Bride burning and dowry may look bad, but are an integral part of India.
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Preeti said:
(Tue, Mar 19, 2013 12:11:54 AM)
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| According to me when a girl leaves her parents home and goes to a new house, she has lots of dreams which one can see through the brightness of her eyes. In the return of those dreams her parents have to expend their hard earned money without thinking about their old age when that money can help them in many ways but groom and his parents think not even for a single moment about them they just need to fulfill their future demands which they complete by pushing other family's future to dark. Only bride's parents can understand the pain of sending their daughter to a new home. If one demands dowry before marriage there are very rare chances that girl will be happy in that house. So it is also a job of parents to look a groom who can keep their daughter always happy. And yes dowry should never be taken and given. If one can't understand it just keep yourself in place of that girl's parent. |
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Manoj Sharma said:
(Mon, Feb 25, 2013 07:21:42 PM)
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| I will say that please finish it because all of families have sons and daughters. If you take dowry to other family one day you will also have to give dowry to other family in this way it is equal and finish it, give freedom to girls. |
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Athul A L said:
(Fri, Jan 18, 2013 11:44:14 PM)
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| I really think that dowry system has a strong relation with our culture and tradition. But we should follow it on that sense. Our legal provisions against dowry should be more rigid and effective. Our civic sense also can be play a vital role. |
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Naresh Lohar said:
(Wed, Nov 28, 2012 07:07:30 PM)
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| As per my thinks and dowry should not be give because after getting married her husband may be lazy and her husband will not earn and after sometimes they will become beggars. |
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Mohseen Khan said:
(Mon, Oct 1, 2012 02:35:47 AM)
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Nowadays everybody wants to be against of dowry system but only in front of society only, they just want to show themselves that they are also a good citizen of India but actually they just say it and don't mean it, when they get married that time only their parents are decision maker not the groom, and in reality the groom also want money from bride side so that he can get something without any effort.
Nowadays parents are selling their son, because they demand for their son, I know many families who claimed that they spent a lot money on their son and helped him to get a position so that he can earn and now they want to sell a quality product in front of bride's parent.
There was family, I know them personally, father of son said to bride's father that "I spent minimum 50 lakhs rupees on my son to make him a doctor and now he's doctor and on family is giving us 80 lakhs and one car and 1 kg gold, so if you can give us more that them then we can talk ahead", so that's the real scenario and nowadays this is happening in many families so I want to ask you people that firstly 1. Is a father is selling his son 2. Did bride's family not spend money on their daughter's education and many other things? 3. If they are selling their son then son should stay at bride's house and live like a servant because their parents sold him out and I want to ask that Is it crime to being a girl in society so that we are accepting her with money, precious things and many other things.
Can't we accept a girl with her only a good heart without any dowry ?
Please don't sell your son and say no to dowry and accept girl with love, not with worthless money.
I am saying a Big No to dowry, I won't take even my mom dad are against of it, so listen to your heart not your mean mind all time. |
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Kumar Satyam (Say) said:
(Thu, Aug 30, 2012 04:42:55 PM)
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I think dowry is pernicious or vicious system who is eating the vital of our society &
hamper the growth of development of our society's womanhood on the right way.If it is
right so,why it taking & it giving is a cognizable illegal or punishable .As a gift it
is little right but as a fulfill of demand to boy's family is not right of any angle of
society this cause many parents don't want to have daughter.so, please raise your voice
against dowry & boycott it with unity for extermination of dowry system from society.say...............
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Jai said:
(Sun, Aug 5, 2012 09:08:10 PM)
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Dowry has taken a bad shape today what started with a good cause. Firstly from parents view, It was to secure their daughters in case of something bad happens with their son-in-law. Secondly Daughters also has rights in their father's wealth. As boy and girl are of equal importance, Girl should also get their part. This was given to girls when their daughter get married. So all in all it was right and for good.
What shape today it has taken is due to hungriness of MEN. |
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Balasubrahmanyam S said:
(Wed, Jul 25, 2012 03:34:16 PM)
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Speaking of the present situation, dowry is still prevalant in India while bride burning isn't thanks to the better media coverage these days. One of the biggest impacts that media has brought in our country is bringing down remarkably the evil social practices of the past.
However the practice of dowry is still there in India owing to mindset of bride's parents themselves. This might be due to fear or desire to show their status or any other.
Whatever the reason might be the feeling of equality is being lost due to dowry. So apart from implementing tougher laws the mindset of people needs to be changed for the wrong social practices to get eradicated. |
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Manoj Yadav said:
(Fri, Mar 30, 2012 03:32:07 PM)
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| Dowry is evil of our society and this is real true, all boy discussed on dowry and they say I am against dowry but in real life they boy's are not against dowry and say, I will accept only gift not dowry but this is indirectly dowry. So I fully against dowry and I will be never give and never take dowry. |
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Shubham said:
(Wed, Feb 29, 2012 10:04:02 AM)
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According to me, dowry is that devil which is still ruining lives of many brides. Not only.
Small town people are demanding it, even richer family are involved in such things. The most ridiculous and shameful thing is killing the bride in case not getting demanded amount. I recently attended a wedding of my relative in which I came to know that groom's father returned all the things given by bride side and demanded cash instead of it.
This dowry is that problem which make me feel that India is still a under developed country in terms of thinking and respect to women. |
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Deepankar said:
(Wed, Feb 22, 2012 07:25:35 PM)
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| Dowry system is not only aginst female section of our society but also for the male as well;they firstly think that by taking dowry they are in a better position but when they become the father of a girl then they also become the victm of this evils so its an evil aginst humanity and both male and female should try to endavour such evils from our society and make a healthy socity wher both male and female has equal right. |
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Deep said:
(Tue, Feb 14, 2012 06:24:55 PM)
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| I don't feel like dowry system and bride burning should belong to our culture. Eventhough measures are taken to bring an end to the dowry system, families in many parts of India consider that as a social custom demanding dowry from the bride. There are many cases where the marriages were cancelled as the brides' family was not able to produce the dowry demanded. Even if all the criteria are satisfied such as matching of horoscopes, family status and all, dowry issue would become a crucial factor to decide whether the marriage should happen. |
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Bharat Jha said:
(Tue, Aug 30, 2011 10:12:00 AM)
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No doubt about that the bride burning and dowry are bad. Whereas I think bride burning is almost stopped in the country. But the problems like dowry is increasing rapidly. This problem is very difficult to solve because all across the country well educated peoples are also supporting this, although in front they shows that they are against the dowry but in background they looks more hungry for dowry, as we have seen many cases in news papers and TV. However the medium class families are now little bit avoiding the dowry.
Friend think about the role of women in our families. In 2000th century women's are kept away from educations. Even though they are uneducated they played a vital role in our family as house wife.
Now a day girls are overtaking the boys in most of the fields. And had shown that they can do better than boys if they have freedom to do so. So its time to give respect to them by stopping the dowry. |
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Akriti said:
(Tue, Jun 28, 2011 01:05:02 PM)
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| It is said that gradually dowry system has lessen but it's not like that, dwry system still exist in huge amount. Earlier, parents use to give dowry to thier daughter for her comfort but peaple take it in a wrong way and use it in wrong way and demand for huge amount and like this way it is become an integral part of India. Now a days girls are more educated than earlier time, now they are not dependent on their husband. So they can take step against these bad things and fight for these. |
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Vishnu said:
(Fri, Apr 29, 2011 02:18:34 PM)
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I do agree with Jaan that dowry system was a generous thought by our ancestors and with passing time it has take a new form. Both the dowry system and the sati system is indeed ridiculous, and it is a shame that that the dormer is still carried on in a country of old and rich culture.
Even though India has a male dominated society it doesn't mean that female has no place in India. In india, today, women appear to rule the roost. But its is quite sad to know that they being sold rather than handing over safely to a man of her choice.
"To awaken the people, it is the women who must be awakened. Once she is on the move, the family moves, the village moves, the nation moves”. -Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru. |
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Shalini said:
(Mon, Feb 28, 2011 08:20:48 AM)
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In my opinion dowry is something which is never / was never a part of culture of India. what i feel is giving gifts to there daughters at the time of marriage originated this and slowly and eventually it took the form we see today.
parents can give their daughters according to their financial status and wishes but dowry never was and will be an integral part of the Indian culture.
Talking about bride burning , it never was and will be justified in any of the civilizations or culture. |
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Divya said:
(Wed, Feb 2, 2011 12:30:36 PM)
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Now world has changed every woman's are growing well in their education as well in all fields. So they has the ability to standalone to look after their families. So dowry is not important in 2days world. When every woman's became educated. Wealthy accept dowry where poor they struggle. So dowry should not be compulsory.
We know sati is abolished. So we no need to discuss about that. |
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Soujanya said:
(Mon, Dec 20, 2010 02:49:46 AM)
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| Once upon a time,dowry may be for the security of women because women are not educated and they were dependent on their husbands.But now-a-days women are equally qualified as men and many are at a higher position than the men.Then why should one arise the question of security? |
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Najeem said:
(Tue, Nov 9, 2010 12:30:01 AM)
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| The parents have right to give their wealth to daughter. Its gives security for girls after marriage. So the groom do not tell dowry, if the pleasure of the parents give as a daughter wealth then no problem. |
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Mansi said:
(Sun, Oct 24, 2010 02:15:10 AM)
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Its not good to say as these are integral part of our culture. Our culture has given us a lot many great things bt its the human tendency to grasp the wrong given.
Its definitely not our culture. Its been made by some people or group for their purpose on the name of Indian culture.
So these ill evils must be definitely removed from the society for further development of the country as well as an individual. |
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Jaan said:
(Wed, Jul 7, 2010 01:05:32 PM)
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First here we need to understand what is dowry system, dowry was a belief in ancient time, that time women means to look after her family and her husband, woman didnt use to work so didnt use to earn money, So women were dependent on their husband, dowry was given to women so if anything mis fortunate befell to her husband and she left alone with her children then she can take care of her and her children with that money which was given in dowry, it was given for the security of women, sorry to say but people who are ignorant about the dowry system are making useless comments about dowry and the generous thought of our ancestors.
Today the meaning of dowry has completely changed because we have forgot our great culture and history today dowry means to extract money out of women's parents.
As far as sati system is concerned ,no where in Hindu scriptures it is mentioned that a woman has to set herself blaze after death of her husband,After the death of Pandu raja ,Kunti didnt becaome sati,after the death of Dastrath raja ,His not a single wife became sati. |
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Thilaga said:
(Sat, Jun 26, 2010 12:29:15 AM)
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According to my view,though these rituals are an integral part of our nation, there is nothing wrong to raise our voice towards social evils.As women are considered as most powerful creations of God,we must behave in such a way to make those words true.
In those days because of ignorance and lack of education,they followed these crucial practises.But right now we are enriched with knowledge and technologies.Also by many sense we are equal to a men.so we must be bold enough to oppose these social evils. |
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Harshith said:
(Wed, Jun 23, 2010 06:57:23 AM)
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They are simply superstitions. They have to be eliminated. If they still prevail in the society , how can one say that women are given equal importance as men.
I don't understand why highly qualified girls also have to give dowry to even uneducated men. I simply oppose these bad evils. Let's destroy them , by non-co-operating . |
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Jammi said:
(Tue, Jun 22, 2010 02:48:27 AM)
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| I think dowry make the girls families to go to an utter position. Actually if they are not able to pay the dowry for the girl ,they have to lend some money from others. After that for repaying that money most of the families are being suicided. |
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Kamalika said:
(Sat, Jun 12, 2010 04:32:38 AM)
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| According to me women is an integral part of our nation burning bride or dowry is not necessary but marriages are considered as pious in India so if marriage take place at a young age or among poor people they are bound to dowry system or evil practices like burning the bride after the death of her husband.in India there was a time when women were considered as holy and was given a prestigious place but after so much of advancement yet there is no security is provided to girls.it is a shame for the nation as without women the world will come to an end. |
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