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Vishal Pahwa said: (Sun, Sep 28, 2014 02:35:04 AM)    
 
Hello friends.

My name is Vishal.

For my opinion love marriage is better then arrange marriage. First of all I am telling you arrange marriage. If you are going with arrange marriage there is lot of question coming in your mind. Like what is the nature of your partner, you don't know anything about your partner, and more important is that you don't know her past, all that things creates a big problems in your life. But if you are going with love marriage, you know very well about your partner, what her nature, what she like, you are spending more time before marriage you know well how to solve your problem, all the situation you are easily handle that's why I am in the favour of love marriage. So I think love marriage is better then the arrange marriage.

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L@Vi Singh said: (Thu, Sep 25, 2014 08:46:42 PM)    
 
Good evening Friends.

My name is Lavi and.

I'm student of British School of Language tomorrow I'm about to speech at this topic so I saw your comments and I don't know about anything at this topic because I hate marriage.

According to me both marriage can be secure and good and if I have to select one then I will select love marriage first and second arrange marriage in second because in love marriage we knows all about our partner but in arrange marriage we have to marriage in compulsion because of happiness of our parents without know about the partner's bad habit.

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Siddharth Tirole said: (Wed, Sep 24, 2014 04:18:45 PM)    
 
I think arrange marriage is better than love marriage. Most of boys and girls have shared their opinion that in arrange marriage boy/girl has to compromise with partner about their habits both can not know each other etc. Etc.

Arrange Marriage is not "On the spot marriage" i.e. parents take the final decision after the yes/no of their son/daughter. And there is a lot of time to know each other if boy/girl says yes for arrange marriage.

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Rohini Chaudhari said: (Wed, Sep 24, 2014 12:13:11 PM)    
 
I completely agree with Vipul, that the marriage is understanding between two partners. In case of love marriage this thing is more as compare to arrange because in love marriage the understanding is already built between a couple and also had a great bonding and in case of arrange to built a understanding and bonding, caring take lots of time. According to me in case of love marriages the chances of divorce are less.

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Parag Bagga said: (Mon, Sep 22, 2014 10:20:47 PM)    
 
I believe that marriage is aggregation of two souls so we know better what our soul admires than our parents. Marriage is a life time commitment it's a perpetual habit of our society to eradicate such customs. There be never a chance of regression on our decision if its love marriage there will be no expectations and no compromises. In arrange marriage we have to compromise with every habit and the nature of our partner which ultimately will lead to frustration and fights and finally a divorce. And love marriage eradicates dowry and caste system. The goal of a human being should be towards humanity and love. Rather than involving love with their outdated thinking. I agree our parents have a far more bitter experience of life but they can't never know what kind of partner their child admires.

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Abhay Rajpoot said: (Sun, Sep 21, 2014 05:41:32 PM)    
 
Hello. I am Abhay rajput student of American institute of english language.

Love and death both are two uninvited guest nobody knows when they are comes but both are do the same work on it take its heart and anthortake its beat.

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Uswa said: (Sun, Sep 21, 2014 09:17:17 AM)    
 
It's my opinion arrange marriage as compared to love marriage is better because in arrange marriage formally boy and girl liking and two families decision are involve.

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Laxmi said: (Sat, Sep 20, 2014 06:59:23 PM)    
 
Hi friends,

I am Laxmis. I agree the topic & also we are already told but love marriages and arrange marriages are very good, now-a-days love marriages are common in the entire world but love marriage is better than the arrange marriage. Whenever love marriage is creating the problems and immediately take the divorce also. My point of view love marriage is very good but he/she already know about him/her that's way I told. I really say love marriages is creating the new relationships. Marriage is not a game & very important in the entire life.

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Rohit said: (Sat, Sep 20, 2014 03:06:34 PM)    
 
As per my view that marriage types are not important but Relations are Important to each other, if we ignore parent suggestion about arrange marriage, may be possible that to break relation between them and if we agree with parents and if we love to anyone then there is also break the relation between lover.

In both divorce also possible, no issue that why? but it is possible to any reason.

So we understand all situations and after that we decide but I also agree with arrange marriage better than love marriage due to relation with parent is more important than love.

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Jony Saini said: (Fri, Sep 19, 2014 06:44:13 AM)    
 
Hi. I'm Jony.

According to me, love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

When a person get marry with someone, he/she decided to spend whole life with her/him.

We should know about him/her before marry.

In case of arrange marry, we try to know about his/her nature, quality, likes and dislike etc. I think we have to compromise, we have to love to each other.

But in case of love marriage, we already know about each other. In case of any problem after marry we can handle easily because we know more and we can make understand to each other.

And if we get love marry after asking to our parents so there will not be matter of divorce. And it should be, we should not hurt to our parents.

Thank you.

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Bhabani Sankar Mishra said: (Thu, Sep 18, 2014 07:16:10 AM)    
 
Hi friends. In my opinion whatever be the marriage is there is no link with divorce. In both the marriages love is unavoidable requirement. People always judge the marriage according to divorce, means if there is no divorce the marriage is good whether the couple live happily. Our aim is not to focus on divorce rather on our happy married lives. Divorce is an option not a solution. Can anybody give guarantee that there will be happy married life & no divorce in arranged marriage. If No. Then we should forget about the type of marrige. We should always think about the parents & families & we have to convince if required.

* Whether it is love or arrange does not matter, marriage is a name of responsibility. Thank you.

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Divya said: (Sun, Sep 14, 2014 08:38:22 PM)    
 
In my opinion love marriage and arrange marriage both have their own merits and demerits. As per my opinion love marriage is better because here both the people get a chance to know each other well before they take a decision to be together for life long. And as far fights and differences are concerned I think before going for love marriage the couple should involve and convince their family too so that their is no room for divorce like conditions. And I find it a win win situation for both the partners and families.

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Dinesh said: (Sun, Sep 14, 2014 01:46:53 PM)    
 
I am Dinesh.

In my opinion arrange marriage is best because in love marriage more expectations will be have if that is not happen its turn to divorce but in arrange marriage its will be very less so arrange marriage will be best option.

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Shan said: (Sat, Sep 13, 2014 10:53:16 PM)    
 
Hai this is Shan.

In my opinion loving each other in before marriage is not the matter for both love marriage as well as in arrange marriage, its only thing is after marriage they both should have love each other, compromise with each other is more important in their life.

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Merlin Jose said: (Sat, Sep 13, 2014 12:05:39 AM)    
 
Hai Friends.

In my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage. Parents are the most lovable source that god has gifted us. They brought up their children despite of having so many socio-economic difficulties. They fulfill our every demand and never complain for anything. If any obstacles arises in married life they will help us to overcome it. They have an idea that what is right and what is wrong for their child.

No one cares us more than our parents. Marriage is not only the bonding between two souls but also the bonding between two families. They know the bitter taste of life more than us. So Arrange marriage is better than love marriage.

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Monallisha Mallick said: (Fri, Sep 12, 2014 02:24:05 PM)    
 
Hi I'm Monallisha mallick.

From my side I prefer love marriages because here two persons makes a very sensible decision after spending great times with each other before marrying each other and it gives them a very unimaginary happiness unlike arranged marriages.

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Amit Kumar said: (Fri, Sep 12, 2014 01:14:02 PM)    
 
Hii friends my self amit kumar, I would like to say that, love marriage is a amazing marriage, you will say how, because in love marriage we can feel each other which will not happen in arranged marriage,

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Pavi said: (Wed, Sep 10, 2014 07:32:22 AM)    
 
I think arrange marriage is better than love marriage because arrange marriage only parents will be very happy and also society will respect our parents. In marriage needs support by relatives etc. So that only most of the parents not accepting the love marriage.

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Navin Singhal said: (Tue, Sep 9, 2014 03:55:45 PM)    
 
Hello my dear friends:-

Both are the custom to bonding two soul in different ways as per their religion faith but in my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage, parents have more hope for their children. Its last longing with good relationship within all relatives. However love marriage break it in some ways, we all are well known. Someone says love marriage eradicate dowry. But as per my view there is a lot of way to eradicate dowry as well as to educate people. Its is also well known that which things we have. We usually loves them. Hence it is very simple to love he/she who newly married with arrange. Hence I m completely agree with arrange marriage.

Thank you to all.

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Shiv Kuma said: (Sat, Sep 6, 2014 05:47:14 PM)    
 
Hii. Friends. . I'm shiv.

First of all I would like to say that marriage is the bonding of two souls. So what is best for him. Its only our soul who know. . So how can parents know what will be best for their child. Therefore I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Somebody says that love marriage is not long lasting. There is lack of respect. Here I would like to tell them that. Love should be love its should not physical interaction only. If there is true love than there should not be question of lack of respect. .

Its our society who is responsible for the failure of the love marraige. For our society its not the marriage of a boy and a girl. Marriage is marriage of cast, creed, religion, social standard. Money. Which is totally against humanity. They forget that humanity and love should be the ultimate goal of life.

If our parents allow us to choose our life partner. Say make your career first n then marry to your love one. . Then there is no question of marriage failure. Love marriage also remove the dowry system, cast system and false honor. It can also bring the equality in our society.

One thing also. Our great epics also tell us about in ancient time girls are free to choose their life boy. What we call it SWAYAMWAR. So if our lord Rama lord Krishna. . Did love marriage. . Whats the problems with our society.

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Abishai said: (Tue, Sep 2, 2014 06:05:38 PM)    
 
Hi I'm Abishai Love marriage is better than arranged marriage in many ways.

First I will tell you about arranged marriage in arranged marriage the boy and the girl are met due to their parents. The girl leaves everything to just make her parents happy but she does not know about the boys character even an inch so they both tries to understand each other taking many years hoping to find love for them in each other mostly the boy finds love in these years but not in her partner but in her other new girlfriend. Which leads their relationship into a divorce case.

But in love marriage the couple already understands each other and love each other they both know each other very well before marriage when they were boyfriend and girlfriend so without wasting many years to understand each other they just live happily and confidently love marriage also helps a couple to solve their problems together they think about each other not about just themselves.

From my mind love marriage is better. I know some one would have something else they would've liked arranged marriages better than love one I'm not saying that just do love marriages avoid arranged marriages its your idea I'm just giving my opinion, its not a fact or it can be.

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Sachin said: (Tue, Sep 2, 2014 10:48:57 AM)    
 
Hi friends.

According to me marriage is a concept where everyone should get a person who will truly dedicate their feelings to you. They should be caring and loyal to you so in order to get all this love marriage is better concept than arrange as we know each others feeling, behavior, belongingness, nature, each and everything about our partner but in arranged marriage we don't know as much about them thats why when we get to know that the person is not that ideal which we need as a partner we can broke up with them before marriage in case of love but in arrange you have to follow the same after marriage so its bit difficult to understand a partner in such a less amount of time in arrange marriage so I will prefered love marriage instead of arrange.

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Praveen said: (Mon, Sep 1, 2014 02:10:44 PM)    
 
I think love marriage is better option because we know or partner very well and we also know the what he/she like or not like. And we can understand our partner very well.

When the time changes all things are changes and we should change our mentality towards the love marriage. All the man and women are right to elect husband/wife. If a couple is love each other then our social responsibility is to help them not trouble for them.

And for arrange marriage my point of view is that if a person not love a girl. Then it is our social responsibility that we arrange a girl and make a arrange marriage for them.

Because loneliness is problem and our responsibility is to solve the problem.

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Ganesh said: (Sat, Aug 30, 2014 10:31:31 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

My name is Ganesh and according to me arrange marriage is a better option as compared to love marriage because what a marriage needs? understanding compromise and of course love. But we miss the most basic and crucial element of relationship and that is trust. In love marriages because of excessive closeness couple forget to respect each other. Whereas in arrange marriages what ever be the reason culture or anything both respect each other's individuality. This is the why arrange marriages are more successful.

However exceptions are always there in both the cases if the couple tries to understand comprise love and respect each other any relationship can be successful.

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Prahitya Vishwakarma said: (Tue, Aug 26, 2014 04:42:36 PM)    
 
Hello Guys I'm Prahitya.

The presently burning topic is love marriages Vs arranged marriage. But we are missing a link that in any marriage the couple has to live happily. It is the main motto. Whatever the marriage may be the couple should have a good understanding. Then only they can live happily.

In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.

In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.

We can't say that one of them is good because in both the types of marriages, we are seeing many cases where they were taking divorce. Anyhow it should not influence on their children. So think once before doing anything.

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Narendrakumar Prajapat said: (Tue, Aug 19, 2014 07:16:30 PM)    
 
Hello friends, I'm Narendra kumar prajapat.

In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.

In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.

It is easy to adjust with the partner in an arranged marriage as compared to love marriage. This is because in a love marriage things may often be taken for granted.

Since the partners have never met before, in an arranged marriage, they care more about each others needs.

Arranged marriages help resolves domestic issues faster. There is a sense of fear of losing the partner.

For some unforeseen reason, the marriage does not work; there are many people who will support more.

In most cases, love marriages force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to tackle their own problems.

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Jeevitha said: (Tue, Aug 19, 2014 06:57:31 PM)    
 
According to me love marriage is very dangerous one. The love marriage isn't without it's own problems. Shakespeare famously wrote 'Love is blind and lovers cannot see' and according to modern research, these words are more than just figurative. Arranged marriage is that young adults do not need to dedicate their time searching for a life partner. Many believe that arranged marriages are more stable and successful due to much lower divorce rates. So compare to love marriage better than arrange marriage.

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Rahul said: (Tue, Aug 19, 2014 12:32:22 PM)    
 
According to my opinion love marriage is 90 percent good. Because which is impossible we can make possible troubles which occurs in love life. But it possible when couples are understand to each other before marriage. In most of couples families are not agree with their cast problem so this is biggest problem of love marriage. But love is different to everything like caste, age etc. So love marriage is better than arrange marriage.

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Rishi Chhetri said: (Sun, Aug 17, 2014 08:12:46 AM)    
 
Hi I m Rishi Chhetri. I just want to share my view about love marriage that I saw that love marriage there always tention because wife know the habit of her husband and afcose husband also know the habit there will be nothing to know new thing about each other and also there will be missing of first time met love but arrange marriage you will be interested to know about feeling of her and if we did marriage with the parents choice we can make them happy if we done with parents choice our next generation can also follow our rules.

Thank you friends.

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Apparao said: (Fri, Aug 15, 2014 09:19:46 PM)    
 
In my opinion arranged marriage is the better one. As our parents brought us to this stage and they expect nothing from us. It is our duty to respect them. If we cheat our parents it is not a forgivable fault of us. So, We should marry someone who is shown by our parents and begin life with them and share love to her/his along with our parents. Thank you.

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Shraddha said: (Tue, Aug 12, 2014 02:15:33 AM)    
 
Hello Friends,

Actually I wanna tell you guys what is mean by love : Love is not part time or not full time its a feeling that only understand by who really loves. Love means someones happiness that become our need that's it. That's why love marriage is more better than arranged marriage, but in case of family attachment that is possible our partner is more loving to us. Because any relation has no guaranty to life time that person makes you happy forever.

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Golu Thakur said: (Wed, Aug 6, 2014 08:18:21 PM)    
 
Hello everyone, As you all know marriage is part and parcel of life. Everyone needs a person who loves them, understands them, makes them feel special, at any stage of life. What is life without love - Null. So presence of love in life is as essential as air, food and water. Without love anyone may look alive but he is not.

So, in my opinion love is important. It really does not matter whether it is love or arrange marriage. No offence but some people are saying that in love marriage the partners know each others likes and dislikes. For your kind information gentleman, now a days in arrange marriage also the partners are being given an adequate time to know each other through phone or by meetings of the partners. Yeah, I accept that it may not have widespread yet, but the initiatives have been taken and soon it will become common in India. Only love that is essential and nothing else. If love is there then in arrange marriage also there will be no harm to the bride for any dowry or such awkward things. So, we should love everyone and that's all.

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Dia said: (Wed, Aug 6, 2014 01:53:03 AM)    
 
Hello Everybody.

I'm Dia.

In my point of view marriage is still a gamble be it arrange or love marriage. The only advantage in love marriage is that we get to know our partner and his background but you can't expect that behaviour to stay forever. In our country there are more of arrange marriages successful so I think its just a commitment that matter be it arrange or love. Just that both the partners need to be matured enough throughout the journey.

Thank you.

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Dev said: (Tue, Aug 5, 2014 06:23:11 PM)    
 
Hello Friends.

In my view love marriage is better than arranged marriage. First of all in love marriage there is no religion, no caste, no dowry and happiest life. Marriage is not depend on our parents only, its the main thing for our own life or future. If you know very well to your partner then you can discuss about your family member with her/him & may be they understand your family before marriage, but in arrange marriage it can't possible. ! LOVE IS LIFE, you have to choose your life. !

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Pooja Gupta said: (Mon, Aug 4, 2014 04:00:11 PM)    
 
In my opinion arrange marriage is better than love because in arrange marriage our parents choose partner for us and they are obviously more experienced than us, so they choose better than us. And some bad condition is occur after marriage than its depends on our luck parents are not responsible for this. This may be happen in love marriage that our love would be changed after marriage.

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Sachin Jani said: (Thu, Jul 31, 2014 10:22:08 AM)    
 
Hi Friends.

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to talk on this subject.

My personal opinion is that love marriages are better than arranged marriages. In love marriage you are in relationship with the opposite person. Hence you very well know the kind of person your spouse would br. You are well aware of his/ her taste, mood and what makes them happy. You are at an advantage from the arranged marriage guys because you know them from beginning. Also todays world we are matured to think what is right and what is wrong.

Hence I would like to conclude by saying love marriages work better than arrange marriage.

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Naveeen said: (Tue, Jul 29, 2014 07:01:52 PM)    
 
Hi friend I am Naveen,
First of all I wanted to say thanks to the admin to raise this discussion.

My views are:

I supports love only because if there is love then either it is love marriage or arrange marriage everything going in right direction.

Otherwise if someone forces to marriage then its not good for both.

I think in any condition girl suffers more than boy, because girl left her house, her parents brothers, sisters. With whom she lived from childhood. So its a task for boy to remembers the feeling of girl and make her happy in any situation.

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Arun Kumar said: (Mon, Jul 28, 2014 10:54:50 PM)    
 
In my point of view, happiness is depends upon doesn't either love marriage nor arranged marriage, happiness is depends upon only on how much loving with each other in their lives. Love and arranged marriages both depends upon their situations. On the other hand some families are support to the love marriages in rare cases but most of the people encourage the arranged marriages in now a days. For instance in India most of the people support to the arranged marriages. Only the best thing is happy life is depends upon only their mutual understandings and respect their opinions with each other. Thank you Friends.

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Seralathan said: (Sun, Jul 27, 2014 02:32:42 AM)    
 
Dear girls/boys, don't get attached to anyone without using your head. It is very difficult to judge anyone by their appearance, speech and reaction to you. He/may be a paranoid, incompetent, useless person. You can know the other side of that person only after marriage.

We see millions of them blindly in love, unaware of the real world in roads, workplace, net etc.

Love is a very strong feeling created by nature for procreation, essential for all living things.

If anyone take decision under the strong influence of any emotions, we are bound to wrong.

Unlike animals we have the responsibility for bringing up our offspring to a good position for which we need many more things.

Better get opinion of others, deeply interested in us and who can think unbiased.

Love is good if it is wise. It is disastrous if it is blind and without forethought.

LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH!

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Gaurav Joshi said: (Thu, Jul 24, 2014 08:39:09 PM)    
 
Hello friends,

It doesn't really matter whether its a love marriage or a arranged one. The focal point is that 2 persons should be married if they understand each other either by love or by some arrangement. So love marriage does have a definite advantage over its counterpart.

Love marriage has less probability of breaking up of relationships and hence these are long term prospect.

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Swathi Latchireddi said: (Wed, Jul 23, 2014 08:59:30 AM)    
 
Hello everyone.

I'm Swathi.

I agree with all your opinions what you have said earlier. In my point of view "both love and arranged marriages are completely based on their family situations. What I mean to say is, if you are having good and enough relation with your family members then you don't get time to fall in love. Those people can easily choose their life partner through arranged marriages, because they can discuss freely if there is going to be wrong.

So my sincere advice is just try to move freely with your parents as it can be as possible, because "if we get attachment from the adjustments, then we can get more relations". I'm not telling you should adjust yourself, just think in matured way. And if your relation with your parents are not good as earlier, then you go with love marriage and try to convince your parents. I'm not blaming love. I respect it very much. Love is true, but not lovers. So be careful.

Thanking.

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Rahul Dutt said: (Tue, Jul 22, 2014 02:41:43 PM)    
 
I think both are good but all depend on the condition and situation. We are getting modern in physical manner not mental. We have to change our thinking according to time. I think it is must.

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Aman Kumar said: (Tue, Jul 22, 2014 11:19:15 AM)    
 
Hello friends acc to my point of view arrange marriage and love marriage are both good acc to the situation because goodness of both depend upon the thought of persons or family as well as society. Mostly in small cities, peoples feel respect in doing arrange marriage to their childrens, but the same is not always true in large cities where the peoples do not hesitate whether their children do love marriage or arrange marriage. The reason behind this difference in small and large cities is the thinking of the peoples.

The peoples of the large cities are more open minded than the peoples of small cities where the peoples feel respectable to do arrange marriage to their children. As we all see that in small cities mostly in villages whenever anyone do the love marriage, they may kill him/her mostly in case of girl. The real cause behind this is our society where the peoples are narrow minded. Also in small cities/villages, peoples believe to do the marriage to their in children in same religion but same is not always in large cities where the peoples find the person who can happy their child and their family.

Now I am going to discuss my about both arrange marriage and love marriage.

In arrange marriage, there's good understanding between the family of both sides. Also the family know very well about the business of boy. If their is a large time or 3-4 months time in marriage after ring ceremony, then boy and girl also know very well about each other. Also the family member feel happy and respectable after arrange marriage.

In love marriage, there is a good understanding between the boy-girl and they know very about each other. Also boy-girl find the life partner of their choices. But in love marriage sometimes family of boy and girl feel not good or not respectable mostly in villages. Also many times in love marriages, boy-girl are belong to different religion or caste.

So at last I want to say that now their is a need to change the mind of families as well as both boy-girl because if we think that the mind set of family member or society changes then they're also need to change the mindset of boy-girl who can do marriage before telling to their parents.

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Rahul Tiwary said: (Thu, Jul 17, 2014 11:03:57 PM)    
 
Hello everyone.

According to me "love marriage should be arranged!". What I mean is love marriage is better than arranged marriage in many ways, as it eradicates many problems like dowry system, caste system, religion based differences. It promotes LOVE, humanity and brings unity in the society BUT it would be " BEST " if our parents accept this fact and support love marriage until then it is just "BETTER" not the "BEST".

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Puja Vatsyayan said: (Wed, Jul 16, 2014 09:11:36 PM)    
 
I would say that love marriage is better than arrange marriage. I am not against arrange marriage but think a moment and say what love really mean to your. If two people love each other, then they can solve any problems. I know that some parents are not in support of it but believe me all parents want happiness of their child. So, l would like to say that the marriage in which the partners love and respect each other is the best, which is mostly seen in love marriage.

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Nehal said: (Tue, Jul 15, 2014 12:47:13 PM)    
 
According to me. Both marriages are good. The main goal should be, relation should have full of love and yes. Courage to take stand, to support your partner. If two people likes and dislikes are same that does not mean they will be good partners in future. Love marriage becomes successful then only if you know the person truly. In love marriage, if people faces some problems, many times families get never involved, but in arrange marriage family always be with you and make them involve to solve the problems.

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Anjali said: (Tue, Jul 15, 2014 01:57:49 AM)    
 
It is wrong to label any of these two marriages as bad or good as a successful marriage depends upon understanding and compromise. There is no shortage of sick people in this world and you can encounter such people in both kind of marriages whether love or arranged. We should not attach any taboo or stereotype with love or arranged marriages because, the world and people have changed a lot in the last few decades. I support both kind of marriages as both have their respective pros and cons.

In my opinion love marriages should not be looked down upon only because here the partners decide to marry before actually asking their parents. What I have noticed these days is that there is not much difference between the two as now a days the couple in an, arranged marriage is engaged and they are given ample time of months and even a year or two to get to know each other which makes an arranged marriage a kind of marriage where the parents choose the boyfriend for their daughter and tag him as her fiance.

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Rajesh said: (Fri, Jul 11, 2014 07:44:34 AM)    
 
Good morning friends.

This discussion has reached very far in its discussion and I want to express my point.

Marriage - it is something like everyone need it in their life. Whether it is man or woman everyone want someone who can love him or her, with whom he or she can share each and every aspect of his/her life. Every one need a partner to whom he can show his love. They need someone who can support them in bad phase without any condition.

Friends I was trying to explain the importance of marriage. Now coming to the point I want to say that I believe in love marriages. I want to put some valid points in favour of my opinion.

1. No dowry so no crimes related to as seen in many parts of india and some other countries where wives are killed, burnt alive just for dowry.

2. Eradicating casteism as it is very prevalent in India and so we can minimize the crimes based on casteism.

3. In love marriage both partner understand each other properly they know about various aspects of each others life, each others weakness and strength. If its really a true love based marriage then both partner can grow much more in their social life.

4. It can minimize the communal violence if our society allows love marriages in other religions.

I am saying that arrange marriage is not good. It can also flourish, it can also prove to be as good as love marriage.

But I want to say love marriage has other good aspects also. Our parents support arrange marriage which is good but why our parents can't support love marriage when it has good things related to it.

Yes there are bad aspects of love marriages also, I am not denying those facts. But arrange marriages also have many violence related to it.

So want to conclude that there is nothing bad in either case love marriage or arrange marriage but love marriages have more good facts in its favour. So I want say that if parents also support love marriage as arrange marriage there won't be any point of discussion like love marriage arranged marriage.

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Jayashree said: (Thu, Jul 10, 2014 08:53:30 PM)    
 
Hai friends,

I think the love come arranged marriage is so good for these days or after arranging the marriage the love started means they become a best couple in the world. Because "love makes everything in the world perfect". Love is a main goal for a marriage. In my point of view in both love marriage or arranged marriage if he or she must sacrifice their life for their partner. Then only they must lead a happy life. Thank you.

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Jivan said: (Wed, Jul 9, 2014 07:21:46 AM)    
 
Arranged marriages are bad, unnatural. I had one and just at wedding did not want to go through with it. Five years later, I divorced him. It was awful. It was so cold, no love. No chemistry. Like a business contract.

Go for love marriage. You actually have a reason to work things out, because you love, adore the person. I had no reason to work first marriage out. I know several friends in arranged marriages and they cheat on spouses or they are miserable and want divorce.

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Shraddha said: (Wed, Jul 9, 2014 12:00:31 AM)    
 
I think love marriage is better than arrange marriage. As in love marriage girl and boy get the time to know each other before marriage. Both can live happily if they are with their lovable partner. Love marriage can help for the development of country as it vanishes social evil of the country DOWRY. In love marriage of course girl is accepted with love not with money. Love marriage also helps to reduce caste discrimination. Generally inter caste love marriages are happened. This helps to increase strength of unity in India. But I think love marriage should be done with parents permission. And parents should understand feelings of their children.

Thank You for reading!

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Sadham Hussain. M said: (Tue, Jul 8, 2014 11:37:10 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

In my point of view, love marriage takes place in a person's life more and more happy when comparing to the arranged married person. Understanding each other highlights the happiest life together. Love marriage is better in a man's life.

Thank you.

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Utkarsh Tiwari said: (Thu, Jul 3, 2014 04:30:53 PM)    
 
Dear Friends,

Hi I am Utkarsh, As the discussion has stretched too far, I would like to cite some important points about love marriage.

1 - A love marriage is all about a bloomed friendship which blossomed into a helpful mate to a true soul mate.

2 - In love marriage, you are aware of the likes and dislikes of your partner and will act accordingly but in arranged marriage it takes time some time to adjust or to be specific to mould yourself to the requirements of other but this starting time is also the time in which love can turn into hatred and bitter disagreement which could result into divorce and other disastrous issues.

3 - For all those who think that parents are been disobeyed if you choose love marriage as an option I would like to tell that ask them once how they compromised with each other family and environment. I am sure you would get some sad compromises and after that also they compromised and just reflect that they are happy or they have lived their life to the fullest but it's not the deepest truth.

4 - The trend of love marriage where a partner belongs to same firm in which you work or your colleague is highly respectful in terms of your growth in professional life because he/she knows you better than just a soul mate but can also rectify your mistakes and support at the widest need of hour.

5 - A love marriage transformed into arranged marriage is the most settled and apt relation in which you will also gain a equal support from your parents.

6 - Talking about the well known talks on divorce in couple who chose love marriage, I would like to add that divorce is often the culmination point of a beautiful relationship due to unacceptable and neglection of couple from their parental side and society due to which the couple starts blaming on parents and relatives of the counterpart and a bitter dispute starts to rage between two beautiful souls who experienced love and support at every moment of life.

Atlast I would like to conclude that choose your mode but at the end it should be love not compellation or just a formality.

Thanks friends.

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Prince said: (Tue, Jul 1, 2014 10:00:01 PM)    
 
According to me, arrange marriage is a good choice because in this decision, parents are happy of both bride and groom.

This is the first important point.

Marriage word relate to attachment which can be strong by the trust between bride and groom.

So we should give some time to understand each other and for the strong bond.

After that life is carrying out on right track smoothly.

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Heena Goyal said: (Thu, Jun 26, 2014 05:09:41 PM)    
 
Hello friend.

I am student of american according to me love married is a successful or unsuccessful because it is a TRUE love is called love married and both person decided the married is called arrange marriage I am tell you arrange marriage is a better than love marriage because parents have no fake decision in our life. Love marriage is a not better because he or she fake decision in our life but sometime correct decision that why is a love marriage successful or unsuccessful.

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Vijay said: (Mon, Jun 23, 2014 02:13:14 AM)    
 
Hi everyone.

Its that kind of discussion that the present society is being moved upon.

In my opinion the best and the suitable idea is love followed by arranged marriage.

I had a strong reason for this - most of the present days youth fall in love at some or the other stage either during their graduation or during their working. The reasons for this are many if discussed there will be no end to it. And some these stories will be a failure ones and major part of them will be a successful stories. Behind each and every successful story, and there is a problem of whether it is a true love or a kind of an attraction what we usually call it as infatuation. And following all the obstacles as mentioned above the result comes out called as the true love. In that kind of love only I mind you that the people or to be particular the individuals will be happy and lead a successful and happy life.

But then after comes the major problem what about this society which is not wrong to be said as a caste and status corrupted society. Now the individuals has both choices one of which is not to worry of what the society thinks of them but they continue their life with or without the concert of their parents. Parents of the individuals are those who has pay for this.

Another situation being the parents who understand the wish of their children will normally agree for this. Here comes the love followed up by arranged marriage. But as I have mentioned already about there's a lot of working out before this happens. The important factor here we need to notice a point that the individuals understand eachothers feelings personally and heartfully which is a very important factor to lead a successful life.

In contrast to these any of the other things like arranged followed by love and arranged marriages are 1st made in conjunction with property, caste, honour and many others. In practical situations these may not workout properly (I mind you may not work out i.e. there may be situations where it is good but most probably) due to the mean course of understanding between the individuals problems will be arising, secrets between the individuals start increasing, there may be elders to solve the problem but I think this problem will not be solved completely and such kind of true and honest love which I mentioned before will not exist between them.

I again mention you that it is only the true love between individuals the lasts all the time or forever.

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Rachana said: (Sun, Jun 22, 2014 10:38:30 PM)    
 
Hello friends.

I m rachana.

In my opinion love marriages are better than arrange marriages because bride and groom got time to know each-other before marriage. In Indian culture. Mostly in hindu society. If we take divorce after marriage due to any problem. Then society behaves badly with boys and girls. Mostly with girls. And most of the problems occurs in arranged marriages. Because in arrange marriage both (bride and groom) don't know each other very well. While in love marriage both knows to one another due to spend long time. Both know likes and dislike to one another. :-).

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Yogi said: (Sun, Jun 22, 2014 10:42:24 AM)    
 
Younger generations make good arguments based on their newer environments and experiences that older generations may not understand. Let us stretch the argument a little further. How about love-based parents and other relations. Clearly, I am not talking about physical attraction or love, but I mean similarly thinking people who enjoy doing things together such as holiday get together(s), to relate to each other. How about choosing your parents after maturity based on who you like. If you are a drinker, you may like to chose parents who are fond of booze! If I sound ridiculous; then I agree with you, but wait for the next generations revolution, new values and thought will emerge and your even talking about marriage may sound totally off the hook. Soon kids will be made in test tubes; there will be no need to have kids and family! When you reach that stage, your family will be arranged while your inconsequential marriage will be a loving friendship that changes with time and needs of both partners like you get a job 200 miles away, your loving partner can be switched. Reasons for divorce could be:

I have got a better job and am earning more money; I can get a better looking and more loving spouse. It is time to change. So my friends keep going; nobody has any control; younger generations like newer values and wait till you get old and younger generation come up with views that will make your current ones bizarre.

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Devna Gupta said: (Sun, Jun 22, 2014 02:04:31 AM)    
 
According to me, love is all about being attached to someone. But for a happy married life you need both attachment and understanding. And you may or you may not find an understanding person in either of the case, love or arrange marriage.

So I would support any of the two. Because when you actually live together that is the time that decides well. And it is not necessary that you will find a perfect partner in love marriage.

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Dr Roshani Chawda said: (Sat, Jun 21, 2014 02:02:18 PM)    
 
Hello friends.

According to me love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Love is life, care, faith. Love is each and everything which you want in your life. It is a very deep and special feeling. Love is the secret of happiness. No one can snatch your smile from your face if your true love is with you. In love marriage we know our partner behaviour very well. We understand each other. We support each other. We accept our love as he or she is. World is a very harsh place. No one can survive in this world without love.

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K. Manoj Kumar said: (Fri, Jun 20, 2014 09:49:08 PM)    
 
Friends.

My opinion is the discussion is not necessary. Both are acceptable.

In love marriages, as already they knew about each other and if it is true love, they can live happily. Their parents will also accept his love, if he is in right path from childhood with them. Objection comes when it is wrong.

In arranged marriages, they can live happily with the enjoyment that they are going according to their parent's wish. And also they can live happily by understanding each other.

Problem comes with people's selfish mind.

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Chil said: (Fri, Jun 20, 2014 08:21:45 AM)    
 
I prefer love marriage. Marriage is done by two adult opposite sex. Love marriages usually starts with gf or bf, thats the stage where in they get to know each other, their good & bad side. If they are compatible, they understand each other more better.

I also agree that there are a lot of divorces in an love marriage rather than in an arrange marriage, however, working with alot of muslim & indians, there are a lot of them also want to get divorce. They just can't because their parents doesn't want to. And as an adult, you need to decide on your own. We can't rely on our parents all the time. For me, parents will always be there to support & guide you in whatever decision you will take, no matter what happens.

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Fareed said: (Fri, Jun 20, 2014 01:14:10 AM)    
 
Hi Friends.

Actually What I want to say that, it doesn't matter either it is love marriage or arranged marriage. The only Difference is that you know that person before you got marriage or you know that person after you got marriage, but love, caring is very important among them. Life and wife is a big god's gift if we could not understand properly then it will never come back. We are human beings not animals.

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Sohail Islam said: (Thu, Jun 19, 2014 11:43:29 AM)    
 
This is an interesting question whether Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage. In today generation most of the people think love marriage is all about loving somebody and get married to that guy or girl without the consent of parents. Love marriages can be "Arranged" by asking both the brides and grooms parents to talk with one another about the future of girl and the boy. Marriage is a life time relationship between a girl and a boy and if there is no that particular LOVE thing between these two then no marriage can survive long run of life.

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Aman said: (Sat, Jun 14, 2014 07:19:19 PM)    
 
Hi Everyone,

I just got arranged marriage two months before. I only saw girl once and said yes because of family pressure. I have lived half of my away from India and always wanted to get married the girl I love. But unfortunately it never happened. I thought it will be fine to get in arranged marriage but I was wrong. You don't know the person in arrange marriages and hardly get to meet once or twice because of conservative society in India. In love marriage you know the person well and there is love between two souls.

Now I am into a relationship where I am feeling suffocated. I really don't know what to do.

I will highly recommend love marriage over arrange marriage. Please don't ruin your life because you just want other people to be happy. They won't understand your feelings and they don't have to live with your partner. Its only you who have cope with all this shit happened after marriage without love.

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Abhijit said: (Thu, Jun 12, 2014 07:04:43 PM)    
 
Hi everyone,

My name is Abhijit and according to my opinion, I am in favour of love marriage. I think love is the feeling which connect to people as a life partner there are no EGO'S in love marriage only they share feeling with each other and also in love marriage if any conflict occur between them they can easily solve it and they would not bother their parents for their problems.

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Freja said: (Wed, Jun 11, 2014 02:43:10 PM)    
 
Hi everyone.

I'm soon up for my english exam, and my topic is actually marriages. That's why I found this discussion in the first place, and I must say that it really caught my attention. It's very interesting to read the people's different opinions. I would love to share my own thoughts when it comes to marriages:

Let me say from the start, that I am not going to blabber on about "the one true love". I don't believe that life is like "Twilight". Don't worry, I am not trying to ruin the idea of love, 'cause love does exist. I would rather say that I don't believe that there is only one love for each person. Of course there are people we would rather be with than others, but you can always learn to love someone. It's therefore possible for people in arranged marriages to grow to love each other with time.

However, I think choosing your own partner is best. It is after all you who know your feelings the best and not your parents. I guess what I'm trying to say is that both ways can work, I must admit that I would prefer love marriage myself. I would want to choose my love myself, and be sure that I know the person better than anyone by the time I'm walking to the alter. I think a good thing to have thought before every marriage is; "I love you, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you" then it can't go entirely wrong.

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Ramesj Kumar said: (Sun, Jun 8, 2014 08:20:20 PM)    
 
Hi dudes this is Ramesh. Now I came here to share my views about love and arranged marriages this is a type of question that for every one, because no one have a clarity that what type of marriage should be done. Actually in my view both are equal. In some cases love will be success. In other cases arranged are best. What ever the marriage is if we have a better understanding between each other any marriage life will be so good. So I wish that take a better choice whether it may be love or arranged. By this I say that be success in your life with out any disputes between your both couples.

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Musaddiq said: (Sat, Jun 7, 2014 04:42:37 PM)    
 
In my point of view arrange marriage is better than love marriage because in arrange marriage parents selects with their ideas and opinion. They know very well when compare to us. If you go against your parents in future you can't live a happy life.

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Suresh Chowdary Gurram said: (Thu, Jun 5, 2014 01:15:54 AM)    
 
Hai friends,

As per my view, love marriage is happening in between two hearts and arranged marriage is happening in between two persons.

No need to be worry about the marriage (either love or arranged) , after completion of the marriage, how they managing life is very important.

In love marriage there are no EGO'S. Before marriage only, they share feeling with each other.

And also in love marriage, if any ambiguity problem occurs in between them, they can easily solve with each other and mediator person is not required to solve the problem. In arranged marriage if any controversy situation or any ambiguity problem occurs in between them, mediator (parents) is definitely required to solve the problem.

In arranged marriages, if one person is educated and another person is uneducated, uneducated person don't know, how to behave outside? and outside of the world. Then definitely problem may raises.

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Ajay said: (Thu, May 29, 2014 05:44:24 PM)    
 
Hi guys! I prefer love marriage against arrange marriage because love is feelings that come from inside when you see someone, in love marriage, we have a time and chance to understand each other and also learns sacrifice, compromise etc. If two lovers get married then their life will be full of happiness and joyful. If children are happy then automatically parents are happy. In arranged marriage, our parents choose a life partner for us and we don't know anything about her or his. So love marriage is better.

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Gayathri said: (Wed, May 28, 2014 06:53:49 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

As the topic is about arranged marriage or love marriage. I just want to share my views on this so before going in detailed, let me make one thing clear that there's love after every arranged marriage and may be an arranged marriage after few love stories. What ever the marriage may be it depends on each individual to make their life happy. There people who are getting diverse in both. So its up to us to choose the better one among those to lead a comfortable life.

Love is not only considered with physical attraction if that is the case every guy wants to marry aish and every girl wants to marry shahrukh. But thats not happening. In reality also we will love the one who is more nearer to our heart then to our eyes because eyes only attracts beautiful things but heart attracts the one who cares us secretly. This is the magic which is going to happen once in everyone's life when they meet a right partner that is either in love or arrange marriages.

So, in my prospective doesn't matter arrange or love its just depends on each others understanding. I support both arrange and love.

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Sree said: (Wed, May 28, 2014 01:30:35 PM)    
 
Hi All,

I personally support for both love marriage and arranged marriage. It all depend upon the individual. Its not like a person has an affair and he/she goes for an arranged marriage with someone else saying a reason like parents' happiness is bigger than his/her happiness. If we are living happily, then definitely our parents also will be happy.

In my personal view both love marriage & arranged marriage are almost equal if the couple live happily.

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Ahmad said: (Tue, May 27, 2014 05:54:47 PM)    
 
Hi everyone my name is Ahmad and I am in favour of arrange marriage. Love marriage is being very common know a days we listen about it with our relatives, society, neighbour above love marriage I am not against of love marriage but I strongly believe that if our parents do everything for us from childhood till we get enough mature to understand what is good for us what is bad for us so they have right to get and choose a girl or a boy for us so we should to respect their emotions and feelings and we should to follow their orders whatever they want just for their happiness.

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Amit said: (Sun, May 18, 2014 10:39:33 PM)    
 
Okay, so I was trying to start a new (but related) topic at this website but it seems that I can only participate in these discussions. Since I got this thought after reading through this one, I'll post it here.

You guys are debating about love vs arranged marriages but what I would like to know is how would you guys define love. I'm not looking for a dictionary definition, nor something that weighs in too much on fatality (e.g. Match made in heaven, if it's meant to be. etc) but personally. How would you categorize something as love.

You could like someone because they're nice/polite, you could enjoy their company or maybe just their outward appearances. Both partners could fake their personality to put their 'best foot forward' so as to speak, it could be just infatuation but at what point is it true love? I'd like to hear your thoughts on this related subject.

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Singam said: (Sun, May 18, 2014 04:21:30 AM)    
 
I am not sure why people categorize marriage as love vs arranged. A real and satisfying marriages are made in heaven. I feel that before tying the knot with that special person, you have to have so much prayer, guidance from friends, elders, and most important God. If you don't have peace within yourself when you are selecting spouse, don't go for it. I am an Indian Christian and so my marriage beliefs are based on the Bible and also what is acceptable to Indian culture in general. (Hebrews 13: 4-7 (Bible).

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. " So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?" Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.

According to Biblical faith, marriage is honorable to the Lord if it is according to His will. In a Christian marriage, husband should emulate the mind of Jesus (unconditional love) to wife. When you seek a person in marriage, make sure he or she is a a Godly spouse, you'll have a blessed marriage life honorable to God and others. God bless you all !

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Bigyan Adhikari said: (Fri, May 16, 2014 07:51:52 PM)    
 
Hello everybody.

It's me Bigyan,

I would prefer love marriage then an arranged one because love is a feeling that come from inside when you see someone. And when that sense of feeling turns into a marriage then you also can't imagine how happily the life will go on till the end.

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Devesh said: (Thu, May 15, 2014 09:12:52 AM)    
 
Hi I am devesh, happiness can not depend on love marriage or arrange marriage, happiness depend on how they manage their marriage life.

If a boy or girl decides to get married according to boyfriend or girlfriend. It means he or she is selfish for his or her love. If they decides to get married according to the parents and shy of society. That arrange marriage can not be successful.

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K.Rambabu said: (Mon, May 12, 2014 01:11:37 PM)    
 
Hai friends I'm Rambabu, now I would like to tell about love marriage and arranged marriage I think that love marrige is better than arranged marriage why because in love marrige you can selected your life partner with your self then you understand your life partner feelings advancely then you don't invite the EGO problems in your life in some marriages they refuse our parents even such marriages their parents accepted theirs children's marriages.

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Imran Aslam said: (Sun, May 11, 2014 11:22:57 PM)    
 
Dear friends I think arrange marriage is better then love because first of all we are Muslims and every nations have different norms, customs, values, culture, traits and lot of expectation for him over religion says that if something you don't like your self how you can likes for others so many different causes that I don't like arrange marriage.

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Suparna said: (Fri, May 9, 2014 08:35:42 PM)    
 
I prefer love marriage because love is the felling which connects two people as a life partner. In love marriage we have a time and chance to understand our partner. Before marriage we learn to sacrifice etc.

But in case of arrange marriage our parents want to choose the best one but they are not a god that they will know everything (personality, mentality, nature) about that person in one or two meetings, it is only possible in love marriage to check our partner from the long time.

LOVE is the essential part of our life for which we can fight with everyone.

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Harpal Singh said: (Thu, May 8, 2014 02:25:22 PM)    
 
Hello friends.

My self Harpal singh I think arranged marriage is better than love marriage because love marriage is chosen life partner chosen by you and then my parents did not trust for me arranged marriage your life partner chosen by your parents your parents have respected girl and boy I think at last this decision arranged marriage is better than love marriage.

Thanks.

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Kanta said: (Thu, May 8, 2014 10:21:40 AM)    
 
Well I believe that arrange marriage is better than love marriage as because in arrange marriage partner is chosen by our parents who always select excellent for us but in love marriage partner select by us in which we are not able to say anything to anyone because no one will listen us. Secondly after marriage many things differ because after marriage responsibility increase and that time cases increase for divorce.

Kanta.

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Swathy said: (Sat, May 3, 2014 01:48:19 PM)    
 
I prefer love in arrange marriage. It is a big decision choosing a person in his or her life to spent life long. Select the person who knows your feelings and depression then we can live with pleasant life without ego and quarrel. Share feelings with your partner without hiding the thinks. Patience is important in marriage life. When we have all this quality in your love so love never fail it depends upon your choice.

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Singam said: (Fri, May 2, 2014 11:44:03 AM)    
 
Well, God created the institution of marriage. Why don't we ask Him to choose the life partner for us instead of going after our feeling or what other say? Staying in America living as an Indian, really makes me feel proud of our marriage system if done in the real sense. I am not here to criticize either love or arranged marriage. Just saying some facts. First of all, love means sacrifice, it not based on physical attraction. So even if an arranged marriage or love marriage is based on just physical attraction or income etc (outward) , it is not a real marriage.

As Indians, we have the added benefit of our parents/friends/relatives etc to help our find the right person, which I think is a great thing. If I want to really know a person, I would like to know about him/her through others first rather than me getting attached to him/her and then questioning the relationship if it doesn't work. Definitely, the partner your looking for should be compatible to you in education, beliefs, family values, finance. When real life hits these all will needed to be taken into consideration. I have English friends who just say how lucky we are to have our parents/friends/relatives to find the right person for us. Btw modern arranged marriages are not forced. If we don't like the person, we have the right to speak up to our parents or relatives, then the search for the next person.

A real big lesson is : DO not really get attached to a person, before you really know the person, whether its arranged, dating or love marriage. In the US, there are dating sites where people meeting their potential mates. These sites are similar to Indian matrimonials where you have to put down your education, income, faith etc. Even these sites offer to do background check /credit score on a person before you date them, but you have to pay those sites. Well, in India we have parents/relatives /friends doing background check for free? Isn't that wonderful, free service?

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Asina said: (Fri, May 2, 2014 05:30:49 AM)    
 
I think love marriage is better than arranged because we are marrying one of our choice the other day we marry the other guy leaving the loved one behind and marrying the other guy this would leave disgust and tragedy in our heart which would last forever we get life one time and we have the right to choose our partner so the next day we don't turn back and think if I would have married my love I would have successful married life guys wake up marry the one you love.

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Aarya said: (Tue, Apr 29, 2014 05:00:03 PM)    
 
Marriage is all about COMPATIBILITY and if you don't have that with your partner, it's useless. Whether you go for arranged or love.

You need to have balls to go for love marriage which usually arranged marriage couple never have. And nowadays many of these arranged marriage couples had relations before marriages but they don't have courage to spill the beans in front of their parents so they go with arranged one. And majority of the time couple stay together in arrange marriages just because of society and family pressure. They never had balls before and they never have it in future also.

Both marriages have same kind of problems. It's just that in love marriages their is no one to guide boy and girl whenever they have some misunderstanding or fight. Their parents usually taunt them instead of sorting out the issues, they forget that their taunting will worsen the fight or problem.

Whereas in arranged marriage whenever a problem occurs, everyone tries to calm down issues. But no wonder, if parents in Love Marriages will support the kids they way parents support in Arrange Marriage. The success rate of love marriages would be much higher than Arranged one.

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Monika said: (Tue, Apr 22, 2014 12:04:55 PM)    
 
Hi, as per my concern its depends on luck couples made in heaven and its fixed by god to whom we would marry. So if we choose life partner and marry thats called love marriage and its written in our luck and if our parents choose partner for us and arrange marrige thats also luck. You can never judge to whom your life is bond with.

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Keyur Amin said: (Sat, Apr 19, 2014 05:25:26 PM)    
 
We say God has already selected the person who will be my or your life partner. But is it reality? We don't know. When we have the time to marriage, some of us become depressed and some of us become enthusiastic. Because it is depended on our family. We all know what our family is and I'm sure some of us are also against them and their thoughts. I'm also. My life suggests love marriage and that what I need. As we all have different mind and different thoughts, one of us can't be right or wrong. We must improve our own selves to think what is perfect and right and wrong for our own lives. We all know we have a unique life that can't be spoiled by anyone. No one has right to do that. At last, May you all have best of my luck that you will make your life better, the best with your choice of life partner. :).

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Mahe said: (Thu, Apr 17, 2014 08:32:41 PM)    
 
As we know that marriages are made in heaven, but the people think that marriages and also divorce made in heaven, arranged marriage and love marriage whatever it may be they are taking divorce why because there is no understand between the couples.

Before marriage he looks like hero, and she look like heroin but after marriage they are become like villains. Why because they don't know the difference between love and attraction, true love never become misunderstand.

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Sadia Kanwal said: (Wed, Apr 16, 2014 09:07:04 PM)    
 
Hello guys. Sadia here.

My opinion about the marriage is. I support the arrange marriage. Because when our parents choose our life partner for us. First they look for his/her negative points for their child's future happiness. They choose and observe that what is right and what is wrong for their child.

Otherwise if we talk about the modern age, then its difficult to find a sincere person. And we can not find a person who speaks truth, and who is loving us from his heart. Our parents decision can never be wrong.

And those who don't understand that their parents gave them birth and are doing anything for their happiness from their whole life, then why don't they can't sacrifice his/her love for their parents.

And almost 95% of the arrange marriages have been succeeded than the love marriages because if their parents wishes and prayers are not with them then how can their marriage life be succeeded. That's all what I've observed in what I think.

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Anita said: (Wed, Apr 16, 2014 08:07:02 PM)    
 
Whoever says that we knows each other is Silly.

We just try to impress our love with the fake smile. Fake personality just agree them to just please them (I will do it myself to impress my GFs).

And after love marriage our true personality comes foreword. Our partner is not the same as we are before marriage so there is no question of knowing each other fully.

Arrange marriage is better as we behave whatever we are. No fakeness nothing it takes time to fall in love but it's true love and it stays forever.

Love marriage is not based on reality it was more if a fairy tale. Once all the attraction is over (Most of the time in less than 6 month) it's all over. We can't go back what we done.

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Gowri Pasupureddy said: (Sat, Apr 12, 2014 08:45:56 AM)    
 
No matter whether it is love or arranged marriage, The main thing is how they will happily live, it is depends upon the person we select, not on the type of marriage. According to me now a days so many marriages were fail, because they chosen the wrong persons, In any way we have to choose right persons and live happily. That is the ultimate thing.

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Jyothsna said: (Thu, Apr 10, 2014 09:34:59 AM)    
 
Hai.

According to my opinion Love comes arranged or arranged comes love is better. In both the cases they understand each other with their hearts and they live happily throughout the life.

Of Course in Love marriage also they understand heartfully but sometimes their parents don't like their marriage. In that cases some are left their love, some are left their parents. At one time they want that they live with their parents and their big family because of society. Some people think that what the society will do, we will live with each other and they live but some people don't think like that So love with arranged is better.

In arranged marriage if they really like with each other it is ok but sometimes even though they don't like their parents are forced to do that marriage because some reasons like they are rich, popular and they give more dowry. So arranged with love is better.

My suggestion is Love with arranged or arranged with love is better. In that marriage they understand each other with heartfully are live happily throughout the life with their parents support. Finally I suggested that doing marriage is any way but "The two persons which are get married are understanding each other with heartfully are live happily throughout the life".

Thank you for giving this opportunity.

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Ayushi Tiwari said: (Wed, Apr 9, 2014 03:35:57 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

According to me love marriage is better than arrange marriage because for staying each other lifetime love is very necessary and which is fully available in love marriage so understanding is more better in love marriage and if two people understand each other then no problem is occur in the life.

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Ashfaq Rathore said: (Wed, Apr 9, 2014 02:24:07 PM)    
 
My point of view about arrange and love marriage is very clear that I support arrange marriage but after the willingness of both boy and girls. Because without their willingness you should say that marriage is imposed marriage and its equal to love marriage because both marriages have no end. In arrange marriage both families stand together. They support both on their good are bad time. If some time any differences were arises between them. Their parents solve their issues and settled their differences.

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Chopraamit22@Gmail.Com said: (Wed, Apr 9, 2014 01:12:16 AM)    
 
Hi brothers/ sisters/ friends/elders/young ones,

It is a good discussion and seems like all people around needs or demands love at last, it is same like salary at the month end. So in any situation any marriage love, arranged, love cum arranged, arrange cum love, arranged after divorced, love after divorce, I would like to include extra marital affairs here too which is also a part of life in this world. Relations knowingly or unknowingly, each relations demands some thing, we see people more demanding less giving, first if this relation can be reversed then I think most of the problem after any kind of marriage may vanish.

Love marriage:

Hats of to love, it is best part of life. We understand each other well know everything about each other, we love like souls requirement.

Arranged marriage:

We first know each other using any means, later we fall in love and understands more deeply and live.

But what if above two fails:

The above other mentioned marriages will happen and extra marital, and some crime or criminal category may also rise.

People above are saying in arranged marriage Parents support is there agree, they share their experience of life, give guidance, give proper approval a to things, all family stays close.

But can't there be a situation if in love marriage, parents can start guiding from the very first day when a new buddy or girl find her or his love. We all should give respect to them introduce our loved ones to our parents. And requesting parents also to understand and give some leverage to their children. And we children should also not cross any limit till marriage. And keep the faith of parents and should love under their guidance till marriage, why we go at last moment to parents, what they can do at last stage, children and parents both should not react immediately, like we wait in arranged marriages we can also wait in love marriage. That we all do. But requesting parents to not to react immediately, give time to understand boy or girl both.

Problems are like waves they will come and go. Time is the biggest heeler. All These thoughts can increase our faith in both of us. Divorce is love marriage is like A political party which came with huge ads and did nothing and went in two months or less and arrange marriage can be like suffering from older political party and later trying to forcefully break all laws. Like we always do.

We all should give lot and lot of time to our relationships, come home from office sometimes early go for movie love our respective girlfriend, wife or so. I mean to say spend time with parents too. All should take care of parents too, with all responsibilities like we do for ourselves and demands. We should just do and never demanding can tough but it is like a big tree which will grow one day and will have fruits, etc. Trees also takes time to expand itself.

So immediate expectation and immediate fulfillment of demands should be stopped, we all should stand like an example for any kind of marriage. Healthy relationships like friendship. I support any kind of human understandable marriage.

Give respect to elders, give love to loved ones.

We should also discuss that life goes on but we always need love around and with us, so couple should never go for divorce, sit talk and solve, if we are bound ones then no other thought should be there. Don't be clever in relationship be simple like our parents, grand parents were. Don't react over intelligently, don't become over smart just go with the flow of love and relation. Appreciate a small effort toward a relation them I think any marriage will be successful.

Love is still the same, why we need to draw any line for it. Even the same when.

It was Adam and Eve.

Love Sharing.
AMIT CHOPRA.

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Pailaumapathy said: (Sun, Apr 6, 2014 01:44:26 PM)    
 
Hi dudes, this is Umapathy, more members had choose to love. But that's not correct why because Indian traditional wise, love still only for marriage then they misunderstood each other it will cause to divorce why? There is no option for what is right, what is wrong and there is no parents suggestions love (it's mean affection, trust, caring. ).

Who have these are there will standard vote marriage 0.3% only. Arranged marriage not like that their couple have all time in parents coverages that's they happy. From come to their "marriages are madden heaven".

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Kamal Yadav said: (Tue, Apr 1, 2014 12:00:27 AM)    
 
I like arrange marriage because my parents are trust me, I have no bring his trust he is correct decision for us in our life. 20% love marriage success according to arrange marrige you will be arrange marrige and after you have love with her own wife first of all you have gave respect to your parents. Give me answer please. After love marriage boy and girl condition are bad. Why? for a one girl you have separate your parents this is very bad.

For example your parents say to you please give me a mobile phone you asked your parents I have no money but your ge say once give me a phone before evening you have purchase phone and gave to your gf because your parents are not important for you this girl is important for you your parents are not ready for love mar. You have run away robbery money and after finish money you have no more way you have suicide. Your neighbour are not your parents. Last I would say that all boys and all girls are good you have respect to your parents. Thank You.

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Ashwani Agarwal said: (Sat, Mar 29, 2014 08:05:12 AM)    
 
It is said marriages are made in heaven and they are solemnized on earth. Marriage is not a 2-3 years contract that completes with a divorce ; instead it is your best relationship for the rest of your life.

Marriages is not just amalgamation of two INDIVIDUALS but of two FAMILIES. Love marriages generally fulfill the first part of the definition ; but they are not able to fulfill the second part.

In the arranged marriages there is a strong bonding between the two families, which precludes the divorce to greater extent. The perquisite of arranged marriage is that ; in case of dispute between the two partners ; elders are always present to solve the dispute.

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