parents have been solved. |
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Ajwa Mehak said:
(Sun, Dec 23, 2012 07:11:07 PM)
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| Obviously love marriage. According to me love marriage is good then Arrange Marriage because in love marriage we can easily understand like-dislike of our spouse because we know him/her very well and in arrange marriage we our family member is decide that which boy or girls is right for us so we are not able to understand his/her feeling which can be big issue in both life. |
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Dev said:
(Mon, Dec 17, 2012 06:46:04 PM)
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Hi friends this is Devraj. In my point of view I would support for both love marriage and arranged marriage. Because in love marriage we can have a time to understand each other that means we can able to know how she is, how the behavior of the girl and is she is comfortable with me and her tastes everything we can able to know without knowing anything if we married her we have to suffer in future a lot. Like diverse, misunderstanding between each other and for small small things we used to fight each other so friends please make our life partners be suitable for us and make them to be forever.
Coming to arranged marriage it is better to do arranged marriage but small disadvantage is understanding between each other. That we don't know her before, and we don't know anything about her and we are marrying her. But the advantage of doing arranged marriage is our parents that means if we get any problem in the future they are with us and they can able to solve any problem. So for that purpose.
So friends I would have been voted for love marriage because we can able to understand each other.
*If any one asks me which one would you prefer that parents or lover. I would have definitely go for parents because they given birth for us and they are like our livingoods. If else we would have to be convince our parents if they say no then we have to do there wish.
SO FRIENDS RESPECT OUR PARENTS. |
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Bhavitha Reddy said:
(Sun, Dec 16, 2012 06:31:52 PM)
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Hai my dear friends I'm Bhavitha agree with only ARRANGED MARRIAGE because love means not only love towards your lover it should be with all. If you love 1 person leaving the parents and getting away from them leaving them a great sickness is it satisfactions for you our parents are bearing us from small age they care for us, love us, provide us what ever we need they where caring us for above 20 years &in love the person just came into your life just 3 months ago and you are in love that & leaving the parents who cared us is that a love? just say if you are in love why will you you harass your lover and if you love why you will make a murder attempt on you are lover if you are a true lover you will be silent and make your lover also make to love.
How many love marriages are alive for a long period if there love is true why where they standing before the court for divorce?
Of course the arranged marriages are alive our parents give us good life partner before the marriage they see all good & bad of the selected person in the arranged marriages about 99% are successfully living only 1% is not satisfied and this is also due to some misunderstandings.
So I agree only with the ARRANGED MARRIAGES thank you. |
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Sumit said:
(Fri, Dec 14, 2012 08:46:15 PM)
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| According to my point of view love marriage is better because in love marriage we know the person to whom we are going to married. We know that person how he/she is. His /her likes-dislikes everything. Understanding also plays a important role in any of the marriage, so in love marriage there is a understanding which is already developed before marriage & this understanding become more & more stronger after the marriage. |
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Haroon said:
(Fri, Dec 14, 2012 12:04:03 PM)
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| Love and friendship are the special feelings in the world. Friendship ill never see Religion or Cast even parents are not against the friendship with other cast or religion people. When comes to Love and marriage Religion and Cast plays a very important role. |
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Chinni said:
(Tue, Dec 11, 2012 12:17:19 AM)
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I agree with you my friends.
How do we get chance to fall in love ?
What is mean by love?
Are the love marriages are successful ?
The loving person allowing her/him to talk opposite gender?
So still we have a need to continue our love ?
Do you know count of how many numbers suffered from love (physically /mentally) ?
Do love means ending of life?
Do love means forgot about our dear ones (parents) who always want our convince nice future?
If you are willing to answer the any one of the question you can go for love marriage. |
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Baikuntha Charan Das said:
(Mon, Dec 10, 2012 01:11:25 AM)
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Hi, I agree with both the marriage because true love happens at once that love makes happy life. That love is for short period of time until unless your understanding is good with our partner.
But after some days they figure out each other and that situation is very difficult to handle no parents no friends will not help you.
After some days divorce each other.
But in case of Arrange marriage family will support you in any situation.
But you can't get enough time to know each other. |
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Vidyaprakash said:
(Sun, Dec 9, 2012 12:40:25 AM)
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My opinion is that love marriage is always the best with some conditions:
1) The love must be pure.
2) You should have complete trust on your lover and vice-versa.
3) You should have the habit of sacrificing small things for your partner.
4) You both should never hide things from other.
5) You both should have trust on your love. |
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