Bride burning and dowry may look bad, but are an integral part of India.

I am surprised to see so many people have written that, "dowry system is very prevalent in India".

I would suggest all of them to retrospect once again, forget about what you have been shown in media! Just look into your family and close relative and find is it a real problem in 21st century?

There is other side of the story, 'False Dowry Case 498A' to harass husband and its family, as the law is women-friendly (anti-men) , if a women just complain about husband, his sister, father, mother, small kid if husband family put behind bar, and later if the complain is found false, no action against the 498A girl.

Supreme court has 'Legal Terrorism', and asked government take action, but govt is silent!

Do you know that 50-60K men are suiciding every year, because of these gender baised law! Do you know that, there is no law which can protect man from DV (mental torture/Financial torture/ Threatening for dowry case etc).

Don't believe? Google "dowry law misuse"!

Hello everyone.

According to me dowry is the most serious problem which the Indian brides are facing. The girl is not only tortured mentally but sometimes physically as well. She bears a lot of pain just because of the greediness of her in laws. And sometimes even the husband also supports his family. This makes it even more difficult for the wife to stay there. And the typical Indian mentally also forces her to stay at her in laws place because we Indians have a belief that a girls real home is her in laws place. The society further blames her and make rumors about her. At the end the girl has no option except suiciding.

Hello friends.

In my view, present burning problems for women are 99% decreased but other problem is DOWRY, It is also problem for girls parents (for normal people, not rich) although they didn't express their feeling in front of the children.

From childhood on wards they earn money and spend it for studies as equally spending for boys, At the time of marriage also they provide all the things for marriage even though girls parents need to give dowry. Why?

To decrease this dowry system, it is mainly depends on us (boys and girls also). Because at the time of marriage, Sometimes Groom demands for dowry and sometimes grooms mother demands for dowry.

Its better to marry a good girl/boy instead of dowry giving girl. Then both the families can leave happily.

While I am not an Indian national I have often been very interested in the rites of other countries. India has always fascinated me and I have traveled there twice - once as tourist and on another occasion to celebrate my brothers wedding. (He is Australian and married a Sikh lady - no dowry was exchanged).

What I find interesting is that there is often media coverage about the rising rate of abortions of female infants in India. This is mainly due to the ability to access ultrasounds - and that there is a stigma that the family will have to pay a dowry for the girl. What I don't understand is that if you are killing off a portion of women this will cause an inequity in the gender balance and therefore you will be making women a scarcer commodity. (Sorry to use such commercial terms) It has often been proven in economics that once you make an item scarcer people will need to reassess the value of that item. I am assuming that Indian families would like their abundance of "sons" to marry and have children and continue the family name? If there are not enough women to procreate with their sons would it be possible, that at some stage in the future, the women may hold the upper hand and that a reversal may been seen that families would ask the male side to pay a dowry to ensure that they have a wife that will bare children? It is just food for thought.

If you look to China you only have to see that they are struggling with the gender imbalance and that there are not enough women per males.

On that note I must say it is refreshing to see that there are so many people who oppose the dowry system and bride burning. Good on you and continue your plight raise women to an equal standing.

Good afternoon everyone.

I am totally against the social evil - dowry system.

In India girls are seen as a symbol of glory and wealth.

Still when a girl child is born parents are sad. Why?

Dowry. From that day onwards their time starts to start their savings. They live their whole life saving each penny for their kid, For giving dowry so that their daughter won't be ill treated in her husband's home.

In olden days after marrying a girl her husband was supposed to look after her. He was the only one to earn.

But Today women are educated. They work and earn money. They can live without financially depending on their husband. Still they are supposed to take dowry with them. Think about parents who have only girl children!They give their life time's earning to their child! And you know today's system right. After marriage a girl is not allowed to give money to their parents. She have to stay in her husband's house and look after his parents. Then who will look after her parents who couldn't save anything for them in their life because of her? Don't you think this is totally unfair!

Guys please please don't take money as dowry when you marry.

Hi friends.

This is a very aggressive topic.

The parents of groom are taking dowry for the below reasons.

1. They are selling their boy with a good and handsome money. And the boy is sold to the girl which will pay the highest pack.

2. They are having no confidence on their boy and neither the boy is able to collect all the necessities of his daily life by himself. So they are asking some other person to fulfill it.

3. Till today they have lived up their life by like beggars so they are doing the same now.

Its about boys, but what about the girl's families which are so rich that they made it a tradition for all to give dowry.

Why they can't just say NO for that family which is greedy.

See that family will never be able to keep your daughter happy.

And one example would be.

That if the boy want to watch TV and the wife will say its mine you can't watch it now.

Than what would be the self respect of that boy. Its just a humiliation on their part to take dowry.

You should both have to earn what you need in your life.

DON'T JUST PUNISH THE FAMILY AND GIRL FOR YOUR GREED. If you want more SO EARN IT NOT BEG IT.

She will be doing much more than you even by being a housewife. So why are you just not ready to understand it that its you who owe something to your lady. So you just stop it and be human.

And the other bride burning in many houses is only for dowry. But there are many strict laws in India so this practice has stopped somewhat. But for those who are still burning the bride, they are the shameless people. And they also have to pay for it giving their life. As its the right of god only to give and take someones life. We are not god, so we don't have any right.

In the last I would just say BE THE HUMANS, THAT TOO A SELF RESPECTING AND INDEPENDENT ONE.

I am completely against dowry system. In ancient times, only men were working. But now both are working and earning. Apart from that after marriage she looks after her husband, children, treat husbands parents as her own parents, and do all household activities. So actually, dowry should be given to women for doing all these things. Around 65% of work has done by women, but what does she get?

Good afternoon everyone.

Yes I do agree with the fact that dowry and bride burning are integral part of India in these days also.

In India the mentality of families is such that they spend lots of money on their boy and most importantly they think boys are superior race as compared to girls. So just to get a superior thing you ll have to pay money. Its like selling a material in the market where.

The family of girls are the buyers.

Now just because of this mentality of considering boys as the superior race it became a tradition in India where the more more branded boys are sold at higher price.

This dowry system made the family of bridegroom greedy. They start asking for more money or materialistic things out of greed. When these creeds are not fulfilled they just forget the humanity and out of anger they burn the bride.

I want to conclude that this was and would be an integral part of our country till the time we won't change our mentality toward girls. It won't change till we don't start seeing boys and girls as equal races.

Thank you.

Hi Friends. I m Totally against Dowry system in India. It is a social ls evil. This problem is deep rooted in India. This is due to wrong mentality of society that boys are more superior to girls. They think boys are bread winners of their family. But nowdays girls has proved their worth. They are neither weak and inferior to nor dependent on anyone. Sunita Williams, Saina nehwal, Marrykom etc. Are the best examples.

Bridegroom's parents thinks that they do some favour on bride's family or we can say they are selling their boy (smart, educated) to bride.

Parents must encourage their daughters to be independent, to be educated.

Law enforces some stringent measures to curb this menace but nothing is going to be changed until society has changed their mentality.

Women has a very religious place in india's traditions. Denigration of women has ruined our society.

No security is provided to girls. Women cannot enjoy their freedom. Society's mentality forces them to live in boundaries. But why? both men and women are God's creatures. Both have their own rights. Restrictions on women are due to only society norms made by human. So these norms must be put to an end.

One question to girls.

Why are parents of educated and independent girls giving dowry? they must take stand against it.

Hello friends, according to my point of view it is wrong to say that bride burning and dowry is an integral part of India. I am totally against the dowry system. I think that the government should completely banned the dowry system in marriage because we all see that instead of enacted of law against whom demand dowry in marriage, the peoples are still demanded and the only way to completely end this is to ban it.

I think that the incident of bride burning and dowry are mostly happen because of girls are not consider equally to boys. The peoples thinking is that boys are more superior than that of boys and they not treated well to girls and maintain a difference between boys & girls and same is happen with girl after marriage. Also the girls are not still totally independent today.

So if we really want that such type of incident like bride burning and dowry are not happen, then there is a need of change. The change is needed in our mindset that the boys are not superior than girls because we have lots of example of brave girls like Mother Teresa, Sunita williams, Kalpana Chawla etc who could bright the name of nation. Also there is a need of change in the law. The government make more strict law against bride burning and dowry so that peoples thing thousand times before doing such type of crime and make fast track court for the completion of such type case earlier.