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B.Monika Keerthi said: (Mon, Aug 25, 2014 10:07:22 PM)    
 
Hai buddies!

As far as I am concerned, marriage is a most beautiful, fragile and precious bond that a person ever come across in his/her lifetime. This journey is totally rely in belief. It is the basic ingredient for the successful life. For example, I made a dish, I feel it as mouthwatering dish and tasted it. Here I have three cases.

1. If all the ingredients, masalastuff, food color, its aroma everything mix up in equal proportions, then I say it as delicious dish.

2. If at least one went wrong, I can adjust it somehow by managing.

3. If none of them mix, then I can't taste, I get raged over me for making such a dirty dish.

So this example reflects marriage life-it's all depends on the couple who involved in the bond.

1. If they understand each other, shares their unpleasantly besides ecstatic moments, care for each other. All these make them a lovely pair, most adorable parents to their kids.

2. If at least one case fails, they have to overcome it by spending some time for each other in their busy schedule. They should not let burdens to settle on their happiness.

3. If mutual understanding is not there, it leads to initially anger, then fight, at last world war.

So should not let the marriage a "trap" rather a "tray" with full of love, affection, believing each other, adjustable to situation and finally.

DON'T LET THE EGO TO STAY IN YOUR HEARTS AND JUST LET 'E' TO 'GO'.

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Manish Kumar said: (Thu, Aug 21, 2014 12:54:38 PM)    
 
According to me I totally agree with this statement that marriage is a social trap.

Because before getting marriage we live our lives according to our thinking and we live freely without having any stress in our minds. We don't have to care about anything and we always being stress free.

But after getting marriage our lives becomes unhappy and we are always in tension of our partner and etc.

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Pallabi Majumdar said: (Fri, Aug 15, 2014 10:03:37 AM)    
 
Hi friends,

In my point of view Marriage is not a social trap, nowadays before marriage parents give their children a prior chance to choose their life partners. All of us need a soulmate in our life with whom we can share our thoughts. We can not live our life all alone. After marriage people really feel that. Yeah its really true someone is there for me.

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Rojalin said: (Sun, Jul 27, 2014 03:02:07 PM)    
 
On my point of view marriage is not a social trap because its the bond created by the two souls, family. Rather on its a bond between the two persons for lifelong, whether they know each other before or not, but after marriage they live happily ever after.

If the marriage is arranged by the family then also its good as the two unknown person will slowly know each other but the main thing is that they should have good understanding power.

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Guptha said: (Sat, Jul 19, 2014 06:29:44 PM)    
 
Hello friends in my words marriage is not at all trap it is going to build a relationship between two persons like men women. This is giving some hope on life and full life safety and love. But I can say by this marriage system people can know about their future responsibilities and also the parents feelings because of before marriage we are not at all caring about our parents words then once we get marry then start thinking on our mind about their parents struggle for giving this all this at free of cost. Finally I conclude marriage is not a trap its responsibility what we have to face in future life.

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Sandipan Nandi said: (Tue, Jul 15, 2014 01:53:54 PM)    
 
Hi all,

Marriage is a holy custom in India. We should marry at some point in time in our life to make our life circle a complete one. But sometimes we see that people think that after their marriage they will be puppets in the hands of their wife and vice-versa. But it depends on the mentality of your partner whether you will be able to spent your life freely or not. Very often we can see that after marriage the life gets changed and we become more responsible.

If we have a good understanding then nothing can trap us not even the society. And if you talk about privacy then a good husband must not disturb the privacy of his wife and that creates a good mental bonding. On the other hand also an ideal wife will also not try to destroy his husband's privacy. So we must not say that marriage is a social trap. If somehow you are trapped after your marriage then it is your individual problem not the problem of this holy institution called "Marriage".

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Vamsi said: (Sun, Jul 13, 2014 11:45:25 AM)    
 
Hello everyone.

I could not understand why people living in India which is rich in its culture and traditions blame marriage as a trap. Marriage plays a very important role in every individuals life. Due to the impact of movies and other social abuses like dowry youth might have corrupted and giving least importance to marriages. Both the youth and their parents should realize that girls and boys are equal in all aspects and should keep full stop to this dowry system so that we can save our traditions and make one's life beautiful.

Marriage acts not only as a social bond between two people but also between their families. It makes the individual responsible towards their family and also towards their society. It shows the importance of relationships which is vanishing in the present society. Better half gives full life of success.

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Hamri said: (Sun, Jul 6, 2014 08:02:36 PM)    
 
Hi friends,

I am Hamri. As a Indian Woman I feel marriage is a social trap for both Bride and Bride groom. Nowadays, technology is developing in a dramatic way. ! Technology is drastically developed in our country. People are changed their living habits are ld also changed No One can believe that India would reach such a position in he world. But Our tradition is not changed at all. People in India, still HAve a good in culture, tradition etc.

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Dolly said: (Sun, Jun 8, 2014 05:07:54 PM)    
 
Hi its dolly, I believe that each of us needs a special a very special person with whom we could share our deepest feelings without any hitch and it's wonderful if the person is always with you. Caring for you, loving you making you feel special and your life wonderful. Its a beautiful bond that completes your life please don't call it a trap. Depends on you how you take it.

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Nageshnnr said: (Mon, Jun 2, 2014 05:30:05 AM)    
 
When Love is unconditional then only it will leads for the two souls to bond together for a life time. In game of life everything has got some rules to play. If we those rules of society or our cultures ; life will be smooth. If you disobey and set your own rules then you need to undergo some suffering it can be just for initial days or lasts for life time also. Consequences cannot be predicted.

The meaning of marriage is different for different class of people in society. Current generation has become sick and girls parents giving priority to.

1) Physical appearance.
2) Monthly salary.
3) Assets the man is holding.

Does this man that a person with all this qualities only should get married ? then I don't think the actual concept of marriage is satisfied.

A guy will prefer girl only if.

1) She looks fair and beautiful.
2) Gives more dowry and basic gold ornaments or assets.

The pathetic situation is the more people are educated more they are expecting.

Friends I request, Those who are going to get married for both guys and girls. Please try to understand what marriage is. Dont try to do business or do shopping.

Good marriages will stabilize the societies. This is major difference between developed countries and India.

In India we are able to see our forefathers or grand grand parents because of this system. I don't say don't give or take dowry, but expect only some has the capacity to give and don't squeeze poor or middle class people.

Middle class people should start revolutionary change by taking oath that guys will not take dowry from poor or middle class families. If some rich families like your profile nothing wrong in they offering you.

Thanks and Regards.

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Ajay Agarwal said: (Mon, Feb 10, 2014 12:17:50 AM)    
 
Hello friends,

According to me marriage is not a social trap because marriage makes our life complete, it brings in a sense of responsibility towards our family, at this point of time we realize that we need to bring a sort of stability in our life.

Marriage is not only an engagement of a man and a women, but both the partners take vows to support each other though out their life, be with each other at all the circumstances be it good or bad. One is always very close to us with whom we can share our deepest feelings.

Marriage is also a meeting of two families their culture, traditions, festivals.

A successful marriage makes a happy family, which in turn makes a peaceful society and finally a developed Country.

But marriage becomes a social trap when it is done only for a compromise, for money, for some sort of sacrifice or when there is not respect for one's feelings and emotions and their family.

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Rakesh said: (Thu, Jan 2, 2014 06:52:30 PM)    
 
Really it's a social trap because most of them marrying with any sort of understanding between them, understanding the feelings and tastes of individuals play a major role in the marriage so whom your loving wait for those one and get married.

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Aditya Kumar said: (Thu, Dec 26, 2013 09:21:02 PM)    
 
Its ADITYA,

Initially I was not a believer of love, true love is the complete attachment of two soul, I don't understand how people can live without marrying whom they love, I will request to every one please feel the essence of love, if not yet loved wait for real love, and only marry whom you love, no doubt you will be be happy. One thing should not be forgotten that where there is no miner quarrels the relation is not moved by heart it's by mind, so don't bother of that, BE A TRUE LOVER, YOUR BASE OF LOVE SHOULD NOT BE PHYSICAL, IT SHOULD BE EMOTIONAL.

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Gajendra Malik said: (Mon, Dec 16, 2013 06:31:35 PM)    
 
I think that marriage is not a social trap. It is a true relationship between true minds. It is also a good understanding between two couple. In every moment of life it helps a person need a partner to understandings his felling. The same matter in case of a girl.

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Ajayg said: (Sat, Oct 5, 2013 10:07:20 PM)    
 
Hello.

I think, marriage is very special friendship in between the two people. There will be one stage in everyone's life that he/she needs a partner to share his/her happiness, sorrows, feelings, etc. There are some situations in life which he/she can't handle without a partner.

Also there should be mutual understanding between the couple. No one should underestimate other and try to adjust with each others likes/ dislike by doing this life will become very beautiful.

And "marriage will not become Social Trap".

Thank you.

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Ankush said: (Wed, Oct 2, 2013 08:16:19 PM)    
 
Marriage is delicate custom in our society. If we handle it well then it's best thing ever happened in your life but if you do not take care of it nicely and carefully that will become curse you will have to bear forever.

And hey Nobody is forcing to marry anyone. You have freedom to marry whomever you want and at whatever age you want. If you think that it is trap then don't go into it.

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Saumitra Pathak said: (Thu, Sep 12, 2013 02:00:57 PM)    
 
Hello Friends, I agree to all of you.

But I will greatly support to @Ekta who said that Marriage is a bonding between two people, two family, two society, two cultures, which should be handled with care, understanding, trust and love.

According to me, it is the part of management of life. It is great feeling & experience of life which requires understanding & management with partners thinking, their need and also with their past & future.

It helps to youth to become responsible.

If marriage becomes social trap then only the lack of education becomes the reason behind it. Because the criminal cases related to marriage are always founded within the people which are uneducated.

So only because of them, we can not say that marriage is a social trap.

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Anitha said: (Tue, Sep 10, 2013 10:36:38 AM)    
 
Hello everybody,

Marriage in fact is not a social trap, but it is a social protection to a girl to live in the society. Now a days, it is so difficult to live alone for a girl, even though the confidence and the boldness allows her to live, there is a time where everything fails in one or the other situation.

Marriage is also a safer zone for guys. If taken up with true understanding without any egos, complexes etc. Marriage as said by our ancestors, are made in heaven which continues to live in earth.

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Manu said: (Sat, Aug 24, 2013 03:47:20 PM)    
 
Hello friends.

Marriage is not a trap. Some marriage will suffer because their not be understand each other. Every life partner will help to partner. In Indian culture women must want partner for the entire life. Every relations is beautiful. When life is like a friendship.

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Pavan said: (Wed, Aug 21, 2013 02:19:37 PM)    
 
Marriage is not at all a social trap, it brings stability in a unstable life for a youth to become responsible marriage plays a major role. For a person who cannot under the importance of marriage cannot live in society, he should think that he is the product of a marriage. It is a trap for women in India more than 50% women are suffering from domestic violence so how can people say that women trap wealthy man its rubbish.

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Harshika said: (Thu, Aug 15, 2013 11:10:57 PM)    
 
Marriage is a social trap. This is true because in India women trap men to fulfill their own selfish needs especially for money. Women traps rich class men only for money. Whereas in some parts of India marriage cannot be consider as a social trap because marriage for women is everything for them. Men also are dedicated enough towards their marriage.

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Bindu said: (Tue, Aug 6, 2013 08:13:53 PM)    
 
Hello friends,

According to me marriage is not a social trap, because it is bond of two relationship thats nothing but two hearts. Parents will not be with us everytime and everywhere, so there is a need of help, being along with us every time for a lifetime, the person who supports always in every aspects, it gives meaning to life by giving a new generation. No one can stay alone for a long time, but many of the people says that they want to be alone, its only because some sort of disturbances in life. It is a place where we find more love and affection after your parents. As I said parents will not stay for ever, so there is need to find same level of love and care from other she/he. Marriage life depends on understanding between each other, there should not be any judgemental.

Relation makes you happy and complete life.

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Sruthi said: (Sun, Jun 23, 2013 11:04:21 PM)    
 
Marriage is surely not a social trap because through marriage we get life partner who stays with us for lifelong, many things may happen many may come and go but life partner stays with us how hard the situation is. For example if we take two persons where one is married and other unmarried we find that married person feels confident than other because he has support from life partner who stays how hard the situation is and this confidence cannot be given my money, status even children may leave some times but life partner does not live. "marriage is bonding two different persons to be as one soul to spend the total life happily".

By marriage we will have one with whom we can share our joy, sad, everything. Some married couples may be unhappy due to their misunderstanding or any other reason but by seeing some cases we cannot say the total system is bad.

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Jay said: (Mon, Jun 10, 2013 06:43:56 PM)    
 
I think marriage is a social trap. Today majority people get married just because of status. If they don't get satisfied after marriage they find different partner. It just deludes society. There are many cases where people do adopt live in approach. It's not necessary to impose "MARRIAGE" on two souls. Society should think on it as time changes.

I think marriage might have been created only for reproduction.

It's just waste of time, money and energy.

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Uv Gupta said: (Fri, May 31, 2013 05:58:16 PM)    
 
In my view point marriage is not a social trap because of both bride and groom wants privacy and they are also enjoying their life with love and commitment. In present era parents of both bride and groom are giving total privacy so that they are making as a good relation.

But when I look at poor and illiterate societies, due to their more importance to rituals and rigid customs, couple feel that they have been trapped in the name of marriage. They really want to end their marriage, but due to family pressures, they live entire life with sense of deception. In such case, marriage is really a social trap.

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Marisham said: (Wed, Apr 17, 2013 11:22:35 AM)    
 
I completely believe that marriage is a social trap ! I would like to raise some questions, which I think most of you would agree! Why the person marry anybody in pressure for the sake of society in which we recite? What if the person does not want to have a soul mate and would love to spend his/her whole life for his/her parents? Why is there such a rule/custom made by our own society for d so called marriage concern? Why is a person considered dependent to lean upon somebody, he can also live independently on his own terms ?

'COMPROMISE', 'UNDERSTANDING', 'ADJUSTMENT' etc etc. Why to bring such complicated terms in our lives. We get life only once, I think people are born free and should have right to live and let live others free,

Marriage is a total waste of time, money and still in the worst case I can never see myself compromising each day of my life for anybody!

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Rinku Kumari said: (Sun, Mar 31, 2013 09:43:49 PM)    
 
In my opinion marriage is a social trap because there is lots of restrictions are imposed on bride. Her own life come to an end. Now she has to live for that family which is new her. She has to adjust with a new family. It become like trap for her. Since in laws family do not want to adjust according to bride. And those who says it is not a trap can become bride and experience the situation. Why only girl will adjust why not her husband and his family?

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Aruna said: (Wed, Mar 27, 2013 07:16:51 AM)    
 
Marriage is a fantastic relationship. Family grow always sweet and smooth. But sometime problems will come automatically. Problems are main in our human life. It comes and go. Whatever we need a good relationship to husband and wife. So many marriage stories in our world. Marriage is only understanding two hearts. It hearts root clear life is so clear to travel in life long.

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Merin said: (Wed, Feb 20, 2013 01:48:01 PM)    
 
Marriage is where two souls unite, two families unite, two cultures and traditions unite. It is a sign of agreement that the two stays together no matter what consequences arise between them.

But, things change when dowry, earnings and job come into action.

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Radhakrishna said: (Tue, Dec 18, 2012 03:16:21 PM)    
 
In my view marriage is all about sharing each others experiences, joys, happiness and even sorrows, pain and difficulties. But anyone in this relationship shows indifference or neglects or stop sharing the experiences of their partner then there are chances that the partner feels trapped in marriage. Marriage is all about give and take. As long as you respect others feelings and emotions the journey will be smoother else it will be rough and both feel they are trapped.

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Party Marty said: (Fri, Dec 14, 2012 09:56:52 AM)    
 
If you are with the right person, it is not a trap at all. Its a freedom. If you with the wrong person, then it can be a trap. Just remember, "a happy wife is a happy life" Keep your woman happy, gentlemen. Its less important to be "right" than it is to keep peace.

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Kavita said: (Thu, Nov 29, 2012 11:07:09 PM)    
 
Marriage is not a social trap because marriage is a part of our life and its just like second innings of your life. Marriage completes our life. If there is understanding, caring, love between 2 people then no one can say marriage is a social trap.

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Sumit said: (Wed, Nov 21, 2012 09:34:50 AM)    
 
According to me marriage is not a social trap, it is social bonding between two family and their culture. If person is unable adapt these things, it become social trap for them. So marriage is not social trap our understanding make it. So it up to us how we look after it make a balance with it. I believe that if we are able to make a proper between the family it is world wonderful thing because it will stay with you till your death.

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Ekta said: (Fri, Oct 26, 2012 09:24:43 AM)    
 
Marriage is a bonding between two people, two family, two society, two cultures, which should be handled with care, understanding, trust and love. Failing to which may become a trap for them. Two people (family) always there for each other, in good as well as in bad situation, handling all the pros and cons of life. But like every coin has two sides, it may have two sides either.

If the partners are caring, understanding, have trust, love each other, have trust, then its a perfect bonding.

But when it is affected by dowry, money, status, cheating, fraud, misunderstanding, ego, wrong attitude, selfishness. It becomes a trap.

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Avinash Yadav said: (Wed, Oct 3, 2012 03:48:52 PM)    
 
Its depend on us in what way we are taking it, if we are going with it as social tradition it will never provide happiness, as we expect from it but when we accept it as mutual relationship it will give us strength to handle all the ups and down so it.

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Sankari said: (Thu, Sep 27, 2012 06:51:41 PM)    
 
Hai to all. In my point of view Marriage is the biggest social trip. Marriage is a social obligation. There are many demands from groom side. Marriage gives us family pressure. Marriage for a girl becomes a trap if she is not satisfied by her new in-law family, she can't even break the relationship as she is bonded to the society. Hence marriage becomes a social trap for her.

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Arif said: (Sat, Aug 18, 2012 10:10:27 PM)    
 
I think marriage is not a social trap but there are some way to become trap. There are many examples, a person gets marry a person who don't know about his/her status. I agree with that marriage is made in havean and allah gives us a partner whose we don't know about her/him. But it becomes respectful and understandable after marriage. There are two kind of marriage. Love marriage and arrange marriage. Arrange marriage is a best way to get our partner. Our parents decide that who will your partner. And it makes toward two families. We aware about him/her. Our parents are more experience to find him or her because they know his family. And according to love marriage, we find our partner and talk to our parents about him or her. They have more aware about marriage and moire experience. So they would contact their family and get to marriage.

So in this way it is not a trap. But a person or his family make relationship in the name of marriage for only dowry system. If they have lure of money. Surely it is a trap because thats relationship is irrespectful for both and it makes many problems like divorse. Likewise love marriages are sometime trap because we fall in love with our partner and want to marry in any situation weather their parents are not ready for marriage, they go to court and gets a court marriage. But when they lives in society there are many reason bei ng asked. Parents are being questioned in society.

People are become irrespectful and arise many question about their marriage. Is this not a trap? Surely it is a trap because we hurt our parents and society, we cannot live with our partner to hurt our parents. So we need to be patience for marriage. A time is fixed for our marriage. So that we need to wait.

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Archana said: (Fri, Jun 15, 2012 10:02:31 PM)    
 
Marriage is not at all a social trap. We find the greatness of marriage when we are in a very hard situation, the time when only our life partner will stay with us sharing our hard work when other people including our children try to escape. Every relation in our life will go away from us one or the other day but only life partner will stay with us till our death expecting only love from us. So I thank our ancestors for bonding us in a thing like marriage providing us a person who lives or stays with us whole life.

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Rasika said: (Thu, May 24, 2012 03:24:11 PM)    
 
In today's context if we talk about marriage. Then it has to be like a mutual contract between two fellows. (husband and wife). And maturity level of not only that husband and wife but also of their families and their maturity matters. Especially when the issues of "Dowry" arises in a society.

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Moumita said: (Sat, May 12, 2012 05:27:58 PM)    
 
Marriage cannot be the social trap. Marriage is the social bonding and it unites the two individuals and also two family. If both the couple love and respect each and can live happily then there is no question of telling it a social trap. The confuses arises at that point of time when there is no understanding between them. So I just want to draw the attention that marriage is a social bondage and the people will decide whether they will make it a trap or a social bondage.

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Ravi Vedwan said: (Tue, Apr 17, 2012 12:36:10 PM)    
 
Marriage is something which is prevalent from time immemorial not because it is a social trap but a trap which is used to trap the soul of two human beings socially. I really think that it is the best way to live with someone who is very very special to you. Though some restrictions are there but these are also for the welfare of two souls.

Practically it depends upon you that by which angle you look at it, it is you who make it a social trap or trapless, there are many who are living happily and there are many who fights the very first day. So think it, live it and enjoy it for the rest of life.

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Kumar052 said: (Thu, Mar 22, 2012 08:09:26 AM)    
 
No marriage is not a social trap but it is the requirement of the society. It is helping our society to make stable. If there will be nothing like marriage then society will become unstable which will be very dangerous for every one.

Marriage only a best way to generation to generation. And also our ancestor after long years of experience got its a best option and that way we adopt these tradition.

And we know that if we don't have these thing in our society then what side effect our socity will be. Marriage is only for security of of society not a social trap.

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Shagun said: (Fri, Mar 2, 2012 06:56:17 PM)    
 
I don't think so marriage is a social trap as it is up to you weather you want to marry or not it is a beautiful relationship and one should respect it. It gives us social respect and a chance to spend our life with someone special. It may a trap for those who want to live there life out of there freedom, but it should be kept in mind a bird always flys back towards his family even after spending whole day outside. And moreover its hard to find people who will actually stand with you till your death.

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Raghvendra said: (Thu, Mar 1, 2012 06:05:14 PM)    
 
I agree that marriage is a social trap. It spoils the life of the both male and female. Why to marry and be economically and physically dependent on other. Its better to enjoy your freedom. Why to share it with anybody who even don't understand you ?

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Asim Dinda said: (Sun, Feb 26, 2012 08:34:29 PM)    
 
I think marriage is not a social trap. It reminds us that we are quite matured now. Still before the marriage we are free, we live our life but now it is time to take extra responsibility. It leads us to be a very good person, responsible.

Those people who could not compromise with his or her life partner marriage is a social trap for them.

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Sachin said: (Tue, Feb 21, 2012 10:59:16 PM)    
 
Hello there..
I hv read all the comments mentioned before and some of them were very perceptive. What I think that the marriage is not a social trap. If you are calling it a trap that because after the marriage the girl is not allowed to work in offices, she is forced to remain housewife. So i think that is not correct. One individual is not allowing this wife to work outside then it is his personal opinion. If u r saying it is trap because the career of a woman gets destroy coz of marriage then it is also incorrect. there are many examples of women who hav still contributed to the society, even being married. The late Savitribai Phule, Kalpana Chawla and even the actress who still continue with their work after getting married. So, summing all these points i only come to the conclusion that the marriage is not a social trap.

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Vishal said: (Thu, Feb 9, 2012 07:27:51 PM)    
 
Marriage is the biggest social trap which ironically people themselves get into out of stupidity. Marriage is not compulsory, its just a choice being choosen by people who trust law more than love. God created genders and the priests created marriage. Also the amount of useless expenses thay incur in showing of their marriage just shows their sick mind. How can your spendng money on wedding day gonna help the days after marriage? Thats why its said "If marriages are made in heaven then whats made in hell? The answer is the days after marriage" :-)

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Joy said: (Sat, Jan 28, 2012 10:10:50 PM)    
 
Marriage is a scared bond between not only two person but also between two families even between two cultures and religions.

It is so sacred that in every religion the marriage rituals are performed in front of the respective gods. It redefines a relationship between two person such that they remain with each other in all the ups and downs of each others life.

Be it a love marriage where there are new discoveries in the already familiar relationships or a arranged marriage where there is a start of a whole new relationship, marriage is the most memorable experience of life which separates human being from the biological reproduction in animals.

But, in today's hectic life where is the time for "discoveries in relationships". The general intolerance in our society is having its impact on marriages as well, and we are seeing more and more divorces. For these people marriages have become a social trap.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven, because after that people don't remain alive anymore.

These separations have a highky negative impact not only on the to person but, also on their families, their children and the society on a whole.

The children of separated parents, are subjected to a unbalanced life for no fault of their own. They become frystrated.

We have seen many celebrity marriages too having an abrupt and unhappy end. Yhe very recent being the one between kim kardashian and kris humpries which lasted for 72 days only.

Again, when there is no relation between two people, forget husband - wife relation, they are two completely different people forced to stay under one roof for social obligations ie. Fear of being a point of discuusion that is when marriages become a socila trap.

But, we have to undersatnd that any marriage needs time, patience, compromise and care for each other from each other to sustain.

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Laveena said: (Tue, Jan 17, 2012 04:52:44 PM)    
 
In my point of view marriage is not a social trap.It is the greatest gift gifted by god to every person.Actually getting married is a fruitfull thing but in some cases because of certain reasons it's becoming a trap.Dowry,misunderstandings,hidings,not respetcting each other etc.,will lead the marriage into a trap.

Bonding up with new families,getting a partner for sharing our feelings,getting a liscence for giving birth for someone to enjoy this nature etc..will lead the marriage into a fruitful life..



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Qqq said: (Wed, Jan 11, 2012 12:48:30 PM)    
 
In my opinion the Marriage is not a social trap Marriage is necessary part of society. Dowry is not compulsory to been given as In olden days wealthy people because of love and effection towards their child they used send child with lot of gold orniments and money so that their child be happy at their mother in laws house in that ways people started giving dowry now today dowary has become comp;usory it is effecting the middle and poor class people The only way to control is to educate people marriage is not only bonding between two persons but also whole family In India marriage are given great importants were forieng countries are showing interest towards our marriage system.

Marriage gives us security, faith, trust and happences.

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Anuj said: (Fri, Jan 6, 2012 01:55:27 AM)    
 
Who say marriage is a social trap I totally disagree. Marriage is a very necessary part of society but as coin have two side now days marriage also have two side 1-posive side 2-negative side. Positive side as everybody know marriage help to make bond between two families, between two person. But there some cons come in it like Dowry. It is biggest curse for our society. Due to this daily the dream of many brides break. They commit to suicide, divorce became common in society. So I just want to say marriage is not a trap. Its cons make it trap.

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Abdul Gafoor said: (Wed, Dec 7, 2011 12:05:57 PM)    
 
People who selfish they are disliking marriage. Marriage is a practical way to make a good society in the earth. If you asking about the "trap" I will say everything will be trap in the life if you are not handling with understanding. Like father and son, husband and wife, our neibours etc. So you have to be more practicel and finally you have think every individual has certain responsibilities and duties towards the soceity and marriage also part it.

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Padmini Manthri said: (Thu, Nov 17, 2011 04:18:03 PM)    
 
Marriage is definitely a social trap in my opinion(love or arranged marriage), because its more about inviting problems to yourself(fights and misunderstandings), however the contradiction to this is that a human being has to go through several stages in life like childhood, teenage, adulthood, marriage phase and then old age. In all this stage a human being is trapped with lot of thoughts in mind one such phase is the marriage phase.

In this entire journey in our life we always want to live life, expect lot of things from other, however we fail to fulfill their(the other spouse) expectation and still expect that they have to fulfill all that we want from them.

Death is certain to all, but the way it strikes in uncertain! So until we are alive, we cant lead life alone and hence our elders have made marriage a compulsory thing in our lives.

Thank you for your patient reading. Comments are welcome.

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Madhu said: (Sun, Nov 6, 2011 04:20:23 PM)    
 
In my opinion marriage is not a social trap, it is bond between two families but in some cases it becomes social trap when misunderstanding exists between them. It is compulsory to understand each other and know each others likes and dislikes before they get married.

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Achu Mol said: (Mon, Oct 24, 2011 11:32:26 PM)    
 
Definitely marriage is a not a social trap. In some cases it become trap.This is arises due to the misunderstanding between the partners. If marriage is held in heaven, how it become social trap? Marriage is a good thing in our society, because it create a good family.

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Jjpp said: (Tue, Oct 18, 2011 08:39:59 PM)    
 
According to me marriage is not a social trap. Its a lovely bond between two persons who can share his/her happiness and worries through out their life time. Understandability plays a major role in marriage life. Both should understand each other and share everything without any fail. Treat your partner as your best friend for ever. Don't hide things, which will create big problems. Whatever it may be just open up your mind with your partner.

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James said: (Fri, Oct 7, 2011 10:51:37 PM)    
 
Marriage is not definitly a social trap.Its a bond between two persons for a life time.
its a relation ship between two families.marriage constitute a good family and that inturn constitute a good society.if there is no marriage like thing then that would lead to a horrible situation.

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Ankur said: (Mon, Sep 19, 2011 12:32:53 PM)    
 
Dear All, I read all the Points of various person. I feel bed to say we are suppose to give goods points over here from the GD point of view but what I find there is mostly emotional outburst.

I request you to please help us by providing some good points. This platform is to help other who are preparing for entrance not for showing your feeling.

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Preeti said: (Wed, Sep 7, 2011 12:24:32 PM)    
 
According to my opinion marriage is a social trap. In our country our ancestors n society has made marriage a compulsary one and in arrange marriage they are the one who decides our partners. For a true love, couple should have faith and understanding for each other. And free to live their own life in their own style. Marriage for a girl becomes a trap if she is not satisfied by her new in-law family, she can't even break the relationship as she is bonded to the society. Hence marriage becomes a social trap for her. So the marriage should not be compulsory in our society.

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Kuldeep Prajapati Ajmer said: (Sun, Aug 7, 2011 07:49:22 PM)    
 
Well I think marriage is not social trap but it is responsibility of society to improve marriage system like they should provide some freedom to their children to understand the internal feeling each other before marriage. If they think that he or she is right person for me then you should make marriage of your child after that they will spend their time each other very easily.

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Rashmi said: (Wed, Jul 27, 2011 11:15:08 PM)    
 
According to me marriage is not a social trap,because we all need a person to whom you can share your feelings,imotions etc... and we people give it a name called "MARRIAGE".yes,it became a social trap when there is no understanding between both husband and wife...if they know eachother then it's fine we feel like i am living in heaven if it's not then oviously hell.so before getting marriage understand each other ,think yourself that is it really that person with whom i will spend my whole life,then get marry him/her.

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Amitesh said: (Fri, Jun 17, 2011 08:10:40 AM)    
 
If everything is going to fine between husband and wife then there is no problem. But if one of them finds their happiness in third person then it turns into a psychic cyclone because he/she can not live with them without going to a painful phase of social rejection. This is just because marriage which this bloody society (man dominated) has made to make woman their private property. Not only woman but man also suffers if caught in same situation. Is'nt it better if society does not put any such bindation on human being.

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Rocky said: (Tue, May 24, 2011 02:24:46 AM)    
 
In my opinion, marriage is not a social trap. Let us look at the advantages of being in a marriage.

1. Life time buddy to share your emotions, problems with: We are a social animal, we need friends family and others to interact with.

2. Social, emotional and financial security: In a marriage, role is defined for each one of us. And it makes living easy and fun when working in a team. Imagine one has to do all the work of his own, washing, cooking, going to office and shopping.

3. Sex: It's a biological need of human body. Every human being needs to have it. One can argue that one doesn't need to be married to have it. But does it only include the physical aspect? How about the emotional aspect? how about commitment?



Many of my friends had mentioned about the incompatibility, sufferings after marriage. I would say who's telling you to get married to a person who's not compatible to you. Know the person before getting in marriage. And even after marriage if one needs to adjust a little bit, what's wrong in that?

And lastly I would like to mention, we all treasure our family. And it's because our parents got married we have this wonderful life. Surely they might have had their share of fights. But then again nobody likes all sweet or is it? :).

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Veronica said: (Fri, May 20, 2011 03:03:18 AM)    
 
According to me marriage is a social trap. Our ancestors made marriage compulsory just for making it a tradition. In marriage not only the compatibility of a partner is important but the family, financial conditions, status etc too play an important role. But when sometimes these demands of the girl and boy cannot be completed or any of the one partner lacks these qualities it only leads to hearttaking divorce or frustration, domestic violence, extra marital affairs. What this society needs is just that commitment but for this commitment binding people by a social custom called marriage is not worth doing. So I feel that instead of bounding people freedom and space to live their life should be given.

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Sudhanshu Shekhar said: (Fri, May 13, 2011 10:43:17 AM)    
 
In earlier times when society was men-dominated then indeed it was social trap as well as compulsion for women to be in the trap. Looking from the Indian society perspective woman's were considered as the wealth of other's family. They will be finally married to someone and all her dependence will be on her in-laws family. So, women became financially dependent on their husband and have no financial claims on the wealth of her own family. So, even if nothing is going well with her husband and in-laws she had to tolerate as she had been virtually shunned by her family after marriage.

But now coming into modern scenario society is liberalised. Women's are not looked upon by their family in the same ways as they were looked in earlier times. They are financially independent. So, they can have their say right away if they are not finding the person compatible. But still because of the fear of the society they don't call quits right away. Even in the higher sections of the society it is evident. Recently, one IFS officer was charged beating her wife. She initially tolerated but finally made it public. So, question arises why she tolerated the torture to which she was subjected?Again, many years back there was the case in which two colleagues of premier MBA institution had their love marriage. But, husband after sometime started beating her and that two with rods. Her body bore the scars of that. Then again question arises why she didn't call quits right away?It's the trap created by the society and to cut the trap you had to be mentally strong enough to face the why question from the society. Even your family would not be supportive in your decisions.

All this arguments holds true in case of man also.

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Paragi said: (Mon, May 9, 2011 07:11:01 AM)    
 
In India there is customs and our social bondages for marriage. I think if your partner is understand your feeling and value you at that stage it is not called trap. But when one partner not understand and hurt our feelings, emotions and in such situation if person search or find out his own choice person and be happy with new person at that time a person who not understand feel marriage is social trap.

I think Marriage is very good relation but its success is totally depend on our thinking and understanding.

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Aakash said: (Sun, May 8, 2011 02:26:51 AM)    
 
Marriage is a bond that Lord Rama and Devi Sita got into. It is that perfect and pure and purifying relation, which is about preserving our own dharma and protecting it. Marriage between a man and woman is about dharma (righteousness), protection, righteous love, support, understanding and devotion. In the society, marriage forms the right base for a growing, prospering and righteous society. It is a tradition, when you live in the society you have to follow the tradition, which may keep you happy and protected within the society. All glories to Shri Krishna. Hare Krishna.

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Gd_Prep said: (Sun, May 1, 2011 02:31:52 AM)    
 
Marriage is a one of the very important part of our life. Here two different individuals gets committed to.

Live their future life based on the building blocks of love, trust, compromise and mutual understanding. It can only become a social trap if the two people are incompatible and they are not able to forgo their ego.

So in my opinion to avoid such circumstances, one should check every factor about their better-halves before committing themselves for marriage.

If they find a compatible person, then only they should get married. This will lead them to enjoy their marriage in a smoother way rather than just thinking of it as a social trap.

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C.Divya said: (Sat, Apr 30, 2011 02:27:10 PM)    
 
Well friends, in my view marriage is not at all social trap unless partners are happy with there relation. Here in our Indian culture marriage is a sacrosanct relation between men and women, which is social bondage between men and women so for successful relation there should be good understanding between men and women than for rest of the family... And if the bride and groom are married without self-indulgent, and in future if there is no understanding between them then it becomes a social trap. As in our India most of the people give importance to status n money. Which results in social trap to partners as they need to compromise themselves though the relation is not working out. Thank you. !

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Kanna said: (Sat, Apr 9, 2011 05:47:20 AM)    
 
According to my view,Marriage is a wonderful thing that happens in the human life. it makes the man/women to gain his/her better half in his life.if the marriage happens with the acceptance of both the couple then their life will become paradise if not it will become hell.but we should also one thing in our mind that marriages held without the acceptance of the couple may also becomes as a heaven.

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Shalini said: (Fri, Mar 11, 2011 11:05:21 PM)    
 
In my perception marriage is social trap in which once we caught we can never come out of it ,its like either ww have to compromise there for the whole of the life coz of the society or we can getsep[rated but still the soety will never let us stay alone.

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Goldie said: (Mon, Mar 7, 2011 12:42:15 PM)    
 
India is a country of traditions and customs. Behind every custom and tradition there is some logics. Marriage is also one of the most important custom of Indian society because it plays an important role to build the unit of the society and i.e. family system. But time by time such customs are reformed and converted into new form. This system also needs to be transformed into new shape according to the modern time. Otherwise it will be proved jst like a trap nd it cannot be successful as a base of family system.

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Swati said: (Mon, Jan 17, 2011 01:33:46 PM)    
 
Friends, I'm neutral in this case. It depends upon the mentality of the couple and their family members. After marriage, if both the partners respect their individual identity and give freedom to think,speak and enjoy life as it happens between friends.Then it is not a social trap,not only in foreign countries, but also in India, people have become broadminded in case of marriages and enjoy their marriage.

But when I look at poor and illiterate societies, due to their more importance to rituals and rigid customs, couple feel that they have been trapped in the name of marriage. They really want to end their marriage, but due to family pressures, they live entire life with sense of deception.In such case, marriage is really a social trap.

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Sunil said: (Wed, Nov 24, 2010 12:18:46 PM)    
 
According to my point of view marriage is a social trap as both can understand to each other and you can share also. If there is no social trap then how can all Indians believe that there is a god and goddess.

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Aakash said: (Fri, Oct 15, 2010 12:07:28 PM)    
 
According to me, Marriage is not a social trap. See, man is a social animal. We live in INDIA. A country known for its culture and religion. So living a life alone in isolation will not only worsen his or her livelihood but also will indirectly curb our pure culture. And after all, it depends on human. If he or she consider it as a foundation, then it will definitely ruin their life. Marriage is a pure relationship of two souls who expect each other to be with them every time. We cant live or live in difficulty being single. So we should promote the relationship of marriage.

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Rajesha said: (Thu, Oct 14, 2010 10:07:42 AM)    
 
I don't think that marriage is social trap. Because both bride and groom need each other mentally and physically also. In life however we are successful, we need love from our best half and we can not buy that love from market.

But now a days marriage is not considered as the process of exchanging the love between two families but it becomes the process of exchanging money and status.

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Nikhath said: (Sun, Oct 3, 2010 01:10:40 AM)    
 
In my view point marriage is not a social trap because of both bride and groom wants privacy and they are also enjoying their life with love and commitment. In present era parents of both bride and groom are giving total privacy so that they are making as a good relation.

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Asha said: (Fri, Sep 24, 2010 09:33:13 AM)    
 
Marrige is not a social trap, but its a bonding between two family. Then they better understand to each other. The two family may cause to live happy with each other in to the society. Each of the person who belongs to that family have a trust on each other then a successful family can create so every marriage is not a social trap.

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Amit said: (Wed, Sep 15, 2010 07:05:30 AM)    
 
Marriage is a social trap. A trap for the existence of human being in earth. Marriage is created by our ancestor so that we human being can live a social life peacefully with trust and commitment to our partner. But when these trust and commitment get hurts situation become worst. Then laws comes in role to play. After a good peaceful life is essence of a marriage.

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Vedhika said: (Thu, Sep 2, 2010 04:55:54 AM)    
 
Well its depends upon the particular human being that how he defines his/her marriage life. It is wholly depend upon our mental attitude towards our partner. If we attempt to understand our partner and give him/her part of private space, in that case the marriage will rock. But if we trap him/her in social obligation then, we have to face that very sorry situation.

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Priya said: (Thu, Jul 1, 2010 05:20:28 AM)    
 
Hi I don't think it is a social trap.. for me, it is a thing which should not be played but instead, to be taken seriously. Marriage is not like food that when you think you can't take it anymore, you just spit it out.. marriage for me is a sacred rite done by couples bonded by love and commitment. However, it seems that many people are not already preserving the sacredness of marriage because of the laws of divorce and annulment.. I don't say I disagree with the law.

I'm just a little sad because people are taking advantage of those laws to break away from their family and of course, it is the children who suffers the consequence of their parents separation. I have always dreamed of having an intact and closely knitted family members.. but it seems it's not really possible nowadays. I just hope the coming generations will become more careful in choosing the right person to get marry so that broken families could be lessen.

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Priya said: (Thu, Jul 1, 2010 05:17:02 AM)    
 
Every relationship is different. Jealousy and Possessiveness can make it seem like a social trap. But if there are such issues in your marriage, you should resolve them in first place. Your married life should be such that there is no room for things like doubts and mistrust :-)

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Sweety said: (Mon, Jun 28, 2010 01:33:29 PM)    
 
In my point of view i think marriage is a social trap because i think both of them loose their private space and when we consider a person for marriage its not only a bond of love but also a bond of status ,money etc so it is the society around us which forces two people to come together for reasons other than love.

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Rahool said: (Sun, Jun 27, 2010 08:18:35 AM)    
 
Yeah, really according to my view point in marriage is a social trap....... why its reason is after marriage life got ruined for both ......... In present era we don't have time. Life is so busy that we can't give time to our partner. But being a social human being we are bond to get marry.

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Roja said: (Thu, Jun 24, 2010 05:48:00 AM)    
 
Marriage is a good thing when both bride and groom were understand with each other.Then only the get success in their life.They life becomes heaven.

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Vijaykrishna said: (Mon, Jun 21, 2010 12:52:40 PM)    
 
When brids and broom understand each other, then it is said marriage made in heaven, it obviously make a good family, then marriage is said to be nonsocial trap.

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Ramya said: (Fri, Jun 18, 2010 09:02:50 AM)    
 
marriage is a good think , when the bride and groom is understand to each other it will make the good family, good family can make the good socity good socity can make the good contyry. not only the bride and groom and with his family.

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Gaurav-C4 said: (Thu, Jun 17, 2010 01:06:05 PM)    
 
According to my opinion marriage is not social trap. A special deeply rooted feeling that in this huge world intimate associate must be there to love,share,care etc for this ideal arrangment is made-marriage.If a marriage is against someone's will then definitely it is a social trap.

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Qqqq said: (Wed, Jun 16, 2010 11:34:39 PM)    
 
Marriage is not a social trap,its a relation of bride and groom which made in heaven and when the right time will come it happen on earth.
Every love relation can not make as a marrige relation.....

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Foram said: (Wed, Jun 16, 2010 03:54:34 PM)    
 
In india,in our culture marriage becomes the social trap in most of the cases

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Tripplex said: (Tue, Jun 15, 2010 07:09:46 AM)    
 
According to me marriage is not a social trap, it gives meaning to life. It gives you a life time companion who supports us at various ups and downs in our life.

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Kapil Rathore said: (Tue, Jun 15, 2010 01:49:31 AM)    
 
In my opinion the Marriage is not a social trap, Marriage would be social trap only in that case if they (bride & groom) are forced to be marry with each other if they doesn't want to marry with him or her. Otherwise the marriage is way for social and professional growth for man and woman or is a way to live a life peacefully. Therefor i think is a very good culture if no one is forced to do against his or her interest.

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Aaa said: (Sat, Jun 12, 2010 06:08:18 AM)    
 
In Indian culture, definitly Marriage is a social trap in the both cases.
Both groom,groom family & bride, bride family bond together for the social relation.

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