Bride burning and dowry may look bad, but are an integral part of India.

Bridegrooms treated as ATM machines. Unless boy has higher salary, and huge property no women will marry the boy. First question during proposal asked by women parents how much salary boy is getting and how much property boy has. Boy is in on H1B visa.

When taking dowry is wrong, selecting boy based on money equally wrong. Why same women not taking the property from her parents. Show me many women said to husband, saying that wife will share in loan as wife also staying in home.

How many said, wife said rent will be shared and as well as food. Men are not getting any thing from any one free. How much dowry will be given, is it more than boy's property and salary. Remember also men also doing house work.

For the women, job is optional, property is also optional. Who is saying against dowry, first stop this discrimination. See the stress men facing.

Hi!Everyone.

Gone through the whole discussion and what I have analysed is that we are only discussing the social problem 'Dowry' which is already prevailing in our society. We are talking about what happened in the past and what is happening at present with the groom and bridegroom. I think we all are here to take out some positive solutions for our children so, that atleast we and they should not suffer in future (what is gone is gone).

Whether it is a girl's family or boy's family both have gone through the same phases and hardships in bringing up the child. If girl's parents had saved their hard-earn money for their daughter then same is done by the boy's parents too. Yes, today society has changed girls are equally educated as boys, both can earn good for their living. But as parents we too have responsibilities and love towards our children. I feel that both the parents desires and dream for the beautiful life of their children after marriage.

Both the parents must teach the lessons of adjustments, patience and co-operation to their children for their married life. Both the parents should equally be present for their children like financial, physical and moral support. We cannot expect our children to start their new life all by themselves and for new life they really need finance. Why not lets both the parents give finance equally instead of putting the burdon on girls parents. Couple can choose to live seperately or with any parents by their choice. AS parents are responsible for the well-being of both the children, same way children must take care of both the parents equally.

Thank you.

Why man need a woman? In older days woman was not as educated as a men, because of that only she depended on man. But in 20th century women are not lesser to men. A man can do all what a women can. Then why should one marry. Try to stay without woman. By marry only one totally depend on other, a woman control you life when you get married and a time will come, even a man can't stay without a woman. Now the root cause of dowry is marriage only.

Hi friends.

This is a very aggressive topic.

The parents of groom are taking dowry for the below reasons.

1. They are selling their boy with a good and handsome money. And the boy is sold to the girl which will pay the highest pack.

2. They are having no confidence on their boy and neither the boy is able to collect all the necessities of his daily life by himself. So they are asking some other person to fulfill it.

3. Till today they have lived up their life by like beggars so they are doing the same now.

Its about boys, but what about the girl's families which are so rich that they made it a tradition for all to give dowry.

Why they can't just say NO for that family which is greedy.

See that family will never be able to keep your daughter happy.

And one example would be.

That if the boy want to watch TV and the wife will say its mine you can't watch it now.

Than what would be the self respect of that boy. Its just a humiliation on their part to take dowry.

You should both have to earn what you need in your life.

DON'T JUST PUNISH THE FAMILY AND GIRL FOR YOUR GREED. If you want more SO EARN IT NOT BEG IT.

She will be doing much more than you even by being a housewife. So why are you just not ready to understand it that its you who owe something to your lady. So you just stop it and be human.

And the other bride burning in many houses is only for dowry. But there are many strict laws in India so this practice has stopped somewhat. But for those who are still burning the bride, they are the shameless people. And they also have to pay for it giving their life. As its the right of god only to give and take someones life. We are not god, so we don't have any right.

In the last I would just say BE THE HUMANS, THAT TOO A SELF RESPECTING AND INDEPENDENT ONE.

We all are responsible for this becoming an integral part as we have allowed it to continue. We are all passive members of this sad crime. We feel as long as we are not accepting dowry or paying dowry. We must strongly rise against those who still continue to practice this system and demand punishment for such crimes. There must be more awareness and strict action.

It is true that rich and elite continue to give dowry under the guise of marriage rituals, especially some Hindu communities that have an elaborate ritual of showcasing the gifts bestowed by the bride's family on the wedding day. Is this not dowry too disguised under the pretext of amenities for the bride's comfort?

Let us all wake-up and have the guts to say no.

The only acceptable dowry should be a fruiting tree that can be planted which grows up to provide free shade, oxygen, fruits not just to the family but also birds around us.

Hi, everyone.

Yes, it is true that burning and dowry system exist in the Indian subcontinent but it can be vanished by us or our next generation. Bride burning is seen in some part of India where the literacy rate is poorer. So we can reduce it by campaigns or awareness program that it is not good for our country and even for you as you have also a daughter in your family.

Dowry is an integral part of India since ancient time. Even king and rural gave their daughter a lot of wealth and ornament. This process continues in this era also. Even if a girl is working then also her father have to pay dowry. It can't be totally uprooted but can be reduced when every family intend to do so. The Government should take more action against whom who take dowry and also who give it. We should also complain about those who demand dowry from a girl's family for marriage.

According to me when a girl leaves her parents home and goes to a new house, she has lots of dreams which one can see through the brightness of her eyes. In the return of those dreams her parents have to expend their hard earned money without thinking about their old age when that money can help them in many ways but groom and his parents think not even for a single moment about them they just need to fulfill their future demands which they complete by pushing other family's future to dark. Only bride's parents can understand the pain of sending their daughter to a new home. If one demands dowry before marriage there are very rare chances that girl will be happy in that house. So it is also a job of parents to look a groom who can keep their daughter always happy. And yes dowry should never be taken and given. If one can't understand it just keep yourself in place of that girl's parent.

Hello friends, according to my point of view it is wrong to say that bride burning and dowry is an integral part of India. I am totally against the dowry system. I think that the government should completely banned the dowry system in marriage because we all see that instead of enacted of law against whom demand dowry in marriage, the peoples are still demanded and the only way to completely end this is to ban it.

I think that the incident of bride burning and dowry are mostly happen because of girls are not consider equally to boys. The peoples thinking is that boys are more superior than that of boys and they not treated well to girls and maintain a difference between boys & girls and same is happen with girl after marriage. Also the girls are not still totally independent today.

So if we really want that such type of incident like bride burning and dowry are not happen, then there is a need of change. The change is needed in our mindset that the boys are not superior than girls because we have lots of example of brave girls like Mother Teresa, Sunita williams, Kalpana Chawla etc who could bright the name of nation. Also there is a need of change in the law. The government make more strict law against bride burning and dowry so that peoples thing thousand times before doing such type of crime and make fast track court for the completion of such type case earlier.

According to me Dowry is a curse for our society. It is the worst culture of our society. Dowry is another name of greediness which has no end. Now a day, dowry system is at its highest point. The boy's family demands for a lot of cash, jewelry, vehicles, household articles etc. In form of dowry to girl's family. And if the girl's family is not able to pay such a great amount, they break the relation.

I want to say, why girl's family give dowry to boy's family. Only because of this, that they have a daughter. On one side we are talking about women empowerment and another side we are downwarding the position of women in our society by doing this type of activity. These are the things that bring women down and make a feel to woman that they are less than boys in every manner.

Some people are agree for dowry issue and giving logic that girls should have a partition in her father's property.

But this is not correct. When the boy's family demands for dowry, they never think about the limitation of girl's family. If girl's father has a property of 20 lakh and the girl is 4 brother or sister, then what is the part of that girl in property? Only 5 lakh! But the boy's family demand for 20 lakh that is the whole property of girl's father.

Finally what is the result? The relationship breaks. In many cases, the girl can't bear such a big insult and go to depression.

When, when we Indians wake and say no to dowry!

We should try to stop the dowry system. We are the future of India. Everything depends on our thought.

First here we need to understand what is dowry system, dowry was a belief in ancient time, that time women means to look after her family and her husband, woman didnt use to work so didnt use to earn money, So women were dependent on their husband, dowry was given to women so if anything mis fortunate befell to her husband and she left alone with her children then she can take care of her and her children with that money which was given in dowry, it was given for the security of women, sorry to say but people who are ignorant about the dowry system are making useless comments about dowry and the generous thought of our ancestors.



Today the meaning of dowry has completely changed because we have forgot our great culture and history today dowry means to extract money out of women's parents.



As far as sati system is concerned ,no where in Hindu scriptures it is mentioned that a woman has to set herself blaze after death of her husband,After the death of Pandu raja ,Kunti didnt becaome sati,after the death of Dastrath raja ,His not a single wife became sati.