Bride burning and dowry may look bad, but are an integral part of India.

Hi friends.

According to me when a girl leaves her parents home and goes to a new house, she has lots of dreams which one can see through the brightness of her eyes. In the return of those dreams her parents have to expend their hard earned money without thinking about their old age when that money can help them in many ways but groom and his parents think not even for a single moment about them they just need to fulfill their future demands which they complete by pushing other family's future to dark.

Only bride's parents can understand the pain of sending their daughter to a new home. If one demands dowry before marriage there are very rare chances that girl will be happy in that house. So it is also a job of parents to look a groom who can keep their daughter always happy. And yes dowry should never be taken and given. If one can't understand it just keep yourself in place of that girl's parent.

We all are responsible for this becoming an integral part as we have allowed it to continue. We are all passive members of this sad crime. We feel as long as we are not accepting dowry or paying dowry. We must strongly rise against those who still continue to practice this system and demand punishment for such crimes. There must be more awareness and strict action.

It is true that rich and elite continue to give dowry under the guise of marriage rituals, especially some Hindu communities that have an elaborate ritual of showcasing the gifts bestowed by the bride's family on the wedding day. Is this not dowry too disguised under the pretext of amenities for the bride's comfort?

Let us all wake-up and have the guts to say no.

The only acceptable dowry should be a fruiting tree that can be planted which grows up to provide free shade, oxygen, fruits not just to the family but also birds around us.

According to me when a girl leaves her parents home and goes to a new house, she has lots of dreams which one can see through the brightness of her eyes. In the return of those dreams her parents have to expend their hard earned money without thinking about their old age when that money can help them in many ways but groom and his parents think not even for a single moment about them they just need to fulfill their future demands which they complete by pushing other family's future to dark. Only bride's parents can understand the pain of sending their daughter to a new home. If one demands dowry before marriage there are very rare chances that girl will be happy in that house. So it is also a job of parents to look a groom who can keep their daughter always happy. And yes dowry should never be taken and given. If one can't understand it just keep yourself in place of that girl's parent.

Hi, everyone.

Yes, it is true that burning and dowry system exist in the Indian subcontinent but it can be vanished by us or our next generation. Bride burning is seen in some part of India where the literacy rate is poorer. So we can reduce it by campaigns or awareness program that it is not good for our country and even for you as you have also a daughter in your family.

Dowry is an integral part of India since ancient time. Even king and rural gave their daughter a lot of wealth and ornament. This process continues in this era also. Even if a girl is working then also her father have to pay dowry. It can't be totally uprooted but can be reduced when every family intend to do so. The Government should take more action against whom who take dowry and also who give it. We should also complain about those who demand dowry from a girl's family for marriage.

Bridegrooms treated as ATM machines. Unless boy has higher salary, and huge property no women will marry the boy. First question during proposal asked by women parents how much salary boy is getting and how much property boy has. Boy is in on H1B visa.

When taking dowry is wrong, selecting boy based on money equally wrong. Why same women not taking the property from her parents. Show me many women said to husband, saying that wife will share in loan as wife also staying in home.

How many said, wife said rent will be shared and as well as food. Men are not getting any thing from any one free. How much dowry will be given, is it more than boy's property and salary. Remember also men also doing house work.

For the women, job is optional, property is also optional. Who is saying against dowry, first stop this discrimination. See the stress men facing.

According to my opinion, Yes. Dowry is an integral part of India.

Even if some families are rich though they follow such but poor man can't afford all these. I would like to give one example on this.

Assume that one one person who belongs to the poor family but he has wished to do marriage of his daughter for this he wonders here and there. After a lot of efforts, he gets one person which is best for his daughter as she looking for. Only for his daughter's he gets ready to give dowry even he can't afford that much money. See how we got accepted all these even we can't though we accepted. That indicates an integral part.

I would like to suggest to all my friends to get rid off from all these and become self-independent so that we can face every situation easily and with ours accordingly.

The society keeps on changing from time to time. And we have to keep amending the ritual's. We need to see things in a broader perspective. There is always a reason behind a certain ritual.

For example, bride burning used to take in those times and in those places where a woman was completely dependent on her husband. Once her husband dies life becomes hopeless for her.

She has to face all the pains given to her by the society, and re-marriage was not allowed. A married woman had no right to live without her husband. That was the mentality, once upon a time.

Same thing goes for dowry too. But it is not that they are integral part of India. There is no mention of such practices in our holy scriptures. We cannot just cling to old rituals in changing times. It will do more harm than good.

Hello! I'd like to tell everyone that the form in which we understand the concept of dowry is not what is was at the time this concept was formulated and incorporated into our culture. In the ancient times when a woman moved to her in-laws' house, she was sent with items and accessories of daily use so that she might feel comfortable in the new environment. Also, another girl (usually unmarried) was sent with her so that the bride would not feel alone and uncomfortable. This girl used to return after the bride would get well-acquainted with her new place.

But now the scene has completely changed. Dowry is considered to be an inseparable part of our institution of marriages. This distortion and misinterpretation of our customs must be condemned.

Let's all stand against this social evil.

Hello friends.

In my view, present burning problems for women are 99% decreased but other problem is DOWRY, It is also problem for girls parents (for normal people, not rich) although they didn't express their feeling in front of the children.

From childhood on wards they earn money and spend it for studies as equally spending for boys, At the time of marriage also they provide all the things for marriage even though girls parents need to give dowry. Why?

To decrease this dowry system, it is mainly depends on us (boys and girls also). Because at the time of marriage, Sometimes Groom demands for dowry and sometimes grooms mother demands for dowry.

Its better to marry a good girl/boy instead of dowry giving girl. Then both the families can leave happily.

I do agree with Jaan that dowry system was a generous thought by our ancestors and with passing time it has take a new form. Both the dowry system and the sati system is indeed ridiculous, and it is a shame that that the dormer is still carried on in a country of old and rich culture.

Even though India has a male dominated society it doesn't mean that female has no place in India. In india, today, women appear to rule the roost. But its is quite sad to know that they being sold rather than handing over safely to a man of her choice.

"To awaken the people, it is the women who must be awakened. Once she is on the move, the family moves, the village moves, the nation moves”. -Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru.