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Monika said: (Tue, Apr 22, 2014 12:04:55 PM)    
 
Hi, as per my concern its depends on luck couples made in heaven and its fixed by god to whom we would marry. So if we choose life partner and marry thats called love marriage and its written in our luck and if our parents choose partner for us and arrange marrige thats also luck. You can never judge to whom your life is bond with.

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Keyur Amin said: (Sat, Apr 19, 2014 05:25:26 PM)    
 
We say God has already selected the person who will be my or your life partner. But is it reality? We don't know. When we have the time to marriage, some of us become depressed and some of us become enthusiastic. Because it is depended on our family. We all know what our family is and I'm sure some of us are also against them and their thoughts. I'm also. My life suggests love marriage and that what I need. As we all have different mind and different thoughts, one of us can't be right or wrong. We must improve our own selves to think what is perfect and right and wrong for our own lives. We all know we have a unique life that can't be spoiled by anyone. No one has right to do that. At last, May you all have best of my luck that you will make your life better, the best with your choice of life partner. :).

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Mahe said: (Thu, Apr 17, 2014 08:32:41 PM)    
 
As we know that marriages are made in heaven, but the people think that marriages and also divorce made in heaven, arranged marriage and love marriage whatever it may be they are taking divorce why because there is no understand between the couples.

Before marriage he looks like hero, and she look like heroin but after marriage they are become like villains. Why because they don't know the difference between love and attraction, true love never become misunderstand.

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Sadia Kanwal said: (Wed, Apr 16, 2014 09:07:04 PM)    
 
Hello guys. Sadia here.

My opinion about the marriage is. I support the arrange marriage. Because when our parents choose our life partner for us. First they look for his/her negative points for their child's future happiness. They choose and observe that what is right and what is wrong for their child.

Otherwise if we talk about the modern age, then its difficult to find a sincere person. And we can not find a person who speaks truth, and who is loving us from his heart. Our parents decision can never be wrong.

And those who don't understand that their parents gave them birth and are doing anything for their happiness from their whole life, then why don't they can't sacrifice his/her love for their parents.

And almost 95% of the arrange marriages have been succeeded than the love marriages because if their parents wishes and prayers are not with them then how can their marriage life be succeeded. That's all what I've observed in what I think.

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Anita said: (Wed, Apr 16, 2014 08:07:02 PM)    
 
Whoever says that we knows each other is Silly.

We just try to impress our love with the fake smile. Fake personality just agree them to just please them (I will do it myself to impress my GFs).

And after love marriage our true personality comes foreword. Our partner is not the same as we are before marriage so there is no question of knowing each other fully.

Arrange marriage is better as we behave whatever we are. No fakeness nothing it takes time to fall in love but it's true love and it stays forever.

Love marriage is not based on reality it was more if a fairy tale. Once all the attraction is over (Most of the time in less than 6 month) it's all over. We can't go back what we done.

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Gowri Pasupureddy said: (Sat, Apr 12, 2014 08:45:56 AM)    
 
No matter whether it is love or arranged marriage, The main thing is how they will happily live, it is depends upon the person we select, not on the type of marriage. According to me now a days so many marriages were fail, because they chosen the wrong persons, In any way we have to choose right persons and live happily. That is the ultimate thing.

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Jyothsna said: (Thu, Apr 10, 2014 09:34:59 AM)    
 
Hai.

According to my opinion Love comes arranged or arranged comes love is better. In both the cases they understand each other with their hearts and they live happily throughout the life.

Of Course in Love marriage also they understand heartfully but sometimes their parents don't like their marriage. In that cases some are left their love, some are left their parents. At one time they want that they live with their parents and their big family because of society. Some people think that what the society will do, we will live with each other and they live but some people don't think like that So love with arranged is better.

In arranged marriage if they really like with each other it is ok but sometimes even though they don't like their parents are forced to do that marriage because some reasons like they are rich, popular and they give more dowry. So arranged with love is better.

My suggestion is Love with arranged or arranged with love is better. In that marriage they understand each other with heartfully are live happily throughout the life with their parents support. Finally I suggested that doing marriage is any way but "The two persons which are get married are understanding each other with heartfully are live happily throughout the life".

Thank you for giving this opportunity.

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Ayushi Tiwari said: (Wed, Apr 9, 2014 03:35:57 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

According to me love marriage is better than arrange marriage because for staying each other lifetime love is very necessary and which is fully available in love marriage so understanding is more better in love marriage and if two people understand each other then no problem is occur in the life.

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Ashfaq Rathore said: (Wed, Apr 9, 2014 02:24:07 PM)    
 
My point of view about arrange and love marriage is very clear that I support arrange marriage but after the willingness of both boy and girls. Because without their willingness you should say that marriage is imposed marriage and its equal to love marriage because both marriages have no end. In arrange marriage both families stand together. They support both on their good are bad time. If some time any differences were arises between them. Their parents solve their issues and settled their differences.

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Chopraamit22@Gmail.Com said: (Wed, Apr 9, 2014 01:12:16 AM)    
 
Hi brothers/ sisters/ friends/elders/young ones,

It is a good discussion and seems like all people around needs or demands love at last, it is same like salary at the month end. So in any situation any marriage love, arranged, love cum arranged, arrange cum love, arranged after divorced, love after divorce, I would like to include extra marital affairs here too which is also a part of life in this world. Relations knowingly or unknowingly, each relations demands some thing, we see people more demanding less giving, first if this relation can be reversed then I think most of the problem after any kind of marriage may vanish.

Love marriage:

Hats of to love, it is best part of life. We understand each other well know everything about each other, we love like souls requirement.

Arranged marriage:

We first know each other using any means, later we fall in love and understands more deeply and live.

But what if above two fails:

The above other mentioned marriages will happen and extra marital, and some crime or criminal category may also rise.

People above are saying in arranged marriage Parents support is there agree, they share their experience of life, give guidance, give proper approval a to things, all family stays close.

But can't there be a situation if in love marriage, parents can start guiding from the very first day when a new buddy or girl find her or his love. We all should give respect to them introduce our loved ones to our parents. And requesting parents also to understand and give some leverage to their children. And we children should also not cross any limit till marriage. And keep the faith of parents and should love under their guidance till marriage, why we go at last moment to parents, what they can do at last stage, children and parents both should not react immediately, like we wait in arranged marriages we can also wait in love marriage. That we all do. But requesting parents to not to react immediately, give time to understand boy or girl both.

Problems are like waves they will come and go. Time is the biggest heeler. All These thoughts can increase our faith in both of us. Divorce is love marriage is like A political party which came with huge ads and did nothing and went in two months or less and arrange marriage can be like suffering from older political party and later trying to forcefully break all laws. Like we always do.

We all should give lot and lot of time to our relationships, come home from office sometimes early go for movie love our respective girlfriend, wife or so. I mean to say spend time with parents too. All should take care of parents too, with all responsibilities like we do for ourselves and demands. We should just do and never demanding can tough but it is like a big tree which will grow one day and will have fruits, etc. Trees also takes time to expand itself.

So immediate expectation and immediate fulfillment of demands should be stopped, we all should stand like an example for any kind of marriage. Healthy relationships like friendship. I support any kind of human understandable marriage.

Give respect to elders, give love to loved ones.

We should also discuss that life goes on but we always need love around and with us, so couple should never go for divorce, sit talk and solve, if we are bound ones then no other thought should be there. Don't be clever in relationship be simple like our parents, grand parents were. Don't react over intelligently, don't become over smart just go with the flow of love and relation. Appreciate a small effort toward a relation them I think any marriage will be successful.

Love is still the same, why we need to draw any line for it. Even the same when.

It was Adam and Eve.

Love Sharing.
AMIT CHOPRA.

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Pailaumapathy said: (Sun, Apr 6, 2014 01:44:26 PM)    
 
Hi dudes, this is Umapathy, more members had choose to love. But that's not correct why because Indian traditional wise, love still only for marriage then they misunderstood each other it will cause to divorce why? There is no option for what is right, what is wrong and there is no parents suggestions love (it's mean affection, trust, caring. ).

Who have these are there will standard vote marriage 0.3% only. Arranged marriage not like that their couple have all time in parents coverages that's they happy. From come to their "marriages are madden heaven".

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Kamal Yadav said: (Tue, Apr 1, 2014 12:00:27 AM)    
 
I like arrange marriage because my parents are trust me, I have no bring his trust he is correct decision for us in our life. 20% love marriage success according to arrange marrige you will be arrange marrige and after you have love with her own wife first of all you have gave respect to your parents. Give me answer please. After love marriage boy and girl condition are bad. Why? for a one girl you have separate your parents this is very bad.

For example your parents say to you please give me a mobile phone you asked your parents I have no money but your ge say once give me a phone before evening you have purchase phone and gave to your gf because your parents are not important for you this girl is important for you your parents are not ready for love mar. You have run away robbery money and after finish money you have no more way you have suicide. Your neighbour are not your parents. Last I would say that all boys and all girls are good you have respect to your parents. Thank You.

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Ashwani Agarwal said: (Sat, Mar 29, 2014 08:05:12 AM)    
 
It is said marriages are made in heaven and they are solemnized on earth. Marriage is not a 2-3 years contract that completes with a divorce ; instead it is your best relationship for the rest of your life.

Marriages is not just amalgamation of two INDIVIDUALS but of two FAMILIES. Love marriages generally fulfill the first part of the definition ; but they are not able to fulfill the second part.

In the arranged marriages there is a strong bonding between the two families, which precludes the divorce to greater extent. The perquisite of arranged marriage is that ; in case of dispute between the two partners ; elders are always present to solve the dispute.

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Afzal said: (Wed, Mar 26, 2014 07:42:10 PM)    
 
Hi friends I'm afzal from Sri Lanka,

I think marriage is the best part of our life. But there are two ways in the world how the marriage is being. They are the love marriage and arranged marriage. So I think arranged marriage is better than love marriage. Because the love marriage is decide by our own. But the arranged marriage is decided by our parents or elders. So in a case we can get suggestions from them. So I think arranged marriage is better than love marriage.

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Jayasuma said: (Mon, Mar 24, 2014 05:55:00 PM)    
 
Everything depends upon love the difference between love and arrange is that in arrange marriage couples take long time to understand each other in love they already understood each other so simple anyway have a happy life.

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Jayakumar said: (Sun, Mar 23, 2014 11:45:41 AM)    
 
I think Love and arrange marriage both better how life partners understanding each other. But I don't know why this much of divorce cases in love marriage? in my point of view in Arrange marriage parents are supporting to them. In love there is no control with parents, lovers take decisions themselves. So they take wrong decision to leave.

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Vipul said: (Sat, Mar 22, 2014 11:11:49 AM)    
 
Hello friends.

We all know the basic meaning of love marriage and arranged marriage. Love marriage is that marriage in which two people willingly stay together and decide to live together.

And in arranged marriage family decides the partner for their children.

What I feels is that the most important thing that matters is the understanding between the partners. Personally I prefer to go with love marriage because both the partners know each other nicely. Both of the have a mutual understanding about each other. When they feel that they have met the right person which understand them truly, they get married.

But in our country, Indians still conventional in thinking of marriage as a set-up in which a person should fit into the family. 74 % of the population still prefer arranged marriage according to the recent survey by NDTV. In Rajasthan, Haryana, and Uttar pradesh 88% of population prefer to do love marriage.

But it doesn't mean that love marriage is not prefer, the percentage is reduced to 59 in the states of NEW DELHI, WEST BENGAL and TAMIL NADU so the change is coming. People are now more shifting to the love marriage.

48% of women in south ASIA are forced to marry before the legal age. This data also comes under the arranged marriage. And many honour killing activities are reported in our country. So both type of marriage have some cons and pros. But the main thing is if there is mutual understanding then only a marriage can become happy life.

And INDIA has the lowest divorce rate in all over the world. Only 1.1% is the divorced rate whereas global divorced rate for arranged marriage is 6%. All the facts and figure are from UNICEF.

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Kusuma said: (Fri, Mar 21, 2014 08:04:38 PM)    
 
As we know a famous proverb of "marriages are made in heaven". Likewise according to this proverb it makes us feel the pleasance of marriage. Whatever it may either love or arrange.

So my discussion is that I mean in my point of view, love mrge is pure understanding been two hearts and not colour, caste, creed etc. And arrange is about great understanding of status, colour, caste etc and very less understanding of two hearts.

It's just an one minute decision just by seeing a sec how can we decide that he or she is correct for us.

I strongly belief that "the character of one is known only to oneself" he or she can act outside so in arrange they decide the char of man or woman just by the opinion of others sayings but not oneself.

So I think mrg is not made for each other in colour, caste, creed, etc but being together till the end so before you decide you just understand the one you marry. Finally I would like to quote an proverb "with money you can buy many things but not an loving heart".

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Shubham Kishore Saxena said: (Mon, Mar 17, 2014 06:50:10 PM)    
 
So marriage is just a luck of 2 person some time he is bad and some time she is bad or else condition are bad.

Means if we analysis that out of 1.2 billion (Indians) we get one for us then this is intersecting. Both marriages are good and bad but basic thing is why we choose one of them because certain situations means,

We choose love marriage:

When we met someone and start talking, synchronizing and then start loving it's long process seems to look cool and we like that and we fall in love.

Good things with love is:

1. Your are the person to whom you propose and to whom you accepted. Best thing in the world.

2. You both are independent, mature and fully synchronize with each other. Support and get supported when needed as a team and this enhance you loyalty and faith over each other.

3. You have feeling you know your responsibilities now you are social person and a true soul mates.

BAD things:

1. On an average these kind of couple undergoes through many type of social pressure which lead them diverted from their goals (studies, security, peace of mind, social standing etc) which lead them to run or elope, early marriages lots of emotional drama which in last effect the financial condition, peace of person and this can lead to tragic ending of the love, suicide, not believing other, emotional problems etc.

2. Some time certain people use this relation just to satisfy their physical needs and in last lead to divorce, conflicts etc.

Now come to arrange marriages:

So to control the bad outcome of love and emotion society build this system, this highly organized and plan thing for 2 person to put close.

Good thing of arrange:

1. As head of families get interact first for marriages discussion, so this is a kind of outsourced process for you to get married through your family circle so no tension for wasting time or putting emotion.

2. These are strictly according to caste, status etc so new person get easily intermix in the family of each other.

3. Unlike love these couple enjoy best wishes, support, money, respect form the society which feel or make them happy.

BAD part:

1. Interaction between boy and girl in arrange marriages are very less, lots of hidden secrets, this is mind games, emphasis on money and financial assets. Actually this marriage from head (brain) not by heart.

2. Couple very less know each other mostly it takes lots of time to understand each other, some time do not have lovable feeling for each other, living just like roommates.

3. In initial months no more intimacy(no sex activates), lots of frustration and in last which even lead to divorce, constant fights and mental illness.

4. Dowry issues, status ragging and other society evil are mainly started from this only.

5. Last but not least couple section physical appearance of male are not in consideration while girl should be Katrina only matter is the CTC OF male so you can find black and while, hot and cold couples everywhere.

Conclusions:

Nature does not originates arrange marriages but provide feeling of love so love is best if you want to live in isolation, independent basis but for urban and social life you should go for arrange.

Choice is yours..

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Srujana said: (Mon, Mar 17, 2014 06:13:50 PM)    
 
In my opinion love cum arranged marriages are good. But one thing we have to remember that is, convince your parents to marry your loved once.

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Suresh S.R said: (Sat, Mar 15, 2014 10:47:06 PM)    
 
Hi friends arrange marriage is better than love marriage because parents supporting is both of them any problems solving easily then socite is response and lot of properties give for parents house after marriage you love your wife all the best.

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Gaurav Sharma said: (Fri, Mar 14, 2014 03:51:08 PM)    
 
I agree with all my fellow speakers.

But In this matter I want to say that any kind of marriage can be good and bad, but this Good and Bad things are dependent on the persons both husband and wife. Because marriage is a kind of ticket to a boat on which two persons are sailing and they are going towards expanding their family and relationships. Husband and wife are two oars of that boat if any one side oar is not working then this boat is not going forward.

In my opinion the person should have patience to find his/ her right partner in any kind of marriage. But arrange marriage should not be like making girl or boy to marry anyone without any meetings (1 or 2 times). One should be intelligent enough to make his decision about another their life.

But always keep in mind that old methods are mostly right in many ways but according to today's convenience we are manipulating them in any manner. Instead of this we should try to think all the reasons for those rules and regulations and discuss them with others.

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Pagal Ashique said: (Tue, Mar 11, 2014 02:39:04 PM)    
 
I strongly believe in love marriages. We must do love marriage even rather than arrange because you are spoiling life of a person whom you don't know. So its good to marry with loved ones. But parents don't understand and they make us die one day by throwing in deep well of arrange marriage. Love is awesome and must go with love marriages.

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Mouna said: (Mon, Mar 10, 2014 09:18:08 PM)    
 
Hi friends, my opinion is the kind of marriage that is undergone is not more important than with whom you are married. After marriage the love that you share with your partner matters a lot. There must be a lifelong relationship than living for accepting something as a fate.

Thank you.

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Krish Reddy said: (Fri, Mar 7, 2014 03:20:45 PM)    
 
In my opinion marriage is unforgettable day so according to present situation love marriage is not better because after love marriage you and your wife is equal so wife is demands to you so if you love one girl on that time only she loves you and after marriage she has ego problems so in my opinion arranged marriage is better.

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Deepak Shukla said: (Thu, Mar 6, 2014 04:28:55 PM)    
 
In my point of view The love marriages is the best for arranged marriages because A boy and girl are meet in own mind and they have a lot of love between two couple and satisfy with them. Those are interested in arrange marriage they does not satisfy in your marriages life because in between the couple a lot of misunderstanding.

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Deepika said: (Mon, Mar 3, 2014 02:36:56 PM)    
 
According to me arranged cum love marriages are best and also love cum arranged marriages are best. Because after marriage they may face several problems to solve those problems parents or elders must need. But the rates of taking divorce in India has been increasing due to the lack of understanding between the couples. But anyway if there is understanding between couples there is no difference between love marriages and arranged marriages.

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Anamika Roy said: (Sat, Mar 1, 2014 10:53:50 AM)    
 
According to us life is beautiful if you get support from your loved ones. They should be your parents or your friends or your heartiest persons.

Parents are they who have brought us to this world and reared us.

Coming to the point in love marriage both the peoples know each other before getting in a settled life called 'marriage' but in arranged marriage people come to know each other after marriage, they spend more time with each other and also get parents support to lead a comfortable life.

SO OF COURSE, ARRANGED MARRIAGE IS BETTER THAN LOVE MARRIAGE.

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Delvin Varghese said: (Sat, Mar 1, 2014 10:08:49 AM)    
 
God doesn't give us a chance to choose are family but not in the case of our life partner, so the decision to choose your life partner should be left to your self. To make a good decision you should know your partner better, in love marriages we can achieve that. I support love marriage but that doesn't mean I'm against arranged marriages. If given chance to know about your partner well, then arranged marriage is also a good option.

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Suthir.P.A said: (Mon, Feb 24, 2014 02:33:12 PM)    
 
Arranged Marriage is better than Love marriage, because of parents supporting both of them. If any problem came, they are totally discussed and give a valuable suggestions to the new couple. Parents already faced the such problems, so they know what to do. So they give the full of suggestions to the childrens.

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R.Akshaya said: (Sun, Feb 23, 2014 10:54:07 PM)    
 
I feel every single youth should taste the essence of true love. Once the real love is felt in every youth, life after marriage, be it arranged or loved, is simply awesome and one would love the way its is proceeded. Thus it would also be a eye opener for life's further endeavour.

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Narayanan said: (Sat, Feb 22, 2014 03:37:03 PM)    
 
Hello everyone,

It is the parents who gave birth & grown us to the level. Any marriage with parents fullest satisfaction is acceptable. Married life needs to be supported by relatives, elders etc and arranged marriage is comparatively advantageous than love marriages since most of the parents not accepting love marriages wholeheartedly.

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Rajesh said: (Sat, Feb 22, 2014 03:14:23 PM)    
 
I think love marriage is better than arranged marriage. In love marriage the couples are very much understanding between them. But in arrange marriage they are new to each others life. But I'm saying one thing is that the love marriage should be happen mutual understanding by parents. If the parents are not agree with you in this proposal. Then this is bad for the couple.

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Akshaya said: (Fri, Feb 21, 2014 08:39:12 PM)    
 
I watch arranged as well as love marriages in the same perspective. It depends on the sense of involvement, mutual understanding, being amicable and flexible within each other. But eventually love marriage marriage has an edge over the arranged. The reason being the pair is more comfortable and the fight is mainly due to over affection and over caring, but in arranged marriage it s mainly the misunderstanding that leads to separation.

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Gowri Shravan Udupa said: (Tue, Feb 18, 2014 09:46:24 PM)    
 
Hi people.

First of all we cannot decide which is better and which is not by one or two experiences or cases we have seen around. Because marriage is somethings which brings two people together and it is for LIFETIME. And one person must know that marriages are performed to bind two people together so that they spend their lives together with peace and happiness. Til now I hope you people agree with me. So now coming on to the controversial side. First of all arranged marriage: in the Indian setup most of the people go for arranged marriages. That's fine I don't protest against it, if and only if both the bride and the groom are happy with it. But the disadvantage here is. These people don't get enough time to spend with each other before marriage so that they can know each other very well. I feel knowing n understanding each other is very important for anyone to live a happy n peaceful life. I know there is a saying that opposites attract. N some people may say that even if their likes are different n the people are different they can live happily. But I feel its only true when love exists between the couple. Because you see if husband likes cricket and the wife hates it, they fight even for that every day. But the same couple if they are really in love with each other then they both would have been started liking each others habits or liking. So for that they need time. If they had just married without even knowing each others liking, it would lead to disruption of peace between them. So what I can infer from this is for any couple to be happy LOVE is important. And just by getting married to a person, its not a hard and fast rule that we have to love them. Because love is something which happens by itself unknowingly. We cannot tell our heart that you have to love only this person not any others. So that's the problem in arranged marriage.

And some commenters above have told that if there are fights in arranged marriages at least parents will be there to handle the situation. It just shows how weak their love is, if they want some one else to solve their problems. I have also seen arranged marriage couples being really happy. Those are the ones where really love exists.

So now coming on to love marriages. If its true love and if one person is ready to do anything for his love. Or fight against the whole universe to get his love then I bet those will be the happiest people in the world. And love marriage couples though they fight they will bounce back to normal very fast if its true love. And these people don't need parents help also. Because they believe in each other. And love marriages are purely based on trust and love. Divorces rarely occur in love marriages because there will be understanding between them and also each other will always see not to hurt the other one. Because they love each other. According to me, what I prefer is love marriage. That feeling is really godly. Feels like you are in flying in the air. You feel that the world around you is so green. You feel the love in everything when you are really in love.

LOVE IS IN THE AIR. WHEN YOU ARE REALLY IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE. THIS IS WHAT I SUPPORT TO.

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Shruthi Pant said: (Tue, Feb 18, 2014 09:11:40 PM)    
 
Always Love marriage is better :-).

Who ever tho argues saying arranged marriage is better, are the people who never had love in their life and arguing pointless by using Indian tradition as trump card.

Anyway when they get into relation they will change. They are just lacking love. :- (.

I don't want to criticize those people who lack love and opt arrange marriage with no other option :-P :-).

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Ananya said: (Tue, Feb 18, 2014 10:48:26 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

The presently burning topic is love marriages Vs arranged marriage. But we are missing a link that in any marriage the couple has to live happily. It is the main motto. Whatever the marriage may be the couple should have a good understanding. Then only they can live happily. We can't say that one of them is good because in both the types of marriages, we are seeing many cases where they were taking divorce. Anyhow it should not influence on their children. So think once before doing anything.

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Abdul said: (Mon, Feb 17, 2014 02:24:30 PM)    
 
Love marriage. But after getting matured of both the girl and boy. Because every matured people can think of themselves and for the future. And also no parent will reject if their son or daughter is getting married with someone who is virtuous. So virtue is the condition that is important and acceptable to both parents and their children.

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Boney Gomes said: (Sun, Feb 16, 2014 06:44:51 PM)    
 
Love marriage is best because it brings a strange feeling in our live which we can't express with our words, but does real love still exists? 2014 I see the world & the people living here is betraying each other everyday, no respect to love or sex. Sometimes I wonder will god ever forgive us of what we have done to each other. Then I look around and I realize. That god has left this place long time a go or we have forgotten to walk in his path of love. So no love no marriage.

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Minu said: (Sat, Feb 15, 2014 04:37:59 PM)    
 
According to me love marriage is better than arrange. Love marriage is give the opportunity to choose our life partner. Before marriage we know everything about before marriage. What is he/she like dislike what is his hobby everything we can know before marriage that why life can make peaceful.

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Jagadeeshwar said: (Sat, Feb 15, 2014 12:51:46 PM)    
 
In my opinion arranged marriages are better than love marriages because in case of love marriage if problems will come into picture our mindset will change automatically we cannot allow even our parents to speak about the problem, where as in arranged marriages our elders takes initiative to solve the problem. There is more probability to listen them, respect them.

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Ram said: (Fri, Feb 14, 2014 09:58:58 PM)    
 
I think we should go for an arrange marriage. Because there are fair chances of disruption of love marriage. Because when you come to ground of real life the love life become like dreams. And of course there will be no one to support you.

But in the arrange marriage there will your elders who are responsible for you and who support you in every decision of your life and also give you advice to overcome the problem which you face in the married life.

And the another fact, how do you get in to the love with another person. Because of his/her good looks or body etc. No one has soulmate type love. If you can understand the boy/girl so well that you decide to marry him/her.

How can you don't understand a boy/girl with you already married.

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Vinod said: (Fri, Feb 14, 2014 05:04:32 PM)    
 
Its not that our parents decides partners in our lives they ask us before deciding the whole process of arrange marriage eventually leads to love between two. Second thing if you want to do something for you and your parents then forget about love marriage. Love marriage is for losers and who already has everything.

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Gayatri Devi said: (Thu, Feb 13, 2014 08:48:17 PM)    
 
According to me, love marriage is better than arranged marriage because you can know the person and his likes and dislikes, and your compatibility with your partner. Moreover, it is based on 100% pure love without any compromise and adjustment. Most of love marriage fails because of possessiveness and lack of trust. The main fact is that you have to trust your partner in both the marriages.

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Deepak Gahlot said: (Thu, Feb 13, 2014 07:32:24 PM)    
 
Hello friends.

I am Deepak.

As per my point of view both the marriages are good. Because successful marriage not depends on how they married, it depends on the understanding.

According to me love marriage arranged by the parents is better, marriage totally depends on couple who going to marry each other. In love marriage they understanding each other before the marriage and in arranged marriage they understanding each other after marriage.

Simple thing yaar if I get love marriage with my love without my parents permission, I can't leave my parents because of her and if I get arrange marriage with my parents permission, I can't leave my love because I love her. So if my parents love me and understanding my feelings, that I convince them.

So guys its better to make the love marriage arranged.

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Ouseph Arimboor said: (Thu, Feb 13, 2014 12:47:23 PM)    
 
I am an elderly person and I have got married all my children.

Love marriage and arranged marriage have advantages/disadvantages.

You have to take a great decision in your life while committing to marry. Marriage is not for a short period and do not end up in procreation.

Unlike animals, it is a very responsible one and the couple have to live together lifelong bringing up their children living in the company of family members. As it is said man is a social animal and he has to live in the society which upholds certain traditions.

Love, of course, is the most important ingredient for a purposeful life. Marriage should take place with the support and blessing of the family. Think loudly before you fall in love with someone. Youngsters blindly fall in love quickly and break away in the same speed and this causes a lot of mental problems and damages the prospect of a real married life. May God bless you.

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Ankit Mathur said: (Wed, Feb 12, 2014 12:42:04 AM)    
 
Hello Friends.

I have noticed the very interesting discussion going above. But first of all let we see how much we have knowledge about marriage. And we have.

1. Respect each other.
2. Understand each other.
3. Share each other.
4. Must move onto same path.

The all above except 4th one already defined under "WHAT IS LOVE?" And the 4th one automatically implied after marriage. But the fourth one remains formal if all the above 3 needs of human are not satisfied. And this is the case under arranged marriages.

And it is seen in most of the cases that the couples with arranged marriages, always have formal or have limit implied with relationship. This creates some distance between them and hence they can't share each other and so on.

Hence in my opinion firstly all the 3 needs to be established for a relationship. That is love needs to be created for a relationship to be in existence.

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Foji said: (Tue, Feb 11, 2014 01:06:21 PM)    
 
According to my point of view love marriage is more suitable, than arrange marriage for new generation, because they lack a sense of respect to their elders, even their own parents. So what I want to deliver is that if at all a couple goes for a breakup who had a love marriage, will curse himself/herself instead of his/her parents. In other case breakup responsibility will be imposed on parents.

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Murari Bhardwaj said: (Sun, Feb 9, 2014 04:39:59 AM)    
 
Those who support Arranged marriage and say that whoever our parents select is best as they are more experienced than us. In that context I want to tell you my case that I was never eager to take engineering as my career rather wanted to do Mass media & Journalism. My parents always rebuked my choice and imposed engineering on my future. While pursuing I could never develop interest in it and eventually I left it after one and half year.

So this happens when you are apple's eye of your parents. They kill you sometime with their own decision and you have to cope then thousands bricks falling on your head. So be free and choose your own Way; if can't, start running, your parents will never be able to catch you.

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Sanchana said: (Sat, Feb 8, 2014 07:33:23 PM)    
 
Hi friends.

I think love marriage is better than arrange because after all its our life. And as all know life is a gods gift. So don't think of society do what your heart says !

If you are in love with some special and if society is against so fight for your LOVE, or else don't fall in love if you can't fight for it.

As we say India is very cultured and every parents is happy in their children's happiness. Than why don't they feel happy when we are with our love.

I always do in which I get happiness and what my heart says and I will all youth that do that for which you can fight till you get your love.

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Ali Raza said: (Thu, Feb 6, 2014 07:22:39 PM)    
 
Dear friends.

I wanted to tell you friends this is 21st century something is change I really to prefer Love marriage and it is better then arranged marriage time is now so fast people now which thing better for him/her self since they did not doing conversation between him/her mobile is the one thing who give them a opportunity for learn him/her.

You know what I want to tell you I thing now you understand may b I m wrong but I thing I m true because I effort to learn the World.

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Alok Sharma said: (Wed, Feb 5, 2014 12:48:46 PM)    
 
Hello Friends,

As we know love is an important part of our life. Without love we are nothing. Love always plays a role of bridge in our life. According to me if we have love in our relationship nothing is comparable with it. We live happily.

So here I just want to say that love and arrange marriage both are good. In our society families always prefer arrange marriage because they think they know what is good for their children. Children always try never to hurt their parents but this way they forget their love and they compromise with their choice. They always feel why I choose her/him and answer is just because of parents. This relationship is without love.

So here is a better way to solve this kind of situation. When parents decide who is best for us. They should give us a time to know about each other. Like behavior, hobbies, similarities, respect etc. After that we can go for marriage if we like him/her.

In love marriage we know him/her very well. So here are chances are very high for better and lovely life.

Finally love is the essence of life. It depends on us what we choose.

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Abhijeet said: (Tue, Feb 4, 2014 03:55:51 PM)    
 
If I have to choose among love marriage vs arrange marriage I will go with the love marriage and at the sometime I am not in against of arrange marriage. But I am still wondering why we discuss this topic more frequently. Friends we are living in 21st century and world has changed so far. We belong to that nation who teaches the lesson of love to the world. People from other countries has reformed their culture by taking our ideas.

Its our misfortune that instead of inclination we have degraded our thought. We worship love of lord krishna and mira, make movies on love stories and enjoys it with family but we are always in confusion b/w the two. We have right to vote choose our government even make the government but still we are hanging b/w love and arrange.

So its time to change and who will change the thought ? we the young generation. We should take the initiative to change the way of thinking.

And finally I want to say that marriage is all about bonding, understanding, respect, and without this love can't be even imagine so we should bother about all these things no matter what is the way for this destination.

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Fatima Sulltani said: (Tue, Feb 4, 2014 10:51:26 AM)    
 
Both of marriages are good. Because if we see nowadays most of the people are having love marriage, they do not want that their marriage should be by their parents not by themselves. And love marriage has became the culture of us. Nowadays, they choose girls by themselves. In love marriage girl and boy will be happy but in arrange marriage I think boy will not happy or girl will not be happy. And as I think when the people are having marriage party so like love and unity will in crease inside the people, everyone will be happy when both the girl and boy will accept. But I prefer love marriage is better then the arrange marriage.

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Sk Sadam said: (Mon, Feb 3, 2014 11:04:43 PM)    
 
From my point of view arrange marriage is better than love marriage. Because in arrange marriage our parent decided who is the best for us and it gives a happiness to our family. Arrange marriage is the complete understanding between the two family and when problem arises our family stand for us.

Arrange marriage also increase the the social respect and values. In our country arrange marriage more successful than love marriage.

In case of love marriage we generally takes the individual decision and after that it diminish the social respect of our parent because in our culture the society don't accept love marriage. When any problem arises we may left alone and later it creates a serious problem.

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Sujeet Kumar said: (Mon, Feb 3, 2014 05:06:42 PM)    
 
Hello friend, I read above friends opinion. But according to me love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in love marriage partners have better understanding. They spent a lot of time with together. One main thing is that love marriage do not take any commodity from girl family, in our country (India) are facing the problem of dowry system so love marriage will reduce these things.

Thank you.

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Devika said: (Sat, Feb 1, 2014 01:25:46 PM)    
 
Hi Friends,

In my point of view the both marriage is correct. Here main thing is that understanding. When they are understanding each other then the life will go smoothly. For example when the love comes when the boy understanding the girl and the girl understanding the boy then only they accept it. Similar that the arrange marriage also. The difference is in love marriage they understanding before marriage, in arrange marriage they understanding after marriage.

What ever, is it in arrange or love marriage doesn't matter, after the marriage should be behave friendly manner with each other, and leave the ego, then the both marriage life is good.

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Ch Jagadish said: (Fri, Jan 31, 2014 02:34:51 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

I want to discuss few words regarding this topic.

Love marriage vs arrange marriage, the term vs means a competition between two, sometimes love marriage win, sometimes arrange marriage win.

My opinion is successful marriage not depends on how they married, it depends on the wife and husband understanding each other, giving respect to their opinions.

My self is love marriage, we are happy now, but in middle class the love marriage is the crime, they see like biggest crime, they have to know the facts of love.

Overall the successful marriage it depends on them, who they live either it love or arrange.

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Namachivayam.S said: (Tue, Jan 28, 2014 03:54:10 PM)    
 
The marriage is very important decision in life. So please take it with carefully.

Some people say love marriage is best as like me.

Advantage:

1). Love marriage is the best compare than arrange marriage because he or she know everything about him/her.
2). Mutual understanding of each others.
3). He/she know like, dislike, habits of him/her.

Disadvantage:

1). Only see the face of the life partner.
2). He or she know about family background of him/her.

So please everyone have love to marriage to get bright future.

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Namachivayam.S said: (Tue, Jan 28, 2014 03:40:07 PM)    
 
The marriage is very important decision in our life. So everyone take it carefully.

Some persons say love marriage is best compare than arrange marriage as like me. I also say love marriage is best because he/she i.e. life partner know all things about him/her.

He/she know what like and dislike and all of our partner. Easily we can say understand each others through love. If arrange marriage means only see the life partner face and background of our family.

So after arrange marriage come many problems in life.

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Suthir.P.A said: (Mon, Jan 27, 2014 03:25:22 PM)    
 
In my view, Arranged Marriage is better than love marriage. I wonder why people think that arranged marriage will always be against their wishes and they will not be consulted at all. The very meaning of arranged marriage is that it has been planned after giving much thought about the pros and cons of the possible relationship.

As a member of family, we should take into confidence our parents and relative before taking such a big decision because it smoothens the path of acceptance to the new member in the family. Human are a social being and they always like to be there where they are cared and loved. An arranged marriage does not mean that no love exist between the boy and the girl. It is just that the decision to marry has not been taken without consulting guardian. Arranged marriage brings cohesion in the family and provides better environment for the growth of children also.

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Binu said: (Sun, Jan 26, 2014 09:37:17 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

After reading all your views, I would like to give my own.

I personally feel that THERE IS NOT A SINGLE BOND EXISTS ON THIS EARTH WHICH IS MORE SACRED THAN LOVE.

Love is a very special bond between two people, which brings out trust, care, respect, courage, strength and many more things to you, which are more than enough for anyone to survive here.

So why there is controversy on love marriages, when the parents have no objection on our love with them, friends etc. So why they just stood against the love between two people.

Why they are not even ready to accept the fact that it is 21st century, and their kids are mature enough to take their decisions by their own, as they have to live their life by their own and will take each and every single decision by themselves. So why can't they go for marry by their own.

So grow up parents and those guys who are having a fear that if they would have a fight their parents will sort out it for them. I mean you are not kids, you have to handle all your problems by your own.

It the question of their life, they have to spend their life with someone, not their parents will be doing it. So why the society and parents can not just be happy with their children and in spite of providing then love, support in their decisions, they just become their enemy and go for killing them.

I would just ask is this behaviour is justified and for what reason.

LOVE MARRIAGES ARE THE GIFTS OF GOD, WHICH WILL ELIMINATE EVERY WRONG THING FROM THE SOCIETY. Even god shri krishan had married to his love. So why overlook the beauty of love, by just always saying that we are the biggest believer of god, so why not following the path which they have used and shown to us.

I am not really against arranged marriages, but they should be done only:

1. When you have not find someone by yourself.

2. If you are having crores of rupees to spend for your girl, and if the boy and his family can use someone else property and gifts with proud. Than you must go for it, when their is no self respect is left with you.

Thank you.

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Vidya said: (Sat, Jan 25, 2014 02:38:47 PM)    
 
Hello Friends, In my opinion Arrange marriage is better than love marriage. In society We get to see many examples of Failing love marriages. That's right ke in love marriage both knew each other very well, respects each others emotions. But they will not have Family support most of time.

Both's Family will not happy. Those parents who fed us, gave education, Gave a power to stand in society, gave us A name, how can we just forget, ignore their feelings? So, I think family is Most important. The person who can leave her/his family in which he was living from many years for someone who came just now. What guarantee he/she will be there with partner for the rest of life?

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Shehanaz said: (Fri, Jan 24, 2014 07:29:55 PM)    
 
Hello,

A person in his life should love, because it is a feeling. Every one was in love. But think once when your are going to do something, whether it is right or not, think about your parents once, what was theirs condition when they know about you. Do love marriage only, after convincing your parents.

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Lakshmi Kant said: (Fri, Jan 17, 2014 12:56:06 AM)    
 
Hello friends,

All of you have added most valuable and different points. As per my opinion, life is not just like a business platform, where, whatever you like or is favorable to you, you kept and the rest threw away. Also it is not sure that the valuable things will remain same with time or not.

It is a long of varying age and you will have to enjoy each part by sharing happiness to others also.

The marriage is also a remarkable turn of a person's life, from where he/she is coupled and should have combined thoughts. Also there are parents and relatives feelings with you and decision of the senior person will be more reliable with age than you. In arrange marriage, there are more chances of affection and understanding to each other, because there is a big support of your family.

Although, some of the parents having bad thinking, such as greediness for dowry etc. Have made the relation's bad, but the arrange marriage is always better than the others.

Thank you.

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Azeem said: (Wed, Jan 15, 2014 02:25:25 AM)    
 
Brothers and Sister, it's true that the marriage is a sensitive matter for you as well as for your parents too. If you never come across any special person then you can prefer arrange marriage, but if you know someone special to whom you are attached with heart and faith then never miss, as he/she may change your entire world and you may get what you could not even think, if you look biographies of some great persons, they made great due to the support of their life partner.

Remember you have only single life in which you have to prove your worth in the world. You can do your best only by love. What if there is everything in your life health, wealth, name and fame but if you could't live with your love then all would meaningless. Marriage with or without consent of your parents, after all you have to prove it how you want to live in bondage of custom or freedom of love.

Love gives satisfaction and satisfaction gives humanity which is above all religion and custom.

We are human having feelings not merely a body of flesh. It's a big challenge but love marriage is best for all of us.

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Swathi said: (Sat, Jan 11, 2014 11:58:50 PM)    
 
Marriage is a bonding that bring two different personalities into a life long relation. Whether it may be love or arranged marriage. The most important factor required to keep our bonding strong is love on one another. We should love our partner. Have trust on them. Without trust no relation is possible if it happens also it won't be for a long time. They should care for them. They must do compromise. Share their views. Understand them and support them. If all this are their in the relation then relation will be strong enough to be life long with us. Money and all comes after these. Money can give luxury but can't give happiness. So many live happily with love in their relation. Love or arranged marriage the relation between the partners is most important.

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Vanitha said: (Wed, Jan 8, 2014 03:15:29 PM)    
 
HAI,

There is a lot and lot of discussion going on about this topic among friends and relatives even parents too. Marriage is not a part of life but life is inside marriage life. Of course, I think you don't understand the meaning. Let me come to the point, It doesn't matters whether its a love or arrange? In fact, it links a two people life without knowing what that meant? Nowadays so many people prefer love marriage rather than arrange. Why its happen?

If we ask them, they will debate as Within 3 minutes we can't understand the people then my question is why you people being hated each other after get in to love marriage. This is because of misunderstanding, nonadjustable, etc. SO I CONCLUDE THAT DON'T LIVE FOR OTHERS LIVE FOR YOURS!

Thank you.

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Abul El Iluso said: (Wed, Jan 8, 2014 12:26:51 AM)    
 
Love is all about support, understanding, sharing, compromise and trust. If your relationship posses these then love marriage will give peace and happiness to you n your family. Life is all about sharing love and peace. Money, fame, status, luxury all are meaningless.

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Sandeep said: (Mon, Jan 6, 2014 04:03:52 PM)    
 
Hi friends,

In my view what type of marriage we prefer is not important the way how we are treating and understanding our life partner is important. There are certain failures in both marriages but %of love marriage failures is more due to ow a days love. At present the lovers who are in love just in the feel pleasure both just sharing the positive views that I enjoyed there, had party etc. i.e. in only one shade but there are many shades in life sadness, sorrows, money problems etc. Which are not sharing so they are getting fail after marriage. So it is important.

Coming to arranged we should love after marrying a person and understand him/her it takes some time and should have some compromises but works.

In my view, both are correct.

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Balwan Singh said: (Sun, Jan 5, 2014 04:45:21 PM)    
 
In my point of view arrange marriage is best tradition which is a tradition in our country since ancient time and proved very successful. But love marriages are the influence of western countries which are leading to many divorce cases in India.

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Pankaj said: (Sat, Jan 4, 2014 05:25:54 AM)    
 
Love or arrange marriage depend upon the person to person but I suggest to all and give you some treats to love or arrange marriage now if you are mature you take good decision again love marriage of both people. If you take a decision only based on feeling your marriage always failed. Because that time you have no back support your relative.

So firstly you tell your mother & father or relative about love marriage they give you best decision that time you think practically means financial condition, check background and relatives both party's. Because love means feeling you feel after in arrange marriage and love before marriage both are same.

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Khan said: (Fri, Jan 3, 2014 07:16:30 PM)    
 
Many a times arrange marriage somewhere end with dowry, which also affect the girl after marriage, it is similar to auction. Which is not in case of love marriage, it deals with understanding, trust, happiness. And if some conflict arise it will be cleared within a short time. So love marriage is like life with no error.

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Manohar said: (Sun, Dec 29, 2013 08:36:22 PM)    
 
I am giving my opinion again since I did not go deep into this discussion. My above opinion stands the same. I am only adding one more opinion and that is, if the love marriage is performed with parents consent from both the parties, and the couple live elsewhere separately, then there is support from the relatives also from both the sides. If love marriage is performed with dislike from either one parents side, then it is a totally flop. To conclude, relatives support for the family especially at times of repudiation, becomes an important factor.

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Chitra said: (Sat, Dec 28, 2013 08:26:21 PM)    
 
Hello friends,

I prefer love marriage hey will mutually understand and believe with each other then it will going to be a good life. If the couple don't get any misunderstanding then they are MADE FOR EACH Other. While love marriage can provide the opportunity to know each other very well as they know from past. And mostly now a days no person blindly believe on other. And it should not be. I agree that guardian know us better but sometimes they also don't know that person for those they are fixing their child's marriage. How they know the persons reality without staying with them.

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Lakshmi said: (Wed, Dec 25, 2013 06:12:08 PM)    
 
Hello friends.

According to me love marriages are always better than arranged marriages. Most of us think that arranged marriages are better only because of one reason that the parents are there to recreate the bond if a dispute arises between a couple. But understand one thing friends, the reason behind the dispute is the lack of understanding. That is not the case in love marriages. In love marriages, people have very good understanding between them which will never create a dispute. But still some fights exists in love marriages too, but those fights will stay for a day or two.

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Manohar said: (Wed, Dec 25, 2013 02:33:48 PM)    
 
Love marriage is the best where the marriage takes place with parent's consent from both the parties. Not even a slight coercion from bride and the groom towards their parents for marriage. Otherwise, it is a hell.

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Ragu said: (Tue, Dec 24, 2013 05:55:43 PM)    
 
Hello dear,

I supported to love marriage because make for each other. He or she knows like, dislike. And so on.

So, before marriage they discussed our life. After marriage they have to face some problems. If any situation they will speak freely but arrange marriage its not like. So love marriage is best for our beautiful family.

Speak freely they solve any difficult problems.

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Eswar said: (Sat, Dec 21, 2013 08:03:07 AM)    
 
Hai,

As my opinion arranged marriages are better than love marriages, because arranged marriages have some history in olden days like Ramayana, Sri Rama was married seetha. Today's also follows the culture not exactly but little bit. The parents are arrange the marriage with some other person they know already the person is good or bad. Marriage is not just uniting two persons it's an uniting two families.

Coming to love marriages today's love means attraction if the men/women looking good they attracts him and simply fall in love. Enjoyed some months in love if any problems are occurred they simply breakup. The love comes after marriage also.

So my finally suggested to all arranged marriages are good.

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Mr_Hmp said: (Sun, Dec 15, 2013 12:34:15 PM)    
 
In India marriages are not just about uniting two persons, it's an out uniting two families. If after the marriage the families are not happy then what is the point of marriage.

It totally depends on the person as to which option is better for him. If the person can find a partner without hurting any feelings of there families then go for love marriage, It would always be better as both of the person would know and understand each other.

But, If you can't manage this huge responsibility then arrange marriage is better. Let you parents and peer decide what is good for you. There will be an element of surprise and love can happen after marriage also.

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Keshav Pant said: (Sun, Dec 15, 2013 06:16:43 AM)    
 
Hi friend. Love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Well know who have an idea about love they always choose love and coordinate with parents also. An another question that is parents choose best just see his/ her face, family, economic condition without internal views. I request the youth to crack out the bad culture.

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Deepak said: (Sun, Dec 15, 2013 12:29:56 AM)    
 
According to me if you try to put love aside of marriage then it will look better off.

You are marrying with a person.

1. He/she knows your habit.

2. He/she knows your feeling.

3. He/she is acquaintance with your all actions and routine.

I mean to say someone who can manage with you. Love is a product of time it only grows if there are positive vibes passing between the two.

Take an example :

Many film stars changed their life partner frequently because of they are not satiable with the thoughts of partner.

But if you look out at high class politician / businessman you will rarely found a segregation or divorce case.

So one should know what is the purpose of being marrying to a person.

Love marriage is actually far better off than arranged marriage because you are choosing a person within month.

If you are united with soul level it is worthless of saying the dialogue that true love involves no physical relation when it is between two persons who willingly thinking of marrying each other. Besides love couples are husband and wife too. From this angle now you can have two relations, first love and second married life.

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Raja said: (Thu, Dec 12, 2013 05:42:45 PM)    
 
Hi,

I would like to say, love marriage is far better than the arranged marriage. My perception is understanding between guy/girl is more important. Every one in life have come across this situation, (Understanding) is the important task. Including parents have faced it. But when Parents will come to know about the love marriage, they are the first person to say no, in-spite of their own experience. So pathetic. Don't know why take the religions into this matter which never exists. Hmm so when you love, nothing wrong it.

Seeing one guy/girl today, and getting married next day itself is into trouble, where even parents are involved in it.

Some time even parents show escapism, telling that you have agreed we got you married.

But most of our Indian traditional girls facing the same heat of arranged marriage and not to go against their parents. They need to think on either side to ready to face things and not making things so complicated as well.

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Parkash Menghwar said: (Wed, Dec 11, 2013 02:57:14 AM)    
 
Marriage is a big decision of life so it is necessary to take it with carefully. Most of people believe that love marriage is much better than arrange marriage but as per my perception arrange marriage is better than love marriage Because in love marriage you will suffer many difficulties like: differences in families, society honour and brotherhood.

Love not means to marry with him/her but it means to sacrifice their pleasures for the sake of families as well as their community. The interesting thing is that, lovers never married to each other like: Romeo Juliet, Laila Majnu, Heer Ranjha etc. The modern lover are just thinking about their own happiness not for others and that is not acceptable at all.

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Priya said: (Tue, Dec 10, 2013 11:43:19 PM)    
 
As per my view love marriage arranged by the parents is better. B, because marriage is totally depends on the couple who going to marry 2 each other. If there is no love in your married life you can't give your 100% to your partner. In arrange marriage you firstly give your whole life to the person whom you don't know and never meet. Then after number of months you started to know him. But in love marriage you know the feelings of your partner his nature, his liking disliking and everything about him you already knows. You know how compatible you are with your partner you understand the feelings of your partner then after marriage trust goes on peak. So its better to make the love marriage arranged.

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Tamanna said: (Mon, Dec 9, 2013 09:08:14 PM)    
 
Hi there.

I think love marriages are better if you know your guy\girl really well. Its true that trust and understanding are the building blocks in a relationship. Partners should compliment each other. Love is not something which is bought for some price. I am completely against the dowry system in arranged marriages. Its more or less like selling the girl to another family for a particular rate. That is so cheap. Yeah, of course most of the parents oppose love marriage because they want the best for their children. If you really love someone, gather the courage to let your parents know how much you love the guy\girl. Try convincing them and marry with their blessing.

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Laxmi Kant said: (Tue, Nov 26, 2013 10:42:32 PM)    
 
In my view love marriages can abolish the dowry tradition, but love should come in existence after one should able to bear it by maturity.

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Parimal said: (Tue, Nov 26, 2013 12:49:48 AM)    
 
Even for arranged marriage, take some time. Both should discuss & talk about life for at least 3 months & I feel this is enough time to get brief idea. Arranged marriage doesn't mean you see today & marry tomorrow. Love marriages are also good as long it is love & not just infatuation or crush. Problem is people look too much on looks & ignore mind, if mind is beautiful, marriage will also be beautiful, be it love or arranged.

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Shiva said: (Mon, Nov 25, 2013 01:02:46 PM)    
 
Hi friends good morning to all,

Well according to me everyone first understood that what is love? at the age of intermediate or UG or PG, the meaning of love is truly an ATTRACTION. If you read RAMAYANA or MAHABHARATA or any PURANA you never see the LOVE marriages that means all are arranged marriages only. And one more thing OUR PARENTS are sending us to schools or colleges for STUDYING but not for making love with others. So now a days so many students are suffering by interfering the things like Love called as attraction and all. So my bottom line is.

" According to SWAMI VIVEKANANDA the first, second and the last duty of a student is to STUDY" thatshall. Then only we will gain SUCCESS in LIFE.

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Govinda Pyare said: (Thu, Nov 21, 2013 06:49:52 AM)    
 
Hi guys.

Me Govinda.

As for as my knowledge is concerned about this matter that love marriage is better than arrange marriage because you know that what thing will got you. Which is chosen by you. You know very well that what type of things which her like most and she also know that what is your favorite. It is relationship between two hearts to understanding themselves.

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Amritha said: (Wed, Nov 20, 2013 07:57:27 PM)    
 
Hello, to everyone who says that parents know the best for you, well yeah but maybe at the areas like your school, college, course. Yes they will be the best people who would whats best for you but not in such an area like LOVE. I'm pretty much sure your parents don't know how to select a person who can be compatible to your feelings, they can look for a good guy who is well settled and probably the same caste but not a person who will love you truly.

People who think arranged marriage is better because there is less risk factor. That's more than enough to prove you are not loving the person you are gonna marry.

So people, marry the person you love, not your parents love. Because you gotta be spending every second with this person, not your parents or your relatives.

But also make sure your parents are disagreeing without a valid reason. In my case, they are opposing because he is christian and I'm a Hindu but nothing else. That is not right people. Your parents has to understand that its your happiness at the end of the day, well if they think marriage is between to families. Families can also survive without a marriage but a marriage cannot survive without LOVE.

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Kuldeep Gadhvi said: (Mon, Nov 18, 2013 12:22:12 PM)    
 
Arranged Marriages: Well, you can never "develop" love. That's stupid.

Love Marriages: Turns out it was not "Love", Because you lose interest in the person as time passes by.

My point? Marriage is not for everyone. Why do we all want to get married in first place? The funny thing is, true lovers never married each other.

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Pooja said: (Sun, Nov 17, 2013 10:53:19 PM)    
 
Love marriage - because love is the most beautiful feeling that one can experience in life. I know love develops even in arranged marriages which is a very good thing.

But the greatest experience is when you hang out with the best of friends and then someone becomes really special and then the process of attraction, hesitation, infinite meetings, confession etc show you so many different feelings that you never knew existed.

You have blind trust on the other. It also makes you better people.

So thats when you have your best friend as your life partner later. You have an enjoyable life full of happiness!

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Teju said: (Fri, Nov 15, 2013 10:19:21 PM)    
 
Hi Friends,

First of all let me discuss about marriage. Marriage is a boon given to us. Love marriage or arranged marriage is depends on ones mentality. But If we take todays world, is filled with Full of LOVE. We have been seeing many situations where marriages tend to divorce because of misunderstandings between couples. LOVE plays a main role in every aspect of our life. LOVE should be there in any kind of relation to sustain for long time irrespective of LOVE marriage and Arranged. Many families are suffering due to lack of LOVE.

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Vijay said: (Fri, Nov 15, 2013 08:09:05 PM)    
 
Both love and arrange has its merits and demerits for example in my case my parents saw a alliance I didn't like the girl so rejected after few months I came to know that the girl is already married and lived together with her lover and the girls dad separated the boy.

Then the girl again ran with him. Think of my situation if I said Ok for the girl. Parents fail to understand the current trend of youngsters thank god I escaped. Either the caste system should be thrown or parents should change their thinking unless these happens nothing is going to change here same cate is also divided into different sub caste. Hate everything.

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Preeti said: (Fri, Nov 15, 2013 06:08:54 PM)    
 
Well no matter whether it is love marriage or arrange marriage, It all depends on how good understanding you have with your partner. It is not necessary that your parents will always be right and would be successful in choosing the right person for you.

I would say find a person know him well and then introduce it to your parents. Your parents would check his family background and If everything is well, You can go ahead. So Love come arrange marriage is the best.

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Anu said: (Thu, Nov 14, 2013 10:00:38 PM)    
 
Hello Friends,

I would like to add my experience of love marriage for an instance. I am very happy to get love marriage as it was my own decision. I had to face difficulties to get agree to my parents for this marriage. I know I couldn't stay happy if I do arrange marriage as we don't know our partner's very well, we can not share all the good and bad things of the life with him. We have to give time to go smooth to our marrieds life in arrange marriage as compare love marriage.

In love marriage we can actually understand our partner's feelings. We already know about the likes and dislikes of our partner but in arrange marriage we must take time to understand both the likings and disliking.

We can share all the lovely moments after marriage with each others that we had spent before marriage. :).

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Koya said: (Tue, Nov 12, 2013 06:14:48 PM)    
 
Hi,

Marriage is marriage, whether it is arranged marriage or love marriage. The thing is that how the couples continue their future life after marriage.

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Avanthi said: (Sun, Nov 10, 2013 11:57:20 AM)    
 
Well friends.

In my View both are good only with good understanding.

For ex. If we take the situation In love marriages it is good only 2-3 years after marriage, because if the parents didn't agree they feel alone, as they are around 20-25 years they don't know about the life after marriage (They may face difficulties). Instead of getting love marriage, if it is love come arranged then Parents will also feel happy.

When it comes to arranged marriage as our parents know about us, surely they select suitable person for us because no one will spoil the children life. So. In my view arranged marriage is good because parents also feel happy and If love come arranged is also better if the girl/boy is good understanding person. But only love marriage is not good.

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Loveguru said: (Sat, Nov 9, 2013 10:09:14 AM)    
 
What's wrong with all you people who say arranged marriage is better?

If you marry someone without knowing how they, irrespective of the support from parents, grandparents or who ever the hell it is. It won't make it a happy marriage.

Don't mistake the success rate of arranged marriages to successful marriages because most of the time a spouse stays in the unhappy marriage because of the society and not their own free will.

And all the nonsense about bonding of two families and not two hearts. Whats the use of two bonded families when there is no bonding of two hearts? are you here to live for yourself or the society?

Whats the use of having the support of your relative when there is no love or attraction for your spouse. Will they fill that gap? if they do then why get married stay with relatives only. Every one need that one special person to be with that's why a marriage is defined as a relationship between two people not as a relationship between two families.

Think and speak.

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