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|Sandeep said: (Nov 26, 2016)|
|Hello, friends. In my opinion, marriage is a trap. Because after marriage your life totally changes, there are a number of things which you have to do which you NVR wanted to do. If we talk abut a boy, his life just becomes like a bridge because he always hangs b/w the parents and his wife. If we talk about the girl, her life also becomes like the fake world she is having two parents but no one treats her like a real daughter. But in short, I just wanna to say it's our society only which making this relation i.e. marriage as a trap for both boy and girl.|
|Khushbu said: (Aug 16, 2016)|
|According to me Marriage is a binding and bonding more of love, trust and commitments towards each other less than stress, frustration and screwing up from the partners. There are many examples where marriage can become a social trap and life can become not less than hell but that also depends on a couple who are married as they should have the sense of understanding, faith, loyalty, trust, love and responsibility and even value and adore each other. But if any of them is not happy with each other or doesn't want to marry then it can become a social trap.|
|Vikas Bharti said: (Jul 15, 2016)|
|I strongly disagree with marriage being considered as a social trap. Calling it a trap will be disrespect of this pious relationship which is seen with respect around the world. It is only done after mutual agreement between the two male and female. It is done in order to bring stability in life along with harmony. Living life alone is miserable, everyone loves company. And if your companion is your life partner then what is another good thing. It, on the other hand, provide you with more freedom by managing one part of your work and giving you extra time for yourself.|
|Chandrasekhar Meruvu said: (Jul 14, 2016)|
|Everything in this world has merits and demerits,
1) In most cases, Marriage is not a social trap, Its self-trap (Self-Decision).
2) Sometimes you feel like you miss your freedom.
3) Weekend parties with friends will not exist.
4) Before Marriage Life=Work Pressure, After Marriage Life=Work Pressure+Partner Pressure.
1) There is a Saying that " Problems will Reduce by sharing" so we can share our problems with our partner.
2) Responsibilities will Increase, so Business people can experience dealing a different kind of situations.
3) Our mental Stress can also be removed by some activities. We can also get them without marriage, but they are not much safer.
|Soham Sen said: (Jul 6, 2016)|
|There are two groups of people in this world. The person belonging to the first one decides to stay independent for most of their lives or throughout their lives. The second group consists of four types of people, one who consciously decide to spend the rest of their life with the person they love and they live happily throughout their life, another one who marries his/her loved one but their relationship start to become sour because of misunderstandings and then they break up, another person is forced by the society or their family to marry an unknown person and asked to adjust or compromise if things don't go right, the fourth person is lucky to have an arrange marriage with a person whom they start liking later on after spending considerable amount of time together.
In my opinion, marriage is not a trap but rather a choice. No other person should decide with whom you should spend the rest of your life. One should not crumble under society's or family's pressure or else he or she might regret it for the rest of the life or have to undergo pains of filing a divorce. If marriage is a trap, it would take a very stupid person to go near it.
|Priya said: (Jun 25, 2016)|
|I think that marriage is not a social trap. It's a mutual decision of not only two individuals but of the two families. Though it is percieved as a social trap but is rather a beautiful phase in one's life. With marriage comes a lot of responsibilities as well as a lot of joys.|
|Deepak said: (May 13, 2016)|
|Marriage cannot be said as a social trap.
One has to marry to have a partner in their happiness as well as sorrows, to share success and failures. There is a huge difference between a house and a home, we all have heard that House becomes Home when a family settles in it.
We should remember that Even Adam wasn't sent alone Eve was also send by god. So All Adam's have their Eve, it's not a social trap, it only depends on after marriage how it works which gives the feeling of a trap if it's not successful.
Marriage is a law of nature, which cannot be judged as a trap.
|Hari said: (Mar 30, 2016)|
|Marriage is not trapped. But it's always our choice whether to marry or not. There are so many singles in this world. Living as single is social stigma it's not great or worse just different way of life.|
|Sonu said: (Feb 29, 2016)|
I would like to tell about marriage life, then we will decide yet marriage is a social trap or not?
Every person wants to marry for sharing their feelings and problems. But sometimes peoples like only dowries, money etc.
Before marriage, we have freedom from parents, but after marriage, we do not have freedom to do anything. Because it affects our family life only if it is good or bad things.
In my point of view, if you are adjusting to your partner yet you will 100% success aid in your marriage life.
Let tell me, tell me marriage is a social trap?
|Patrick said: (Feb 19, 2016)|
|In order to talk about marriage, people use to talk about marriage is that a marriage is like a sweet who takes would repent who does not take also repent, my point of view it's not a trap, getting a marriage is the best way to reduce your hardships.|
|Sutapa Mitra said: (Feb 5, 2016)|
|Marriage are made in heavens. But sometimes it is not true what the sayings is all about. After marriage some complications may arise. Then it transforms into hellish conditions. But to be optimistic marriage is such a bond that connect two people and they protect the other one in each and every condition.|
|Smruti said: (Jan 8, 2016)|
|Hi, in my point of view marriage is not a social trap. Because god has already gifted us this things. It is the connection between two people, two souls, and two hearts. Marriage is such a powerful things it helps to the partner in each and every time. I think its completely wrong marriage is a social trap. It depends upon the persons how they will taken it.|
|Renuka Baby said: (Dec 10, 2015)|
|According to my point of view, marriage is two souls are combine. So husband respect wife's ideas and wife also do that. Because every one had a their own ideas and own interest whether love or arrange don't bother about that love is important in that relationship.|
|Preet said: (Nov 26, 2015)|
|Marriage is a bond between two soul, to get married is a symbol of love for those who really loves each other. But there are some marriages having no love, they only does compromise then it is called as trap. Marriage is not trap but it become trap when we make it worst by misunderstanding.
During marriage two family are come to the bond. Marriage helps 2 know about our responsibilities towards family and society. If he/she is comfortable with their partner then they should get married. And think positive about your relation rather than just thinking of it as marriage is a social trap.
|Mounikareddy said: (Oct 30, 2015)|
In my point of view marriage is not at all a social that all depends on the way we think. In our olden days they respect to the marriages and they were bound to that relation ship they respect more than us. When one got married they both have to respect their ideas and views. In some families wife dominates husband some case reverse then then the problem raises among them.
|Yash Jain, said: (Oct 6, 2015)|
Getting married or not is totally a personal decision, if two persons wants to spend their rest of life together and want to get tied in a bond in front of the society then marriage is a great option. Also because of different situations in life one gets diverted and take wrong decisions for e.g. due to a dispute a person starts thinking of breaking up with that person, however this is a decision of running away from a situation, marriage is a bond that reminds the person of the responsibility they have towards each other specially in the difficult situations in life.
Also marriage keeps a person focused and not get involved with any other person due to distractions like money, sex, physical beauty etc. a marriage also creates a legal relationship in front of the government and helps persons being together will being together with someone.
Still, to marry or not is totally a personal decision and one should only marry when he/she is sure of accepting the person and spending rest of their life together. And in case they come to realise that situations become worse and there in no sense in being together, then they can go always go for a divorce too.
|Shubham Agarwal said: (Sep 30, 2015)|
|I think as all said marriage is not a social trap I totally agree with it. According to me marriage is the greatest feeling in your life. It gives you a life partner who always with you at every point of time. You have someone who understand you. You share your problem with him/her. After marriage your family will enhanced. You faced many challenges in daily life which is useful to live your life happily. I learn many things like social responsibility.
It will be a trap if you don't know the meaning of marriage it is lovely relation. Women have the same rights like mane. But same man does not understand that. They think women are nothing. Every should have there ego, ego is good but there are two types of ego positive and negative. Always have positive ego. Some people does not give respect to women. This is not good.
A another point I like to add in this discussion that child marriage is a social trap. In ruler areas child marriage is done. Which is very bad thing. Marriage is a relation of feelings and responsibility and if you are not that much mature to take that responsibility how you survive in society they destroy two life.
|Aarathi said: (Sep 28, 2015)|
|People should get married only if they feel like getting married. They shouldn't do it as an obligation to society or their families. If he or she feels like to be with their partner for the rest of their life and wants to get married, then it wouldn't be a trap. But if they are doing it for the sake of others, traditions or societal pressure then of course it would be a social trap.|
|Kumar said: (Sep 11, 2015)|
|Definitely marriage is not a social trap. Because it's a connection between two in their hearts small small problems can rise in the life. But they are the part of the life. If there is no trouble in our life there won't be any understanding between a pair. Problems can change a persons life in a good manner as well as bad also.|
|Sajo Samuel said: (Sep 7, 2015)|
In my point of view, no one thinks that marriage is a social trap. As we all know that there is a saying that "marriages are made in heaven". In reality, marriage is a personal commitment, relationship and bonding between two people. But of course, it is the responsibility of a woman to build her family in such a way that she makes that family in a unique way and it is also the responsibility of a man who takes his family to a stage from where it looks like an ideal one throughout the society. So, I think that marriage makes our life memorable and beautiful if no one forces to one's interest.
|Debanka said: (Aug 22, 2015)|
|Marriage is not a social trap because everyone is fond of a partner for life. Its very hard to spend life without a partner but there are certain cases it seems to be social trap girls of our society especially are targeted to get married even they have not achieved puberty. Especially our elders they have the vision to get there family daughters to marry as soon as possible I agree marriage is a pure relationship.
But we should not target innocent souls to be in a circle of such big responsibilities as marriage when they don't know what it is all about.
|Lokesh Kumar said: (Aug 7, 2015)|
|Yes, I am agreed with @Rocky as he said that we are treasure of our family. We are today because our parents got married. It's not matter if they have disturbance for taking some reasons for a moment but after sometime it gets become settle. Our parents be happy by seeing us because they got us after marriage.
After marriage we share our problems, emotions, difficulties, trouble and future responsibilities. If we don't marriage, we cannot get anything. But, partner should be true. If your partner is not loyal, you will get ruined.
The people imagine this as a curse and it is if your partner is disloyal. In my opinion we should marriage after choosing a true partner.
|Shraddha said: (Jun 30, 2015)|
|I think marriage will be a social trap if partners are towards each other. Otherwise things change when the partners feel that they must abide by some social rules as has been maintained by their elders.
If the partners want their marriage to be a personal affair then social etiquette need not be maintained and things would not turn out to be a social trap. Many would scorn at them. But they are stand up for each other and are strong themselves. So all social scorns turns into mere dust.
However if the partners feel that they must take their marriage to that social level then things really change and that results into social trap for both the partners.
|Kamran said: (May 30, 2015)|
After read a lot of component on this topic its a ridiculous if anyone say marriage is a social trap.
I totally oppose it. How marriage can be a social trap? However there is a lot of misunderstanding in marriage life, but its does not mean that its a trap. Marriage is a just a new life of any individual, it comes with lot of desires, happiness, emotions.
On the other hand if we see the cons of marriage life, there is some cumbersome also which is just due to lack of comparability, understanding, patience.
|Anisha said: (Apr 17, 2015)|
|In my view sometime marriage is a social trap. Ya, it's totally depend on people. There should be some social rule. That without taken permission from bride & groom no one can tie them. After 18 many of family want to marry their child as soon as possible. It is not good.
They didn't think about their child future. They think if our daughter getting married soon, They (family) are free from a big responsibility. We need change this type of thinking.
|Raju said: (Mar 13, 2015)|
|According to me marriage is not a social trap. It depends on the person as to whether he|she takes marriage as a trap.|
|Neeraj said: (Feb 25, 2015)|
|According to me it's really not a social trap it's all depend on how we are going to take and lead. If family getting along well in relationship obviously concurrent soulmate of respective family perhaps the same on each other. Marriage is lifetime event which decide the rest of life to lead in peaceful way by getting right partner.
Don't crap by saying it as trap it is heavenly matching made by our experienced folk. As we are much younger than our parents in experience as well as in age it is hard to decide in marriage matters. Now a days love marriage are not as long lasting relationship as arrange marriage.
|Deepak said: (Feb 9, 2015)|
|Its up to a person how he takes marriage. If he feel it is trap then it will remain trap for him forever. It is purely satisfying each others needs these are social, economic, physical, natural and so on. People exaggerate this subject and take it to different level.|
|Divya said: (Jan 19, 2015)|
|In my point of view, marriage is not a social trap because it is a relationship of between two families. It is very helpful to society also. In society we get new relationships and new friends etc and it is very helpful to human beings also. Everyone want a support to their life so we need to marry.
|Bidyut said: (Dec 24, 2014)|
|No. Marriage is not social trap:
1. The persons entering into the relationship are bind physically and emotionally thus routing the couple to establish a spiritual relationship, which outweighs the physical relationship. An emotional wavelength of individuals has to be altered, to sustain the relationship which sprouts and spreads sporadic joy forever in their life.
2. The feeling of being binded with a person makes another feel strong that he has a soul mate, with which he can share everything. Sense of belonging inspires the individual to perform their obligations in social and professional areas.
3. Rituals and customs establish public relations with friends and relatives that keep an individual strong psychologically.
4. On health perspective, having only one committed partner will keep a person away from the contagious diseases communicated through physical contact.
5. The marriages are thought for the sake of life because of which the divorce rate is as low as 1.1% and it assures the compensation like dowry and ensures the social, astrological compatibility of the couple and make sure that the bond is going to attain permanency. Indian marriages especially have such a great combination of individual and social bonds.
Yes it is social trap:
1. Certainly marriage is a social trap which a family expects their children to fall in which depletes the total individualistic features by sweeping out the personal freedom.
2. A man is a man first, and then he is a social being. In fact there exists as difference between a person and himself, as there exists the difference between a person to the other person. So how can one simply get into a relationship for which no one can guarantee how the feelings, situation change in the future, which may seek high mortal freedom.
3. Apart from this, there exists domestic violence, dowry system, caste, religion, color and height matching, individual differences which leads to personal dissatisfaction that decompresses personal freedom and kills the valuable life time inspiring to psychological disorders and gets humiliated by the partner, which gives an opinion that marriage makes a man disrupt.
|Srinath Krishnan said: (Dec 20, 2014)|
I think marriage is not a social trap. It is actually the most important part of every human being. Some religious book suggest that life of a person will not be fulfilled until he/she gives birth. So for obvious reasons marriage is a vital. It all depends on the level of understanding between the couples.
|Tarun said: (Dec 11, 2014)|
Marriage is not a social trap but it feels like one when it is rushed into either due to parental pressure or just because you have attained the marriageable age and you are expected to do so. Without the right partner, a marriage can many times seem like a social trap.
Patience is the key here. Wait for the right one to come along and give it some time. Know them, their ideals, their likes-dislikes, their social thoughts and if you feel compatible with each other then go for marriage. Marriage can be a beautiful thing when done at the right time with the right person.
|Jitendra Kumar said: (Nov 20, 2014)|
As per my point of view, Marriage is not social strap, because a happy life required only one thing that is called satisfaction. And about marriage this is the relation of purity which will be maintained with understanding, some respect and sharing caring with love-ones.
Yes, it is also true that this relation some time got destructed with some misunderstanding. But real value or worth of relation, depends how effectively you choose to settle it down.
The imagination of people which lead happy and boring or trap life & the same will be having different means for everyone. This could be overpower with satisfaction. The real worth of life depends on it.
|Maduri said: (Nov 16, 2014)|
According to me Marriage is not a social trap because it is a wonderful relation between two persons which lasts forever. It depends on the understanding power of the two persons and how they can adjust themselves in difficult situations.
But, nowadays many people do marriages for the sake of money etc and this is causing misunderstanding between the two persons and later divorces are happening due to it because they are not trying to understand each other they are only feeling great than the other person so this problem is coming.
So, if both person is understand equally this problem will not come and both of them can understand each other's feelings also.
|Lakshman said: (Nov 13, 2014)|
|Yes I do think that marriage is a social trap. I do feel this because I have seen the people.
Those don't like each other and they are living together for the sack of marriage. I not pessimistic about marriage, I my self a part of big family but what I do feel that most are people living together just for their children and marriage.
They don't really love to each other and they are living with each other for the years, it's ugly to be someone as a husband as a wife if you don't love him or her, for example if you have to be with your classmate for the 5 days with whom you don't like to share your time, it will be just a hell and according to me lot of people are in that hell just because of marriage.
|Pushkar Mishra said: (Oct 25, 2014)|
|Marriage cannot be a social trap only if people can understand the real meaning of marriage. It is one of the beautiful relationship in which to people become everything to each other.
It depends on Wed individuals how they deal with different difficult situations in their relation life could me more beautiful if both have equal respect for each other and consider each other equally important in life's decision. It's we who makes easy things complicated.
|Viswini said: (Oct 18, 2014)|
|I think marriage is not a bad thing. Because parents can't be with you all the time. So we need someone to support us. Living alone is not safe especially for women in our society. Marriage brings some responsibility towards family and also society.
Life is a trip. It will be more enjoyable if you are blessed with a sincere partner. Find that partner and enjoy each moment in your life. Because value of relationships can't be measured by an instrument.
|Bhupendra Sharma said: (Oct 10, 2014)|
|Marriage is not a social trap, it made by us as a trap we prefer that woman should operate on man's command. She also have feelings, pride and self respect. People oppose dowry but they take it, frankly dowry is like gum which stick on our hair and never gonna removed so forget about this. But both the partner should care each other, believe in each other but also take care about giving some space to breath to get touch with himself or herself.
Woman also take care of her husband my practical experience said that now days girl work under her own mothers command and try to separate man from things which he love (its my practical experience what I am seeing right now) so girl need to understand the feeling of men and same thing apply for man. Marriage is pious bond not be based on compromise, if you live your life with love its become best thing. Woman is not slave she can do anything what she wanted and husband should support this if its right.
|Abhilasha said: (Oct 6, 2014)|
|Yes I'm agree marriage is a social trap, its my personal experience because of marriage my career stopped I was a successful engineer in an MNC and before marriage everything was discussed that I will not quite my job in any condition but now these people get changed in forced me to quite my job emotionally and sometimes forcefully. And now there is no hope even my hubby too resigned for gov exams preparation and still his preparation is going on.
What should I do?
|Krishnaa said: (Oct 6, 2014)|
|Marriage is not a social trap rather It is a beautiful relationship between two souls, two families. No one is self-sufficient unless he/she becomes saint and leaves the social life. One needs support from his partner many times in life, no one else can give it. So it's a unique relationship. Some deepest feeling and emotions can be shared only with a partner, not even with parents.
It's a good part of it that it abide by law. I think it is necessary to abide by law. Otherwise more we'll have more cases of divorce. One takes responsibility to be with his/her partner in every ups downs of life in presence of family. If any does fraud that he/she can be penalized by laws.
Human is a social animal, until he lives socially he needs to have partner who remains with her lifelong, emotionally, physically, spiritually.
|Pritam Kumar said: (Oct 2, 2014)|
|I don't think that marriages in Indian culture is a social trap at all, because we can't imagine our existence without this beautiful relationship which is not just a relationship but also a social responsibility after all. Which gives us the family, the society, the people around us the social environment in which we enjoy our life.|
|Rohini Chaudhari said: (Sep 24, 2014)|
|According to me, Marriage is not social trap, because marriage is a heartfelt bonding between two persons. It is a bonding & understanding between two persons, also their is a caring among them. In any situation one can understands the his/her feelings & thinking.
In short, I want to say that marriage is not at all a social trap. It is a always our personal decision.
|Swati Priya said: (Sep 21, 2014)|
|According to my view, Marriage is not a social trap because it makes any person's life happy by making some new relations to the other family. It brings love, responsibilities and care in one's life. To spend whole of the life alone, without life-partner is very tough and scary. And also as we belong to Indian culture, Marriage is one of the most important cultural process which should happen once in everyone's life. Its a part of the life.|
|Bindu said: (Sep 19, 2014)|
In my point of view, no one thinks that marriage is a social trap. As we all know that there is a saying that "MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN". In reality, marriage is a personal commitment, relationship and bonding between two people. But of course, it is the responsibility of a woman to build her family in such a way that she makes that family in a unique way and it is also the responsibility of a man who takes his family to a stage from where it looks like an ideal one throughout the society. SO, I THINK THAT MARRIAGE MAKES OUR LIFE MEMORABLE AND BEAUTIFUL IF NO ONE FORCES TO ONE'S INTEREST.
|Saket said: (Sep 10, 2014)|
|According to me sometime, marriage is a social trap, now a days people are getting married just for status, show off. Resulting divorce, mostly it affects the psychology of their descendant badly. Hence, it is polluting the society. Since children are the future of the country, if they get affected, then its affecting the development of the country.|
|Nikisha said: (Aug 28, 2014)|
|According to my point of view marriage is not a social trap we can say that it is just like salt. We can feel the absence of salt but can't feel the presents of salt. We need a life partner when we want to share our feelings, happiness, ideas, thinking etc. It is not bonding of just two person only but it is bonding of the two family, two cast, two different culture. In the world each and every person think that someone will become in their life and to hold his/her hand forever and some one make feels that how they are special for his/her and also making their life beautiful.|
|B.Monika Keerthi said: (Aug 25, 2014)|
As far as I am concerned, marriage is a most beautiful, fragile and precious bond that a person ever come across in his/her lifetime. This journey is totally rely in belief. It is the basic ingredient for the successful life. For example, I made a dish, I feel it as mouthwatering dish and tasted it. Here I have three cases.
1. If all the ingredients, masalastuff, food color, its aroma everything mix up in equal proportions, then I say it as delicious dish.
2. If at least one went wrong, I can adjust it somehow by managing.
3. If none of them mix, then I can't taste, I get raged over me for making such a dirty dish.
So this example reflects marriage life-it's all depends on the couple who involved in the bond.
1. If they understand each other, shares their unpleasantly besides ecstatic moments, care for each other. All these make them a lovely pair, most adorable parents to their kids.
2. If at least one case fails, they have to overcome it by spending some time for each other in their busy schedule. They should not let burdens to settle on their happiness.
3. If mutual understanding is not there, it leads to initially anger, then fight, at last world war.
So should not let the marriage a "trap" rather a "tray" with full of love, affection, believing each other, adjustable to situation and finally.
DON'T LET THE EGO TO STAY IN YOUR HEARTS AND JUST LET 'E' TO 'GO'.
|Manish Kumar said: (Aug 21, 2014)|
|According to me I totally agree with this statement that marriage is a social trap.
Because before getting marriage we live our lives according to our thinking and we live freely without having any stress in our minds. We don't have to care about anything and we always being stress free.
But after getting marriage our lives becomes unhappy and we are always in tension of our partner and etc.
|Pallabi Majumdar said: (Aug 15, 2014)|
In my point of view Marriage is not a social trap, nowadays before marriage parents give their children a prior chance to choose their life partners. All of us need a soulmate in our life with whom we can share our thoughts. We can not live our life all alone. After marriage people really feel that. Yeah its really true someone is there for me.
|Rojalin said: (Jul 27, 2014)|
|On my point of view marriage is not a social trap because its the bond created by the two souls, family. Rather on its a bond between the two persons for lifelong, whether they know each other before or not, but after marriage they live happily ever after.
If the marriage is arranged by the family then also its good as the two unknown person will slowly know each other but the main thing is that they should have good understanding power.
|Guptha said: (Jul 19, 2014)|
|Hello friends in my words marriage is not at all trap it is going to build a relationship between two persons like men women. This is giving some hope on life and full life safety and love. But I can say by this marriage system people can know about their future responsibilities and also the parents feelings because of before marriage we are not at all caring about our parents words then once we get marry then start thinking on our mind about their parents struggle for giving this all this at free of cost. Finally I conclude marriage is not a trap its responsibility what we have to face in future life.|
|Sandipan Nandi said: (Jul 15, 2014)|
Marriage is a holy custom in India. We should marry at some point in time in our life to make our life circle a complete one. But sometimes we see that people think that after their marriage they will be puppets in the hands of their wife and vice-versa. But it depends on the mentality of your partner whether you will be able to spent your life freely or not. Very often we can see that after marriage the life gets changed and we become more responsible.
If we have a good understanding then nothing can trap us not even the society. And if you talk about privacy then a good husband must not disturb the privacy of his wife and that creates a good mental bonding. On the other hand also an ideal wife will also not try to destroy his husband's privacy. So we must not say that marriage is a social trap. If somehow you are trapped after your marriage then it is your individual problem not the problem of this holy institution called "Marriage".
|Vamsi said: (Jul 13, 2014)|
I could not understand why people living in India which is rich in its culture and traditions blame marriage as a trap. Marriage plays a very important role in every individuals life. Due to the impact of movies and other social abuses like dowry youth might have corrupted and giving least importance to marriages. Both the youth and their parents should realize that girls and boys are equal in all aspects and should keep full stop to this dowry system so that we can save our traditions and make one's life beautiful.
Marriage acts not only as a social bond between two people but also between their families. It makes the individual responsible towards their family and also towards their society. It shows the importance of relationships which is vanishing in the present society. Better half gives full life of success.
|Hamri said: (Jul 6, 2014)|
I am Hamri. As a Indian Woman I feel marriage is a social trap for both Bride and Bride groom. Nowadays, technology is developing in a dramatic way. ! Technology is drastically developed in our country. People are changed their living habits are ld also changed No One can believe that India would reach such a position in he world. But Our tradition is not changed at all. People in India, still HAve a good in culture, tradition etc.
|Dolly said: (Jun 8, 2014)|
|Hi its dolly, I believe that each of us needs a special a very special person with whom we could share our deepest feelings without any hitch and it's wonderful if the person is always with you. Caring for you, loving you making you feel special and your life wonderful. Its a beautiful bond that completes your life please don't call it a trap. Depends on you how you take it.|
|Nageshnnr said: (Jun 2, 2014)|
|When Love is unconditional then only it will leads for the two souls to bond together for a life time. In game of life everything has got some rules to play. If we those rules of society or our cultures ; life will be smooth. If you disobey and set your own rules then you need to undergo some suffering it can be just for initial days or lasts for life time also. Consequences cannot be predicted.
The meaning of marriage is different for different class of people in society. Current generation has become sick and girls parents giving priority to.
1) Physical appearance.
2) Monthly salary.
3) Assets the man is holding.
Does this man that a person with all this qualities only should get married ? then I don't think the actual concept of marriage is satisfied.
A guy will prefer girl only if.
1) She looks fair and beautiful.
2) Gives more dowry and basic gold ornaments or assets.
The pathetic situation is the more people are educated more they are expecting.
Friends I request, Those who are going to get married for both guys and girls. Please try to understand what marriage is. Dont try to do business or do shopping.
Good marriages will stabilize the societies. This is major difference between developed countries and India.
In India we are able to see our forefathers or grand grand parents because of this system. I don't say don't give or take dowry, but expect only some has the capacity to give and don't squeeze poor or middle class people.
Middle class people should start revolutionary change by taking oath that guys will not take dowry from poor or middle class families. If some rich families like your profile nothing wrong in they offering you.
Thanks and Regards.
|Ajay Agarwal said: (Feb 10, 2014)|
According to me marriage is not a social trap because marriage makes our life complete, it brings in a sense of responsibility towards our family, at this point of time we realize that we need to bring a sort of stability in our life.
Marriage is not only an engagement of a man and a women, but both the partners take vows to support each other though out their life, be with each other at all the circumstances be it good or bad. One is always very close to us with whom we can share our deepest feelings.
Marriage is also a meeting of two families their culture, traditions, festivals.
A successful marriage makes a happy family, which in turn makes a peaceful society and finally a developed Country.
But marriage becomes a social trap when it is done only for a compromise, for money, for some sort of sacrifice or when there is not respect for one's feelings and emotions and their family.
|Rakesh said: (Jan 2, 2014)|
|Really it's a social trap because most of them marrying with any sort of understanding between them, understanding the feelings and tastes of individuals play a major role in the marriage so whom your loving wait for those one and get married.|
|Aditya Kumar said: (Dec 26, 2013)|
Initially I was not a believer of love, true love is the complete attachment of two soul, I don't understand how people can live without marrying whom they love, I will request to every one please feel the essence of love, if not yet loved wait for real love, and only marry whom you love, no doubt you will be be happy. One thing should not be forgotten that where there is no miner quarrels the relation is not moved by heart it's by mind, so don't bother of that, BE A TRUE LOVER, YOUR BASE OF LOVE SHOULD NOT BE PHYSICAL, IT SHOULD BE EMOTIONAL.
|Gajendra Malik said: (Dec 16, 2013)|
|I think that marriage is not a social trap. It is a true relationship between true minds. It is also a good understanding between two couple. In every moment of life it helps a person need a partner to understandings his felling. The same matter in case of a girl.|
|Ajayg said: (Oct 5, 2013)|
I think, marriage is very special friendship in between the two people. There will be one stage in everyone's life that he/she needs a partner to share his/her happiness, sorrows, feelings, etc. There are some situations in life which he/she can't handle without a partner.
Also there should be mutual understanding between the couple. No one should underestimate other and try to adjust with each others likes/ dislike by doing this life will become very beautiful.
And "marriage will not become Social Trap".
|Ankush said: (Oct 2, 2013)|
|Marriage is delicate custom in our society. If we handle it well then it's best thing ever happened in your life but if you do not take care of it nicely and carefully that will become curse you will have to bear forever.
And hey Nobody is forcing to marry anyone. You have freedom to marry whomever you want and at whatever age you want. If you think that it is trap then don't go into it.
|Saumitra Pathak said: (Sep 12, 2013)|
|Hello Friends, I agree to all of you.
But I will greatly support to @Ekta who said that Marriage is a bonding between two people, two family, two society, two cultures, which should be handled with care, understanding, trust and love.
According to me, it is the part of management of life. It is great feeling & experience of life which requires understanding & management with partners thinking, their need and also with their past & future.
It helps to youth to become responsible.
If marriage becomes social trap then only the lack of education becomes the reason behind it. Because the criminal cases related to marriage are always founded within the people which are uneducated.
So only because of them, we can not say that marriage is a social trap.
|Anitha said: (Sep 10, 2013)|
Marriage in fact is not a social trap, but it is a social protection to a girl to live in the society. Now a days, it is so difficult to live alone for a girl, even though the confidence and the boldness allows her to live, there is a time where everything fails in one or the other situation.
Marriage is also a safer zone for guys. If taken up with true understanding without any egos, complexes etc. Marriage as said by our ancestors, are made in heaven which continues to live in earth.
|Manu said: (Aug 24, 2013)|
Marriage is not a trap. Some marriage will suffer because their not be understand each other. Every life partner will help to partner. In Indian culture women must want partner for the entire life. Every relations is beautiful. When life is like a friendship.
|Pavan said: (Aug 21, 2013)|
|Marriage is not at all a social trap, it brings stability in a unstable life for a youth to become responsible marriage plays a major role. For a person who cannot under the importance of marriage cannot live in society, he should think that he is the product of a marriage. It is a trap for women in India more than 50% women are suffering from domestic violence so how can people say that women trap wealthy man its rubbish.|
|Harshika said: (Aug 15, 2013)|
|Marriage is a social trap. This is true because in India women trap men to fulfill their own selfish needs especially for money. Women traps rich class men only for money. Whereas in some parts of India marriage cannot be consider as a social trap because marriage for women is everything for them. Men also are dedicated enough towards their marriage.|
|Bindu said: (Aug 6, 2013)|
According to me marriage is not a social trap, because it is bond of two relationship thats nothing but two hearts. Parents will not be with us everytime and everywhere, so there is a need of help, being along with us every time for a lifetime, the person who supports always in every aspects, it gives meaning to life by giving a new generation. No one can stay alone for a long time, but many of the people says that they want to be alone, its only because some sort of disturbances in life. It is a place where we find more love and affection after your parents. As I said parents will not stay for ever, so there is need to find same level of love and care from other she/he. Marriage life depends on understanding between each other, there should not be any judgemental.
Relation makes you happy and complete life.
|Sruthi said: (Jun 23, 2013)|
|Marriage is surely not a social trap because through marriage we get life partner who stays with us for lifelong, many things may happen many may come and go but life partner stays with us how hard the situation is. For example if we take two persons where one is married and other unmarried we find that married person feels confident than other because he has support from life partner who stays how hard the situation is and this confidence cannot be given my money, status even children may leave some times but life partner does not live. "marriage is bonding two different persons to be as one soul to spend the total life happily".
By marriage we will have one with whom we can share our joy, sad, everything. Some married couples may be unhappy due to their misunderstanding or any other reason but by seeing some cases we cannot say the total system is bad.
|Jay said: (Jun 10, 2013)|
|I think marriage is a social trap. Today majority people get married just because of status. If they don't get satisfied after marriage they find different partner. It just deludes society. There are many cases where people do adopt live in approach. It's not necessary to impose "MARRIAGE" on two souls. Society should think on it as time changes.
I think marriage might have been created only for reproduction.
It's just waste of time, money and energy.
|Uv Gupta said: (May 31, 2013)|
|In my view point marriage is not a social trap because of both bride and groom wants privacy and they are also enjoying their life with love and commitment. In present era parents of both bride and groom are giving total privacy so that they are making as a good relation.
But when I look at poor and illiterate societies, due to their more importance to rituals and rigid customs, couple feel that they have been trapped in the name of marriage. They really want to end their marriage, but due to family pressures, they live entire life with sense of deception. In such case, marriage is really a social trap.
|Marisham said: (Apr 17, 2013)|
|I completely believe that marriage is a social trap ! I would like to raise some questions, which I think most of you would agree! Why the person marry anybody in pressure for the sake of society in which we recite? What if the person does not want to have a soul mate and would love to spend his/her whole life for his/her parents? Why is there such a rule/custom made by our own society for d so called marriage concern? Why is a person considered dependent to lean upon somebody, he can also live independently on his own terms ?
'COMPROMISE', 'UNDERSTANDING', 'ADJUSTMENT' etc etc. Why to bring such complicated terms in our lives. We get life only once, I think people are born free and should have right to live and let live others free,
Marriage is a total waste of time, money and still in the worst case I can never see myself compromising each day of my life for anybody!
|Rinku Kumari said: (Mar 31, 2013)|
|In my opinion marriage is a social trap because there is lots of restrictions are imposed on bride. Her own life come to an end. Now she has to live for that family which is new her. She has to adjust with a new family. It become like trap for her. Since in laws family do not want to adjust according to bride. And those who says it is not a trap can become bride and experience the situation. Why only girl will adjust why not her husband and his family?|
|Aruna said: (Mar 27, 2013)|
|Marriage is a fantastic relationship. Family grow always sweet and smooth. But sometime problems will come automatically. Problems are main in our human life. It comes and go. Whatever we need a good relationship to husband and wife. So many marriage stories in our world. Marriage is only understanding two hearts. It hearts root clear life is so clear to travel in life long.|
|Merin said: (Feb 20, 2013)|
|Marriage is where two souls unite, two families unite, two cultures and traditions unite. It is a sign of agreement that the two stays together no matter what consequences arise between them.
But, things change when dowry, earnings and job come into action.
|Radhakrishna said: (Dec 18, 2012)|
|In my view marriage is all about sharing each others experiences, joys, happiness and even sorrows, pain and difficulties. But anyone in this relationship shows indifference or neglects or stop sharing the experiences of their partner then there are chances that the partner feels trapped in marriage. Marriage is all about give and take. As long as you respect others feelings and emotions the journey will be smoother else it will be rough and both feel they are trapped.|
|Party Marty said: (Dec 14, 2012)|
|If you are with the right person, it is not a trap at all. Its a freedom. If you with the wrong person, then it can be a trap. Just remember, "a happy wife is a happy life" Keep your woman happy, gentlemen. Its less important to be "right" than it is to keep peace.|
|Kavita said: (Nov 29, 2012)|
|Marriage is not a social trap because marriage is a part of our life and its just like second innings of your life. Marriage completes our life. If there is understanding, caring, love between 2 people then no one can say marriage is a social trap.|
|Sumit said: (Nov 21, 2012)|
|According to me marriage is not a social trap, it is social bonding between two family and their culture. If person is unable adapt these things, it become social trap for them. So marriage is not social trap our understanding make it. So it up to us how we look after it make a balance with it. I believe that if we are able to make a proper between the family it is world wonderful thing because it will stay with you till your death.|
|Ekta said: (Oct 26, 2012)|
|Marriage is a bonding between two people, two family, two society, two cultures, which should be handled with care, understanding, trust and love. Failing to which may become a trap for them. Two people (family) always there for each other, in good as well as in bad situation, handling all the pros and cons of life. But like every coin has two sides, it may have two sides either.
If the partners are caring, understanding, have trust, love each other, have trust, then its a perfect bonding.
But when it is affected by dowry, money, status, cheating, fraud, misunderstanding, ego, wrong attitude, selfishness. It becomes a trap.
|Avinash Yadav said: (Oct 3, 2012)|
|Its depend on us in what way we are taking it, if we are going with it as social tradition it will never provide happiness, as we expect from it but when we accept it as mutual relationship it will give us strength to handle all the ups and down so it.|
|Sankari said: (Sep 27, 2012)|
|Hai to all. In my point of view Marriage is the biggest social trip. Marriage is a social obligation. There are many demands from groom side. Marriage gives us family pressure. Marriage for a girl becomes a trap if she is not satisfied by her new in-law family, she can't even break the relationship as she is bonded to the society. Hence marriage becomes a social trap for her.|
|Arif said: (Aug 18, 2012)|
|I think marriage is not a social trap but there are some way to become trap. There are many examples, a person gets marry a person who don't know about his/her status. I agree with that marriage is made in havean and allah gives us a partner whose we don't know about her/him. But it becomes respectful and understandable after marriage. There are two kind of marriage. Love marriage and arrange marriage. Arrange marriage is a best way to get our partner. Our parents decide that who will your partner. And it makes toward two families. We aware about him/her. Our parents are more experience to find him or her because they know his family. And according to love marriage, we find our partner and talk to our parents about him or her. They have more aware about marriage and moire experience. So they would contact their family and get to marriage.
So in this way it is not a trap. But a person or his family make relationship in the name of marriage for only dowry system. If they have lure of money. Surely it is a trap because thats relationship is irrespectful for both and it makes many problems like divorse. Likewise love marriages are sometime trap because we fall in love with our partner and want to marry in any situation weather their parents are not ready for marriage, they go to court and gets a court marriage. But when they lives in society there are many reason bei ng asked. Parents are being questioned in society.
People are become irrespectful and arise many question about their marriage. Is this not a trap? Surely it is a trap because we hurt our parents and society, we cannot live with our partner to hurt our parents. So we need to be patience for marriage. A time is fixed for our marriage. So that we need to wait.
|Archana said: (Jun 15, 2012)|
|Marriage is not at all a social trap. We find the greatness of marriage when we are in a very hard situation, the time when only our life partner will stay with us sharing our hard work when other people including our children try to escape. Every relation in our life will go away from us one or the other day but only life partner will stay with us till our death expecting only love from us. So I thank our ancestors for bonding us in a thing like marriage providing us a person who lives or stays with us whole life.|
|Rasika said: (May 24, 2012)|
|In today's context if we talk about marriage. Then it has to be like a mutual contract between two fellows. (husband and wife). And maturity level of not only that husband and wife but also of their families and their maturity matters. Especially when the issues of "Dowry" arises in a society.|
|Moumita said: (May 12, 2012)|
|Marriage cannot be the social trap. Marriage is the social bonding and it unites the two individuals and also two family. If both the couple love and respect each and can live happily then there is no question of telling it a social trap. The confuses arises at that point of time when there is no understanding between them. So I just want to draw the attention that marriage is a social bondage and the people will decide whether they will make it a trap or a social bondage.|
|Ravi Vedwan said: (Apr 17, 2012)|
|Marriage is something which is prevalent from time immemorial not because it is a social trap but a trap which is used to trap the soul of two human beings socially. I really think that it is the best way to live with someone who is very very special to you. Though some restrictions are there but these are also for the welfare of two souls.
Practically it depends upon you that by which angle you look at it, it is you who make it a social trap or trapless, there are many who are living happily and there are many who fights the very first day. So think it, live it and enjoy it for the rest of life.
|Kumar052 said: (Mar 22, 2012)|
|No marriage is not a social trap but it is the requirement of the society. It is helping our society to make stable. If there will be nothing like marriage then society will become unstable which will be very dangerous for every one.
Marriage only a best way to generation to generation. And also our ancestor after long years of experience got its a best option and that way we adopt these tradition.
And we know that if we don't have these thing in our society then what side effect our socity will be. Marriage is only for security of of society not a social trap.
|Shagun said: (Mar 2, 2012)|
|I don't think so marriage is a social trap as it is up to you weather you want to marry or not it is a beautiful relationship and one should respect it. It gives us social respect and a chance to spend our life with someone special. It may a trap for those who want to live there life out of there freedom, but it should be kept in mind a bird always flys back towards his family even after spending whole day outside. And moreover its hard to find people who will actually stand with you till your death.|
|Raghvendra said: (Mar 1, 2012)|
|I agree that marriage is a social trap. It spoils the life of the both male and female. Why to marry and be economically and physically dependent on other. Its better to enjoy your freedom. Why to share it with anybody who even don't understand you ?|
|Asim Dinda said: (Feb 26, 2012)|
|I think marriage is not a social trap. It reminds us that we are quite matured now. Still before the marriage we are free, we live our life but now it is time to take extra responsibility. It leads us to be a very good person, responsible.
Those people who could not compromise with his or her life partner marriage is a social trap for them.
|Sachin said: (Feb 21, 2012)|
I hv read all the comments mentioned before and some of them were very perceptive. What I think that the marriage is not a social trap. If you are calling it a trap that because after the marriage the girl is not allowed to work in offices, she is forced to remain housewife. So i think that is not correct. One individual is not allowing this wife to work outside then it is his personal opinion. If u r saying it is trap because the career of a woman gets destroy coz of marriage then it is also incorrect. there are many examples of women who hav still contributed to the society, even being married. The late Savitribai Phule, Kalpana Chawla and even the actress who still continue with their work after getting married. So, summing all these points i only come to the conclusion that the marriage is not a social trap.
|Vishal said: (Feb 9, 2012)|
|Marriage is the biggest social trap which ironically people themselves get into out of stupidity. Marriage is not compulsory, its just a choice being choosen by people who trust law more than love. God created genders and the priests created marriage. Also the amount of useless expenses thay incur in showing of their marriage just shows their sick mind. How can your spendng money on wedding day gonna help the days after marriage? Thats why its said "If marriages are made in heaven then whats made in hell? The answer is the days after marriage" :-)|
|Joy said: (Jan 28, 2012)|
|Marriage is a scared bond between not only two person but also between two families even between two cultures and religions.
It is so sacred that in every religion the marriage rituals are performed in front of the respective gods. It redefines a relationship between two person such that they remain with each other in all the ups and downs of each others life.
Be it a love marriage where there are new discoveries in the already familiar relationships or a arranged marriage where there is a start of a whole new relationship, marriage is the most memorable experience of life which separates human being from the biological reproduction in animals.
But, in today's hectic life where is the time for "discoveries in relationships". The general intolerance in our society is having its impact on marriages as well, and we are seeing more and more divorces. For these people marriages have become a social trap.
It is said that marriages are made in heaven, because after that people don't remain alive anymore.
These separations have a highky negative impact not only on the to person but, also on their families, their children and the society on a whole.
The children of separated parents, are subjected to a unbalanced life for no fault of their own. They become frystrated.
We have seen many celebrity marriages too having an abrupt and unhappy end. Yhe very recent being the one between kim kardashian and kris humpries which lasted for 72 days only.
Again, when there is no relation between two people, forget husband - wife relation, they are two completely different people forced to stay under one roof for social obligations ie. Fear of being a point of discuusion that is when marriages become a socila trap.
But, we have to undersatnd that any marriage needs time, patience, compromise and care for each other from each other to sustain.
|Laveena said: (Jan 17, 2012)|
|In my point of view marriage is not a social trap.It is the greatest gift gifted by god to every person.Actually getting married is a fruitfull thing but in some cases because of certain reasons it's becoming a trap.Dowry,misunderstandings,hidings,not respetcting each other etc.,will lead the marriage into a trap.
Bonding up with new families,getting a partner for sharing our feelings,getting a liscence for giving birth for someone to enjoy this nature etc..will lead the marriage into a fruitful life..
|Qqq said: (Jan 11, 2012)|
|In my opinion the Marriage is not a social trap Marriage is necessary part of society. Dowry is not compulsory to been given as In olden days wealthy people because of love and effection towards their child they used send child with lot of gold orniments and money so that their child be happy at their mother in laws house in that ways people started giving dowry now today dowary has become comp;usory it is effecting the middle and poor class people The only way to control is to educate people marriage is not only bonding between two persons but also whole family In India marriage are given great importants were forieng countries are showing interest towards our marriage system.
Marriage gives us security, faith, trust and happences.
|Anuj said: (Jan 6, 2012)|
|Who say marriage is a social trap I totally disagree. Marriage is a very necessary part of society but as coin have two side now days marriage also have two side 1-posive side 2-negative side. Positive side as everybody know marriage help to make bond between two families, between two person. But there some cons come in it like Dowry. It is biggest curse for our society. Due to this daily the dream of many brides break. They commit to suicide, divorce became common in society. So I just want to say marriage is not a trap. Its cons make it trap.|
|Abdul Gafoor said: (Dec 7, 2011)|
|People who selfish they are disliking marriage. Marriage is a practical way to make a good society in the earth. If you asking about the "trap" I will say everything will be trap in the life if you are not handling with understanding. Like father and son, husband and wife, our neibours etc. So you have to be more practicel and finally you have think every individual has certain responsibilities and duties towards the soceity and marriage also part it.|
|Padmini Manthri said: (Nov 17, 2011)|
|Marriage is definitely a social trap in my opinion(love or arranged marriage), because its more about inviting problems to yourself(fights and misunderstandings), however the contradiction to this is that a human being has to go through several stages in life like childhood, teenage, adulthood, marriage phase and then old age. In all this stage a human being is trapped with lot of thoughts in mind one such phase is the marriage phase.
In this entire journey in our life we always want to live life, expect lot of things from other, however we fail to fulfill their(the other spouse) expectation and still expect that they have to fulfill all that we want from them.
Death is certain to all, but the way it strikes in uncertain! So until we are alive, we cant lead life alone and hence our elders have made marriage a compulsory thing in our lives.
Thank you for your patient reading. Comments are welcome.
|Madhu said: (Nov 6, 2011)|
|In my opinion marriage is not a social trap, it is bond between two families but in some cases it becomes social trap when misunderstanding exists between them. It is compulsory to understand each other and know each others likes and dislikes before they get married.|
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