Bride burning and dowry may look bad, but are an integral part of India.

Hello everyone.

According to me dowry is the most serious problem which the Indian brides are facing. The girl is not only tortured mentally but sometimes physically as well. She bears a lot of pain just because of the greediness of her in laws. And sometimes even the husband also supports his family. This makes it even more difficult for the wife to stay there. And the typical Indian mentally also forces her to stay at her in laws place because we Indians have a belief that a girls real home is her in laws place. The society further blames her and make rumors about her. At the end the girl has no option except suiciding.

I am surprised to see so many people have written that, "dowry system is very prevalent in India".

I would suggest all of them to retrospect once again, forget about what you have been shown in media! Just look into your family and close relative and find is it a real problem in 21st century?

There is other side of the story, 'False Dowry Case 498A' to harass husband and its family, as the law is women-friendly (anti-men) , if a women just complain about husband, his sister, father, mother, small kid if husband family put behind bar, and later if the complain is found false, no action against the 498A girl.

Supreme court has 'Legal Terrorism', and asked government take action, but govt is silent!

Do you know that 50-60K men are suiciding every year, because of these gender baised law! Do you know that, there is no law which can protect man from DV (mental torture/Financial torture/ Threatening for dowry case etc).

Don't believe? Google "dowry law misuse"!

Tolulope, from Nigeria. I have grown to know that India has it's foundation on LOVE, but with what I see that love is no more. How a parent fill when their child comes of age to marry and his day was filled with sadness instead of joy. Should marriage be for worldly possessions instead of love? when parent get scare and abort their daughter because of dowry, time will come India would be fill with just male, then we would see who will pay the dowry. Or India would rather grow to a gay nation. When all the female run away. Show some love.

About 70% of the population in India are indulge in practising these two things. Strong actions needs to be taken so that women can be protected after and before marriage. These women helpline numbers are working along with women police force, and ngos etc which are useful for securing the future of women before and after marriage.

Hello! I'd like to tell everyone that the form in which we understand the concept of dowry is not what is was at the time this concept was formulated and incorporated into our culture. In the ancient times when a woman moved to her in-laws' house, she was sent with items and accessories of daily use so that she might feel comfortable in the new environment. Also, another girl (usually unmarried) was sent with her so that the bride would not feel alone and uncomfortable. This girl used to return after the bride would get well-acquainted with her new place.

But now the scene has completely changed. Dowry is considered to be an inseparable part of our institution of marriages. This distortion and misinterpretation of our customs must be condemned.

Let's all stand against this social evil.

Hi friends, in my opinion prevalent patriarchy system of our society, mean mindedness of boys parents, silent consent of boys regarding accepting dowry, paralysed law and order system to check any kind of discrimination or misbehaviour specially related to dowry and dowry deaths, some affluent families of girls who promote this evil by providing abundance amount of money and gifts and some extent to peoples orthodoxy nature of not accepting the changes are the factors which are responsible for this prevalent system in our society. Present situation is so bad that even an IAS officer who might write and speak against this system in his written or interview exam also like to get money in his marriage for sake of his name and fame.

So in my opinion present scenario can be changed only when youth especially boys will learn true meaning of being civilized, and give equal importance to girls, when girls will learn their own values, and above all when government will start to take initiative and implement effective laws in this regard considering women issues important.

According to me Dowry is a curse for our society. It is the worst culture of our society. Dowry is another name of greediness which has no end. Now a day, dowry system is at its highest point. The boy's family demands for a lot of cash, jewelry, vehicles, household articles etc. In form of dowry to girl's family. And if the girl's family is not able to pay such a great amount, they break the relation.

I want to say, why girl's family give dowry to boy's family. Only because of this, that they have a daughter. On one side we are talking about women empowerment and another side we are downwarding the position of women in our society by doing this type of activity. These are the things that bring women down and make a feel to woman that they are less than boys in every manner.

Some people are agree for dowry issue and giving logic that girls should have a partition in her father's property.

But this is not correct. When the boy's family demands for dowry, they never think about the limitation of girl's family. If girl's father has a property of 20 lakh and the girl is 4 brother or sister, then what is the part of that girl in property? Only 5 lakh! But the boy's family demand for 20 lakh that is the whole property of girl's father.

Finally what is the result? The relationship breaks. In many cases, the girl can't bear such a big insult and go to depression.

When, when we Indians wake and say no to dowry!

We should try to stop the dowry system. We are the future of India. Everything depends on our thought.

According to me when a girl leaves her parents home and goes to a new house, she has lots of dreams which one can see through the brightness of her eyes. In the return of those dreams her parents have to expend their hard earned money without thinking about their old age when that money can help them in many ways but groom and his parents think not even for a single moment about them they just need to fulfill their future demands which they complete by pushing other family's future to dark. Only bride's parents can understand the pain of sending their daughter to a new home. If one demands dowry before marriage there are very rare chances that girl will be happy in that house. So it is also a job of parents to look a groom who can keep their daughter always happy. And yes dowry should never be taken and given. If one can't understand it just keep yourself in place of that girl's parent.

I will say that please finish it because all of families have sons and daughters. If you take dowry to other family one day you will also have to give dowry to other family in this way it is equal and finish it, give freedom to girls.

I really think that dowry system has a strong relation with our culture and tradition. But we should follow it on that sense. Our legal provisions against dowry should be more rigid and effective. Our civic sense also can be play a vital role.